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Lady Who Rejected Boyfriend’s Proposal On Her Birthday Laments As He Abandons Her
Friday January 5, 2018 – Nigerian Lady Who Rejected Boyfriend’s Proposal On Her Birthday Laments As He Abandons Her
My name is Mary, I heartlessly said ‘No’ to my boyfriend of three years a month ago, embarrassing him before his friends, my friends and some few family members because I thought I wasn’t ready.
I really wasn’t expecting the proposal, he totally caught me offguard on my birthday and I was scared, I gave him all the looks of ‘please don’t do this’ when he dropped on his knees and brought out the ring, but he went ahead to propose.
I said ‘No’, I broke his heart! Every night since then, I keep seeing his eyes as I snatched my fingers from his grasp and mouthed the word ‘No’ repeatedly.
He expected me to jump for joy, scream and dance or even cry for joy but wasn’t expecting the response he got
I love David, I really do, but I just wasn’t ready for the proposal thing plus I somehow lost it that night and got scared.
David (31) has refused to talk to me, he travelled immediately and won’t get in touch. I have tried to apologize and explain things, but he is not reading my messages. I can’t call him!
I only try through the social media but he is not reading them!
I am sorry, I love him, I want to say ‘Yes’… How do I go about this, I heard he’s gone to South Africa to cool off after the blow I dealt him.
Help me, I am 24… I would rather marry David now than wait for another man.
Ishiaka Adeleke
January 5, 2018 at 3:34 AM
You ego has mess u up, deal with it I have my own issue
Froshie
January 5, 2018 at 4:32 AM
Ehyaaaa. Kpele shay u hear
When there are lots of ladies out there looking for who to marry, there you are saying ‘no’ to someone u claimed to love…. After causing problems to yourself you’ll be coming to the social media to seek for advice…. Young lady let the man be o…. Don’t waste his time
whitney
January 5, 2018 at 5:11 AM
Same here I hv mi own issue fix it
J. B. Hunter
January 5, 2018 at 5:46 AM
ALL HOPE is not lost though, you gonna find it hard to win him back again that‘s if he hasn‘t gotten himself another girl.
If you cannot reach him on phone or any other means why not pray about it and then take the apology crusade to his family members at home as well as contact few friends of his to talk to him on your behalf.
That way, I believe if he still loves you he will come back for you.
This goes out to all the single ladies out there. There‘s nothing that destroys any relationship faster than the three letter words called “EGO“.
So, for any relationship to stand on a solid foundation, I think both parties have to just skip the “E“ and let it “GO“.
Goodluck to you Mary.
I take a stroll…
Abdulrahman
January 5, 2018 at 6:38 AM
this is d best idea she can use
Mon
January 5, 2018 at 5:53 AM
Tales by moonlight…you are on your own so forgive yourself first.
Gendary
January 5, 2018 at 7:32 AM
Ladies with their film tricks. So dating a guy for three years was a joke for you right? Fix your problem madam, I have mine to fix. #MyVerdict
fifelomo
January 5, 2018 at 7:40 AM
You just missed a life time opportunity. Hmmm once opportunity lost it can NEVER be regain! You just offended my spirit Mary!
Big Aunty Koks
January 5, 2018 at 8:51 AM
There is a tiny bit of hope. As you have realized, relationships cannot be turned on and off like a tap. If David loved you, he will also be struggling with coming to terms with living without you so without wasting time follow the excellent advice given @JD Hunter and hope David’s friends and relatives will forgive you and co-operate with your efforts to re-establish a link with him.
Distance is a big challenge even where no friction exists in a relationship so don’t waste time. If you have mentors in your place of worship, approach them and plead that they assist you make contact with him. Hopefully, being non-family members they might be more disposed to help. All the best…. And Mr. David, if you are reading this, let me pitch in my little effort in begging you to give Mary another chance PLEASE? Saying “yes” in public is not easy a beg!
adeola
January 5, 2018 at 9:23 AM
mary all hope is not lost yet,meet is family or any of his close friends tell them u are going to propose to him in the same place u rejected his proposal to show dat u are ready to swallow ur EGO and show him dat u really loves him shikanah
Jeopy
January 5, 2018 at 11:00 AM
Foolish thing young ladies do, thinking that they would get someone else later. Pray to God to bring his heart back to you and then take the return step back to him wt apology
kenny
January 5, 2018 at 11:37 AM
oponu ayirada,u gave the humble man a public disgrace,wht of a man did that to u?there is no medicine after death.if u guys are meant to be together definitely it will be but if not awo ti gbera niyen ooo.gd bye madam mary
nuel
January 5, 2018 at 12:16 PM
cool u realise on time.don’t worry David is all urs .though is going to take a bit of is time too restructure himself
amjoice
January 5, 2018 at 1:40 PM
can’t stop laughing, this was exactly what happened to my brother
a girl he was dating for years reject his proposal
reason is because she is not ready for marriage
my brother came back all the way from dubai to propose to this girl,
now my brother is set to marry another lucky girl
she is begging for forgiveness, she even buy something for my mum
this Xmas just to help her beg her son,
BUT IS TOO LATE!! THE WEEDING IS ON SATURDAY
YOU ALL ARE INVITED! !
Amh
January 5, 2018 at 8:29 PM
Hahahahaha
hahahahaha
Francissamuel2now@gmail.com
January 5, 2018 at 6:34 PM
For so long dating yet you couldn’t say yes. Well dear seems the both of u weren’t destined to be couple. Or maybe u have to walk on ur ego… Sorry for u f**l
Samms
January 5, 2018 at 6:59 PM
The only advise I can give for now is for you to reposition urself and wait for him so that whenever he comes back again to propose you know hw to say yes without making another silly mistake that would
require for more advise
MADAM ERANKO
January 5, 2018 at 9:23 PM
DATING SOMEONE DOES NOT MEAN YOU HAVE TO SAY YES TO THEM FOR MARRIAGE IF THIS PERSON IS NOT SUITABLE ENOUGH WHY ACCEPTING THIS OFFER.
DATING IS NOT LOVE AND LOVE IS NOT SEX AND IS NOT MARRIAGE AND MARRIAGE IS NOT LOVE, IT IS ABOUT AGREEMENT AND YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO I AM NOT GOING TO ACCEPT YOUR OFFER.
I AM GOING TO SAY NNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN NO.
Kenny
January 6, 2018 at 2:18 AM
The whole point of dating is to find a spouse;
At least that’s the idea, if your ******* is screwed on correctly.
You don’t persist in a relationship for over 3 years if you’re not ready;
You exit after a few months or less if you don’t think you can marry this person.
Not wait 3 years plus to say I have a right to say no or whatever silliness.
I’ve met her type before, I floated the idea after a few months,
gave it some more time and eventually it was clear she wasn’t ready so I moved on.
That’s how it shoukd be no time wasted.
lala
January 6, 2018 at 9:57 AM
Do you even read what she said, ***** abeg
DB
January 6, 2018 at 2:14 PM
No point lamenting. The guy is gone for good. When you are ready to invest another 3yrs of your life for a man, then you will get your own. Sounds like you lost a good guy. No need to cry over spilt milk
Akubor Michael Godwin
January 8, 2018 at 7:33 AM
Spare me the trash Jare… He felt bad and ran off sounds like he isn’t a man anyways…. He would have worked on what he felt was wrong and make it impossible for her to say no. I pray your second girlfriend proposes to u in front of your girlfriend you have a glimpse of what it’s like for someone to catch u unaware
uzoma
January 6, 2018 at 2:16 PM
@MADAM ERANKO, IF YOU KNOW HE IS NOT SUITABLE FOR YOU FOR MARRIAGE, WHY DATE HIM FOR THREE LONG YEARS AND SAY NO WHEN HE PROPOSES? IT MEANS YOU ARE GIVING HIM FREE RIDE TO YOUR BODY, HE IS ENJOYING YOUR YOU KNOW WHAT AND HE WILL FIND ANOTHER GIRL TO MARRY. ACCORDING TO YOU DATING IS NO LOVE AND SEX IS NO LOVE. WHY DATE SOMEONE YOU DON’T LOVE AND WHY HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE YOU EQUALLY DON’T LOVE? SEX IS MEANT TO BE ENJOYED BY MAN AND WOMAN WHO LOVE EACH OTHER AS YOU ARE FREELY GIVING YOUR BODY TO EACH OTHER. ALL I KNOW IS THAT GOOD SEX DOES NOT MEAN GOOD MARRIAGE. WHEN DATING TURNS TO MARRIAGE, THE MUSIC CHANGES AND THE DANCE STEP CHANGES AS WELL. PEOPLE SHOULD LOOK WELL BEFORE DELVING INTO MARRIAGE. IT IS EASY TO STUDY A MAN WHEN DATING BUT STUDYING A WOMAN IS DIFFICULT WHEN DATING. IF A MAN IS GOING TO BE NICE OR A BRUTE YOU WILL EASILY KNOW WHILE STILL DATING BUT A WOMAN CAN PRETEND TO BE THE BEST ON EARTH BUT AS SOON AS THE RELATIONSHIP TURNS TO MARRIAGE ESPECIALLY WHEN A CHILD COMES ALONG, IT IS THEN THAT THE TRUE CHARACTER OF THE WOMAN COMES OUT. FROM WHAT THIS LADY, MARY, SAID SHE EVENTUALLY REALIZED THE MAN SHE DISGRACED WILL TURN OUT TO BE A GOOD HUSBAND AND TO THE BOYFRIEND SHE DISGRACED, LET HIM LOOK FOR ANOTHER WOMAN TO MARRY. MARY LOOKS LIKE THE TYPE THAT WILL NOT MIND DISGRACING AND DISRESPECTING THE HUSBAND IN PUBLIC.
Akubor Michael Godwin
January 8, 2018 at 7:30 AM
I don’t see how this consoles anyone…. If you think you’re that perfect tell your partner to comment here and tell me how godly you are….. Go fix your own problems Jare. People make mistakes doesn’t mean they deserve to die. At times see things the way they really are, stop making a name for yourself with comments that are absolutely useless and irrelevant
Akubor Michael Godwin
January 8, 2018 at 7:13 AM
I feel really bad dear and sorry for all the thoughts through your mind right now
Akubor Michael Godwin
January 8, 2018 at 7:26 AM
Many Nigerians talk rubbish, only you know the shape of your relationship, and whatever you’re going through now must be really hard for you. Maybe there’s something he could have done, or something you both could have done or maybe you felt you just weren’t there yet. Cling to the instinct that said no. If he left because he was devastated he’ll come back for you. Knowing you were wrong is enough and the guilt you must be feeling now is even worse, don’t be too hard on yourself or think about people’s comments. It was your birthday and emotions might have turned your feelings or perhaps you just didn’t expect that to happen. Maybe he didn’t realize he would you care as much as he does or probably the embarrassment was too much but if it’s meant to be he’ll come home. There’s a belief that our stories are in books even before we were born, no single page of your story is missing dearie, God has a reason for things like this. God will see you through.. I just wish I can help. But since I can’t God is looking after you dear… Please be strong Jare and don’t think about the negative things people are saying here
mac spak
January 8, 2018 at 9:14 AM
take heart…many fishes are in d river..u got urself anodar boo..n 4get David.its bygone since u rejected him
FRIDAY H. WANDARA
January 8, 2018 at 10:38 AM
Never trust some ladies, she’s cheating on him n at the same time the guy tht she’s cheat with is right there at the venue n that’s why she refused to accept his proposal, this kind situation is very bad. she rejected the proposal of the one she claimed to loved. i will move on if i were to be under the shoes of that guy. she could have accept his proposal and letter notify him tht she’s ready.