Empress Njamah Says Domestic Violence Not Always Men’s Fault, Urges Women To Stop Upsetting Men

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May 18, 2017 – Empress Njamah Says Domestic Violence Not Always Men’s Fault, Urges Women To Stop Upsetting Their Partners

Nollywood actress Empress Njamah has lent her voice to the ongoing domestic violence war between Mercy Aigbe and her husband.

Instead of taking side with her colleague, Empress Njamah said sometimes women are the cause of domestic violence because some women torment men mentally to the point where they run crazy and hit them.

She advised women to stop tormenting men and help them manage their anger instead of fueling it.

Watch the video of her chat with Broadway TV below

30 thoughts on “Empress Njamah Says Domestic Violence Not Always Men’s Fault, Urges Women To Stop Upsetting Men

  1. Empress Njamah is wise. I am not knowing it bifor. She is wise pass away many womens. In fat, she is born again.

    • @SOBO, I TOTALLY AGREE with you. However, the question here is not about rights or no rights to commit crimes, but of factors that predispose or lead to committing those crimes. An insubordinate woman could provoke a gentleman who had never touched a woman before to break that enviable record.

    • I agree with you, no man or woman has a right to hit anybody, and again no one also have a right to treat another person like dirt. It is true, sometimes women can really do things that you feel like hitting them, even to their own kind. They can ran their mouths like crazy. But all the same we all need to control ourselves, emotions etc.

  2. Empress Njamah, you are such a matured, truthful and a God fearing woman. You have just said the basic fact and the plain truth. ordinarily, No sane man would derive pleasure in beating or hitting a woman, most especially a woman you call your wife. The truth is that some men do not know the true meaning of being a husband and most women do not actually know the true definition and meaning of being a wife. When both men and women start to understand the true meaning of being a husband, being a wife and follow the basic fundamentals and rules of marriage, the issues of failed marriages and domestic violence will naturally disappear. if you are married, may God continue to uphold your marriage and home. If you are still single, may God give you a very responsible , God fearing and a man that matches your maturity. I really cherish your objectivity.

  3. Did this lady not leave Timaya because he was beating her? No empathy as you have experienced it? Many of us don’t understand her role in Nollywood . Why is she talking at all?

    • was she married to ur “timaya”? if no, she was right. its in ur singlehood that u experiment characters, learn either bitter or sweet, develope urself while still staying or quiting with d partner… to me deez experiences are vital in preparation to marriage(life time commitment)

  4. I could relate with what she is saying.. in the sense that study your man and know what triggers him off, then avoid it. as a matured man you do not use your spouse as a punching bag.

    some men have issues which they should have seek professional therapy before getting themselves involved in marriage/relationship.
    fact is would they admit to their problems in the first place?
    I do not believe in any type of spousal violence

  5. SO TRUE….WOMEN SUPPOSE TO BE ANGER MANAGER AS LONG AS MARRIAGE IS CONCERNED.

    RESPECT AND FEAR OF GOD SHOULD BE THE KEY, WOMEN STOP CLOSING YOUR LEGS FOR YOUR HUSBAND BECAUSE HE RAISED HIS VOICE, MEN STOP EATING OUTSIDE AND COMING HOME LATE WITHOUT YOUR WIFE.

    MIND ALWAYS PLAYS TRICKS ON ALL OF US.

  6. GOOD GIRL….! Please tell them o…This your post just add beauty to your wisdom and philantropism.
    Love ya!

    @ SOBO or ZOBO you are very stupid for insulting a wise lady who do not even know you are in existence. You are the old hag not Empress Njamah. Aturu meee… Fool.

    I take a stroll…

  7. Empress is damn right in this one . Women should stop nagging our men and pushing them to the wall . They are just human beings and can loose their temper like every normal person. Ami ka

  8. I love it…taking advise from single women..kkkkk is she married ? so why shld I listen to her blabbing mtweeeee

  9. WTH! I don’t want to waste my time reading her interview as there is absolutely no excuse for a man to beat his partner. Real men don’t hit women. Even when provoked, the best a man can do is to get out of the space. As for you Empress, I pray you will be ‘lucky’ to marry one of those men that beat women, that lack self control and are violent and physically abusive. That is when you will know that you don’t even need to push a wife-beater before he turns you into a punching bag. In some rare cases, it is the wife that beats the husband. This is also not acceptable. Physical abuse is wrong. Anyone that is guilty of this is worse than an animal. If you get to a point where you need to settle differences by attacking your partner, that relationship should be ended. People have died from domestic abuse. There is still the case of a woman that killed her husband somewhere in Ibadan, that is still in court. There are several Nigerian husbands and wives killed in the US through domestic violence. Does it have to get to that point where we take the lives of our partner in order to exhibit anger? If Mercy Aigbe did not get help she could be 6 feet under by now. Four weeks after the incident, she is still bleeding internally and through her nose and mouth. He has partially blinded her left eye, destroyed the orbit and she has been advised she has to have surgery for her sight to be restored. For those hailing and saying someone deserves to be beaten (man or woman) I think they should have a taste of violent relationships. They will understand that sometimes, you may be the most docile person on earth and a violent person would always physically abuse you.
    For the records, I am not a fan of Mercy Aigbe, however, I personally and passionately abhor physical violence, bullying and torture of any kind. The reason I have added my comment to this page is because I am surprised some people actually agree with this Empress woman that some women deserves to be beaten for whatever reason. Again, I hope Empress gets involved with a physically violent man so that she will understand that a violent man needs little or no provocation before h hits a woman.

    • I agree with you (sophisticated writing,by the way) . She should marry Mr Gentry because God has blessed her with the wisdom to thrive in such a relationship. He is single now and he has gone altruistic on all of us:he is concerned about our prison system and less concerned /sans remorseful about domestic violence/wife bashing/attempted murder.All these should not scare Ms Kettle Mouth as she has the secret combination.

  10. Guidance on how a man should handle betrayal and infidelity in a marriage should be a topical issue before it degenerate to domestic violence!
    When I was a boy I never thought I would depend on anyone to survive!
    But as I got older in life, I discovered that certain people would be crucial to the journey of your life, sometimes they are helpful to the success of your dreams and sometime they stand as a stumbling block!
    Life has taught me that what gives us joy can also make us cry! In fact it is not a shame to cry as a man because there is no shame in tears when it comes to someone we love!
    I was carried away by the love shown by my wife: Making love to a woman every day is not a guarantee that she will not cheat on you in a discreet way, as a matter of fact, having children together does not mean she loves you genuinely.
    Domestic violence is becoming so rampant in our society! I do not support neither do I appreciate any man battering their wives, however, has anyone thought of the trauma a man go through silently when the woman they love cheat on them secretly without feeling repentant?
    I have been married for over a decade and I have never cheated on my wife. I love my wife unconditionally; in fact my wife was my best friend and my reliable confidant.
    Our desire and dreams in life sometimes end up giving us pain! I encouraged and supported my wife to become a nurse, which was not any easy journey at all!
    After 3 years, my lovely wife graduated and I was happy for a dream come through! Unfortunately my happiness was short-lived 2 months after my wife started working as a nurse!
    2 months into my wife new job, she started fraternising with a colleague and as a result, I lost my wife of many years. I begged my wife and implored my mother-in-law & sister law to plead wtth my wife to have a change of heart but my wife promised to change nevertheless never stopped and kept calling the guy every passing day. I am devastated and confused- As a matter of fact I have been diagnosed with depression (which I am not proud to say to anyone)!!! Every night I prayed to God to change my wife but it seems God never answer! Maybe God is passing a message to me that it is time to move on (But I sincerely love my wife)!
    God I am still hurting from this betrayal. I love my wife so much and I am not sure if I am going to get her back forever. God even if I cannot get her back please do not let her greed make her lose heaven. I love her no matter what but I am not sure if she is willingly to change for the better.
    Broken heart

    • Broken heart, I really have a bleeding heart reading through your ordeal. One fact I would like you to hold on to is, there is nothing or whatsoever you can do again at this time to bring her back. You need to learn how to let go in this type of situation. If you go to 100 Native Doctors to change her heart, it won’t work because your woman’ s heart is no more with you again. Her interest is somewhere else.

      It is unfortunate you let her betraying act caused you depression. You taught she loves you and God trying to show you that the woman you put all your mind to never loved you. She is not the only woman in this World, you can still find someone better than her. It is only because you put more attention and your time towards this woman that was why she acted foolishly. You are the one loving in the relationship not her.

      Reading through your comments, it appeared you are residing in Western World. This is not uncommon among our African women. As soon as they discover about women’s freedom and privileges in western world, they start misbehave. I’ve witnessed similar situation in LA when this man brought this lady from Nigeria, as soon as she found that her husband was only a cab driver she started misbehaving and this same man used cab money to bring her out of poverty in Nigeria and payed for her nursing school now she was claiming we are in America. It only took intervention of one brother, Femi who sat her down and rained some sensitive world into her ear before she started apologizing to her husband. That egbon said that they advised her husband not to bring her into the western world but because of the love she had for her.

      This is a woman that her mother was just a bean cake seller in Nigeria before her husband used Cab money to bring her to US. Then I knew there was no way if a woman will misbehave, they will misbehave.

      You also mentioned that making love to a woman everyday doesn’t mean she can’t cheat on you, that is a fact. Women can be curious at times because they don’t know what they really want. A woman was caught cheating on her husband but while trying to find out why, people couldn’t know the reason because some of her neighbors attested that her always have sex with her to the extent that next door neighbors are always aware what was going on but the point is she may not even love him as she should.

      Having children by a woman doesn’t mean she may not kill you. Since you already knew all this why can’t you try someone else’s? trust me the day she sees you with another woman is the day you will realize whether she truly loves you or not. Her reaction will reveal where she stands.

  11. She is very very correct. Am a woman and knows exactly what she is talking about.I tried in many occasions to help my husband out. Because men have lots disturbing them. We women have to help them for things to move forward in their lives not nagging all the time. Life is not easy married not easy this world not easy. .

    A married couple must be close to Jesus for things to work well. Women even if your husbands dont pray. Pray for them. That’s is why you are there.

  12. The woman is saying the truth, some women likes trouble, UK news, September, 2016. Lawrence Ripple 70 years rob bank of 3,000 dollars for him to go to jail, to avoid his wife.

  13. Empress please go get a life. You are not even married so you haven’t got any experience. What a shame. Go and sit down joor. Nonsense.

  14. sincerely is this happening? for real?…
    stories like these,make unmarried guys scare!!!
    i curriously want to know..
    is your wife a mother?
    Did you or the other guy sponsor her nursing career?
    Do you think she would continue being infedel if she doesnt have the backing of your inlaws?
    Did you court her before marrying, how long? and how well?

  15. Please give me a break. It’s high time to stop giving men reason not to take responsibility for their own actions.when they cheats against their wife, they advice you to pray for them. When they heat a woman,they blame it on the woman. As far as am concerned any man that raises his hand on a woman is not man enough.

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