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Nigerian Guy Who Kidnapped Daughter From Girlfriend In UK Speaks
Oct 17, 2014 – Nigerian Guy Who Kidnapped Daughter From Girlfriend In UK Speaks
Below is an email received from the guy whose mother reportedly kidnapped his daughter from his girlfriend in the United Kingdom few days back.
Izuchukwu Ehiemere, the father of the 2-year-old girl taken to Nigeria says he has the Power of Attorney to take the girl out of the United Kingdom due to some issues with her mother (Moronke Fadoju).
Mr Ehiemere says he didn’t kidnap the daughter as alleged by Liya’s mother.
Read his own side of the story below:
My name is Izuchukwu Ehiemere and I am the biological father of Ms Liya Tinuke Temidun Ehiemere.To be frank, I met Ms Moronke Fadoju(Liya’s mother) at the University of Hertfordshire, United Kingdom and we began a casual friendship at the time. We were not in a “binding” relationship, it was purely casual.
This relationship/friendship did not last up to three months of which I was informed by her that she was pregnant with my child.Naturally,I was surprised and in doubt but before I could make proper verifications, she had already informed everybody both domestically and internationally that myself and her were having a baby together.
Furious at the time, admittedly I must have said some harsh things with which I regret till date but I accepted my responsibility and worked towards welcoming Liya into the world. I went as far as accommodating Moronke for some months as she had been evicted from her house. This idea didn’t go down well with my friends at the time but it was the right thing to do, up until my landlord discovered.
To cut that story short, I remained actively involved even when she got a new place because the baby was fast approaching, helped with the baby shower party, purchasing the baby cot, baby essentials etc. as well as transporting her to the hospital to give birth, and thankfully I witnessed the birth of Liya. I remained a key figure from Day1 helping Moronke run errands since she was so weak after birth. I could go on and on about how actively involved I was but the point drew near when I had to return back to Nigeria for my NYSC some months after Liyas 1st birthday.
I am sorry if going to serve my country portrayed me as an absent father. It does hurt a lot when Moronke says I never wanted Liya and I have never been there for her. If I was never there for Liya, she had the right to name Liya whatever she deemed fit and deny me parental responsibility. There is a reason why her surname is Ehiemere.
Given that I have PR to Liya, I share equal responsibility over Liya unless Moronke has a court order stating otherwise. During the period of my return back to Nigeria, we had an agreement that the best way to help Moronke as a new mother, was by both mothers from the maternal and paternal side taking intervals to travel to the UK to babysit Liya and enable Moronke go back to the University. An agreement both families as well as Moronke was very receptive to. Labelling my mother as a squatter who relied on her assistance was very wrong.
My mother handled every expenditure in Moronke’s household within her stay there and assisted to the best of her ability. (Bank Statements available as proof to that effect)My mother did not have to come to the UK but she did purely out of love, twice as a matter of fact.
During her stay, things did not pan out well as my mother observed a lot of traits and behavioural patterns that could be of potential harm to the proper development of Liya.For good reasons, confidential information would not be disclosed here, but there is adequate evidence to prove our genuine concern for Liya’s welfare and wellbeing in the UK.
Social Services were also involved and would know best. As a result of the potential risks to Liya’s welfare and wellbeing discovered, I granted my mother Power of Attorney to act on my behalf with matters regarding the welfare of Liya as I was not happy with the situation at hand and the best outcome was for Liya to be brought to Nigeria. Ronke’s family was informed that same day Liya arrived Nigeria including our exact location. Putting up that blog on missing child was not called for, as they were duly informed.
It seemed like a deliberate act to sabotage the good name of my family and indirectly hurt my mother. Kidnap is a harsh allegation and it was uncalled for in this regards. The blogs and messages were put up to generate undue sympathy and rage. They were too erratic. She remained in contact with Liya too, therefore I do not understand her claims of not being allowed to speak with Liya.
Every decision that was taken was in the best interest of my daughter, Liya. She knows her father just as well as her mother, and I am not a stranger to her. Liya was never traumatized during her stay here, as a matter of fact, she was extremely happy to be reunited with her father in a cleaner and stable environment.
There have never been issues between both families and the stories portrayed do not justify that. We remain as diplomatic as possible and would not result to name calling or war of words because we want peace to exist. I have no doubt with the events that have taken place and the publicity generated, more watchful eyes would be placed on Liya and her welfare going forward.
This is all, we as a family have always wanted.
Jayeoba
October 17, 2014 at 2:58 AM
Stories like dis break my heart no mother can be like her mother pls return her immediately you f***
nikky
October 17, 2014 at 3:36 AM
Abeg return dat child U̶̲̥̅̊ denied her ΑϞ∂ now U̶̲̥̅̊ want to collect her baby
Mumu bezo
October 17, 2014 at 5:48 AM
Dont return her ,d woman use pregnancy catch d man too bad na so girls dey do husband dey hungry dem by all means dem full for Abuja.
james
October 17, 2014 at 6:03 AM
@jayeoba u dont talk to people like dat.stop using f word.
kyrewa
October 17, 2014 at 8:06 AM
please return the child back, you are a big liar, mumy’s son it would be difficult for you to marry if your has to be interfering in your marrital affairs, wise up
Consceince 1
October 17, 2014 at 9:25 AM
Mr Izuchukwu Ehiemere,you and your mother come across to me as KEY PLAYERS in an elaborate “kidnapping-plot”, otherwise, how do you explain the actions you and your mother have taken in regards this matter?.
Izuchukwu, please I need you to react to these questions ,if you really care about the well being of your daughter and you are acting in her best interest as you have claimed;
Ques 1: Have you and your mother acted LEGALLY according to the laws of the UK (Children’s Act of 1989) – in regards child care?
Ques 2: Did you or your mother seek the consent of the mother of your child before her child was taken/ kidnapped from her?
….It is interesting you mentioned that you gave your mother the Power of Attorney to act on your behalf;-
Ques 3: Did you at any stage lack the capacity to make your own decisions?
Ques 4: Did you inform the UK Social Services that you were removing the child from the UK?
If you cannot answer these questions honestly, I’m afraid you are your mother have a lot to answer for, and If you cannot answer YES, to any of the questions enumerated above then you and your mother have acted dishonestly by removing the child from the UK –in other words you have acted ILLEGALLY! by removing the child from the UK.
Chic
October 17, 2014 at 9:56 AM
Men always have excuses to their fault. You left Uk to Nigeria leaving your baby mama and the baby, now the baby has grown you decided to take her, too bad. please nobody can be like the biological mother, i beg you return the baby to the mother , the baby is too tender to separate her form her biological mother except it is agreement between you and your baby mama otherwise it is wrong.
nkiru
October 17, 2014 at 10:20 AM
pls just shout up! let me ask u MR do u think ur mum’s love is more than the love of ur daughter mum? pls just run and give her back her daughter i cant imagine the emotional pain u and ur mum have cause her. you want to brainwash the little girl!
Nwoye Igweagu
October 17, 2014 at 11:31 AM
So you have a “CASUAL” baby now ?????
sharton
October 17, 2014 at 1:13 PM
I think the little angel will preferred to stay with her mom so guy let peace reign and be a good dad to her be there when ever ur assistance is needed shikina.
Goodwill
October 17, 2014 at 1:51 PM
Am nt here to judge anyone or condem anyone….but trust me i will be so mad if someone took my child away from me…but as a father..he has all power to protect the child if her life and wellbeign is in danger….maybe her mother is party animal…drug addict..or harlot….all this might be the reason for taking the child…minus these vices…i dnt see the reason why the child shld be taken away…she is still tender..court court court…let court decide…
adangnga
October 17, 2014 at 3:04 PM
Do you hv feelings at all. how could you denied a mother the joy of her daughter. do you know what she passed through? did you pay 10 kobo in her head, how could you act wickedly. for God’s sake, return that baby to her mum. if you really love your child, do not deprive her of her mother’s love. Thanks.
dem
October 17, 2014 at 4:40 PM
Respect for CONSCIENCE 1. This giuy must be very stupid , how can you deny the mother of motherwood by taking the child to Nigeria . As you claimed to have Power of attorney , is that transferrable? At leaset she has been coping well without your presence being an absentee father , how dare you you tried to take the child from her . Now putting my African cap on, no one denied ur mother her own motherwood , how dare you want to denied the young lady , does your mother know what she suffered throughout the pregnancy , what she went through during pregnancy , who known if she will be able to have another one? At least she has no mental health problem , you claimed behavioural issue with a two year old , then you and your mother must be very stupid
You claimed to be well read , yet seems you do not understand behavioural stages of life .
You have no human feelings at all . Yet u claimed you did this and that , evidence remains that you are actually lying .
TELL YOUR MOTHER TO GET YOU A VILLAGE GIRL TO BULLY . BUNCH OF****. For your sense , sure you are on visa . this must be crossed off by now. you will not be able to see the child anymore fools
chris
October 17, 2014 at 10:00 PM
the main fact dat d girl was once evicted from her house means she must have difficulties in taking care of the child and since the people who had to bring d girl back to Nigeria are not strangers but her grandmother nd father, why do we call it kidnap. what i see here is clearly a case of sabotage,social services were informed of d decision so why the struggle for custody of the child? the woman think say she don see one rich naija guy abi?
Muscomide
October 18, 2014 at 4:08 AM
And to think this guy is a UK educated graduate? He is evidence that some folk merely pass through university rather than university education passing through them. What he and his mother did is a complete no no in any civilised society. One hopes that justice will be served on both.
Larry
October 18, 2014 at 10:18 AM
@ Goodwill,the mother can be anything that you mention if you think so, but the best place for that little girl is with her mother.Am a mother too,and I can feel what that lady is feeling.This our men mother’s should just butt out of some business that need some reality check.If this guy was not a coward and he knows that the UK authority will look very well into their case,and I don’t think he or his mother will be allow EVER to take that little girl to Nigeria,he’s a wicked man and that girl should be return back to theUK now period.Let him come back to the UK if he his visa is okay.Thanks a lot Conscience 1…
dem
October 18, 2014 at 10:59 AM
@Chris , out of all the fact written by ur suspected family , what you observed was that she was once homeless, In Enlang .As long as you have children, government will surely support you. What do you call Rich naija guy, if these are rich they will surely protect their name before senseless kindnapping a child which will eventually cost them
TemiMaxwell
October 21, 2014 at 6:38 PM
@dem, I support what you said.
Do you think its only people in naija that is following this case, you can not just come here , write nonsense about UK system. What you and your mum did is illegal, I am a father myself and I stay in UK and I know the system.
As you claimed to be learned, you know where to fight for child’s custody dude, don’t act silly.
From what you wrote above, you informed her family when the child got to naija, if that is correct and not a typo, why didn’t you and your mum inform the girl family before leaving United Kingdom?
African mentality, I guess your mum want to have her grand child in naija by all means, all of them think like that but not this kind of young child, this is simply WICKED.
RESPECT YOURSELF AND RETURN THE CHILD TO THE MOTHER
Ade
October 31, 2014 at 3:38 PM
All interesting points and comments,however I won’t say what the family did was right taking without consent but if the reasons for taking the child stemmed from fear of the standard of living and the degree or abuse on the child,the family is certainly justifiable for their action.should they have called social services?maybe but the social services in the uk is not so great and maybe they needed a swift action,since the mother if the child isn’t a british national she may not be entitled to social benefits. I am quite surprised that the parties involved haven’t been put up on Interpol site or even arrested maybe this child wasn’t kidnapped.I feel the paternal side of the family have spared a lot of key reasons for their decision. Either ways,God knows the best for this child.