Richard Mofe Damijo RMD Talks About Late Wife, Mother & Pastoral Calling

Richard Mofe Damijo Talks About Late First Wife, Mother & Pastoral Calling

Veteran Nigerian actor Richard Mofe-Damijo recently sat down with comedian Teju Babyface on the Deep Dive podcast to chat about his career, marriage, and personal life. The conversation touched on various topics, providing a glimpse into the life of one of Nigeria’s most beloved actors. Here are some highlights from their discussion.

You once mentioned you wanted to start wearing studs at 50. Yet, you’re not wearing them now. Why is that?

Let me clear that up. I also talked about getting a tattoo. But, I actually wore earrings before I hit 50. It just wasn’t a regular thing, and social media wasn’t around to catch every moment. I still like to wear them for special events.

So, do you have any tattoos?

Yes, but they’re in places I can’t show you. It’s private.

I’ve known you for a while, but I don’t know much about your first marriage. Can you share about it?

You were probably too young back then. It started in 1989 and ended in 1996. I met her, and she sent me a note, saying if I could handle the attention she got from men, I should ask her out. I replied that no man could intimidate me. Unfortunately, the marriage ended when she passed away due to a botched fibroid operation during Easter.

RMD First Wife @ Dele Momodu’s wedding

MEE Mofe Damijo

That must have been incredibly tough. Did the fear of losing someone again stay with you?

Yes, it’s been a lifelong fear. When Pastor Taiwo Odukoya died, it brought back those memories. After my first wife’s death, I constantly worried, “What if it happens again?” But my current wife helped me through it. She made it clear that her destiny was different, and I shouldn’t be afraid. I’m over that fear now.

You’ve managed to stay scandal-free for so long. How do you do it?

I try to stay civil and avoid situations that could lead to trouble. I avoid nightclubs unless it’s necessary for work or to entertain guests. When I do go, I ensure I’m with a close circle of friends who have my back. Having a solid inner circle is crucial.

Is staying faithful in marriage challenging, especially in showbiz?

It’s tough. In our line of work, married people are targets. Women can be like Delilah and Jezebel, aiming to disrupt the family structure. It’s like a battlefield; if the general falls, the battalion scatters. My wife understands what she’s up against, and she’s protective of our family. I might stumble, but she’s there to help me up.

But nowadays, it seems like if a man makes a mistake, it’s the end of everything.

That’s because people don’t understand their roles in a marriage. It’s not a competition; it’s a partnership. I have an amazing wife who supports me. She’s the reason I can focus on my work without worry. But I also have to be responsible and show her that I value her.

Can you share more about your relationship dynamics?

Sure. When I made the most money I ever had, I put it in my wife’s account. She asked if it was for the kids, and I said it was for her to do whatever she wanted. I wanted to show her that she made my success possible. I’ve done crazy things, but she knows I’m remorseful and that I’m a work in progress. It’s a two-way street; I constantly strive to be the man she deserves.

What’s the secret to your long-lasting career?

It’s by God’s grace and dedication to my craft. I could have pursued other careers, but I love being creative. The connection between a performer and the audience is spiritual. If the audience sees that you’re genuine, they’ll keep coming back. I’m true to my audience, and I love what I do.

Do you think your good looks have helped your career?

Maybe a bit, but I’ve never relied on my looks. It’s the love for my work and God’s grace that have brought me this far. There are many good-looking actors who haven’t achieved as much. My success is a combination of hard work, dedication, and divine favor.

You’ve always had a passion for academics. Did that play a role in your success?

Definitely. I’ve always loved learning, which attracted my late wife to me. I went on to study Law because of that passion. My mom also instilled a sense of self-worth in me. She always said I was more than enough, and that confidence has stayed with me.

Do you see yourself pursuing your calling in ministry full-time?

No, I don’t think so. I enjoy ministering in churches, but I don’t see it as a full-time calling. I stir up controversy with my unconventional approach, but I believe I’m meant to do it this way. I’ll continue to preach and share my faith, but acting remains my primary focus.

It’s been great talking to you, Richard. Your insights are invaluable.

Thanks, Teju. I appreciate the opportunity to share my journey. It’s always a pleasure.