“Nigerian Men In America Pls STOP Killing Your Wives , Go Back To School” – US-Based Nurse Speaks

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April 9, 2014 – “Nigerian Men In America Pls STOP Killing Your Wives , Go Back To School” – US-Based Nurse Speaks

I am a Nigerian and a nurse, I was a graduate from the university of ife when I met my husband in the U.S, he was in school, after he graduated, he did not seek employment anywhere because of his mentality that he does not want to work for a white man ( I wonder what he doing here in the first place). When I saw the situation of things, I decided to go to nursing school, he decided to stay in Nigerian chasing unfruitful businesses, living beyond his means. I was focused and graduated from nursing school and within 6months, he said we needed to buy a house,( his credit is bad) so the house was bought in my name after 4 months, he decided to stop paying bill.

He went to live In Nigeria and left me paying the bills and taking care of the children. For 12yrs, I was paying the entire bill in the house, even buying food and taking care of my own family back home. At times I am tired of just living from paycheck to paycheck, so we do argue most times, at a point we did not speak to each other for about 7months, but living in the same house, he started saying I am doing juju to him, because he is been here for 25yrs and has not made headway. ( I contributed towards his business in Nigeria, but because of living like a big man in nija, the business crashed)

So we should be careful before we start judging nurses( nursing pay is over-rated), I really do not know the big deal about nursing at all. These men killing their wives should go back to school, stop being insecure or otherwise enjoy your wife’s success together. Both of you need to apply wisdom.

18 thoughts on ““Nigerian Men In America Pls STOP Killing Your Wives , Go Back To School” – US-Based Nurse Speaks

  1. What an incoherent account from an unfaithful woman, who wants to blackmail her way out of her sheer ignorance
    You need to go and apologise to your husband as you’ve made a complete fool of yourself
    Check your facts always before placing it at the public domain, because it would come back to hurt if not certified not correct

    • You are indeed a very pathetic and ignorant human being. Your comment portrays you as someone who has the same mindset as these wife murderers. A bone idle man who thinks his wife should be the one funding his lazy lifestyle needs his head examined. No woman will respect a man like that. You can not be the head of the house by being a lazy layabout who is only good at chasing shadows all over the place.That is not how it works.It is a different thing if a man is making the efforts but unlucky. if you are not brain dead and an olodo then go out there,study to improve yourself. Do not put your hopes on someone else improving themselves to support your lavish lifestyles. Got out there and do it yourself.

    • Are you correct in your head? which Right Thinking is this when you can post a comment like thi? Please guy take several seat and stay behind to watch maybe you will learn something.

  2. Truth must be told. I am a Nurse in Uk. i dated my husband from NaIja and brought him to london with the support of my father . He went to schl here in uk and graduated unfortunately he did not pursue any career. Years gone by , i was the major contributor in the house, I DO SAVE UP to 10,000 pounds @ a go and give it to him, bought a landed property with my money and put both our names on it .not only that Bought shares over 5millio naira and still put both names .later on i decided to do nursing which i completed in flying colour. Since my completion he made my life miserable and has threatenrd to kill me .Bearing in ming that this guy comes from a low family i n naija .. He never see any good in what i do and what i see all around him his jealosy and push from his family . I am even ready to leg him go and he has promised that he will make sure i loose my PIN. This is so called the father of my children. Pls look before you leap. Nigeria men especially the ones from poor family are dangerous and not worth it. They cam only bring you down

    • SISTER, YOU WILL NEVER GO DOWN… he is very insecure… please walk away from this abusive marriage , it is not worth it…. you got your career you worked so damn hard for to protect, if he cannot see anything good in what you do or what you have done, he will never see anything good now or in the future, the choice is yours … please ask for GOD’S direction…..

  3. truth well said…. nurses pay is so over rated…. for some reason people have this idea that nurses earn up to $50 – $60 per hour which isn’t entirely true…. here in the U.S, YOU SEE WIVES WORKING BACK BREAKING JOBS / HOURS JusT TO AFFORD THE LIFE STYLE THE HUSBAND WANTS.. larger and luxurious… SHE PAYS FOR HIS 10YARDS OF AGBADA LACE AND ITALIAN SHOES, PLUS HIS SUV, FEEDING AND EVERYTHING … FOR THOSE MEN/HUSBANDS WHO EVEN BOTHER TO WORK THEY WORK ON A PARTIME BASIS….. THE AGGRESSIVENESS IS TRIPLE MUCH….SHE PAYS FOR THE MORTGAGE AND BILLS AND ALL THE MEN DO IS TO STAY AT HOME JOBLESS , THEY GOSSIP MORE THAN WOMEN….IT IS TERRIBLE, WOMEN HAVE BECOME THE MEN IN THE MARRIAGE…. NO WONDER THE DIVORCE RATE IN AFRICAN MARRIAGES ARE ON THE SKY HIGH EVERYDAY…. I KNOW A LOT OF COUPLES, ESPECIALLY THE WOMEN WHO ARE USED BY THEIR RESPECTIVE SPOUSES / HUSBANS FINANCIALLY, YET THEY ACT LIKE THEY ARE HAPPILY IN LOVE AND MARRIED… WHEN IT COMES TO NIGERIAN PARTIES YOU SEE THEM WEARING FLOWING LACE, 10YARD FOR THE HUSBAND 5YRDS FOR THE WOMEAN’S BUBA AND IRO… IF YOU ASK WHO PAYS FOR IT, IT IS THE WIFE… YET HE DOESN’T RESPECT HER… FOR THE WOMEN SHE WANTS TO BE/AND STAY MARRIED , SO AS TO BE REGARDED AS RESPONSIBLE BY THE NIGERIAN COMMUNITY… IF YOU ASK ME , THEY ARE STUCK BACK IN TIME… SAD PEOPLE …MAKE BELIEVE LIFE

  4. Dem its obvious you lacks common sense at some extent. How dear you say ”men from a poor family are not worth it?” Dem do you worth it as a wife? 70 % of men attitudes are provoked by women disgusting, irresponsive, arrogant, deceitful, nefarious behaviours. However, I urge every man to be responsible!

  5. The point is not about going to school or not. You already said the man graduated, and after what did he do? he does not want to work. So it is not school my dear, the guy doesnt wana work period! he just wants you to die working for him. There are so many guys that are providing for their families without going to school and without doing nusty jobs like drugs. They work for their families..

  6. I love all the comments and pain shared on this topic.We need to address the issue from both side before we cement it.
    I blame the women (nurse) in some cases not all and this is why: some of this nurses especially those in Nigeria that have never see or met the man in question marries the man through connection,answers him yes sir while in Nigeria knowing fully well that there is nothing like love there,is all about what both of you gain from each other,a kind of silent non written agreement,I get you to the state because of your occupation and you pay me for the rest of your life.How on earth do you expect him to kiss your feet when you start making the main reason why he married you and start detecting what you want ? for a Nigeria man ? You can’t eat your cake and have it back,if you can’t keep up with the demand and his expectation SAY NO TO HIM AND HIS MARRIAGE.Don’t take the chance when love is not the foundation because when the man gets feed up,he wouldn’t hesitate to cut you up like his enemy or business partner which you are indirectly,Be content with what you have,tomorrow is always a
    new day.Is really sad that this days people worship wealth,The rich are the gods whose order must be followed just to be in his good book making it impossible to know the true feeling they have for you.

    The monkey ass men,gone are the days when women dance and live for the word NNA ANYI, don’t bank or believe that the nurse and her pay check is your ticket to retirement and the who is who in town because even if you married her as the village mugu,once she is here and start mixing up with others,she will turn to a lion for all those years you took advantage of her,and when you lose control to harm her,you lost all completely and promote yourself to a murderer with jail time.American is the only place i know that everybody makes it if you want to,When i was in school for my RN licence,I was surprise to see men and women up to 50 YEAR OLD IN CLASS WITH ME TO BETTER THEIR LIFE AND WE ALL MADE IT AND GOT OUR LICENCE,nobody made fun of them,infact we were proud of them and that motivated us,make that person you and burn the nurse pay as you like.Stop looking for who to use for your own selfish need and be the man.

    I know lot of people will not agree to what i wrote especially the nurses who makes that hard earn dollars,lets not get blind with rage for what it takes to make the dollars and fail to see the issue as it is.Marry the man you love,your best friend no matter the condition,someone you can stand even when you feel like burning down the house,forget arrange one for me time is running out,LOVE,LOVE AND LOVE SHOULD BE THE VERY THING THAT MAKES YOU MARRY NOT SELFISH REASONS.If you are a nurse in Nigeria and dreams of working in America,play the visa lotto,search the web on how to get here,don’t marry a man or woman for that purpose because with time you will hate everything around you and get depressed which might lead to RIP of one of you .Stop the killing,live the life that is meant for your standard,and if can’t live that life,get a degree and better your life,life is too fucking short to spend it behind bars and regrets.

  7. Why is this not happening Nigeria? Women here in America are disposed to that fact that divorce is always the best way to finish a man effectively. So for them (men) to go back to penury, the impediment has to be dealt with. Following Christian doctrine about marriage can help if both are intimately committed to shame the devil. Materialistic countenance will continue to destroy marriages.

  8. Rubbish talk i brougth him from poor fammily to london and send him to study.Let me ask question,are you a wife material?you check your behaviours.

  9. Some men are very useless,they dont want to work.they want their wives to be doing all the responsibilities at home and still they will be nagging and complaining that she is working too much meanwhile the so call husband dont hv anything to offer than sleeping at home watching tv from morning till night.

  10. The plain and bitter truth is dat amer,laws are favourably disposed to favor women and children more and men less,I live in usa,ive to a lot of ocassions as family and they hand over documnts to mother instead of father, they deemphasise fathers,also generally women tend to make more money here esp pay check jobs not business,usa is not like naija at all,opposite.my spouse and I have same certf.in usa,she makes more more in health care job.nursing is female job,they sometyms fear men,women are softer,bible even says as nurse cherisheth her children.1thessal.2.7.As soon as these women begin to make more money,pride comes in,disobedience,arrogance,equality etc,tell me how many women will not misbehave wen they have money, most african women change wen they get here including the gentle one brought from village,they copy wat they see here,and there4 trouble beginsat home.for me am gentle now in the hand of God,sometym ago my wife gave me a hot slap and my glasses broke into pieces bc she was confident the law will support her,separate the man 50 or 75percent his property gvit to her and children.it is better to separate from them than to kill,those who killed did it mistakenly but no mistake in amer,99 years or death or more , evil association corrupt good manners,then money is not everything,then these fake riches that doesnt respct huband is ungodly.Coins money,do they have bill gates money,unbalanced money,some few,minute are diffrnt,if u dont understand d system,system abrod totally diffrent.

  11. What do expect from a country like Nigeria that do not educate MOST of her youth? They always look for an easy way out,some of these men intentionally brought a woman from naija to work for them knowing they have failed.Most naija men like to be “house husband” some use the bible to deceive women.

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