Dec 21st, 2012 – Overcoming Premarital Sex Temptation By Lakita Garth, 36 Year Old Virgin
Practicing abstinence is probably one of the most challenging things to do. Your mind, spirit, and body are constantly in conflict as you decide which one (or two) is the most accurate.
Aside from the benefits of practicing abstinence that are taught in the Christian faith, refraining from sex has been scientifically proven to be successful for women who are seeking marriage. Scientists believe women who “play hard to get” are able to assess a man who will stick by her side during pregnancy.
Forty-three-year-old Lakita Garth was a 36-year-old virgin in 2005 when she kissed her boyfriend-turned-husband for the first time. Garth has gone public about her 36 years of virginity and is now helping other women around the world learn how to refrain from sex prior to marriage.
Excerpts from her interview are below:
Lakita Garth On Her Family’s Influence on Her Choice
In my family, if you had sex outside of marriage, someone got married, or someone got shot! I come from a line of Christians that believe your faith must impact the culture. It has to go farther than your personal relationship with Christ.
Lakita Garth On Choosing a Mate that Is Not Into the Church
You can’t be the key to his spiritual maturity.
Lakita Garth’s Advice To Singles
To be single was to be undistracted in my devotion to God. Keep your options open. God’s perfect mate for you may not look or sound like your ‘fantasy mate’.
One commenter with the user name “Chris” did not agree with Garth’s advice. He responded to her interview saying:
“The Bible does not make any of the claims that this article makes about sexual purity before marriage. The abstinence model of Christianity is an inherited tradition and not a hard and fast line which the Bible draws. “Don’t have sex before marriage!” they say. Why? The Bible says we should abstain from “sexual immorality.” What is sexual immorality? “Sex before marriage,” they say. Says who? It is a tradition, not an inviolable maxim — a tradition which made sense in earlier cultures where everyone married AND they did so at a young age.
Sex before marriage is certainly a risky venture, but articles like these unnecessarily shame devoted lovers who have not yet overcome the logistical hurdles of holding a wedding. In all honesty, the girl in this article sounds totally self-absorbed/self-righteous, some of the most disgusting traits for a Christian to have. We should NOT be holding her up as a model for Christian women.”
December 21, 2012 at 8:16 PM
hw we go take believe say na tru say she b virgin
December 22, 2012 at 4:17 AM
Well said Chris.In this present society where 40% of women are not able to find husbands based on limited availability,their only taste of sex may be as as single lady.
Pre-marital sex does not debar anyone from getting married,is only an opinion held by sick people for unexplained circumstance
December 23, 2012 at 1:04 AM
Virginity is the best option before marriage!
December 24, 2012 at 5:11 PM
thanks nifemi i like dat
December 25, 2012 at 2:41 PM
Can there be anyone like Lakita Garth here in Nigeria cos I surely need a virgin 4 a wife.
December 25, 2012 at 2:23 PM
Can there be found anyone like Lakita Garth here in Nigeria cos I surely need one 4 a wife.here is my contact 07039533695.
March 23, 2013 at 4:23 PM
Marry from one of those you dumped and stop looking for new ones to woo
March 27, 2013 at 7:04 AM
Thankz maryf ur vewi rite
December 25, 2012 at 8:07 PM
It’s good & pleasurable for a woman to remain virgin till marriage.
January 7, 2013 at 7:44 PM
Lakita u’re really a model, if truely u held up such till ur marriage. I pray young girls in Nigeria shall emulate u
January 9, 2013 at 12:12 PM
Der is joy in being a virgin.dats evry ladys pride.
January 23, 2013 at 5:19 PM
My sister keep it up .
January 24, 2013 at 4:30 AM
gud to here dis sex is not food
January 24, 2013 at 6:26 AM
The Chris in this article had a very wrong idea of what the Bible teaches. Fornication is NEVER to be practiced by Christians, forget about tradition or what the ‘Church’ seems to b teaching. Fornicators and adulterers, God will judge.
January 24, 2013 at 2:19 PM
2 b sincere, therez ntin as gud as remainin a virgin until marriage. it commands respect frm one’s husband. a neighbour of mine called his wife an “Ashawo”(Prostitute) probably bcos he didnt meet ha as a virgin. if he met ha as a virgin, he wuldnt av had d guts 2 call ha dat. so, my sisters, ur virginity z ur pride!
January 24, 2013 at 6:26 PM
I belivd wot she has said.i will continue kippin mi own virginity,cos it’s mi pride.08167169999
January 30, 2013 at 7:37 AM
virginity is d pride of evry woman to dos HE gave d grace,,if u r still one gud for u,bt if nt beg for forgiveness & stik to one man,if possible d man d@ did it.
February 1, 2013 at 9:46 PM
Am proud to b a virgin
February 2, 2013 at 11:24 PM
I agree with u. I myself was keeping my virginity until I was rape. Guys stop raping virgins stop forcing them.
February 14, 2013 at 7:42 AM
36yrs old lady s a virgin wt out avn any feeln wt a man s a big lie. Even pastor chris cn neva do wt out avn sex in a week
February 15, 2013 at 9:19 PM
wat!…@36 she hadnt enjoyed sex…wat an ill-luck!
April 30, 2013 at 9:43 PM
Wat’s there to enjoy in sex when what ever goes up will surely come down, i’m proud of her.
February 25, 2013 at 1:29 PM
Na wa o if u don’t enjoy sex when you are young is it when u have grown gray hair u would enjoy it………..
March 21, 2013 at 3:12 PM
As a virgin, hopefully i’ll get married 2 a virgin
March 27, 2013 at 3:35 PM
there is a problem
April 2, 2013 at 12:16 PM
Meaning we still hv gud girls/ladies in this country? I pray sooooo!
April 9, 2013 at 5:57 AM
ladies out there should learn from this,her appropriate time has come wait for yours too. we guys are tired of tokunbo wifes we deserved tear rubber.keep ur pride is not for sale.”i wish am a female”
Adeosun Olalekan T
April 11, 2013 at 3:28 PM
Dis shld pose be d gud example 4 a lady..i wish 2 have virgin as my wife,if i can get one u can contact me 08135214784
April 29, 2013 at 7:43 PM
2 b a virgin is good pls girls try and kep ursef be tearruber datz wat guys want even ME. IF U AR reach me wt 07061670674
May 14, 2013 at 6:31 PM
Being a Virgin at the age of 36 is a gudthing and is not by her power but by the grace of God bcos witout his grace she can’t be it,am just 23 i used to knw what am passing thru as a virgin and am still askin God his grace in my life to still keep it untill i meet the right man that will love me not becos of it or not.my dear am happy for you.
July 8, 2013 at 6:37 PM
C guyz wey dey talk sae mk we kip ourselves,una go gree allow us,bt una wan mari virgins)una dey brk our hrts bcs of sex)u cnt eat ur cake n v it