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Love & Happiness By Actress Stella Damasus

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Sept 19, 2012 – Love & Happiness By Actress Stella Damasus

I was again reading one of my favourite books titled What I Know For Sure  written by Oprah Winfrey; someone  I still look up to and admire despite all that has been said about her religion. Fact is, she has more  encouraging things to say compared to all the people who claim to be HOLY.

There is a quote in the book that touches me every time I read it so I have decided to share it with you.

“Happiness is never something you get from other people. The happiness you feel is in direct proportion to  the love you give.”

She added that: “For a long time, whenever I would say or do something that went against my better self, I  would try to justify it that way. What I didn’t understand is that all of your actions, both good and bad,  come back to you and most often not from the people you are acting toward.”

For every action, there’s an equal and opposite reaction.  In  THE COLOR PURPLE, the character Celie  explained it to Mister: “Everything you try to do to me, already done to you.”

Your actions revolve around you as surely as the earth revolves around the sun. The more conscious I became  of this, the more quickly my actions came back.

Today I try to do well and be well with everyone I reach or encounter. I make sure I use my life for that  which can be goodwill. Yeah, this has brought me great wealth. More importantly, it has fortified me  spiritually and emotionally.

When people say they are looking for happiness, I ask, ‘What are you giving to the world?’

I’ll never forget this couple who appeared on my show. The wife couldn’t understand why their relationship  had broken down. She kept saying, “He used to make me so happy, He doesn’t make me happy anymore.”

What she couldn’t see was that she was the cause of her own effect. Happiness is never something you get  from other people. The happiness you feel is in direct proportion to the love you are able to give.

If you think something is missing in your life or you’re not getting what you deserve, remember that  there’s no Yellow Brick Road. You lead life; it doesn’t lead you.

See what comes into your life when you spend extra time with your children. Let go of your anger with your  boss or your co-worker and see what gets returned. Be loving to yourself and others and see that love  reciprocated.

This rule works every time, whether or not you are aware of it. It occurs in little things, big things, and  the biggest things.

This is the part I want you to read and meditate on. Many people blame other people, things or situations  for their unhappiness but they don’t realize that the truth of the matter is that they are really unhappy  because they have decided to give that problem front seat in their lives.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that in life when some certain things come your way you are not allowed  to have a moment of sober reflection and think about  them. No, that’s perfectly fine but then letting them  take total control of your life is an entirely different ball game.

Love yourself, love others around you and I can bet you that you will be happier with yourself, your life,  those around you, the things you do and so much more.

She ended this part with a very strong message that I would use as my quote for today.

Quote: What you’re thinking, what you’re saying, what you’re doing, is having an impact on you and the people  around you right now —Oprah Winfrey.

My own personal quote is: No man on earth can give you the happiness you desire. Only God can do that, so  stop expecting happiness from someone else. Be fulfilled and satisfied with who you are, love yourself, your  neighbour and love God.



  1. Folajogun Adeduro

    September 19, 2012 at 7:04 PM

    Yes o, its only God dat can make someone happy for this life.

  2. Akinwumi ayoola desmond

    September 19, 2012 at 9:20 PM

    U are right

  3. Bukky

    September 20, 2012 at 1:26 PM

    Dt a gr8 1 stella,always love u

  4. Joseph Grace

    September 20, 2012 at 3:57 PM

    thanks my sister, happiness comes frm God.

  5. Rickjames Mitchell

    September 21, 2012 at 2:20 PM


  6. Joy

    September 26, 2012 at 9:11 AM


  7. Rachael anauma

    September 30, 2012 at 10:49 AM

    My dear happiness comes from God only not from any man

  8. Olaimatu Joaque

    October 4, 2012 at 4:12 PM

    Good Advice.

  9. Jennifer Anozie

    October 8, 2012 at 10:26 AM

    good thoughtt of wisdom.

  10. wole ajayi

    October 22, 2012 at 7:53 AM

    Good talks from you,is only God can

  11. Ivo chunga

    December 1, 2012 at 8:21 AM

    Thanks for those inspiring words.I’ll like to have a Web site where I can write to you.your films inspire me so much.I’m in Cameroon.

  12. Star Ugo

    December 7, 2012 at 1:02 PM

    Stella you my star indeed.

  13. Jummy

    December 10, 2012 at 5:56 PM

    This is inspiring.with dis you av put smile on peoples face

  14. Nneamaka Udenigwe

    February 4, 2013 at 1:40 PM

    Its a great inspirational talk…keep it up sweet.

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