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My 48-Yr-Old Boyfriend Impregnated My Daughter & I. What Should I Do?

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Sept 15, 2012 – My 48-Yr-Old Boyfriend Impregnated My Daughter & I. What Should I Do?

I’m a 52 year old divorced woman, I live alone with my 3 beautiful kids.

Exactly 12 months ago, I started dating a 48 year old man

Our relationship developed from there and he often come for a visit in my house.

After being a great friend for months, I developed trust in him. I even gave him a copy of the key to my apartment.

Besides, my daughters were grown up to appreciate that I need a man in my life. Well, I thought I could trust him so I gave him permission to come to my house whenever he likes I am in or not. I also assumed my daughters were responsible enough to see him as their father. Unfortunately, I miscalculated. Unknown to me while he was having affairs with me, he was also sleeping with my two older daughters.

To my surprise I took my eldest daughter for a checkup at the hospital after she complained of constant malaria.

To my surprise she was declared pregnant.

At 28, my daughter has never been pregnant. I was happy for her thinking it was the man I knew her with was responsible. Then, it didn’t even occur to me that he [my daughter’s fiancé] has been out of Lagos for three months.

It wasn’t until we got home that the real problem started. We met my boyfriend at home. While I was still thinking of how to break my news to him, a text message came to his phone. After reading the text, he became very agitated so much so he lost concentration.

I was so concerned. I forget what I was about to say and snatched the phone from him to know what got him me very suspicious; I quickly transferred the message to my phone before handing it over to him. I did the transfer while he was struggling to take the phone away from me so, he wasn’t aware of what I did.

I almost fainted when I read the text and discovered it was my daughter telling him that we were both pregnant for him and he should tell me to abort the baby since she was going to keep hers.

She told him if he tried to play smart with her, the whole world would know that he has been sleeping with her mother, sister and herself.

The worst thing now is that he is nowhere to be found. I have tried getting him on his phone numbers but none is going through. The friend I know him with says, he doesn’t know his whereabout and has bluntly refused to take me to his house.

My second daughter has left home for an unknown destination following the revelation by her sister that she too has been sleeping with him.

At this stage in my life, I’m very confused.

Who will believe my story. After thinking about this for a while I have decided to share this on my most loved site hopefully someone will advice me on what to do.

Myself and my daughter are pregnant for the same man?

What do you think I should do?

Note: Email dated Sept 14 received from an anonymous visitor of NaijaGists.com

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52 Comments

52 Comments

  1. Desmond Immy

    September 15, 2012 at 8:18 PM

    Waoo!!!!am short of words,,but life has 2 go on……abtort urs nd let ur daughter hav De man……I no is hArd,but try nd pray……

  2. Muhammad Ndako Yusuf

    September 15, 2012 at 8:30 PM

    Wel is never th fault of the 58year boy friend.u neva folow teaching of jesus christ, or the teaching of prophet muhammad saw.thas gud fr u? go and learn your religion.

  3. Alele Innocent

    September 15, 2012 at 8:47 PM

    Is 2 bad….

  4. Bennie Parker

    September 15, 2012 at 8:53 PM

    madam it's quiet unfortunate that this beast of a man has finished his evil intentions.
    sleeping with mother and daughters, but I must say that your daughters were to loose to have allowed him had them. it's a big shame. my advice for you is to get rid of the pregnancies, reconcile with your daughters and forget about the beast. remember blood is thicker than water. once beaten, twice shy. a word is enough for the wise.

  5. Emmanuel Adigwe Oyeabo

    September 15, 2012 at 9:00 PM

    Abort your and leave your daughter own but any of u should marry d man oooo becos he is not trust.

  6. John samuel

    September 15, 2012 at 9:11 PM

    Momy d mistake has been done already but my advice is that u shud cal ur daughters together make them see that u three made mistake nd seek for their opinion on the issue now this is nt tym 4 runing away but puting heads together nd u wil hv a gud solution

  7. budaflex

    September 15, 2012 at 9:16 PM

    Well,both should go for deliverance,the man will never be seen again so axcept both wanna have baby without a father.

  8. snazzy

    September 15, 2012 at 9:20 PM

    That Ȋ̝̊̅§ τ̅☺ bad but committing abortion Ȋ̝̊̅§ nt safe for both of U̶̲̥̅̊ º°˚ ˚°º≈ coz in D̶̲̥̅̊ process one of U̶̲̥̅̊ º°˚ ˚°º≈ may lose her life. The best thing Ȋ̝̊̅§ dat U̶̲̥̅̊ º°˚ ˚°º≈ both face the shame N̶̲̥̅̊Ơ̴̴͡‎​ need of shifting blames on any1 the deed has been done alread
    Γ̲̣̣̥. God will strengthen u

  9. Odusola Olawale Olumuyiwa

    September 15, 2012 at 9:49 PM

    Oh mother,oh daughters!!!

  10. Mercy Grace

    September 15, 2012 at 9:53 PM

    A mother who decide 2 ve an affair outside her matrimonal home and in front of her daughters, what do u expect dem to do? Do as u like, my Bible did not suport divorce, even if u wil u must keep ur self til death.
    So madam, pls do not abort d baby, dont let ur daughter abort her own 2.

    Secondly: dont let u or ur daughter mary dat man, since he has d mind 2 inpregnant both of u, do u no how many he has inpregnantd outside.

    Thirdly: ur focus should b on those kids all ur assets should be 4 dem make sure dey are comfortable now and future so that dey wont fill d impart of dey father. When dey grow and want to no about dey father kindly tel dem. I no it wont b easy but try

  11. Amos Ejedegba

    September 15, 2012 at 10:21 PM

    NO COMMENT…WONDERFUL

  12. Williams Adubi

    September 16, 2012 at 3:58 AM

    madam, u never thought your daughter morals, dat is y they are messing u up aroud.wot is d tendency dat d 3rd is not pregrenant? rubbish.if u abort any of the pregnancy, god go jugde u.

  13. Denny Charles

    September 16, 2012 at 4:26 AM

    Madam call ur daughters 2gther cous d mistakes has been made nd ask 4 god 4givenx make up with dam

  14. Lil will

    September 16, 2012 at 5:41 AM

    Madam i will say dat u re the cause of all dis trouble u re into.first u re not there most when he need u most.second no matter the situation that ur so called BF is old enough 2 control his man hood..i will advice u 2 jus put every tin in God hand plx pretty angel,life goes on….am sorry 4 his rong did angel…

  15. Yetunde olowo

    September 16, 2012 at 6:28 AM

    U are an old woman u dnt need any man in ur life again.Both of u shud go 4 an Abortion and make sure dat u kill d man wen ever u sees him

    • oasis4real

      December 19, 2012 at 3:47 PM

      what hv u created that u want to destroy? omg… its nt good to take a lyf

  16. Gabriel.p.egwutuoha

    September 16, 2012 at 6:31 AM

    Madam just ask God to forgive both of you,is just a mistake and it can happen to any body.

  17. Tmc

    September 16, 2012 at 6:33 AM

    Ma i think u both shud av d foetus removed since u cnt find d man, n cnt even b trusted even if he was found. Make peace with ur once loving family and be hapi again. A lesson to us all

  18. Nagato

    September 16, 2012 at 6:57 AM

    I cnt bliv some pple r blunt enough here 2 b tlkin about her not teachin morals 2 her kids,u cant cntrol evritin a grown up girl does,dat said,i tink both of u shld get rid of d babies nd focus on movin on and i wld suggest u also see a therapist about it cos this sort of thing could have major emotional impact.

  19. xtrovee

    September 16, 2012 at 1:56 PM

    Do all u can 2 locate him so u can know his decision on dis issue.But I fink u guys shld abort those aftermaths of sin.

  20. Opeyemi

    September 16, 2012 at 3:02 PM

    Abortion is killing, so forget the idea of aborting your own or any of your daughters. Try to forgive yourself and your daughters, call your daughters for reconciliation and pray to God to have mercy on you all then carry your cross. God bless you.

  21. Mercy

    September 16, 2012 at 3:28 PM

    It is well.

  22. GERALDINE CHIGOZIE MADUWUBA

    September 17, 2012 at 6:07 AM

    GERALDINE CHIGOZIE WEL THE DEED HAS BEEN DONE,IT IS ONLY GOD THAT HAS THE FINALLY SAY GO TO HIM WITH UR DAUGHTERS ASK HIM FOR DIRECTION.GO ON UR KNEES AND ASK FOR FORGIVENESS AND FOR MERCY AND HIS GRACE.OK.

  23. iceking

    September 17, 2012 at 7:57 AM

    I have nothing 2 say,but my advice 2 u is dat u should leave urs and abort ur duather own

  24. Tina Maurice

    September 17, 2012 at 9:40 AM

    Wonders wud nver cease..Hw come u nver knw dis man's house? Its a very terrible mess….seek d face of God for some possible way out.

  25. Ks

    September 18, 2012 at 10:05 AM

    Madam, did ur own bible tells u to hav a man friend after mariage? Cant u keep ur self? till both of u pregnant, lik mother lik daugther. Abotion is a sin to god let d man know and can travel till u deliva

  26. olatunji olaronke

    September 18, 2012 at 10:51 AM

    It very shameful to d both off dem. Especially d daughter……ao can u be avin affairs wit ur mother boyfriend. Stupid gal.

  27. stanley kachistan

    September 18, 2012 at 1:20 PM

    God is merciful n gracious, but we as humans often abuse His grace. First,realise u n ur daughters have erred against God n ask for forgiveness from Him. Secondly,never yield to d advise on aborting d babies,because that’ll mean commiting even more sin.Ensure u n daughter give birth to ur babies n train them in d ways of God. Finally,reconcile with ur daughters n build up a happy home again with ur entire family.

  28. Sunne

    September 21, 2012 at 8:28 PM

    Ogun aiku ree o.

  29. Damino

    September 22, 2012 at 12:02 PM

    Hahahahahaha…laf wan f*** me die o. Chai,smart guy

  30. Peace

    September 22, 2012 at 1:09 PM

    U refuse 2 take ur responsiblility as a mada 2 teach ur children de rite way 2 folow bkuz u ar nt responsible ursef wat leson did u tink u wer givn 2 dos children wen u wer goin out wit a bf at ur age ad a mada in dat mata?u kuz it so u av 2 face d shame but i wil advice u 2 get rid of d baby ur daughter can kep her’s.or ur daughter cn abort her’r kuz she stil av a beta liv ahead of her whi cnnt b distroy 4 de mistake u both did.

  31. Ndukwe donatus okafor

    September 24, 2012 at 12:29 AM

    Good things does not get finish but it presist

  32. Fakunle ola

    September 27, 2012 at 7:41 AM

    U ad ur child shd leave such a man ad abort d prega

  33. Tahisman

    September 27, 2012 at 2:59 PM

    u luk sweet bt u’re nt wise which is bad! d man had knwn dat u’re nt wise at all so he decided 2 use u & ur daughters. 4 God sake, u spent 12months wit somebdy yet u don’t knw his house or relations bt u decided 2 pregnant 4 him includin ur daughter. isn’t shameful 2 let d man did all d stuffs in ur house? probably, u thought ur daughters were nt enjoying it wen u were screaming ooo, yeeeah & all dat. who knws wether d man is a ghost since nobody knws his whereabouts. pls try & update us if u got latest development on dis issue. May God deliver u.

  34. Daddito real

    September 29, 2012 at 1:04 PM

    Daddito: Wel,2 me hence u re nt d first nor d last put evry tins in prayer.any tin dat u 1 2 do think tiwes(bt both of u no body shuld aborte d baby,is one blood)

  35. Benjamin

    October 11, 2012 at 8:04 AM

    Pls don,t abort the pregnancy

  36. Sunny Bliez

    October 19, 2012 at 3:20 PM

    Madam no body ȋ̝̊̅ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇ above mistake.call ur daughter n Ɣø̲̣U̶̲̥̅̊ who are involved in dis case,n decide who will abort or rather two of Ɣø̲̣U̶̲̥̅̊ abort it cox Ɣø̲̣U̶̲̥̅̊ n ur daughter cant kip kids 4 a man.life must go on*…….ȋ̝̊̅ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇ a serious lesson 4 †ђξ 2 of u

  37. Godwill

    October 21, 2012 at 8:08 PM

    Toh! God can 4give u if u repent,and dnt abort d babies.if not,hell fire!

  38. adejo

    October 25, 2012 at 6:14 PM

    dont try to abort it. b4 u were formed God knows u and know that this will happen to you. both of you should keep the pregnancy. if u have JESUS in your live u will not allow a man that have not paid your dowry to cross your legs.

  39. Patrick 2steps

    October 28, 2012 at 7:25 AM

    You to let them be husband and wife,and move on with your like.

  40. Nneky

    November 3, 2012 at 6:01 PM

    U are to h’ve a boyfriend while u h’ve a daughter wich means u are maried

  41. confirm

    November 9, 2012 at 10:19 AM

    let the man mary d girl

  42. confirm

    November 9, 2012 at 10:27 AM

    Baba yen ko slack ma fe jare

  43. confirm

    November 9, 2012 at 10:33 AM

    ma fe lo asasi ko le ran

  44. valbillion

    November 13, 2012 at 12:28 AM

    My dear wat has happened has happened,all u need nw is 2 ask God 2 forgive u,at dsame time give ur life 2 christ jesus,go and look fr ur daugthers and bring them home i knw it will nt b easy,bt u jst hv 2 bf it becomes 2 late,u and ur child should nt b invole abortion, give birth 2 d children and tk Gud care of dem,

  45. oluwatosin

    November 13, 2012 at 10:51 PM

    that is 2 bad but the best solution and kind solution is that both of them should live the pragnant and live everytin to God.

  46. Gift

    November 15, 2012 at 11:32 PM

    The deed is done so the best tyn now is 4 both of u to do D&C to wash ur stomache nd save ursef d same

  47. Dee

    November 27, 2012 at 1:44 AM

    Are you serious??? I find the fact the mum is 52 and pregnant more surprising so menopause hasn’t kicked in yet??? If your story is real then my advise is to consider the future of your child and that of your future grandchild… The health risks in having a baby in your 50’s poses lots of risks to your health and that of the child, for that reason alone abort. If your daughter is mentally and emotionally and financially prepared to nurture her child and give it te best in life then yes let her keep it but it will be her choice. Otherwise terminate both pregnancies and prevent this mans seed entering the world!

  48. Sparky1

    December 15, 2012 at 9:32 AM

    am total confused abt this condition how can mother and daughter be pregnant for 1 man pls make sure that you and your daughters prayer and ask God to forgive u and ur for sin u pple commited pls let nobody abort that pregnancy .

  49. oasis4real

    December 19, 2012 at 4:09 PM

    this is a lesson to everyone of us… train ur kids in the way of God… u can only divorce on the fact that ur partner is nt faithful. and u must keep ursel but if u cant, remarry than keeping bf… my advice is to terminate de pregancies and ask for God’s forgiveness

  50. IGEE GREAT

    December 20, 2012 at 9:40 AM

    This is fiction to my understanding.Those that call for abortion,if your mother aborted you, would you leave (come to)in this world???????????. Save the unborn child.ALSO, your house must have been a brothel of sort that warranted such a bizarre story.

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