How Chika Ike Escaped Death & Lost Pregnancy To Violent Ex-Husband

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August 10, 2013 – How Chika Ike Escaped Death & Lost Pregnancy Violent Ex-Husband

Chika Ike Speaks Up On Domestic Abuse Experience In Her First Marriage

Just like Funke Akindele who said she went to hell and back in the hand of her ex-husband Kehinde Oloyede, Nigerian actress Chika Ike has finally opened up at length on what went wrong in her first marriage.

The Moments of Tears actress narrated how she married her ex-hubby for love at age 20, how she lost her pregnancy and how her ex-husband, Tony Eberiri almost killed her.

To avoid divorce, she stayed in the marriage for several years.

Check out what the actress said in a recent tell-it-all interview below;

“The past three years has been a very emotional period for me. I focused my energy on work and to build back my self esteem. its been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I’ve been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I’ve tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve that there’s really no right time because every second of the day, lives are being lost due to domestic violence. I was a victiim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons”.

chika ike divorced husbandChika Ike with ex-hubby on her wedding day

“Growing up as a girl, I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block, before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage I didn’t understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no types. It just happens and no woman deserves it. As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions, after every beating he pleads , cries and says it won’t happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him. Over the years when it kept happening consistently I started looking for other definitions for it. I started losing my self pride, self esteem, self worth, and most painfully i lost a pregnancy (Miscarriage) I almost lost my life in the process then I realised how serious and abnormal it really was.

“I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don’t know my story, I guess that’s why they are ignorant. I was 20yrs old and very naïve to the world when I got married .“ They said I married for money“ LOL. I was married to a corporate guy, who had a 9_5 job in a bank, Lives in a rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe. So do the maths! . I married for love. I did a traditional wedding. A white wedding and a court wedding. So that’s how much I wanted to be married forever. For five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the carmels back was during a heated argument he threw a glass jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on d wall. I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage,” Chika opened up.

“Am not saying this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and believes. I am not also saying this to discourage people from falling in love because its a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real,” Chika ended.

Heya! it’s a tough thing to fall into wrong hands.

Every woman should pray fervently before committing their hands in marriage to any man.

It’s time to shine your eyes well well ladies.. May you not fall into wrong hands IJN.

45 thoughts on “How Chika Ike Escaped Death & Lost Pregnancy To Violent Ex-Husband

  1. Heya! Bad story to hear but don’t u think divorce is not the answer? why not seek God first just to give him some benefits of trust maybe he may change if he was tied be the devil but sha u ve reached a conclusion but pray fervently this time incase another hubby shows interest goodluck my queen.

  2. Self pity… What did she do to warrant such treatment from her hubby? D story is touching but i don’t judge frm one side. Unless she’s telling us dat d man is an animal who attacks witout cause

  3. Am happy u lost d pregnancy, cos it would av tied u down to him. He doesnt deserve u. God’s time is d best, do wot u do best.

  4. how can you publicly publicise your ex pics on national paper . this guy has been quiet and did not reply you nonsense attitude all this while . i think you have looked for trouble and i am sure in a few days , we will be hearing about ur prostitution from this guy . Never believed you for a day . hear urself, no fault of urs at all . i am a married woman n if any of you listener are , you will know that she his trying to cover her shame. i am a yoruba woman n i know that it is rear for ibo man to beat their wives. honestly u are a liar . trying to look pity .

    • Ethnicity dees not determine if a man is an abuser or not. Why are you talking like an idiot. I feel Chika should not have aired her dirty linen in public but to say no Ibo man beats their wives is nonsense.I am half yoruba half ibo.There are good men and bad men but if a man is a prolific abuser the best thing for a woman to do is leave him. As for you, it is your choice to stay with a man who phisically assaults you all the time till he ends up killing you. It is also true that some women can be horrible to their husbands and in this case it is better they leave. mMarriage no be by force.

    • @dem you lie, how can u talk bad to ur follow woman like that, if u’ve any problem with her u sort it out. how can u said no ibo man beat their wife. my dear sis,am an ibo lady and a lot of ibo men beat their woman, we only pray for God to give us a man who can tolerate us.

  5. My babe, hmm… Am younger i would have proposed to you. I no God will surely provide a man lyk me 4 u in jesus name amen. KS2 4 tonez

  6. befor a man will beat u, u hv done something rong, a man can not just go angry because of an argument, may be u her nt a good wife dat why his beating u

  7. Life is equelly a mirage the more u look d less u see,vry confusing and discouraging whn it seem unsatisfactory but all thesame he dat lay his hand and go back is not fit for the kingdom.The (i do) dat u say dat day ws for time like dis

  8. Chika, u were so fast in drawing conclusions,why didn’t u seek d face of God? Maybe it is an ancestral course which can eithe be from ur side or ur husband’s side,or better still d evil operations of people around u.D man may not be in control of himself whenever he’s beating u,bt u don’t knw since u’re nt in spirit! It’s better u meet a true man of God 2 pray 4 u if not marying another man is not d best option cos what has happend may repeat itself.It is tym 4 u 2 seek Godg.dat’s d bitter truth!

  9. Chaki, your just a disapointment, all these you lamented are just flimsy reasons to justify the blasting people showered on you for announcing and celebrating your divorce. You own that man alot.

  10. until we hear the man,s side of the story.then we can make a judgement..were u forced to get married at 20?u didnt say so..at least he has a job and that means u married her when u are nothn.why cant u share now u are mkn big bucks..no marriage is easy..even omotola can attest to that but yet she mantained hers..leave the cry cry..jare

  11. This one don teach u sense.
    Look b4 u leap.
    Anyway, they no write am for the man head that she will know is a bad guy.
    Make Allah give our sisters to better man.

  12. @ 20, u no kw nafing. Evn @ 25. Hmmm . This is y we all need to seek the Kingdom of God and all other things will be added unto u. U were not bornagain and are u nw? Cos without God u cant go far.

  13. When she announced her divouce everyone was a kind of pushin blames on her bcos dey re ignorance of what she was goin 2ru. I hv a piece of advice 4 those who re ignorant of others predicament. When u want 2 pass judgement on anyone don’t pass 4rom a distance cum near and adhere 2 d problem b/4 judging. Dia is a saying remove d dirt in ur eyes b/4 removing anoda person’s own..finally dis is 4 d ladies, ladies pray always b/4 falling into any man’s arm 4 marriage bcoz its 4 lyf coz marriage is not friendship..most men re callous so beware!!!!!

  14. Any man dat beat a woman is Goat what is dat dat she did dat warrant beating. A woman dat marry at d age of 20 is still a kid chika is very decent nt like tonto dike in movie industry,omotalas hubby undastands her job dats y de are still living 2gether women are weker vessel dats what d bible calls dem,my dear chika pray harder b/4 enterin anoder reletionship

  15. Although, d husbnd wnt to an xtra mile if that was wot actually happnd.
    …Dat was wot SHE SAID her husband did. She should also tell us her
    wrong(s)

  16. YOU ARE A LIAR.WHAT DID YOU DO FOR HIM TO BEAT,ARE YOU SURE YOU WERE NOT PROSTITUTING AROUND LIKE OTHERS….ONLY GOD KNOWS THE TRUTH YOUR JUST A BAD PRODUCT/.

  17. I hope most of u dat are abusing her are married if not pray very well and pray 4 her too. even wen u ask d husband every1 has a story 2 tell in his or her own favour but anyhow sha is wrong 2 beat d person u said u love

  18. Nobody shud start giving d man any bad name:the man is not an animal that will just stand up and start beaating his wife .there shud b more to it it and u kno we women are so funny at times cupled wit the fact that she married at that young age she might not kno much about marriage and just jumped into it like that(marriage os not a bed of roses). wot she just said is just a side of d story,if the man talks we may be suprised to hear more

  19. Imagine what this fool is saying, u will seat down and the man will just suddenly get up and start beating u for no reason, You are a big FOOL, pls iam available come and marry me, I swear iam going to *** **neck

  20. My sister and her hubby are based in New York, USA. My sister, her hubby and their two sons visited Nigeria this last April for the burial ceremony of her hubby’s late father. What really suprised my family is the way my sister was treating her hubby especially in the presence of our family, friends and public. A day before her father inlaw’s burial, I caught my sister slapping her husband and I was so furious about that. I confronted my sister right away about her senseless behaviour so that her hubby would know that my family did not support that kind of behaviour. I asked how would she feel if she found her son’s wife slapping him. I told her that, I would neva treat my hubby the way she treated her hubby in my presence. She ordered me to leave their hotel room instead of showing remorse for her bad actions. I reported her to our mother and asked my mother how would she feel if she catch my younger brother’s wife slapping him. My mother sai she would not be happy, and I told our mother that, that was exactly what I caught my sister doing to her hubby, who was still mourning the loss of his father. Our mother sent for her and talked sense into her brain, but she would not listen instead making justifications for her misdeeds. At one point, I was shocked when my sister said, she had to treat her hubby that way because he was a big fool that needed to be scolded at all times. My mother, myself and my younger brother met with my sister’s hubby and begged him for my sister’s behaviour. The man told us that, that was a piece of what he had been going through in America. He told us that, my sister had called police on him more than twice, trying to get him into trouble, but police never acted on her false claims. Before this visit, my sister used to call us in Nigeria and lied to us that her hubby was mistreating and abusing her, but looking at her behaviour towards her hubby during their visit to Nigeria, it became clear to us that she was the one abusing her hubby. My sister’s hubby is such a nice man and we all knew that before she joined him in America, and we were all shocked when she started talking about domestic abuse about two years after she arrived in America and labelled the man (her hubby) as a monster. So, I dont buy a single story from Chika Ike’s story. She needs to examine herself so that she will not commit same blunders in he next marriage.

  21. Some pple choose 2do their own wish rather than calling on God 4 solution 2 their prblms…God neva 4sakes d righteous…Divource is not d best solution dear.

  22. Nigerian men are known for beating women, there is nothing new about this and if we want to be true to ourselves then lets carry out a survey of how many women have been killed in marriage/relationships. the big question is when is it going to end? whether it is chika or not – when will it end?, any responsible man should not raise his hands to beat a women no matter what she has done and same with some violent women, at worse each party can go their seperate ways to avoid death because someone may get killed in the process. lf you are not happy in a relationship there is always other ways to explore a peaceful resolution than beating the same person who claim to love, l think its crazy.

  23. My sister though we sypatise with u but u hv not actually told us the reasons for the domestic violents Although I condem in its entiety the idea of men or women beating one another but are u sure U were more domestic to ur family and hubby in particular?are u sure its not becos U are now well to do and and the spirit of arrogance and pride disrespect and wanting to be free that is the cause?Or are U sure its becos U don’t want to be more the woman of the house but the lady of wk dt is the problem?Be that as it may my sis divorce is not the best option I strongly believe U two can make it work cos looking at that man there can’t believe he will lay hands on U just like that u urself look very responsible and I love U so much don’t allow those wayward once to distroy U and U marriage cos if U begin it now I tell u my Sis it may not end and I won’t like such I think facially U are too good for that Think call on God and do the right thing Bye

  24. I can neither condemn nor eulogize Chike on her own only accout. We need to hear from her ex-husband before giving conclusion. One thing I know is that they did not marry for love sake. Remember love endures ALL THINGS. They would have gone to T.B. Joshua for deliverance fron spirit of anger and violence.

  25. Throughout my days of searching Bible, I’ve never come across were is written that men should beat their wives………. I am a victim also of what chika went through….. It just start with small thing like phone calls or going to make ur hair and return late………. There are still jealous lover.

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