April 25, 2016 – Monday Inspiration: How To Let Go Of Bitterness, Resentment & Anger
Set Yourself Free Today & Learn To Love Again….
If you have never being hurt before, you won’t know how it feels.. but if you have been there like most of us, you will know it is a painful experience.
What is Bitterness
Bitterness in a simple term means anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly.
It is a painful feeling that often lead to depression and suicide.
The good news is, there is a way out of this.
How To Let Go Of Bitterness & Anger
If your anger or bitterness is directed towards yourself because of a painful mistake you made in the past, the only way to let go is by forgiving yourself.
You are created to love yourself and not the other way round. Keep in mind that God created you first to love, anything other than love will subject you to unnecessary stress that might put you at risk of untimely death or terminal illness.
If your anger or bitterness is directed at someone who have hurt your in the past, it is time to let go and let God.
There is a quote I always ponder upon, if you don’t let go, you will be let God, I reject that for everyone reading this piece.
I remember a popular quote that states;
“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
If someone offends you, please do not keep it with you any longer, go ahead and talk to that person, even if they are not willing to admit their wrong, just say your own and release them.
Top 5 Reasons Why You Have To Let Go Of Anger & Bitterness
- It can lead to high blood pressure and even heart attack
- It occupies your mind more than anything else thereby preventing you from progressing in life
- It makes you unfriendly aggressive and unsocial
- It causes mind clustering, confusion which might eventually leads to bipolar disorder.
- Bitterness and anger doesn’t hurt the other person, it hurts us the most.
Having said all of the above, I want to assure you that there is light at the end of the tunnel, you are not alone in this, it has happened to others and they have moved on.
Here are 3 steps to letting go of anger and bitterness.
(1) Acknowledge that you have been hurt
Acknowledgement is the first step to healing. You need to go down the memory lane to see who and what caused your anger and bitterness. Once you have acknowledged that, it is time to let go
(2) Replace Anger & Bitterness with compassion
This step is very important remember the saying, ‘Hurt people hurt people‘ meaning when
people feel hurt for a long period of time, they end up hurting others.
Don’t let your own situation get to this stage.
When we focus on the bad behavior and what the person did to us, we naturally feel resentment. But by looking beyond the behavior to see the hurt emotionally-scarred person underneath, we can replace resentment with compassion.
By allowing compassion to rule in our heart, we can forgive easily.
(3) Forgive and Forget
Remember this popular line in our Lord’s prayer “as we forgive those who sin against us.
Now let’s go spiritual, open your bible to Mathew 6:14
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you”
Forgiveness does not mean condoning or justifying any misdeeds. It’s not rejoining with the offender. It simply means giving up your desire for revenge and letting go of the expectation that s/he will make amends.
It’s untying the knots that keep you emotionally entwined and prevent you from healing. It’s a conscious and deliberate decision, without which a person cannot fully heal.
Here are some quotes to take to heart as you embark on a healing journey today