Coping With Disappointment In Life Or Sudden Loss Of Loved One

coping with disappointment

Sept 17, 2013 – How To Handle Disappointment In Life Or Sudden Loss Of Loved One

We are disappointed by those we held in high esteem some times. They could be our family member, neighbour, boss at work, acquaintance and what have you.

When any of these persons strike us, we nurse a feeling that the world has tumbled-down on our shoulders. We begin to clatter and bicker, because our reliability on the person has been betrayed.

But one thing we must come to term with is that no matter the series of betrayal and betrayer we come in contact with, hope is one thing that remains sacrosanct.

We must also understand that disappointment is the act of the lily-livered individuals. But it makes us strong. At least, to always keep us at check that not all the people that we have deep love and respect for reciprocate the same way.

To some persons, there may be compensation after a disappointment. While to others, it is very hard to overcome. Nonetheless, what make great men and women is not the mountainous heaps of their money, but how they manage disappointment on the way to success.

You are a great person. Do not mind the monstrous features you see in the world full of troubles and brickbats. The only measured way to live in it is to face life with courage and cheerfulness.

Notwithstanding, these are not easy to keep; but we cannot do without being courageous and cheerful. Many persons would give and give to those who disappoint them: The people who never abide to an agreement reached – whether it was oral or penned – are just light featherweights.

Even in love, there is a piece of alarm that is exhibited from that beautiful woman and handsome man. If as individuals we open our hearts, there are scars from disappointment, which when we remember how we were disappointed, it seems that we wouldn’t let go. We feel micro and macro disenchanted. We want to take our lives and would not want to do anything with the specie called human being anymore.

But one thing that many of us have not realised or realised but do not keep is that hope is both the keeper of success and disappointment. We have to expect both to make headway in this dislocated world of unfairness, injustice, lies, outsmarting and all other scandalous attributes.

There is no gainsaying that it is human to rehash the sources of the scars we bear in our hearts and mind, but it is divine to let go the disappointments of those whose sweet promises and talks made us to believe in them without holding bars.

In a nutshell, let’s not see any disappointment as the end of our existence. We have to rather see those that disappointed us as persons who have ended their existence with us. The pains and sadness they inflicted on us also haunt them, no matter how hard they want us to believe they are.

We must move on no matter the level of the disappointment. It is worthwhile doing so.  We must put our head down and move on in the face of tyranny. Our future has the greater path and the sweetest corridor of our livings, only if we thread on the alleyway of optimism and innocence.

The past is gone and will never be repeated. Let us begin now to see that family member, neighbour, boss, and what have you, who disappointed us, as one with bankruptcy of the soul. We should not brood on them. We must see disappointments as that which fertilises our fortune.

We must know that when we are disappointed and rejected comes our direction in life. We must move forward, if we do not allow our past to define us.

Don’t despair. The world is tired, but don’t eventually get tired. We’ve lost the world, but don’t take yourself for granted.

Yours Truly has built his mind on, to forgiving all the people that he has travelled the journey with that abandoned him, when they succeeded. They want him to lose sight, but he knows where he’s going.

You may be the caregiver that others take for granted, but continue in your work. Those who left you to suffer might turn around tomorrow, but only to realise that you are also on top.

Know that fake people around us make our living worthwhile. Please, be happy!

About the author: Odimegwu Onwumere, a Poet/Writer, writes from Rivers State. Tel: +2348032552855. Email:

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