Oct 20, 2014 – Avoid Self Blame, Stop Tying Yourself To Past Mistakes, It’s Time To Move On
Let me start this piece with a very common biblical quotation Isaiah 43:18-19
It reads: “Remember not the former things,nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing;now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.
Pardon me if you are not the religious type but I do get my encouragement from the word of God.
No doubt we’ve all make mistakes one time or the other in life.
We also need to realise that the past is something we have no control over, the only power we have right now is the ability to influence what happen from now on.
Self blame is one of the most toxic forms of emotional abuse. It amplifies our perceived inadequacies, whether real or imagined, and paralyzes us before we can even begin to move forward. I call it self abuse.
Now let’s dig deeper into this subject of self blame.
There are two types of Self Blame namely; behavioural and characterological.
Behavioral self-blame: Can be defined as undeserved blame based on actions. People who experience behavioral self-blame feel that they should have done something differently, and therefore feel at fault.
Characterological self-blame is undeserved blame based on character. Peoples who experience characterological self-blame feel there is something inherently wrong with them which has caused them to deserve to be victimized.
The most toxic of the two that often leads to suicide is Behavioural self blame. It is often associated with feelings of guilt within oneself.
Keep in mind that at one point or the other we have all make mistakes in life.
The only difference is the way we handle it. You either allow your mistakes to make you or break you; make you better or make you bitter.
Keep in mind that you as much as anyone else in the entire world deserve your love and affection.
Please let go of the past today, you have no power over it, avoid blaming yourself for whatever might have gone wrong in the past.
When you live in the now, you have better chances of getting it right in the future but if you live in the past, mistakes are inevitable.
Below are some helpful self blame quotes
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