Hot Gists
Stella Damasus: Daniel Ademinokan Left His Wife Bcos I Love Him, Our Marriage ‘ll Last Forever
Dec 17, 2014 – “My Marriage With Daniel Ademinokan’ll Last Forever” – Stella Damasus Blasts Critics
Daniel Ademinokan Left His Wife Doris Simeon Bcos He Wanted To Stay With Me, Our Relationship Is Here To Stay
This is the exact word of Nollywood actress Stella Damasus in a tell-it-all interview she granted on Golden Icon TV few weeks ago.
The mother of two narrated how she married her late husband Jaiye Aboderin at age 21 in order to have children early.
She also talked about her 2nd marriage that crashed few months after her wedding.
In conclusion, she lashed out at her critics for poke-nosing into her bedroom matter #lobatan
See excerpts below:
Why I Got Married At Age 21
“I always wanted to start early. I always wanted to have children early. I wanted to have a marriage early, I wanted to grow with a family. I wanted to learn the inside of it, I didn’t want to wait and grow, and mature, and become big and famous then start to wonder ‘oh, will anyone marry me now’. So at that point looking at my life, I said, if I do this for another five (5), six (6), seven (7) years, and I don’t start a family, it will become more difficult for me later on. And so, I decided if I find somebody who I love, who will love me back, we will go together. We will fight all the fight, make up, we will do whatever, but we will grow old together. And that’s what happened.
My Relationship With My Daughters
When you see the three of us, and you see my daughters, you will think we are sisters. And we talk as friends. So it was an important thing for me. To have a family, and have that…I needed something to check me. We have a tendency to be crazy and do whatever we like because we could get away with anything, we could travel all over the world, we could get people to like us like this (snaps finger), we had money to throw around. If I don’t have that family unit to check me, I don’t know what I would have become and I won’t lie about that.”
How My Husband Died When I Clocked 26 With Two Young Children
They say time heals. I say, I have a different definition, I say time numbs. It is not something that heals, and then that’s it, it’s gone, it’s gone, No. This is someone you planned to spend the rest of your life with, and grow with. We made plans, like every other couple. And when that happened…he died when I was 26 with two children. I just felt that my life had ended. So, but with time, this year, December 3rd will 10 years, one full decade. So it is not healing, I won’t call it healing but I will say it numbs it and once in a while, it comes up and the pain is as fresh like yesterday but it is how you deal with it that matters.
And that’s what I have had to do for the past 10 years but I am very grateful for the family I have, for the people I have around me. For that, you need a lot of strength. God helped me through it all.”
How My Relationship With Doris Simeon’s Ex-Husband Daniel Ademinokan Started
When you see a man who has settled ties with a woman and decides to move on with his life and you feel that there is something in this man that you like and he likes you. I am not a kid. I am 36 years old. I am not about to start hiding myself. I was waiting for somebody to actually ask me this question, because all I have heard for the past two, three years are rumours. They said, blogs said, this said. Nobody has been bold enough to confront me and ask me.
One of the comments I have seen consistently, over and over again, is ‘Stella snatches somebody’s husband’, ‘Stella the husband snatcher’, which is what has been going on. And I had sworn that I would never talk about it, or even listen or stress myself about this thing but I have decided to do this now, so that I end this once and for all.
First of all, let me paint a picture for you and you let me know what makes sense to you. When I looked up the word snatch or steal, ehh, let’s go to the dictionary. It means, forcefully taking something away from its original position. Forcefully. From its original position to another position. Something that does not belong to you. That’s what I gathered from the word snatch or steal.
So I looked at me, Stella, and I wondered to myself, how is it possible to go to somebody’s home, and take a man, and take his son, away from his home and say follow me. You are a man, and according to their story, he is happily married inside his home. With his family complete and I walk into that home, to forcefully take a man, abled bodied man, and a kid, away from somebody’s hand and you are there looking at me. How does that work?
Both parties have decided this thing is not going anywhere, and they have gone their separate ways, why is it that it easier for the world to blame the woman that the man has decided to end up with? Why is it that it is always that woman that scattered that home? The two people that did things that nobody was there, nobody said something must have happened between this two people but it is always somebody else that is the problem. And I always say, I do not tolerate blaming anybody for your own problems. I have had problems.
Why My 2nd Marriage Crashed
After my late husband’s death, I got married again and the marriage didn’t work. After eight (8) months, it crashed. People didn’t hear much about it, why? We were both mature to understand that we came together, we knew that the thing was not working, instead of us to become enemies we will remain friends, let’s just let it go quietly. And we let it go quietly. I didn’t blame anybody else for doing it, he didn’t blame anybody else for doing it.
My relationship with Daniel Ademinokan is here to stay;
Not at all we are not going to separate, not at all. You know why? Because my conscience was clear. Whatever issues a man has with his wife or whatever, when they deal with it, they deal with it, I don’t come into it. And once you are done with it, and ready to move on, and you want to move on with me, and I want a life with you, it’s me and you.
I don’t care what anybody else is thinking or saying. Because I am not a kid for me to make a decision and say I want to be with this person. If I marry 10, it concern you? That’s what I used to say.
If I have 50 husbands, how does that affect you? Does it change my work? I do my work, you enjoy it. Enjoy it. It’s not about what I do in my bedroom that is your issue because you don’t really know what happens in people’s bedrooms. You don’t know what happens in marriages, you don’t know why people like us are very weary of people knowing our business.
Stella Damasus just made matters worse with this new interview.
All she said above is a proof that she snatched the guy from his wife.
If she’s bold enough to confront critics, why did she left Nigeria from that time and never returned????
bezo
December 17, 2014 at 4:10 PM
Nobody should blame her. Women over 30 are at stage of no return. She has done her own voodoo, let Doris go and do her own to have him back
bimbo
December 17, 2014 at 4:17 PM
Stella from now on I will stop watching your movie, I use to see your as a role model for your kind words but you are not kind to doris simeon
Put yourself in her shoes, will be you be happy if another woman come into Jaiye’s life when he was still alive.
What you said in this interview implicates you. Remember what goes aroudn comes around
NIKE
December 17, 2014 at 4:20 PM
Stella, am sorry for u,what goes around will surely comes around,the same thing once happen to me,i gave my man a male child for one stupid lady from stella’s town to snatch him from me being a yoruba lady and they r from d same state as they say patience is hard but u reap it,now my man is left with nothing and the said lady is no longer here in Nigeria,to make matter worst i now have another man that choose me and my child to spend the rest of his life with can’t u see our GOD is awesome.my advice is STAY TUNED AND SEE WHAT WILL BECOME OF U STELLA,BECAUSE I KNOW FOR SURE THAT ONCE U TEMPT TO GIVE HIM A CHILD THAT IS THE END OF THE UNION,U SURE KNOW THAT
Bilal Nnaji
December 17, 2014 at 5:12 PM
Stella it is never too late to make amend, you are the one who can return that stolen boy to his mother, do it now before I report you to god
Wumi
December 17, 2014 at 5:39 PM
STELLA is a bad WOMAN and also a bad MOTHER, she has a grown up GIRLS, i wonder wat dos girls wil learn frm her,hw cud she utter such nonsense even if d couple’s are having pbrolem with their marriage d fact dat he has once b wit her colleague is enough for her to backout, fyn, u married early and u lose ur husband don’t u knw hw it feels to lose someone dat is most dearly to u…Yoruba adage says Opa tafina iyale nbe Laja fun yawo,since u don’t want to listen to d ppl dat want good for u,den we will b watching to knw where it wil END..
Grace Peter
December 17, 2014 at 5:51 PM
Stella sorry your marriage will not last. Trust me. What goes around comes around it can take million of year but you will loose him to another woman or he will die a single old man, because by then Doris will be with another man. You will never sleep in peace or enjoy this marriage mark me, trust me.
And to you Doris are you also sure you didnt snatch this man in the past from another woman. Because it seems is like what goes around is coming around.
the man is a confused brat. He does not know what he is doing by the time his eyes clear he will remain a single old man.
And to those of you saying vodoo. It works for a while and fail after a while or until you keep renewing it. Renewing vodoo can take your life or add more evil spirits to your marriage and destroy it so be careful is not the best. God prayers is the best for a strong healthy marriage only you must be consistent with your prayers.
Grace Peter
December 17, 2014 at 5:55 PM
Well said NIKE. Lets wait and see and give her 5 years or less. she will cry. Women or men who do that think they are smart. I pity them. My best friend nearly snatch my husband thank God he was for me.
When I came I heard the story I loved my husband the more and we are married with 2 grown up children. She is ashamed of her self and living with a man now but not yet married to him and had a child.
Grace
December 17, 2014 at 6:48 PM
My question here is : did this man divorce his wife before remarrying Stella??
Subi
December 17, 2014 at 7:04 PM
No Doris Simeon said last time that Daniel hasn’t divorced him but she has put the divorce in to free herself
omo
December 17, 2014 at 6:53 PM
God will surely punish u Stella!!! Remember u ve girls also.Come to tink of it is it ur fault or d fault of dat He-goat of a boy who calls himself Daniel who cannot put his house together? ? Dia is no marriage dat is devious of problem s but d ability to put everything in place is what makes u a man.U prefer to be doing boy, boy after Stella at is older dan u.Two of a kind, shameless pple
anon
December 17, 2014 at 6:58 PM
Some human beings are shameless. Stella ran away in shame and she is ‘acting’ bold and justifying her immoral action. Time will tell is all I will say.
anon
December 17, 2014 at 7:03 PM
Obviously that Daniel is the world’s greatest fooooooool! Stella will eat you raw and dump you. She is with you cos she cant get any other man.
Nigeria
December 17, 2014 at 8:22 PM
My people, It is time you relax, digest and comment. Let us ask Doris a question> why did she allow the quarrel or issue btw her and her hubby stayed too long? Hmmmmmmm.Lesson, dont allow minute to go bye beofre you settle issue with ur spouse. Devil is seriously working without sleep and he rejoices in broken home. Doris was waiting for ” let him come back and beg me first” No body is perfect and once you know that you are nt perfect then package urself very well and stop flaunting. Stella, just have to say her heart is pure bcus she is nt God that took her first hubby away. Am sure none of you have gone through what she has gone through. Am nt supporting the idea anyway bcus there are many guys in Nigeria and all over the world but she did all that out of frustration and am sure both of them are confused. We can only pray for them for God to please out of his infinity mercy lead three of them. We are not God what about if Daniel is Stella’s rightful hubby from heave but he needed to pass through source situation. Pray for them please. Your own too is only cover with skin and cloth.
Ella
March 8, 2015 at 9:07 AM
Life is deep. I hate to comment or give an opinion on a matter I don’t have all the full facts about. Stella I can understand how it must have hurt to loose your husband at such a young age, I wept for you too at that time realizing how much it must have hurt. I understand your position that the couple in question might have resolved things before you came into the picture, but my question is if Doris has, then why are we reading about it as an issue. She clearly hoped her marriage would work out. And even though she might have had a role to play by letting her marriage detoriate to the extent of break-up does not mean it’s your place to pick up the pieces. My concern here is there is a child that would have had the chance to grow up in a functioning family with mother and father and that child is being deprived of it. I believe God see our pain, I believe God knows our pain better than anyone can. He knows you’ve been alone for awhile, he knows you need a man, he knows that your daughters need a father and he is the rewarder of them that diligently seek him. He has a lovely man somewhere for you. He doesn’t want you to settle. So this Daniel guy might seem like heaven on earth, but remember he was that to another woman. Don’t put yourself in this situation you are much too precious to God, to us all to settle. There is a scripture in the bible that says ” Against the wife of your youth that you treacherously death with”. Don’t be a part of the curse. But if there is more I believe God would lead you on what you need to do. Ask him he never fails. But you and your daughters need not settle. Life is just so big, let’s not look at it from our lens. May God bless you!!!
Yinka Jacobs
December 17, 2014 at 8:24 PM
well said Grace Peter…..
nick
December 17, 2014 at 9:11 PM
4goodness sake u pple shd stop blaming Stella. She did nothing wrong. D man left his wife, Was seperated and single, ready to move on…. Stella was single too, d fall in love,,, and got married. Obviously he must have divorced his 1st wife b4 then. If she decided to give d guy full custody of their Son,,4 better reasons. I see nothing wrong with it. After all d so called Ex wife has not complained or has she?
Funmi
December 17, 2014 at 10:02 PM
Even if both Daniel and Doris were separated,u stella who was Daniel’s business partner and a fellow actress like Doris shouldn’t be in a best position to marry Daniel u are so shameless n desperate.I’m sure they both started well just like u are claiming that ur marriage will last forever,Daniel will soon show u his true colour.Pls do release Doris’ son to her afterall u already have her man
Jacob Flow
December 17, 2014 at 10:18 PM
Stella, You can only run , you cannot hide, all this rubbish you saying do not hold water. And why wash ur dirty linen in public. You should just have hold ur peace, We saw you when you in New York before you ran for Atlanta. You are just managing Daniel, because that is ur last option, Do not suffer in silence cry out so that people will help you out. Why running from pillar to post and no one chasing you.
Its time you realize that you are on the wrong path.
Mara
December 17, 2014 at 11:59 PM
Leave this woman alone please, where you people in his marriage? Is he the first man to have a marriage that does not work out? What if he was not happy? Should he live his life in misery because he does not want to offend you people? Do you live his life for him? If you are not happy you move on! You can not force someone to love you no matter what! Clearly by the time Stella got with him there were issues in this marriage already and she is right,YOU CAN’ T snatch or steal someone, they leave on their own. A breakdown of a marriage is a very painful thing but it happens! Maybe Stella is who he is in love with!! People should learn to mind their own business and not be so judgemental, let her enjoy her marriage in peace!
Peace
December 18, 2014 at 1:32 PM
Shut up!!! Beds of same Feather. Even if he had issues with his wife (which is normal in every marriage),Stella being his business partner was supposed to talk 2 him, persuade him to settle scores with his wife and put his house in order rather than seizing d opportunity 2 snatch him away.
Mara
December 19, 2014 at 1:16 AM
@****, you ****, Stella does not owe anyone anything! If Man wants Stella, Man is gonna go to Stella!! You can stand at the top of the highest mountain and talk your Rubbish and blame Stella but if Man wants to move on he is going to move on!! Is he a child that Stella should persuade? YOU CAN’T FORCE LOVE OOOOO!! Swallow that!!!!!I’m out!!!
Ugochi
December 18, 2014 at 12:14 AM
Stella, I watched your interview and all I can say is you are in denial my dear. You are such an intelligent smart woman, I don’t know why you decided to put yourself into this kind of controversy. I watched you ask the interviewer how you could taken a full grown man from his wife to come and live with you. Well, You probably didn’t, but you enabled him to abscond his family. Of all the men you could fall in love with, why a colleagues husband and business partner for that matter. If you were in Doris shoes, you will feel worse than she felt when you stole her man to come to America, because that’s what you did. You reduced yourself so cheaply. You married one Nzeribe after your late husband and it didn’t work, shouldn’t that tell you something about you? Many women have lived alone and train their children well by themselves after the loss of a spouse. You abandoned your children in Nigeria to come here, gallivanting with someone else’ husband. What kind of a mother are you? Stop wasting your time with this man. If you love him as you claim, let him loose.He needs to go back to his family and reconcile with his wife, that is what the bible said. Your marriage to this man will never be blessed, so stop calling God, because what you did was ugly and God don’t like ugly. You still have time to repent. Look at the comments on this forum, shouldn’t that tell you something?
ayobami
December 18, 2014 at 4:35 AM
she lost her husband at young age so she doesnt care if someone else loses hers. Wicked woman.
funky mama
December 18, 2014 at 7:14 AM
stella, i really have dis simple message for u, for as long as u live with dis man u will never be happy, u will forcefully hide ur shameful face under d bed, no wonder u cant return home. even wen ur mate are here doing so well back home, u decided to stay behind in US. and be begging for money to survive u deprive a child of her mother,s love hw wicked ad mean can dat be, but yet u made a video abt child abuse some months back, barking like a dog, honestly u are confuse, just do the restitution, repent ad return home cos my dear ur colleques ve gone far i doubt if u can meet dem again, but is nt too far ooooooo, u can still shamefully return we will consider u.
Peculiar
December 18, 2014 at 9:28 AM
Wot gives u d assurance dat d marriage s going 2 last foreva? Or hv u 4gotten wot d Bible says, Woteva a man soweth, dat he shall reap. If i wia u, i wud’ve hv gone 2 ask Ini Edo hw she defines husband snatchers by now, cuz she has tasted it b4 u; nw wia re they? D next divorce story i’m going 2 read on naijagists hia, is either going 2 be u, Nuella Njubigbo or Mercy Johnson rada. Futureless fools!!!
Lizzy
December 18, 2014 at 12:54 PM
Stella, u forgot so soon dat u av femele children, u wuld’t av done dis if u really luv dem. Marrying another woman’s’ husband is an adultery, u can only do dis if the man is a widower. I’m sory for u bcos u wil see the result on ur children, u wil also live to regret it bcos d relatnship wil not last. Shameless woman
Albertina
December 18, 2014 at 1:11 PM
Her Job has nothing to do with her private life, they fall in love and they got married, like she said stealing is you going to someone’s house and take something without the owners Knowledge, Doris and her ex husband were separated, don’t you now that when never two people from different sex are always together they get attracted he so Stella as Business partner and he fall in love with her who’s fault is it? not hers and not his that is the destination, stopping watching her movies wont make you a better person or will change anything on her life. so stop acting like you live in X century.
Stella i love and so many others.
Peace
December 18, 2014 at 1:36 PM
Stella, u will surely regret dis action of yours. He who seeks happiness at d expense of others does so in vain.
Sam
December 18, 2014 at 1:38 PM
Stella, u will surely regret dis action of yours. He who seeks happiness at d expense of others does so in vain.
Tina
December 18, 2014 at 1:43 PM
Hmmmmm! WHAT A ROLE MODEL FOR HER TWO DAUGHTERS. And the MUMU husband always looking DULL like he is been push arround like a discarded tampon by this shameless woman (arshaa), NA WA OOO!
Stella
December 18, 2014 at 2:01 PM
Ashawo husband snatcher! No wonder your life is full of pains. Nemesis must catch up with u.
osii
December 18, 2014 at 2:09 PM
I heard her talk in a smart manner,she even gave instance with Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt…So funny to hear,she should tell us that their relationship started after Daniel and Doris’s marriage crashed.I don’t judge people,for her to come out making a jest of herself,she should ask herself if her conscience is still alive,if Daniel were to be her son in-law, so her advice will be separation, hmmmm ?am sorry to say this,as many as those in the entertainment industry that abscond with other people’s husband,they should remember that there is pay time which may leave them more shattered.Its not late to retrieve your steps dear Stella.
nwakaego
December 18, 2014 at 3:39 PM
My sister stop deceiving ur self, u hv daughters don’t bring cause upon them. Even as lgbo woman do what is right pls.God is watching.
sharton
December 19, 2014 at 6:16 PM
Noted,okay oo the end shall tell.
anon
December 24, 2014 at 11:54 AM
Take heart Doris, God will surely vindicate U. Stella, U are a disapoiontment
anon
December 24, 2014 at 12:20 PM
Take heart Doris, God will surely vindicate U. Stella, U are a disappointment
teekay
February 28, 2015 at 6:56 AM
Stella,i feel a lot sorry for u. This happened to me too. I was married to my ex husband for 5 years. He met with a zenith bank manager who is older thab him and because the woman has a lot of money to throw around him,she was able to convince him to divorce me.We have a beautiful gal together. They have done yoruba introduction with hired husband family members. Its such a pity that stella will cause another woman so much pain just to keep herself happy. That happiness will be for a short time. Remember u have two girls.learn from ini edo,as for ge goat daniel,go back to ur wife before someone else marries her and u end up being their security man. God is not a wicked God. He wont overlook your covetousness, u ll definately pay for it. My prayer is for ur relationship with stella to crash. It ll never work. My God ll open ways for doris, just to put u yo shame. Shameless fools@stellaanddaniel
femi philip
November 13, 2015 at 4:45 PM
Stella whatever anybody says u have ur life to live daniel shd also appreciate the sacrifice stella has made. Pray tigether Against all forces of Life u will get over all this and be happy forever. Happiness is the key to life. So pls stay happily together. Stella u are gold every human crave for gold.when its thrown away those who value it will find it
Tiana Daniel
February 16, 2016 at 5:12 PM
You know what the bible says about divorcing and remarrying. So consider your ways
ADENIKE
June 14, 2016 at 12:42 PM
Hmmmmmmmmmmn Naija esogba yin,(mind ur buz) leave this people alone. This cause is too much on this new couple, I blamed Doris for keeping mute on this matter, she didn’t even make any attempt to get back her husband which means she’s also done with the man,the love is not there any longer. it is not a new thing for a lady to marry another woman’s husband, after all some men married 2 and more wives, so what happened to the first wife! just that its so painful for Stella to put herself in this kind of mess with all her fame and respect in the society with which so many people sees her as their role model, Stella you would have waited to get another man rather than putting yourself in this kind of shit, anyway what God has joined together let no man put asunder. as for Doris God would provide for you your own man that will be with you forever. Stella! which you best and make sure you take good care of that boy(DAVID) That is my main concern because if I heard you maltreat that innocent boy I will not be happy with you. once again which you best in your career and marriage.
ADENIKE
June 14, 2016 at 1:20 PM
In addition to my comment. I saw real happiness in Stella and Daniel from their pictures! that shows they are perfect match.
Firewami
February 15, 2017 at 8:09 PM
Adenike oni se orire,Stella heaven will punish for wat u did to Doris.asewooooooo.u killed ur husband so DAT u can flirt around ni…agbaya.
fifelomo
February 15, 2017 at 10:01 PM
I take a stroll, like the hunter.