How to Survive a Loveless Sexless Marriage
Being in this kind of marriage can be really frustrating but no matter how frustrating it may be, know that divorce is not the solution. Try these steps and salvage your marriage, it worked for others.
Discuss the issue
The first solution to solving a problem in marriage is having a meaningful discussion. Talk to your partner about the issue. Talking to your partner right now doesn’t mean you should pour out your annoyance and frustration on him/her neither does it mean you should apportion blames, it only means you should show concern on how things are and how ready you are to make a change.
Revaluate your priorities
When love and sex dies out in a relationship, it is usually replaced by negative emotion. This keeps the couple from seeing the future and considering their long-term happiness. So if you are faced with an issue like this, take out time when you are feeling less emotional and evaluate your priorities once more. When you are done, make sure your marriage comes first.
Stop blaming your partner
Like I mentioned before, let your discussions be blame free and try not to argue. If your partner did something you are not happy about, you can put it across to them using ‘I’ instead of ‘you’. For instance, if you want to complain about your partner’s late nights,
Don’t say: you are always coming home late, what do you do outside?
Say: I feel quite lonely when you are not around, can you come back a bit earlier to spend some more time with me?
If you feel things are not going the way they should in your marriage, point that fact out and try not to blame your partner for it.
Work on yourself, look out for your contribution to the problem
It is always easier to notice someone else’s fault than yours. There must have been something you did wrongly in your marriage too that may have led your marriage into the place it is now. For instance, you criticized your partner too much that his/her love for you was choked out. Find what that thing is and correct it.
You may want to start afresh again. You can do this by taking your partner for little dates like you did in the early days so that you can get the flame of your emotions burning again. Show some little gestures of love; get concerned about your partner and listen so that you may know where to be of help. Give him/her a chance to be vulnerable, when they do, give them supportive responses so that the cords of your emotions may be strengthened.