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“Omotola Jalade Argues A Lot” – Husband Reveals Marriage Success Secrets

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March 2nd, 2014 – “Omotola Jalade Argues A Lot” – Omosexy’s Husband Reveals Marriage Success Secrets

Award-winning actress and one of TIME 100 most influential persons, Omotola Jalade Ekeinde, is a reporter’s delight. After several months of chase, she and her husband, Matthew, agreed to an interview last Saturday. Held in their Lagos home, they talk about their 18-year-old union

What was the initial attraction?

Matthew: She was beautiful, fresh and untouched. I decided to start with someone who hadn’t seen the world yet.

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Omotola: He was good looking but basically, it was his sense of humour and sense of responsibility. He is God-fearing too and a serious-minded person.

When did you propose to her?

Matthew: We didn’t court. I met her when she was 16 and   I was 26. We got married when she was 18. She clocked 36 recently. We were family friends and I met her through my elder sister. She used to come around the house and when she turned 18, I decided she was ripe. I told her I would marry her and she didn’t believe. I went to tell her late mother, who said I should wait till after four years because Tola had just gained admission to the university then. I told the mother that I couldn’t wait because I didn’t trust the guys in the university.

How did he propose?

Omotola: That was when I turned 18. We had been friends for about two years. He was like a family friend then but I knew he had some plans. He didn’t say anything serious and I was somehow underage. When I turned 18, on my birthday, he jokingly said, ‘babes you don grow o.’ He told me his plan.

Were you scared of getting married then?

Omotola: I wasn’t. I have always been very mature for my age. But otherwise, I had already known him for so long and was very comfortable with him. I just knew that life with him would be comfortable and easy. I didn’t know I would conform to a marriage setting because my mother used to tell me that I was very headstrong. I just thank God that I found someone who could understand me.

How has the journey been for 18 years?

Omotola: Nothing has changed really. It is still the same relaxed, easy-going relationship. There are times when we have misunderstandings but it is never anything serious or unbelievably scary. It has been the grace and fear of God. Everything results in what God thinks about the situations and we pray about it. Everyone is conscious of the fact that we must respect God in the relationship and then your spouse. We don’t just do things. Secondly, we are very grounded and real. We try the best we can to make everything natural. We don’t stress ourselves.

How did you manage the fame?

Omotola: It is just by God’s grace. If a couple cooperates with God, then He gives them the grace to tolerate each other.

How do you react to alleged scandals about your wife?

Matthew: I have heard and seen a lot that were untrue about her. I trust her. I know they will always write a lot of nonsense, why should I bother myself?

How do you feel when she plays romantic roles in movies?

Matthew: They are all make-believe. They are not real and most of her movies are pecks and not kisses. I told her not to cross that boundary.

What are the secrets of your successful marriage?

Matthew: It is God’s grace. We are disciplined and prayerful.

Omotola: It has to be God. There is no other strategy. One person can be perfect and the second person can be nasty. On our part, I’d say also that we don’t look at the relationship as something we can walk away from. We look at it as a life commitment. When you parents upset you, you cannot divorce them. Even the bible says you will leave your father and your mother and cleave to your spouse. Luckily, he doesn’t drink or smoke or abuse me. I don’t have any major thing to complain about, and I hope it is the same thing for him.

Do you quarrel?

Matthew: Yes we do. A lot. She is very argumentative. She always wants to be right. You can never win an argument with her. But she is the first to apologise.

Omotola: When there is a quarrel, I usually apologise first. He doesn’t say sorry. Overtime, I have come to realise that it is an ego problem. Even when he knows he is wrong, he will rather do every other thing or buy things for me than say, ‘I’m sorry.’ Fortunately, the ‘sorrys’ are not too many. He is very responsible and more hardworking than me. By God’s grace, we have been able to understand our routine.

What is your advice to celebrity couples?

Matthew: Foundation really matters. Some people get into the relationship for one wrong motive or the other. Most of them live false lives. Couples that are in the same profession hardly last in a marriage. There is always competition. The best thing is to marry someone that is compatible with you.

What are the reasons for break up in celebrity marriages?

Omotola: It is really hard but you both have to feel extremely secure. You have to be extremely confident and trust each other. There are so many things to deal with, especially in this environment where some people just thrive in hurting other people. The weird part is that you cannot believe that people are capable of such wickedness. You are sane and cannot believe other people are insane. These are the things that cause break up in celebrity marriages. A lot of people are talking and saying nasty things that are not true. It is just as if there is a gang up to break you up once they know you are a celebrity or in a relationship. Most times, they are all lies! Celebrity lifestyle gossip is getting to a point where they are getting close to your kids and family. They try to put your relationship in jeopardy. Then, petty things that wouldn’t cause any problems become issues. I hope there would be legislation that will protect families.

Have you ever felt threatened by her success?

Matthew: There is no reason or room for it. When I met her, she was just Omotola Jalade, and she had done just one movie. I am happy for her. When I met her, she was just getting into the movie industry. I always encourage her and hope for the best. I don’t feel threatened in any way.

How do you switch from the lifestyle of a celebrity to that of a wife?

Omotola: It is easy for me. It starts with who you truly are. The real me is not very glamorous. People may not believe it. I know what people’s perception can be. I am a homely person. If I had my way, I wouldn’t go out. When I am at home, I am Omotola. When I am with my close friends, we don’t impress each other and we try to keep it very real.

With the children, who is stricter?

Matthew: She is. We are blessed with kids that behave themselves. We do not have children that are into all sort of funny things.

How about the recent warning to bloggers about your daughter’s pictures?

Matthew: I do not know why they would do that but it is just another lesson for the kids to be very careful about what they put out there. Actually, she did it with the intent of exchanging with her friends, not knowing that people will get into her private business. We have told her to take down all the pictures and leave only one.

How do you handle finance in your marriage?

Matthew: When we first started, we had one account. We had goals and things that we wanted to do. Whatever we earned had to be in one purse. Then, we sat at the end of the month and drew a budget. We did that for so many years and were successful until she started her own company and we decided she needed to have her own account. In most marriages, the man goes into the marriage with the mindset that he will be the sole provider even when the wife is working. That does not make any sense. He uses his money to pay bills while the woman will use hers to buy only make-up, clothes and shoes. If the couple is one, they should join resources together to move ahead. Money causes problems in a family when one person is being selfish. It doesn’t matter who earns more or less. They should have a common goal. Save together and accomplish things together.

Omotola: When we first started, we used to have a joint account and I was in charge of the finances. But as time went on, he started expanding. He has his own businesses and I have my own too. It is very difficult keeping a joint account. One of the things that scare couples about finance is trust. Luckily for us, we do not have vices. The trust is intact and I know how he spends money. He is more organised than I am. He has his budgets and it is always open. Sometimes, he even tells his kids to go and look at his budget because he is trying to teach them how to make budgets. Pilots are every meticulous about schedules. For that reason, his life is almost boring because everything is to the letter. I am the one who never has a budget because I am a spontaneous person. But he knows I am not a trivial person. I don’t just go about buying jewellery. That’s why I don’t have many girlfriends because I don’t talk about those things girls talk about. I am like a dude. I am always checking out cars or properties. He knows the kind of things I would invest my money on.

How can a woman have a successful marriage?

Omotola: I don’t believe in gender equality. I do not believe that God made man and woman to be equal in any way. I believe that in every organised institution, there is always a head and an assistant. It doesn’t mean that one should take the other for granted, or disrespect the other. I believe the husband is the head of the home and the wife is an assistant. My husband is a pilot, I have flown with him several times and I understood that here is a captain and a co-pilot. They are both responsible for the passengers’ lives. But when there is a final decision to make, it is up to the captain to make it. He is more experienced and the one with the responsibility. But any mature captain will not ignore his co-pilot because the co-pilot is not a cabin attendant. He is there for a reason. It just depends on how you understand and play your roles. I believe women should understand this. When a woman starts a struggle for power tussle with him, it tends to cause friction in the home. The woman should give the man the respect as the head of the home and also prove herself as a worthy co-pilot. He needs to see you as a reliable co-pilot. Sometimes, he may not be the one running the house day-to-day, you are the one to take decisions but you have to do it in such a manner that he is comfortable enough to see you as someone he can rely on. When you have a proud and egocentric husband, hand him over to God. If you feel like your life is being threatened, or that of your children, get yourself out of that situation. You owe your children that. Try separation for a while, but before that, you must have tried other things. I do not believe that people should throw in the towel in their marriage at every flimsy excuse. You must have been a diligent wife and tried prayers and intervention. If all those fail, then you can remove yourself from that situation. Also, couples should be friends and communicate. What we call love sometimes fizzles out. True love comes from friendship. When you don’t feel those initial sparks, friendship is what keeps you together, until when the spark comes again.

Do you still have time to cook?

Omotola: I cook all the time. I love to cook. I don’t go to the market but I do the cooking.

You go to the market for her?

Matthew: Yes and I don’t feel bad doing it. I am not just doing it for her; I do it for the family. I enjoy it a lot and I have been doing it since we got married.

He said you are stricter with the children

Omotola: My kids think I am the strictest parent on the planet. I was brought up under very strict parents but I try to balance it. I know the things that really matter and the things that don’t. When you meet my kids you will know that they are well brought up.  That’s what gives me the biggest joy.

How do you feel with bad press?

Omotola: I don’t think about it because I have a lifestyle that corrects everything. Talk is cheap and I tell them to come out with proof if they have any. But if they don’t have anything, they should shut up for life. I am not interested in those kinds of talks. My husband knows me, I know myself and the people who are close to me know I can’t do the things they write about. They know what I stand for and what I signify. My hands are clean and I don’t have any hidden skeleton in any cupboard. I meet people that I want to meet but in everything I do, I make sure that I do not do what I cannot explain.

How would you describe your wife?

Matthew: She is a go-getter. She is very determined to succeed. As a wife, she is good. But sometimes, I wish she was a lot more around. She travels almost as much as I do. Sometimes, I wonder who the pilot is. As a mother, she does well; the kids are even more scared of her than they are of me. I keep thanking God because of my family because when I look around me, I see marriages that are still struggling.

How do you spend time together?

Matthew: We always talk, spend time the best way we can and usually stay at home, to do what couples do.

Omotola: Whenever we decide to spend time with the family, we dedicate sometime. My kids do not go out without us. They do not visit friends. They are very sheltered. They are always in the house with us and we hang out together.

What would you like to change about him?

Omotola: I don’t know if it is even possible to change it. I am not someone who tries to change anyone. I just try to manage situations and people. I live with them in such a way that it does not hurt me. Maybe if he can talk more. Generally, I wish he could be more communicative. But they say women are talkative.

What is your advice to couples who want to stay successfully married?

Omotola: If they want to be successfully married, they have to take time to be so close to each other that every other thing does not matter. There should never be third parties in your marriage. It is like a wall. The minute it’s cracked and lizards start coming in, it will be hard to find the lizards and throw them out. And they will start creeping into your family. Try and always sort out the issues between you. Moreover, pay your tithe individually. It’s a covering. This is our secret. When you don’t pay your tithe, you have not committed yourself and your home will not be put together. It is your foundation. But when you pay your tithe, God helps you take away every devourer. When that is taken care of and you are God-fearing, as darts are coming from every angle, you are already fortified. If you trust each other, tell each other the truth even if one person errs.

What pet names do you call each other?

Matthew: I call her Omosexy.

Omotola: I call him Honey Boy

Do you see this love lasting forever?

Omotola: Yes, though I’m not playing God, I believe our love shall be forever.

[Interview conducted by Punch @ Omotola’s Home]

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  1. Dotun KY

    March 2, 2014 at 6:10 AM

    I agree with u sir she looks like a woman dt get easily offended.
    Good to know ur maturity is helping the relationship

  2. Samuel Dede

    March 2, 2014 at 6:11 AM

    I see why they say she beats her husband 10 years age difference is a bit too much

  3. itunu omisore

    March 2, 2014 at 7:31 AM

    the day u married her u agreed to be her slave so stop complaining man

  4. Obinna

    March 2, 2014 at 7:39 AM

    mathew you are a fool, stop deceiving people, there is no one good marriage in this world, your wife was in America with Akon last are saying and doing all these rubbish to avoid her leaving. i never forget that she was showing the world her bam last year. there is problem in every marriage, but with christ you can understand each other. not fame.

  5. Desaia

    March 2, 2014 at 10:50 AM

    can omosexy swear by her womanhood dat,no other man has ever visited her jerusalem while in dis union with her hubby? Big lie. Do yorubas hav a strict cultural penalty such as madness if a married woman commits adultry? No

  6. Desaia

    March 2, 2014 at 10:55 AM

    can omosexy swear by her womanhood dat,no other man has ever visited her jerusalem while in dis union with her hubby? Big lie. Do yorubas hav a strict cultural penalty such as madness if a married woman commits adultry? No. So we know every thing

  7. bezo

    March 2, 2014 at 1:35 PM

    Argue with you or she beat you up inside your house, you are a disgrace to manhood, how can your wife beat you up, no wonder she has turned you to a handbag, follow her everywhere like purse women hold everywhere they go

  8. dupe

    March 2, 2014 at 4:40 PM

    I was really blessed with this interview. I learn’t not to compete with my husband even if u r best of friends. God bless your home Omotola and grant you long life to enjoy your fruits of love.

  9. Qualis

    March 2, 2014 at 6:57 PM

    Mijin hajiya

  10. Lekan Feyisan

    March 2, 2014 at 8:43 PM

    See bad belle people o. I don’t knw why some Nigerians never appreciate gud things. *smh for una. God continue to keep u guys together jare. All the best.

  11. Mercy Williams

    March 2, 2014 at 8:59 PM

    Wonderful couple

  12. Metu Nyetu

    March 2, 2014 at 9:01 PM

    God bles u, Omotola! U said u went in2 marriage wit d mindset dat it’s nt something u just walk out frm. If only d likes of Chika Ike & Monalisa Chinda would c it dis way! We claim we’re enlightend, but den scatter wat God himself had instituted.
    Omobaby, wat kills me most is ur saying dat u dnt beliv in gender equality; dat men r d head. No wonda ur marriage is still air-tight. Omo, in short u should com & preach in my church.

    • Saphire

      March 3, 2014 at 9:16 AM

      Metu u are fish head….why calling chika and monalisa? Dnt u read the part where omo said if ur life and that of ur children is in danger u should separate….chika and monalisa suffered physical abuse..leading to chika losing her baby..and monalisa on the other hand..her picture was allover the web the extent of the beating she recieve from her man….being celeb dosen’t mean you should die in marriage in other to save face…… A men was senteced to death resently in lagos for killing his wife..and report has it that the man have bn abusing this lady for years..and this lady keep enduring…had it being this lady separate from that man..the abuse wouldnt have lead to death…

  13. Peter Washington

    March 2, 2014 at 9:11 PM

    Keep it up, God will continue 2 guard n uphold ur family wit Luv n understands! IJN AMEN

  14. Moosa

    March 3, 2014 at 9:17 AM

    Must it be only white people who has lasting succesful marrieges, y are we resist against our own, then we cry that whites are racist, what omotola is saying is the truth im 32 yrs old been married for 10yrs still going strong never been touched my anyman excepts my hubsy which is something i take pride of, we have a joint account we pay our tithe, we spent lot of time together, so I beleave her because I also leave like, but what can we say black people dont see anything nice about their own unless its DAVID AND VICTORIA BACKHAM.

  15. Fajere kehinde

    March 3, 2014 at 1:30 PM

    God wil proctect ur marraige i pray u wil continue to live togethet in LOVE

    • Fajere kehinde

      March 3, 2014 at 1:32 PM

      With LOVE

  16. Favorzoe

    March 3, 2014 at 9:52 PM

    Why are naija people like dis? People are nt hapi bcos he loves his wife.u guys should better mind ur bisiness bcos what u sow dt’s what u wil reap.

  17. Metu Nyetu

    March 3, 2014 at 10:22 PM

    Saphire, it beats me how u knew I’m fish head wen ur brain, ur father’s, ur grand father’s and ur gr8 grand father’s all put 2geda neva matches d wisdom of an ox. If d best thing u knw is calling people names once their views are diffrnt frm ur own, den u stil hav a lot of growing-up 2do. Hick!

    • Saphire

      March 4, 2014 at 8:28 AM

      Metu u ar a dead bastard by draging people who are nt involve in the matter into the matter…why dragging chika and monalisa into omosexy matter…and why dragging my generation into our matter….?? I dnt have to call any of ur family to potrial my point…if i wanna beef you..i do that one on one with u…….metu deal with me personaly and stop calling my generation… nt hard to notice a bastard if u see one……..stupid gaylord

  18. suuu

    March 3, 2014 at 11:02 PM

    hmmmmmm,no marriage is perfect,we all have our odds,giving our veiws dos not mean we should trow insults on both her and her hubby,lets luk @ our life first,honestly marriage is not a bed of roses,so even if they do not speak about their problems to the public,u all should knw that its their private life,dont be quick to judge,let them tak kia of their problem,and lets all stay out of it,i bet evryone has a secret,lol,let omosexy nd her hubby have sum breathing space joor,see beef,una carry pesin problm put for ur head,if pesin do am to u,e go sweet? mtcheeeew,beef.

  19. Metu Nyetu

    March 5, 2014 at 6:22 AM

    Saphire, if u cnt simply express ur divergent views wdout 1st of all dissing sombdy, den u’v got no right 2tel me wat 2tel u. I dnt blame u cos it’s nt ur fault. If ur mother hadnt been running around wit scums who shot d watery sperm dat later became u in2 her womb, @least ur I.Q. could hav been manageabl. I gues u just want me 2 notice u. Congrats on ur success! Now u may go 2 where ur fellow pap-face imbeciles are!

    • Saphire

      March 6, 2014 at 5:02 PM

      Metu children picked on sea chores are nt hard to notice..they dnt have respect for pple’s parents cox they dnt have one… still lucky to have a woman who i can call mother….sorry for bn nobody….stupid epileptic embecile

      • Metu Nyetu

        March 7, 2014 at 8:05 AM

        D vr thing u acuse me of, Saphire, u r equally guilty of. Did u not call me a bastard? Doz it not imply my mother was a whore? If dis is how u show ur respect 2 oda ppl’s parents, den u might as well redefine ‘RESPECT’.
        Well, u jst made me do wat I h8 doing. I hop it hasnt stuck 2 ur heart. May I suggest u desist frm insulting ppl jst bcs their takes dnt fall in sinc wit yours? Dat is maturity in its simplest. Enjoy ur day!

  20. patience

    November 30, 2016 at 8:22 PM

    Wow! God bless your home ma. Obviously. There are no marriages without challenges. But I respect you both. First. For recognising. The place of God (the Master builder)in your home and. Your openeness especially in issues of finances. There is no way your marriage will fail. God keep you both and make you a reference point. May He preserve your children, they. Will bring you honour and not shame in Jesus name. Amen

  21. fifelomo

    November 30, 2016 at 9:58 PM


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