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Funke Felix Adejumo Reveals Marriage Success Secrets, Praises Husband Of Over 30 Years

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Funke Felix Adejumo Reveals Marriage Success Secrets, Praises Husband Of Over 30 Years

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January 10, 2016 – Funke Felix Adejumo Reveals Marriage Success Secrets, Praises Husband Of Over 30 Years

Reverend (Mrs) Funke Adejumo the founder of Funke Felix Adejumo foundation recently spoke about the challenges of womanhood and the secret of her successful marriage of over 30 years.

Excerpts:

You have been married to one man for over 30 years. What has kept you going?

My husband and I have actually been married for 31years. Our marriage will be 32 on September 8. The major and greatest force in our marriage is God. And that’s not to sound religious. It is what God keeps that is kept. John 3:27 is my favorite Scripture: “A man can receive nothing except it be given him from heaven.”

God did not create a world in which He will not be needed. He instituted marriage in the first instance. So He is the greatest marriage expert and consultant.

Both of us are born again Christians so we don’t joke with our relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. This reflects in the way we love and honour each other. It reflects in the way we handle misunderstandings. It reflects in everything we do.

In 31 years, my husband and I pray together everyday! When we are not together, we pray on the phone. Remember we did not start traveling separately until a few years ago. That was before technology came into the picture.

Also, we agreed on transparency and honesty. We agreed that this will be the trade mark of our relationship. There’s nothing we don’t discuss. And I mean absolutely nothing, including the minutest details of life.

We tell ourselves absolute truth. What nobody on earth can tell us. We confront our selves. And our bedroom has remained our ‘court room’ for years.

Also, we are committed to making the marriage work. Divorce is not an option for us. That has been our cliché from the beginning. No matter how threatened our relationship is, we agreed that divorce will never be an option. We believe in ourselves and we collaborate on everything.

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Then, my husband is my only and bestfriend and I am his. I always encourage singles to marry their friends. Don’t marry someone you don’t like or you struggle to like. It won’t last.

A true friend is somebody that knows where you stink but still remains faithful and loyal. “Besties” unconditional love is the secret. I love you for who you are not what you have. This is the love my precious husband and I share.

Many working women complain family commitments slow them down in their career pursuits. What was your experience like and how did you cope?

God has blessed me with one of the most responsible family men on earth. When our marriage was young and we were raising our kids, my husband was involved committedly. We raised the kids together. He is a family man par excellence. He helped with school runs and works.

He put the children and me before church work and ministry. His principle is: God first, family next, God’s work/career third! This disposition simplified my life extensively. There were times when my husband will tell me to rest while he rocked the baby to sleep. I’m grateful to the Lord and to him for this. It helped a great deal in the pursuit of my career and ministry

For women who have issues with their husbands, what is the best way to get results?

The greatest need of a man is not sex; he can get that from a prostitute if he’s not born again and of course contract veneral diseases! It’s not food; he can get that from any good restaurant. A man’s greatest need is respect particularly public respect from his wife.

Some women disrespect their husbands. It’s a man you treat like a king that will treat you like a queen. Give your husband the highest level of respect and honour in your culture and watch him bloom in his love for you.

There’s no honour I will give to any human being on earth including my spiritual mentors anybody at that if I have not given it to my husband. After the Lord Jesus Christ, Felix Remi Adejumo is the only king in my kingdom and the only emperor in my empire!

You speak to thousands of women globally. What are their greatest fears?

It is the same with women everywhere and the greatest concern is security. Women worry a lot about the future. We are all bothered with what does it hold for them and children? We are concerned with whether our children will turn out well. Will their husbands remain faithful?

Conflict resolution is a major marital issue for women. Do you have thoughts of how best to get it done?

I will say it all boils down to the tongue and temper. If these two are properly managed by husband and wife, there will be less stress in marriage. Some men don’t treat their wives well. To them, a woman is a necessary evil, a baby-manufacturing machine and a glorified slave. This mentality is absolutely wrong. Your wife is an integral part of your life and should be treated with dignity.

Also the wife should honour her husband. Don’t prove to your husband that you are in competition with him. Just compliment him.

Even when you are hurting or angry, don’t be rude. Relate well with your in-laws. Don’t be mean to people. Anybody can become great. No one knows tomorrow.

What is your concept of total submission as it relates to modern women?

Biblically speaking, submission is neither subjugation nor slavery. Only insecure men oppress their wives!!! And I say that with every sense of responsibility. When you see a man that does not allow his wife to shine or give expression to God’s grace on her life, he is a coward!

He may look bold and loud but he’s definitely struggling with serious complex issues!

Ephesians 5:21 says: “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. People quote from verse 22 but the instruction actually starts from verse 21!

In my opinion, submission is “strenght put under control.”

God expects the woman to equally prosper and be blessed.

Genesis 1:26-28 says God blessed them not him only! But once you are in the institution of marriage you don’t flaunt your blessing in such a way that you disrespect your spouse.

Anything that has more than one head is a monster. As a woman, you allow your husband to be the leader and you prayerfully and graciously assist him.

Do you believe in the concept of full housewife?

Yes and No. Yes because there may be a season when a woman needs to be a full time housewife for the sake of her children but it should not be the norm. Full time house wife is full time suffering PLC! (Laughter).

Many men have agonised they cannot seem to understand their women. What really do women want from their men?

Women want men they can look up to. We want affirmation, validation, someone who will speak highly of us in the public. We want a role model to her children, a friend not a boss; a decent man not a flirt, someone who speak our love language who is responsible enough to take good care of our financial and emotional needs.

We want god-fearing men who can defend and stand up to defend us.

[Interview culled from Sunday Sun]

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18 Comments

18 Comments

  1. Kemi obe

    January 10, 2016 at 5:08 AM

    You are my role model ma. I pray for such man that will treat me like a queen

    • CHINAZA JESSECA

      August 7, 2017 at 10:42 PM

      Love u Ma, u r really an icon a role model. Thank God we still ve such rare gems like u. Each time I hear ur messages it remains me of late Pst Bimbo. More Grace Ma

  2. EGBERRI MAMA 1

    January 10, 2016 at 8:50 AM

    REV FUNKE , I FOLLOW UP UR PREACHINGS ALOT .I LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU BUT PLEASE JUST THANK GOD FOR D MAN YOU HV AS A HUSBAND. SOME WOMEN OUT THERE PAMPER AND HONOUR THEIR HUSBANDS MORE THAN YOU DO BUT D HUSBAND ISN,T GOD -FEARING OR A PUSH-AROUND BY DECISIONS OF UNFOCUSSED PEOPLE , D CENTRE CAN NEVER HOLD. EVERYTHING IS GOD .MAY GOD LOCATE US WITH HUSBANDS CONTROLED BY GOD ND NOT MAN IJN . YOU WILL ALSO CELEBRATE UR GOLDEN JUBILLEE WEDDING ANNIVERSARY IJN.

  3. Ganiyu

    January 10, 2016 at 9:10 AM

    God is ur strenght ma, learnt a lot fom you

  4. Nkybest

    January 10, 2016 at 3:03 PM

    Ma my ernest prayer to God is to see face to face i love u so much and desire d grace of God upon ur life.More Grace my mentor.

  5. idytex

    January 10, 2016 at 6:01 PM

    i so much enjoy dis, an learnt somethin great. tanx ma

  6. Joy

    January 10, 2016 at 8:31 PM

    Easier said than done !

  7. HOMENYAH PRINCE JOHN

    August 17, 2016 at 12:19 PM

    madam we need you in Ghana. where Nigeria alone?

  8. HOMENYAH PRINCE JOHN

    August 17, 2016 at 12:21 PM

    we need you

  9. HOMENYAH PRINCE JOHN

    August 17, 2016 at 12:24 PM

    i work with one of the POLYTECHNICS IN GHANA who will soon become a TECHNICAL UNIVERSITY

  10. similoluwa ojo-ade

    October 13, 2016 at 5:01 PM

    I love ur messages mummy,ur life is such a blessing to ds generation and life in person,I cherish ur personality and ur real essence on ds earth,u r Mah mentor,Mah mother even though I hvnt met wt u one on one which I hope someday I will…your messages changed Mah negative orientation about marriage completely due to Mah background. may God Almighty grant u d strength to continue living fr him.Amen

  11. bukola

    April 5, 2017 at 12:35 PM

    i love your messages mummy,it has helped my life and my marriage God bless you ma

  12. Mbongeya Noella

    April 23, 2017 at 9:29 PM

    Mum I love every thing about you and your words of wisdom my prayer is to meet you one day so you can impact my life so that I go out there to do same .I love you God bless you

  13. Bola Ajani

    July 5, 2017 at 9:58 PM

    Pls how can I see mama.

  14. Gloria Asabea Owusu

    September 6, 2017 at 9:01 AM

    I have encountered you for only a week and am dumbfounded. God bless you Mama. I will hopefully meet you soon

  15. Donald Chidimma Lauritta

    December 20, 2017 at 3:31 AM

    May God continue to bless and strengthen you ma, you are such a blessing to the society. I can’t wait to meet u one on one my mentor and role model.

  16. Ps Fausty

    March 14, 2018 at 6:14 PM

    You’re a blessing to our generation Mum. I thank God I have one of the best husbands in the universe

  17. Wealth

    October 18, 2018 at 3:03 AM

    Mum, you are the most unique mother I have ever heard of though I haven’t met with you. You are indeed a mother(more of thy). More of you mum, my mentor, my role model. I love you greatly.

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