Monday Inspiration: Let Go Of Anger & Bitterness, Set Yourself Free & Learn To Love Again

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April 25, 2016 – Monday Inspiration: How To Let Go Of Bitterness, Resentment & Anger

Set Yourself Free Today & Learn To Love Again….

If you have never being hurt before, you won’t know how it feels.. but if you have been there like most of us, you will know it is a painful experience.

What is Bitterness

Bitterness in a simple term means anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly.

It is a painful feeling that often lead to depression and suicide.

The good news is, there is a way out of this.

How To Let Go Of Bitterness & Anger

If your anger or bitterness is directed towards yourself because of a painful mistake you made in the past, the only way to let go is by forgiving yourself.

You are created to love yourself and not the other way round. Keep in mind that God created you first to love, anything other than love will subject you to unnecessary stress that might put you at risk of untimely death or terminal illness.

If your anger or bitterness is directed at someone who have hurt your in the past, it is time to let go and let God.

There is a quote I always ponder upon, if you don’t let go, you will be let God, I reject that for everyone reading this piece.

I remember a popular quote that states;

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”

If someone offends you, please do not keep it with you any longer, go ahead and talk to that person, even if they are not willing to admit their wrong, just say your own and release them.

Top 5 Reasons Why You Have To Let Go Of Anger & Bitterness

  1. It can lead to high blood pressure and even heart attack
  2. It occupies your mind more than anything else thereby preventing you from progressing in life
  3. It makes you unfriendly aggressive and unsocial
  4. It causes mind clustering, confusion which might eventually leads to bipolar disorder.
  5. Bitterness and anger doesn’t hurt the other person, it hurts us the most.

Having said all of the above, I want to assure you that there is light at the end of the tunnel, you are not alone in this, it has happened to others and they have moved on.

Here are 3 steps to letting go of anger and bitterness.

(1) Acknowledge that you have been hurt
Acknowledgement is the first step to healing. You need to go down the memory lane to see who and what caused your anger and bitterness. Once you have acknowledged that, it is time to let go

(2) Replace Anger & Bitterness with compassion

This step is very important remember the saying, ‘Hurt people hurt people‘ meaning when
people feel hurt for a long period of time, they end up hurting others.
Don’t let your own situation get to this stage.

When we focus on the bad behavior and what the person did to us, we naturally feel resentment. But by looking beyond the behavior to see the hurt emotionally-scarred person underneath, we can replace resentment with compassion.

By allowing compassion to rule in our heart, we can forgive easily.

(3) Forgive and Forget

Remember this popular line in our Lord’s prayer “as we forgive those who sin against us.
Now let’s go spiritual, open your bible to Mathew 6:14
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you”

Forgiveness does not mean condoning or justifying any misdeeds. It’s not rejoining with the offender. It simply means giving up your desire for revenge and letting go of the expectation that s/he will make amends.

It’s untying the knots that keep you emotionally entwined and prevent you from healing. It’s a conscious and deliberate decision, without which a person cannot fully heal.

Here are some quotes to take to heart as you embark on a healing journey today

12 thoughts on “Monday Inspiration: Let Go Of Anger & Bitterness, Set Yourself Free & Learn To Love Again

  1. A timely piece in a world where cheating, oppression and intimidation is commonplace. Forgiving the man who hurt you unwittingly is far too easier than the other man who, in full composure and presence of mind, blatantly disregarded your emotions. Forgiveness is most difficult here, especially when the offender proudly refused to acknoledge his misdeed and apologise.

    Yet we have no choice. How can a Christian boldly approach the Mercy Seat with grudge in his heart? Forgiveness, as painful and powerless as it may make us feel, is still more satisfying than the most thorough vengeance. I love a Ghanian man of God that put it like this: “If you forgive something, you forget that thing. But if you don’t, you become that thing.”

    God is our Strength.

  2. to all these bloody nigeria politicians if u die what would u b remembered for? is it how much money u looted or stole,how many project u did not complete or abandoned,how many people u made die in disease and starvation,how many u denied employment due to no job,how many government works u did not pay their salary? chai make una remember dat there is life after death oh!… when ever i see or hear the name NNADI KANU i remembered NELSON MANDELA a man dat sacrifice his own life for his people,he is the epitome of a good leader nelson mandela we love u.and vry soon NNADI KANU’s name will b written in gold.

  3. All these sweet-saying depend on your point of reference joo! How can we forgive those who destroyed Nigeria? Those impenitent evil doers, abi the current predicaments sweet anyone? Our daily suffering, is due to their inherent wickedness. Even the bible says no sinner shall inherent the kingdom of heaven without repentance, so how can we forgive and squash bitterness when children of lucifer are enjoying their sadism. The offender must repent before God the creator, then apologize to the people, so the people can forgive and forget; otherwise, I shall continue to curse them and their children.

  4. Most of these quation was made by Nigerians, but the country remain among the most wicked people in the world,from what i have been reading in Nigerian medias, so many eveil happened in Nigeria, Nigeria is where you are not sure of your life the next mint, hour or day, you are exposed to danger at any given time, either by cultist, or by Security forces of doubble faces,armed robers or kidnappers, then government kept mouth closed, there is so much bitterness in Nigeria, hatred and triblisim, the reason of all is lie, Nigerians are not truthful from the head down.

  5. FORGIVE , FORGET, MAY I KNOW IF NELSON KNOWS THE MEANING BEFORE HE DIED.

    THEN, MAY I KNOW WHY NELSON MANDELA FAILED TO FORGIVE HIS WIFE WHO FOUGHT TOOTH AND NAILS FOR HIM TO BE FREE WHEN HE CAME OUT OF PRISON .

    I DO NOT THINK NELSON MANDELA KNOWS THE MEANING OF FORGIVENESS. WHEN HE DIED, HE LEFT ANYTHING FOR HIS EX=WIFE WHO HELPED HIM THROUGHOUT HIS PRISON.

    THIS WOMAN TURNED HERSELF TO A HUSTLER TO BRIBE ALL THE KNOCKHEADULLERS OF THE WORLD TO SEE HIM FREE.

    AGAIN, I WOULD ASK AGAIN , MAY I KNOW OF ANY NIGERIAN , WHO WILL SAY , I WILL FORGIVE ISIS AND BOKO , AND I WILL EAT WITH THEM .

    SO , IT IS NOT EVERYTHING GOD WOULD FORGIVE , YOU NEED TO GO AND READ PSALM 109, THEN YOU WILL KNOW THAT , THERE ARE SOME OTHER THINGS THAT YOU CAN NEVER FORGIVE NOR FORGET.

    I WOULD NOT SAY TO YOU TO FORGIVE , I WOULD JUST HAVE TO SAY TO YOU TO JUST LEARN TO FORGET YOUR YESTERDAY AND LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR TODAY ,THAT DOES NOT MEAN YOU FORGIVE.

    I WOULD LIKE TO ALSO SAY ,DO NOT LIVE CLOSE TO PEOPLE YOU THINK ARE YOUR ENEMIES.
    PLEASE BE FAR AWAY FROM THEM. AND AVOID TALKING ABOUT THEM OR BE FRIENDLY WITH THEM BECAUSE THEY CAN STILL HURT YOU.

    IF YOU FORGIVE AND YOU CARRY ON FRIENDLY WITH THEM , THEY CAN USE THAT, TO DOUBLE CROSS YOU UNEXPECTED. CHIRIOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO FORGIVE ISIS AND BOKO AND HAVE A DINNER WITH THEM AT WHITE HOUSE.

  6. Forgiveness is easier than forgetfulness. I want to believe that one can easily forgive only those who after offending you humble themselve enough to ask for forgivness.

    Forgiveness comes with a contrite attitudes. Its difficult therefore, to forgive a person who chooses to remain obstinate to a course and claiming right which has brought you pains.

    That besides, no man forgives and forgets, only God does.

    I take a stroll…

  7. very inspirational,especially for some of us whom experience challenges in controlling anger.i’m someone who cares alot,but often gets hurt by does I so much care about.I fill this rage pumping through me each time i get offended and at dat moment i feel chest pain n great internal imbalance which makes me feel unsocial n isolated.but gradually with time i realised i was paying for crimes commited against me and dats not justice n certainly not how it should be.from dat moment i started to have control over anger.telling my self every moment dat God created me for d good in life not sorrow n depression.i deserve to be happy,i tell myself every moment n its working for me n i believe it will work for you too.Beautifull article naijagists.you just made me even stronger with this masterpiece.

  8. I like both quotes by Nelson Mandela. Whether you want to forgive or forget, it’s easier said than done. But, the Lord can help us if we ask Him for help. Also, we have to understand that they are for our own good. Most often, you’ll find we’re hurt by people, we remain in that prison, yet, those people have moved on. So, when we decide to let go, it’s a courageous decision to free ourselves from the prison of bitterness.

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