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How Do I Tell My Fiancee I’m Impotent? I Have Proposed To Her

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Sept 13, 2012 – How Do I Tell My Fiancee I’m Impotent? I Have Proposed To Her

My name is Raymond; I hailed from Bayelsa.

After my involvement in a very ghastly car accident few years back, my reproductive system was damaged.

Ever since the tragic accident, the doctor has declared me impotent.

I met this beautiful woman back in 2008 and I really fell in love with her.

On our first date she told me she’s a virgin and I vowed not to touch her until after marriage.

We have been in the relationship for 4 years now and our parent are aware of it.

I proposed to her in December of last year but the problem I have is this?

How do I tell her am unable to perform in bed? I’m impotent

Please help me I really don’t want to lose her.

Liberal readers could you please give this man your suggestion. Thank you



  1. Adetokunbo North

    September 13, 2012 at 12:57 PM

    I am sorry for what you have been through however, your actions is selfish and cruel. You should have let her know the truth, the decision is hers to make not yours. You are living a lie for four years and leading her on is pure wickedness. How would you feel if someone do that to your own sister? Please, tell her the truth as soon as possible, she needs to know, it is her right and your obligation to let her know the truth.

  2. Mercy

    September 13, 2012 at 12:57 PM

    Hey be proud of yoself. N if u really love da gal u wil tel her n if sh really loves u sh wil tak u in jst as u a now!

  3. Boboye Okunrinboye

    September 13, 2012 at 1:01 PM

    tell her now, or face the deceit later, it is better to have a breaking relationship than a broken home. it is rather unfortunate but both of you can settle the problem together if she really love you.

  4. John Ngwaka

    September 13, 2012 at 1:03 PM

    My dear Raymond , if ur really impotent due to de accident u had , tell ur fiancee , it s a cross if she can bear it then , carry on but no man or woman ll hv dis known n just jump in . Discuss with her first if really u had an accident am sure she ll know abt it . De choice is left 4 her to make thank you n God bless your heart

  5. statesman

    September 13, 2012 at 2:01 PM

    you must be a wicked fool. Why start what you know you cant finish? Not even in the next future. What if she was you sister?

  6. Deborah Ibegu

    September 13, 2012 at 5:38 PM

    My broda pls kindly let her know abt it. Dia 's notin love cannot do. Besides, u weren't impotent from birth, it was as a result of accident.

  7. Jessica Edward

    September 13, 2012 at 5:40 PM

    tell her d truth n go 2 God in prayer becos he makes d impossible possible.

  8. abdul.jeleel

    September 14, 2012 at 3:58 AM

    is better 2 tell her d truth nw than hidin d true bcos if lie go twenty years true wil catch up one day.if she really love u she wil stil b ur wife

  9. Shiela mella

    September 14, 2012 at 6:16 AM

    Well,its rily bad u didnt tell ha b4 d proposal bt u jux have 2 tel ha nw…pls try as much as possible 2 do dat

  10. Emanuel Jamba

    September 14, 2012 at 9:35 AM


  11. Adhel Soledad

    September 14, 2012 at 1:59 PM

    tell her the truth and go to God he will make a possible way 4 u.

  12. Olamide raji

    September 14, 2012 at 9:02 PM

    So selfish infact wat kind of person ar u.u ar into a relationship for 4years and u said u luv her u dnt explain to her dat u ar impotent moreover if d lady knows she is goin 2 dump u.

  13. Afighor Akpofure Prosper

    September 19, 2012 at 12:42 PM

    Just bin a man n tell her the truth..dan u telling her after marriage, cos if she finds out her self, she may nt 4give u 4 life.n I tink taking d bound step n telling her the truth, can mk her trust u d more..but if u doubt me, then follow yr heart.

  14. Jenny

    September 26, 2012 at 8:48 PM

    Pls do tel her nw b4 is 2 late 4 u nd her 2 save ur marriage pls.

  15. Chinenye Godwin

    September 26, 2012 at 11:03 PM

    you hve no choice dan to her the truth.

  16. Moses

    September 28, 2012 at 10:04 PM

    Say d truth n it shall set u free.n i pray God wil ill u

  17. Godsent

    September 30, 2012 at 11:51 AM

    Be a man n tel her d truth in time, she may or may not forgive u, its up to her 2 do what she thinks. Perhaps she may 4give u

  18. Godfreeakin

    October 7, 2012 at 6:19 PM

    Why will u propose 2 a lady whn u knw Der is fire on d mounting

  19. Pastor Uluba Jawur

    October 11, 2012 at 6:12 PM

    Which one is better for you? To tell her or keep it to yourself until you eventually marry her before she discovers?

  20. Nwankwo matins

    October 14, 2012 at 8:13 AM

    Am so sorry man is gona be ok try and let her know b4 is 2late….

  21. Martin

    October 17, 2012 at 4:54 PM

    Please console ur mood,u re not impotent.there is nt God cannt do,ask God 4 a new reproductive.many women 2day re infertile but they cried 2 God 4 womb,he gave them wat they have requested 4.u can produce,u need faith.u re wondafully made,handsome guy like u.thx,martin by name,cheerio mr. Raymond.

  22. Adesola

    October 18, 2012 at 10:45 PM

    Don’t be deceived as u are posting this msg of urs, your fiancee is already in the know because either u like it or not one or two of those that have read or will read this will definitely know ur fiancee and tell her. So its better u disclose it to her now and face the consequence together

  23. Odusina Idowu.

    October 22, 2012 at 9:54 AM

    Pls,disclose the situation of things to dat lady. If actually u love each other u will both find solution to the matter. God is in control.

  24. markel123

    November 10, 2012 at 9:25 PM

    God wil make it, i look forward to hearing ur testimony. Try nd tell the angel.

  25. valbillion

    November 13, 2012 at 12:06 AM

    Their is nothing God can not do,all u jst need is to have faith in God, u will b normal speak faith filled words jst as he said in his word d holy bible ,hope u are born again, if u are nt u jst hv 2 give ur life 2 Christ Jesus

  26. Joy Ifeoma

    December 5, 2012 at 11:46 PM

    I really pity those who gave U all sorts of insult in the name of advising U. Some people are too stupid that they don’t even imagine how others feel in certain condition or situations. Listen my brother, U are not impotent and U will bear children, but pls tell her the truth before U marry her. She will not leave U. I fell teriebly bad over Ur condition but may the healing God visit Ur case Amen.

  27. Jemma Bond

    February 25, 2013 at 4:38 PM

    Dude, the best thing for you to do is tell her. If it was meant to be, she will stand by you. If she leaves you, then you’ve had a lucky escape. Either way, she is bound to get angry, because keeping that sort of secret from her is horrible. You still find somebody who loves you for you. God bless.

  28. Geraldine Enjuagatah

    April 29, 2013 at 4:07 PM

    My brother,the truth is bitter but must be spoken. I believe in prayers. If u truly love her and really wants to marry her,then pray had and then tell her.Days are going, the earlier u tell her the earlier solutions quickly comes. Be courageous man.

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