Davido’s N45M Porsche Gift And His ‘Life Is All About The Money’ Mentality
By Gbenga Adebambo
As I settle down in the lecture hall to take my first lecture of the day with my students, I realized that a major discussion and trending news has taken away a chunk of their attention. Trying to bring them back to class to even notice my presence became a herculean task. My years of experience with the youth has taught me well that the easiest way to catch their attention is simply by including them or participating in their discussion.
It yielded fruit as one of the overzealous students wanted to know whether I will do the same thing for my girlfriend if I were in Davido’s shoes! Knowing full well the subject of their discussion as I have earlier seen the headline on some of the tabloids, I only just responded by telling my female students why they should not keep designing their future around freebies and gifts from their boyfriends. I subtly shifted our discussion to a more fulfilling aspect of asking them how they want to positively affect their generation with their dreams and aspirations.
Why do we keep striking the wrong conversation among the youths? I have observed that the entertainment industry seldom and rarely spike up intelligent and cerebral discussions among the youths. I weep for this present generation of youths because most times we are always in the news for the wrong reasons.
Sometimes I keep questioning myself as a youth on where, how, and when we lost it! I have often said that the easiest way to destroy a generation of youths is to lower their role models and references. When the standards that youths and children look up to are lowered, the children would undoubtedly grow up to live inferior lives. When youths are so preoccupied with the pursuit of money, they mostly tend to miss the pursuit of purpose.
Is life really all about making money? I can bet that most Nigerian youths will answer this question in the affirmative. We are living in a sympathetic time when youths sit down to plan how to make money without earning it. When youths live only for money, it shows a deep loss of value and purpose! Patrick Meagher once said, “Some people are so poor, all they have is money”. One of the most damaging mentalities that the present crop of artistes in Nigeria has infested the youths with is making them believe that money should be the object of their pursuit.
As a youth coach and specialist, I have observed that youths seldom learn in schools again, most of what they imitate are normally from the artiste and from the entertainment industry. John Wooden said “Being a role model is the most powerful form of educating.” There has been a great indictment of the present crop of artistes from the entertainment industry as their songs are adversely affecting the priorities of the Nigerian youths. The Nigerian artistes must wake up to the present reality that they have become a form of institution to educate the Nigerian youths.
They must see themselves first as role models before even seeing themselves as entertainers! The entertainment industry is gradually churning up a generation of youths without moral value. The best countries in the world are those that have found a healthy mix between education and entertainment, but this is obviously untrue in Nigeria as the entertainment industry has become so inimical and detrimental to our educational system.
It was a sad day some few weeks ago in Offa, Kwara State when about 50 armed robbers visited 5 commercial banks breaking their doors with grenades and killing police and security men in sight. According to some eyewitnesses over 40 persons were killed and lots more injured, leaving a trail of blood and tears as they unleash hell on law-abiding citizens. In the process of forcefully carting away bails of money that they didn’t work for, they wasted lives and properties.
Youths like this don’t listen to Onyeka Owenu’s song of ‘one love’ or Sonny Okosun’s ‘Which Way Nigeria’? I can assure you that their favorite artistes will either be one of Davido, Olamide, Whiz Kid, Lil kesh! How can we ever raise a sane and value focused youth generation when the entertainment industry keep ringing it in their eyes that life is all about the money. The youths of nowadays value money than morals; they maintain a bogus and insane lifestyle at the detriment of other people’s life!
I can easily evaluate a man or a woman by simply looking at the object of his/her pursuit or what excites him/her. The euphoria, hullabaloo and trending excitement generated about some few weeks ago because of a Nigerian artiste and supposedly model of the Nigerian youths, Davido(Mr Baddest) on his purchase of a Porsche worth 45 million naira for his girlfriend(Chioma) on her birthday! The ‘omo baba olowo’(OBO) crooner has just shown us that ‘Our Husband Has Gone Mad Again’(apologies to the late Ola Rotimi). The 25-year-old award winning singer also released a song titled ‘Assurance’ which he dedicated to Chioma.
When youths all around the world are developing Apps to solve problems, forming NGOs to affect their communities, it is appalling to see the obscene rate at which some Nigerian youths are celebrating idiosyncrasy. It is obviously in Nigeria that we celebrate things that are meant to be object of derision!
Davido has the penchant for being in the news for the wrong reasons. From an overzealous partying that got one of his friend drunk to the point of no return to the sobering news of two of his friends found dead along a major high way in Lagos with hard drugs, it is obvious that the young man famously referred to as baddest is living up to his name as his values has actually gone from bad to worse.
I remember one day when one of my students referred to me as ‘baddest’! Making me realize that it is probably only in Nigeria that the youth say something is very bad when actually it is very good! This coinage has actually form our vocabulary as we now refer to people that are dexterous in their chosen field as ‘baddest’ or probably ‘baddoo’. These youths smuggled these vocabularies into our conversations in a very subtle way and we fail to realize how negative they are influencing us in getting used to insane vocabularies.
They are not yet done with us as they now rend the atmosphere with songs that celebrates drugs, obscenity, nakedness, ostentatious display of wealth, and also we are getting used to it! These supposedly mentors of the Nigerian youths have tinkered with our values and feeding the youths with trash. It is high time we studied the effect of the entertainment industry on the escalation of crime rate among the youths.
Lady Gaga once said, “Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your dream will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.” By building a life and lifestyle around our values, goals, dreams and vision, we create a life that is more sustainable, satisfying, meaningful and fulfilling.
The Nigerian artistes must begin to communicate to the youth with clarity and intellectual depth. Most artistes have thrown caution to the wind, as the content of their songs now revolve around nudities, quick wealth, violence, drugs and a false sense of utopia. It is appalling to know that the artistes that many of our youths are looking up to do not possess the virtues and values that are sacrosanct to youth development.
I would also like to encourage parents to instill confidence into their girl-child because the way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. We must help them to develop their self-esteem. Teach them never to walk in any man’s shadow because once they know their worth, nobody can make them feel worthless. We should stop buying into the myth that only a life built around a man means a better life. It is a blatant lie. Your self-worth, personal development, personal goals and relationship with God should be the object of your pursuit.
To all the young ladies out there: Don’t build your life around any man; build your life around your growth and your goals. Instead of being a gold digger around a man, be a goal digger! You have a goldmine when you have a goal mind. Instead of sitting down and thinking about the next gift from your boyfriends, think about an idea that can help you impact your generation, because your idea is your wealth.
The issue of young ladies running aimlessly after money without any definite and concrete plans to add value to the world is appalling. Don’t go around in a way that men will see you as a liability. You are an asset. As a lady, you must be able to earn your own living and pay your own way. Don’t ever live in such a way that you become a liability to a man! Live in such a way that it becomes obvious to the man you come in contact with that his life is always richer with your presence.
Leo Tolstoy once said, “Nothing is so necessary for a young man as the company of intelligent women”. It’s a man’s job to respect a woman, but it’s a woman’s job to give him something to respect.
In her best-selling book, Rich Woman, that I will recommend for all young ladies and women out there, Kim Kiyosaki said:
“A man is not a financial plan”. There is no freebies in life! Ladies…Never make a man your financial plan!
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May 12, 2018 at 7:52 AM
He is doing all this so that lazy Nigerian youths will continue to look for easy wealth thereby promoting crime like robbery, ritualism, kidnapping and the like.
I weep for Nigeria. Buhari is right when he said an average Nigerian youth is lazy
May 12, 2018 at 11:47 AM
Mercy, you are wrong. Davido,Tekno and other entertainers are Nigerian youth and are doing something to better themselves,so referring to statement by one anachronistic and a religious slave is not suitable. Davido works for his money and also lucky to have a wealthy father, so what else do you except from hard working dude? Nigerian youths in the North are beggars,therefore are hopeless and shamelessly lazy. Mercy, big dummy is wrong and clueless about events in Nigeria.
May 13, 2018 at 9:38 AM
My dear Danti you have to know someone or people history before telling it and not by what you see..you see in our days the truth when get told we sees as lies..more reason most lives hardly learn from the mistakes others made..we celebrate the same acclaimed rich men and women that crippled that nation to enriched themselves and their family.try to know your mothers land history so that you can tell it right.we Nigerians need to wakeup we have been sleeping for so long and see reality with one mind and unite instead of fighting ourselve when we tell each other the truth..the truth has became lies reason why lies is the choice that rules
May 12, 2018 at 11:47 PM
Merci, you said it all. He that has hears let him hear. We all should pursue our dreams and be contented with what we have, not to stand out at clubs looking for a rich dude or babe that will finance our expense. Live according to your standard, dont be like the Jonses. Do not impress any one, let God be impressed with you.
May 12, 2018 at 10:03 PM
YOUNG MAN FOR WHERE YOU GO DRIVE YOUR CAR MAY BE NA ON THE AIR ,BECAUSE NIGERIA NO GET GOOD ROAD.ALL YOU ROAD FOR NIGERIA NO REACH N45.000.000.00
May 13, 2018 at 12:40 AM
Leave those boys alone, there are varieties of music, you can chose to listen to gospel songs,high life or others…the boys are trying their best and not the cause of Nigeria problem,of course they do have their own flaws but castigating them in this form is wrong, and you are still here referencing with somebody like lady gaga.
May 14, 2018 at 3:39 PM
It is sad to read and hear people go against what others write and for what others don’t write. The entertainers have worked so hard for their money, and they can choose to use it as they want. BUT at the same time they should and can be good role models for others. We live in a community, society, nation and world where affluence has become the norm. Every one wants to get rich, but you have to work to become rich. Nowadays we see girls, boys, men, and women all waiting for someone to get rich so they can sponsor them. Some wealth are pure and true, and some wealth are evil and demonic. A lot of young people have died because of looking for wealth in the wrong ways. Our universities, secondary schools, colleges and even elementary girls and boys want to be rich, without concentrating on their studies, all they think about is how to find, sugar daddies, mummies, politicians, overseas residents etc to quench their thirst for material things. You can be poor with a rich idea to start your own business.
However, it is what our past and present leaders, in the communities, churches, workplaces and our nations have trained us to be. You see even little children looking for money to fuel the quench for worldly and material things. People get all these wealth and yet they are not satisfied, they want more. When you meet ten people today and you are discussing something, you could hardly hear anything like “I am working towards making my own money” about 3 or 4 will be able to tell you what they are passionately expecting to happen in their lives. Most will tell you I will “LOVE” for someone to take me on vacation, to buy me a car or other expensive things.
There are some people who will focus on working to pay their way through education in life. Even nowadays because of poverty, some parents are happy to see their ward coming home with a rich man, when they do not even have a clue of the so called rich man or woman’s background. Most women will always accept lies from these rich men and they end up with diseases or even death.
For the entertainers, they work for their money, but being a role model is not about working for your money and exploiting the minds of those who look up to you with your corrupt ways. None of us are perfect but we have to have some sort of emulation that others looking up to us can follow and respect. Showing off big cars, designer wears, shoes, etc to the mainstream is not a way to be a good role model to someone. How many of these rich people actually have we not learnt having multiple children from multiple women? This is not role modelling.
The youth must sit and wake up and take the stage, these rich men and women, all have their children getting overseas education, whilst the youth who are chasing after their monies, get used and dumped afterwards. At the end of the day, the same rich children will either come and take over the country, because the corrupt money and filthy money has gained them the positions in society. Don’t get me wrong, a lot of people have worked for their monies. But hey sit back and ask yourself, what will I get or gain from from not planning to make money without earning it? Money can buy you every power, thing you want in this world, BUT it cannot buy you the peace and happiness. Afterward, you get empty and life becomes meaningless when you are alone.
My advice to this youth generation is
1. Become wise in everything you do or wants to do. Find a focus and always pray that you will be somebody one day in your own eyes and not in the eyes of someone.
2. Educate yourself. Education is not about going into a higher institution, education can be formal and informal, where you make wise decisions for your life.
3. If you want to become a great person, musician or an artiste, be the best in your own way and not by copying someone else
4. Be the best you were born to be, because we are created for a purpose to be somebody in this world
5. Pray and ask God or whatever you believe in for the best creative mind. There are a lot of creative youth, all they need to do is look within and bring it out. You can start a small something with a little something, you don’t need millions of dollars, euros, niara or cedis to start a great business.
6. There are no jobs after school in our countries, but don’t let that deter you. Just look within and create something better for yourself.
7. Don’t become an armed robber, yahoo boy or girl, because at the end of the day you either die, arrested or waste your life.Follow your dream and let God do the rest.
Not all of us were born to be rich, but we can strive to be the best in our own eyes and in the eyes of the world.
May 15, 2018 at 5:59 AM
Dear Ama! Thank you so much for your long, thoughtful, positive, cerebral and deep contribution…. I see you as a budding hope for the Nigerian youths. Proud of your intellectual contribution that is devoid of any bias but full of truths for the youths!This is Gbenga Adebambo(the writer of the piece). You can connect me on whatsapp(+2348053139316).
May 15, 2018 at 5:36 PM
I will send you an sms in a few days, work seems to be busy but I will try. Thanks