Dec 10, 2012 – I Impregnated My Girlfriend 8 Years Ago, Then Abandons Her. I Want Her Back Now – What Should I Do?
Here is a mail from a young man who abandons a lady he impregnated 8 years ago due to joblessness and his age then.
Read his message below:
I impregnated a girl 8yrs ago when i was still tender and too young to marry her. As God will have it in my precious life, I got a job and returned to her for reconciliations to enable us marry ourselves.
But each time we come together, she fails to forgive me upon my apologies.
And I love her somuch. I need advice
Now he wants her back but the lady has refused to forgive him.
What advice do you have for him?
December 10, 2012 at 12:38 AM
Since you left her do you know if she has someone in her life yet?
You need to know before trying to gain her trust back.
If she is kind enough to tell you the truth, she might be dating someone else and if she is not, it will take her time to trust you again.
8 years is a long time, imagine what she might have passed through.
You need to give her some time to develop trust in you again. Don’t rush her just tell her and promise not to hurt her again.
Hopefully things work between you.
Daniel EE Richard
December 10, 2012 at 5:45 AM
Some of u men are very systematic. 8yr u disappeared nd automatically u want to marry her am even afraid for her, one thing is sure she cant just agree like that like wise u if u are in her shoes. She need time to get rid of the bitterness, time to thrust u again and time to amend her self if she has been into another relationship. Also don’t impose right of ownership to that baby because u are guilty, and in this matter ur approach matters
a lot consult people who are experienced because in the multitude of counsel there is safety. Finally, if u want the child it is ok but if u want the mother it is better. And I must tell you,you are doing the right thing, but nothing good comes easy. Go for it things will normalise it is just a matter of time. THANKS
Daniel EE Richard
December 10, 2012 at 6:01 AM
Some of u men are very systematic. 8yr u disappeared nd automatically u want to marry her am even afraid for her, one thing is sure she cant just agree like that like wise u if u are in her shoes. She need time to get rid of the bitterness, time to thrust u again and time to amend her self if she has been into another relationship. Also don’t impose right of ownership to that baby because u are guilty, and in this matter ur approach matters a lot consult people who are experienced because in the multitude of counsel there is safety. Finally, if u want the child it is ok but if u want the mother it is better. And I must tell you,you are doing the right thing, but nothing good comes easy. Go for it things will normalise it is just a matter of time. THANKS
December 10, 2012 at 7:02 AM
And you abandoning her for 8years without helo or hi?. So, if the Girl forms a solid Berlin walls to resist you from penetrating through her, then it is normal owing to the gravity of the disappointment.
Solution: The innocent Girl have parents. You should visit the girl’s parents with your people (your father, uncle, or kinsmen) apologizing for past ugly incidence and also seeking for her hand in marriage since you love and ready to marry her.Capturing her parents mind is the priority because they’re the ones to change her mindset towards positivism (your Wish) by advising her.This is Africa and our marriage culture/tradition still exists and valued as a methodology that brings faster solution.When she sees this practicality from you, then, she’ll mark your seriousness a genuine one. Anything Less than this is nothing but beating about the bush that will endup exhausting you time value.
December 10, 2012 at 12:37 PM
what i have to say is this! Why did u want her back in ur lives and did u love her? The truth is. It’s by the grace of God for u to get her back in ur lives and also if u’re destined together
December 10, 2012 at 12:46 PM
Continue begging her.
December 11, 2012 at 8:34 PM
As long as she i̶̲̥̅̊s̶̲̥̅̊ still single there might be hope just still keep on begging her. Though its have τ̅☺ forgive but if truly U̶̲̥̅̊ └♡̨̐√ƺ don’t relent. God might touch her one day
December 17, 2012 at 11:13 PM
why now?it seems dat de reason dat u left her,let me just put it dis way,de outcome in which u expected her life to be by abandoning her wt pregnancy did not come to past as u wished her to end up.but,due to her cries to God to help her during those abandoned period,and God answered her by placing her to another level were she all gv up hope cos’ of ur abandonement.God did not only saved er from ur abandonement,also from child birth and now dat someone has adored her and took care of her,u now want her bk.this is absolutely rubbish.LIVE HER LIFE AND DAT OF DE CHILD ALONE PLS cos’u don’t derserve her or the child.repent first from dat sort of life,then,pray to God for a fresh start if dat is his wish in dis case.thank u
December 18, 2012 at 7:18 PM
U wil go back 2 her an pls her.
December 18, 2012 at 7:24 PM
B/c dat child she carry is u own so 2 tender apology an tk her back so dat u cnt buil up ur family wt love an pace
December 20, 2012 at 11:37 AM
God has the final say.
January 3, 2013 at 7:26 AM
Honestly dis is a seriouse issue buh d fact still remains dat u create a whole lot of burden 2 her ma adVice jst start doin ur responsibility naw nd make sure u find favour 4rm her Pple mayb by dat she could get convince again nd GOD hlp u tru it oo
January 3, 2013 at 4:00 PM
Pray 2 God that God should touch her mind
January 4, 2013 at 7:27 AM
8yrs of pains is enough 4 her nt to trust u,if u can abandon her 4 8yrs,then u can always hurt her,meaning u dnt hv single luv for her bcos if u ever loved her job or no job,tender or old u wil stand by her no mater d situation. My advice for u is to leave her alone and go look for ur luv elsewhere,bcos u dnt deserved her.
January 9, 2013 at 10:14 AM
such a disappointment, do u know wat she has gone throuugh all dis period of time…. sha i tink if she still luv she go come, bt as 4 me i no go luk d man again, but i go forgive am cos,God also forgive us too
February 17, 2013 at 1:00 PM
Mmmmm, dear they said one make a misstake 4 correction, so i invite ur idear of going 2 her after allowing her go through pains over 8yrs, its never easy 2 get her back 4 the said betta soup na Money make am, so never give up for she look into ur one day say she have 4given u.
March 18, 2013 at 2:27 PM
Keep on begging and pray to God 2 touch her heart 4 u
March 19, 2013 at 7:42 PM
How ar u sure dat if dis present job end,u wil leave her again.did u know what she pass tru in dat 8yrs.maybe she is doin 5n now dat’s y u want ha back.wel my advice is ask God 4 4giveness first,den go 2 ha if she stil lik u she wil accept bcos i dnt tin even her parent can mak ha change her mind.bt u dnt deserve her.
April 22, 2013 at 4:56 PM
Is dsame tin i am passing through & facing my parant problem i don’t think i can go back it may be same 2 her