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“Nigerian Men Enslave Their Wives – African Men Aren’t Romantic” – Ronke Ojo
Oshodi Oke
Nov 13, 2013 – “Nigerian Yoruba Men See Their Wives As Slaves – African Men Aren’t Romantic” – Ronke Oshodi Oke Ojo
Nollywood actress Ronke Ojo popularly called Oshodi Oke has dropped a can of worms on African men especially the Yorubas.
This was disclosed to E247 Magazine during the Premiere of Dayo Amusa’s movie “Unforgivable” last month.
In October, the talented Yoruba actress laments ill treatment being given to Nigerian women by their husbands.
Ronke’s emotions had been sooo stirred up after watching Unforgivable movie that she couldn’t help but vent.
Read what the actress said below:
“I say to people on a daily basis that I pity African women. Our men, especially the Yorubas, see their wives as slaves. You have to go out of your way to do everything. They want you to be 110 percent submissive. I can’t really understand.
Most married people are dying of lack of emotion and care from their men. Every woman wants to be in her husband`s hands enjoying love and care.
Nigerian men are just not real; they are wicked. You have a wife and you don’t show her love or care, but you’re buying her clothes; is it all about money? It’s really sad that African men are not romantic. They are too full of ego.”
This speaks volume about her relationship with her US-based husband, Mr Sylvester Gbolahan. After two years of separation, she reconciled with him last year and welcomed a baby boy this year. The actress just returned to Nigeria from the United States Of America.
Dear men, do you agree with Ronke’s claim?
Mape
November 13, 2013 at 10:35 PM
What is she waiting for white man and al-shabab are there they will always hug her good luck
Thomas
November 13, 2013 at 10:38 PM
Ronke are you having problem in your marriage?
You don’t have to generalize just because you married the wrong guy
Who advised you to marry an Americana
ur claim is not based on facts learn to deal with your anger
Timmy
November 13, 2013 at 10:41 PM
I don’t agree with you because am I a Yoruba man and I treat my wife like a queen pls deal with your own issues and stop advocating nonsense
Gbenga
November 13, 2013 at 10:43 PM
My queen is the only woman in the world.
the day I married her, my world turned around
I can never treat her like nobody
Please Ronke pray to God to change your husband
Not all Nigerian men are wicked.
MAJEK
November 13, 2013 at 11:49 PM
Is not true,Hv know my wife for closed to thirty years and she is my best friend.We are happily married full of romantic ,she is the best wife in the world.
T
November 14, 2013 at 12:11 AM
I agree with her. But not every men.some are romantic Especially the young men , but the old nigerian men I mean typical Niger men are not in vogue.
Danti
November 14, 2013 at 1:19 AM
Ronke, I think you have ingested some of your bleach creams. How many Yoruba men have lived with? When people generalize recklessly, is an indication of low education. The word slave should not be thrown around, enslaved women do not wear aso ebi or operate motor vehicle. Go to Saudi and see.
D Hunter
November 14, 2013 at 2:44 AM
I am still single n nt searching. Bt if i evetually gt married, i blv am goin 2 treat my would b wife wt TLC-Tender Love n Care
contrary 2 Ronke‘s claim. Besides, i am nt a Yoruba by tribe. Our pple hv respect 4 dia women.
So Ronke, evry prblm has a solution… N so, anytym u cannot solve a prblm in lyf, it‘s bc thr‘s smth u need 2 knw.
Tk dat 4rm D Hunter.
Adeniyi Balogun
November 14, 2013 at 4:49 AM
Ronke! your outburst generalising yoruba men as bad husband is in bad taste and U need to immeddiately apologise for your unbriddle tongue that has now landed u in hot water. What u claim could only be imagine in the primitive days of our forefathers and not in the present modern nigeria where we have seen a lot of women rulling the matrimonial homes.l give that to u there are few bad apples among our men who still practice what u claim,but our women because of education are disuading this behaviour from the men,besides, more males are getting educated and exposed to positive marital norms even when they are bachelors having withnessed good role models in their parents,cousins,uncles and so on. There is need for u to always weigh your utterances especially on issues affecting a race regardless of weither u are from that race.l dont know what is going on in your marital life that could warrant this kind of unresearched outburst from u.l will suggest u go for counselling after apologising for misuse of your unbriddle tongue.l must confess u are one of the few actresses that i admires,but l hold my endorsement until u apologise.
SOLID
November 14, 2013 at 6:17 AM
hey RONKE!! b’careful b4 i pour u d rain of insult on u! i’m nt a YURBA neithre IGBO,
But hav u eva cross to east c hw IGBO WOMEN are surffering from FARM pounding AKPU havesting yarm??
So bcoz u’er on movie dos nt min dat u knw moden every 1
Bcareful and hold ur BUFFALOR SOLDIER (white man).
munchie
November 14, 2013 at 7:34 AM
u ppl are not realistic ,be formin my husband is caring and u will be cryin to ur pillow evry 9t,wen 20percent african men are caring we can as well say all of dem are not caring,most of u are not trutful to ursef,if a white man says i love u he ,meant wat he was sayin but in nigeria even musician use it evryday,to hit a woman abroad is a big offence but our wives are our punchin bag here in nigeria,chris brown is still payn for beatn rihanna,if wat ronke sed is not tru why d awareness of sto domesitics violence by ngo in nigeria,everyday married man rape and dat romantic,she is right
Funmi
November 14, 2013 at 8:32 AM
Why are you men talking on this issue ,she Is saying the truth .all the reply here are from men,have you ever asked your wifes if they are happy ,men always believe they are doing the right thing ,when their wifes are crying behind their back.think very well before you comment on other people.
Donlesgodre
January 30, 2015 at 3:37 PM
Thank you jare. They will say my wife says she is not happy did I not just buy her a car/house/dress/chocolates/flowers/ticket? Nonsense.
keji
November 14, 2013 at 8:50 AM
You guys should shout up pls she is saying the truth Yoruba men are wicked which am experience now with my men ronke is talking from experience ofcause you guys will comes out and said am this to my wife,I never pray for my guys to marrie Yoruba men,some of you are caring but he has to be the one that know god nd born from Queen ,5 out of 100 may god help you ooo.
Blaze_boy
November 14, 2013 at 9:22 AM
Well to some extent it I true cos Nigeria men r not that romantic due2 stress they undergo thru during day time so it makes them so weak to play with their wives that’s a fact
OGB
November 14, 2013 at 9:47 AM
I have never seen a Nigeria woman who says things like this before, that open her mouth to say, Yoruba men see their wives as slaves, African men aren’t romantic, they enslaves their wives especially the Yorubas. I’m not from Yoruba, but what she said shows that she is not a wife material and how disrespectful she is to her people the (Yorubas) and Africans at large. Anyway she is a prostitute, you can see it’s written all over her face, that’s why she want other women be like her. (Ashawo) j’espère que je ne suis pas en retard
JANET
November 14, 2013 at 10:06 AM
SHE IS SAYING D TRUTH BUT PPLE TERM IT WRONG&EVERYBODY CLAIMING 2BE PERFECT&RIGHT 99% OF OUR WOMEN ARE NOT HAVING A NORMAL FREEDOM&HAPPINESS
Georges,
November 14, 2013 at 10:42 AM
Ronke,you dont need to abuse Nigerian men and African men, wshat makes a white man special, their little and unerected d**k, the white man can only romance you and leave you unsatisfied, but with African men , you are to beg to leave you, Ronke the yoroubas are among the best men in nigeria regards to marriage, The latest cloth the yoroba man will try to buy for his wifeand i feel they are more caering than most of the tribe, although iam not yorouba, iam Igbo man but i love the way the yoroubas treat their wives.dont abuse my brothers.
Ok try Alhaji and see the difference, proberbly before your turn you will get crazy.
red
November 14, 2013 at 10:55 AM
She is not far from the truth,some men not all believe that providing material things in the house is what love is all about,after all you are not lacking,one of my co worker wife shared same issue to me and was ready to walk from the marriage,The naija man with naija reasoning asked me if showing the lady how he do really care for her might make him look weak in her eyes.ARE YOU SERIOUS. women are more like kids mentally when it comes to love.a text from you to us 10 minutes after you leave for work can work like magic,sorry my Nigeria men/man/boy,don’t kill me with your hate mail or skin me with your mouth,majority of naija men fail completely when it comes to romance,they prefer drinking beer and playing football with friends,only to come back and hit the bed.I have 2 brothers,one is married and i do weep for his wife secretly,if am to travel for a week the sweet lady just turn to a walking zombie with loneliness.As for my single brother,he is what every woman will wish for,whoever that turns out to be is wife will be the most blessed woman on earth.Nigeria men make una change whether na yoruba ,Hausa ,lgbo or unknown place,women dey like small baby so we need attention and love pass money,I know you will not believe me that why you see a name saved in a lady’phone as mugu,the one that gives care and romance that is just okay not rich get saved with my love,heart and evergreen.leave the lady alone she is right.
doggy
November 14, 2013 at 11:32 AM
imagine ronke oshodi about romance forget story and seize her passport pls,haba obodo oyinbo wahalla dey
mrs ohio alias mrs ERANKO
November 14, 2013 at 3:46 PM
YESSSSSSSSSS, I REALLY SUPPORT YOU ON THIS , BECAUSE SOME NIGERIAN MEN DO NOT KNOW THE MEANING OF MAKING LOVE ,
THEY ARE LIKE ARANGUNTAN AND CHIMP , THEY WILL JUST JUMP ON YOU LIKE OOBOO, MONKEY, THEY DO NOT KNOW WHERE TO TOUCH ON YOUR BODY ,AND SOME ARE MR OKOBO,
HA HA HA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
THEY ARE DIRTY, STINKING ASS, SOME OF THEM DO NOT CHANGE THEIR UNDIES EVERYDAY,
AND THEY ARE DEADLY JEALOUS , ENEMY OF PROGRESS, BECAUSE AS SOON AS YOU GIVE THEM A CHANCE, THEY WILL MAKE SURE THAT YOU ARE UNDER THEIR SPELL, THEY TREAT WOMEN LIKE A SLAVE.
IF YOUR PHONE RING , THEY WILL THINK , OH I HOPE IS NOT ONE OF YOUR BOYFRIEND, THEY TREAT WOMEN LIKE A WHORE. THEY ARE VERY VERY HEARTLESS CONNIVING LITTLE OKO, SOME DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT SIZE, HA HA HA HA AAAAAAA
IF YOU DRESS WELL, THEY WOULD SAY , OH , YOU DO NOT WANT TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE MARRIED,
NIGERIAN MEN ARE MENTALLY SICK , SUFFERING FROM ASPERNGER , AND PILE , THEY NEED TO DRINK AGBOO JEDI JEDI,
SOME OF THEM ARE MR OKOBO, WHO DOES NOT KNOW THE MEANING OF MAKING LOVE , FROM JUST HAVING SEX , OR JUST SCREWING YOU UP , HA HA HA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA HA HA RONKE OJO YOU ARE RIGHT , CARRY ON , ENJOY YOURSELF .
dave
November 14, 2013 at 6:16 PM
@mrs ohio or eranko; I guess your character depict your name. Apparently, judging from what’s coming from your mouth, it shows you ain’t got no men in your life let alone being married. Ronke’s sorry ass will be happy today, come tomorrow she is not. Both of you are in like manners. Majority of Nigeria women are dead-beat after having one or two children. They become so attached with their children, and neglecting the husband whom they first knew before the arrival of the kids. Suddenly, their children now takes the place of husband in their hearts turning most of, if not “all” the attention towards them, forgetting that men are prone to jealousy. My question to you and Ronke is: how do you expect such man to continuing being a romantic husband? The place of husband is different from that of children, you have to be able to distinguish between both. The affections which they once shared before and after the union will suddenly vanished into thing air or be transferred unto the child(ren) without consideration upon the arrival of the first child. Women sometimes forgetting or fail to realize that there’s this existing bond between men and their biological mother which had been transferred onto the wive for an inheritance on the day they got married. Such bond should continue in the cause of the marriage. Or why do you think men refers to women as our mothers? Don’t just shut him up and expects to receive a Queen treatment in return. It doesn’t work like that woman. Although, there are some individuals who don’t appreciate nothing in their lives regardless of how he or she is treated. No hard feelings, It is part of lesson to be learned in life. You & Ronke can’t just generalize a baseless claim and think it’s okay. Besides, on what statistics is the research based upon? Personally, I belief it depend on the individual you encountered also, your characteristics has a cogent role to play in your relationship. Whatever you put inn is what you take out lo-ba-tan, shi-kena, finito, case closed.
Mandy
November 14, 2013 at 9:01 PM
Very true, I’m married to a yoruba man. It’s been a hell of 16 years. For the past 3 years we have not touched but leaving together, he’s a shame to express his love, can’t kiss well, can’t speak good English . I married him for love so I over looked a lot of things thinking he would change after marriage and go back to school but all he does is drink and womanise expecting me to pay rent and children fees. Ronke is very correct
dave
November 14, 2013 at 11:11 PM
@Mandy as I mentioned earlier, some individuals will forever remain ungrateful and unsatisfactory irrespective of the attention given them. However, everyone of us has a contributory factor to play in our relationship. Have you for a moment reflects on your past contributions between both of you? I mean it is okay once in every six months to assess your relationship as to know the position of things with your partner, also, by knowing where to amend things, and when to stop pushing. Because no one, I repeat no one can make anybody do what they don’t feel like doing. In other words, you can’t change anybody that’s not willing to be changed period. Every time you push harder with such person, you always going to hit the brick wall with him or her.
dave
November 14, 2013 at 11:24 PM
@Mandy, you claim to have married for love; Tell you what, that’s not the purpose of love. What you’re trying to do is changing his habits. Instead of him getting better and be useful to you, it is contrary to your believes. Unless, he’s willing for a change, you can try but I doubt if your efforts is ever going to pay off on him. Remember, God gave everyone of us freedom of choice, that’s why we’re being taught by the Gospel to surrender our lives onto God “willingly” before Holy Spirit can take its place in our hearts.
Mandy
November 15, 2013 at 6:24 PM
Dave, tnx so much. If not love what will make a lady with first degree, masters and a chartered accountant marry a man who is nce holder and lie to her parents that the man is a graduate.I have reflected so many times. How my parents asked me not to marry him, how I caught him several times with local women and he told me they where his cousins , how I visited his station and the girl friends pictures where on the wall while mind was under the bed and he told me the girl used juju for him, found cards given to him by ladies who addressed him as their husband,how his mum got angry with his attitude and asked me to leave him to suffer, how his dad died of hypertension from his problems, how I cried several notes to sleep, how I get pregnant and have to pay the hospital bills? You might think I’m ugly but I can I assure u that I’m not cos men talk to me even he has confirmed it. Know what I decided to ignore and concentrate on my kids and live cos I almost died thinking of the problems now he says I’m wicked and heartless. Advice me Dave’, what do I do?
Mandy
November 15, 2013 at 6:31 PM
@ Dave I also forgot to tell you that I didn’t marry out of desperation, I was 23 and he was 31. So don’t think I forced him into marriage instead I begged me to marry him, he proposed 3 times before I accepted
Poly
November 15, 2013 at 7:58 PM
I think it depends on individual, am not Nigerian but am married to one and I have no regret at all marrying my man. Mordern girls need to pray before they chose a man and more so, men are more educated these days. We should not judge every man, if anyone has problem with their man, let them find a way to sort it out and not categorise every man as the same
dave
November 16, 2013 at 3:40 AM
@Mandy I feel for you beautiful, honestly ma, not that I’m blaming or scolding you, but there are certain things that’s not meant to be. One just have to know when to draw the line without further complicating issues. Pls mssg me on davidshoma@gmail.com
Thanks.
dave
November 22, 2013 at 12:05 AM
@Mandy if you can’t reach me on davidoshoma@gmail.com send your fb contact pls.
Mandy
November 16, 2013 at 9:18 AM
@dave, pls check the email address and resend. The mails are not delivered
Aji
November 16, 2013 at 8:06 PM
Fela talk don talk am. she be ‘lady material’so wat do u expect, orobo na Africa u dey make u hear.
Skele
November 17, 2013 at 8:51 AM
Husband na husband why wife na wife.make husband wash wife pants,sweep,pack pikini shit n babysit dat makes him romamtic infact ladies/wife no serious to make beta home na complain shaaaaaa.08165572961 4 advice
red
November 17, 2013 at 10:35 AM
@mandy,do you think that’s the right step to tackle this issue,have you you try dialogue or the physical vexing bag tactics.I wish you the best.
Dele
November 18, 2013 at 8:01 PM
Where is divorce rate highest? In Nigeria, or in those countries where men are romantic? I believe you know the answer to that. Ronke is becoming too westernized in her thinking.
I believe if you have food to eat, a place to lay your head, and able to cater for family, that should be enough to make you a happy person. Searching for romance on top of all that is just proof of low self-esteem on your part.