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I Met Dejo Richards On Facebook. Why I Left Him – Lamide, New Wife

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I Met Dejo Richards On Facebook. Why I Left Him – Lamide, New Wife

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Dec 4, 2012 – Monalisa Ex-Husband’s Wife, Lamide: Why I Left Dejo Richards

Segun Dejo Richards’ New Wife, Lamide: I Met Him On Facebook; Why I Left Him……..

US-based Nigerian woman identified as Lamide who got married to actress Monalisa Chinda’s ex-husband, Mr Segun Dejo Richards in a glamorous wedding ceremony in Nigeria last year has opened up on why she left him.

In an interview with City People Magazine, Lamide said she met him on Facebook in year 2009 and their relationship developed into something serious before they got married.

Interview excerpt below:

I met Dejo on Facebook in 2009. In 2010 we became very close and started talking on the phone. I didn’t know anything about him and in 2010 I was in Nigeria on holiday but we didn’t get to meet. While in Nigeria I got to hear he was married to Monalisa Chinda. When I got back to the US I did Google his name and I saw the whole story about his marriage. At that point we were already very close and used to talk a lot.

Due to the fact that we were very close, I asked him about what I read about him on the internet and he confessed that he was married and didn’t talk about it because we didn’t have the chance to talk. I asked him what he did wrong and why he was so violent to his wife.

All these questions I asked because we were already very close and he started explaining how he met the lady in London and brought her back to Nigeria to become an actress. He stated that things started going wrong when she became a Globalcom ambassador and she started misbehaving. Infact he told me he was not legally married but they work together.

I started by advising him on why a man should be very patient with his wife. He told me everything I considered the truth. You know we are all humans and deserve a second chance. We started liking each other and he asked me out. When we met he proposed to marry me. Don’t forget that he was very nice, caring and portrayed the image of a God fearing man. Because I felt he didn’t lie about his previous marriage and I was in love with him so I accepted to marry him. On January 22, 2011, we got married.

He proposed to me in August 2010 and that was when he started confessing his financial challenges but promised all will be sorted out before the wedding. Few weeks later, he told me he had car issues and needed to sell his car to buy another one. He said he needed money to balance payment for the new car and also he needed money to pay his rent.

If you know him well, you will understand what I mean by him having way with words. Since I was coming to Nigeria and he didn’t have money for his car and complete his house rent. I helped him out! I will not disclose the amount but enough money to help him with his car and house rent. When we were courting he told me he doesn’t drink and smoke and that he was a man of God but things changed when I got married to him.

One day I caught him drinking in the house and I was surprised. He said he was drinking because he was depressed. Somehow we started having arguments and when we do, he would hit the wall so hard and anything in his way in a very violent way. He was no longer a gentleman. I was in Nigeria for 3months, I went back to the US and started filing for his papers so he could come and join me. He told me he didn’t have money for his passport and I told him I will take care of it. I sent him a document to sign but he never did, things became worse because we were not even talking on the phone anymore.

One day my dad said he had money and wanted to do some business like he wouldn’t mind buying iPad and send to Nigeria to sell as long as he makes profit.  Somehow he and my dad got talking, so my dad started sending him iPads to sell. After weeks of expecting the returns, my dad would call him and he would not pick his call and one day I was forced to call him and ask what was going on. He lied that the person he gave the iPads to at computer village had not given him the money. We had a long break and were not communicating.

I forgot to mention that when I got back to the US in march, in April I sent him another house rent and was sending him money for upkeep. I tried again to make it work and he said he would change and be a better person, he didn’t change though and was not really keeping in touch. Those were hard times because all I ever asked of him is just to communicate and give attention. Instead he would avoid my calls or shout at me.(interview by City People)

Na wa o. Make una remember Dejo in your prayers.

17 Comments

17 Comments

  1. Roy

    December 4, 2012 at 5:03 AM

    Lamide, you made yourself look so desperate and cheap that was why you could not see the hand writing on the wall early enough.

  2. Ngozi Helen Nwokoye

    December 4, 2012 at 5:30 AM

    Dis one didn't glitter..talkless of gold!

  3. mulikatcardoso

    December 4, 2012 at 5:42 AM

    very cheap woman, there is no men in USA,or when u came to Nigeria,u dont see men,that stand own their feet.more over cant u read from is ex wife,hwo he gave her beating of her life + are money to control,lasy man,just after woman money.is good for u women in USA and Europe, sending money to man, even to buy passport,very cheap,meet on facebook,so desperate.

  4. Dan Emmanuel Peter

    December 4, 2012 at 9:40 AM

    NA SMALL BOY DEY WORRY AM.OLD MAN WAKE UP FROM YOURSLEEP.

  5. Rutherford Ejimonu

    December 4, 2012 at 11:00 AM

    The signs was allover…yet like most girls do she pushed on this guy is definitely not responsible or he's under a curse…I know some guys are helped out in one way or the other by their woman..But this one seems to be an idiot….its quite unfortunate though.the marriage was dead at birth.

  6. Princess

    December 4, 2012 at 1:10 PM

    That is the problem about we nigerian ladies. Even when u know what he did to monalisa u still went ahead to marry him, oh you want to be the good wife.

  7. frank

    December 4, 2012 at 1:41 PM

    Word of advice, if you’ve not being divorced before never get entangled to a divorcee because e no go work, be u man or woman

  8. Uzoma

    December 4, 2012 at 3:08 PM

    Most of the women who came to Nigeria to look for husband are the rejects here in the Unites States of America. The men here have gone through them several times and have no good reputation. I know many of them here. They are all over the place. When they bring those husbands from Nigeria over, they relocate to another state and when the husbands finally find out their past romps, they bolt away. This lady, Lamide may be one of such women that she has to find a husband on facebook of all places?

  9. Nne nwa

    December 4, 2012 at 4:41 PM

    Am happy that Mona is finally vindicated. Our actresses are not that bad. Some of them try very hard to make their marriages work.

  10. Adisa Oloko

    December 4, 2012 at 5:47 PM

    I am really shocked that all of you will be abusing the poor woman like you have a leaking mouth disease. I dont blame all of you, na localization disease thay affect all una. As for Uzoma, have you ever cross Nigeria border before? If so you will understand that people that live abroad are more trusting. He be like make you dey compare local fowl like you with well bred chicken. You know agric chicken no dey fear but local fowl don see meme so then no dey trust. She be true agric while you be fowl. I am directing this at Uzoma!

  11. Okeowo Elijah

    December 4, 2012 at 7:14 PM

    Any way u make a mistake, u need to pray. don't be desprera.

  12. adaoma

    December 5, 2012 at 1:37 AM

    @Adisa Oloko, I believe that you are right in saying that people abroad do tend to be very trusting cos i think that is what the problem is in this lady’s case. Uzoma must be one of those old men in their 40s driving cabs in the streets of Austin Texas and wearing jheri curl hair with kapusu shoes. ochi o. Uzoma have conveniently refused to point out how most of the men in the WEST are so useless and depend on women alot…isn’t it the men iin the US that are always looking for a nurse or a doctor to marry in Nigeria so that they will be making money for them. Good luck to the Lamide lady.

  13. Star Ugo

    December 10, 2012 at 7:42 PM

    Very sorry , I had similar experience with the man I married under native law and custom in my town Onitsha. Any one man or woman living abroad should not marry anyone living in Nigeria. They are only after our money, whilst they have other relationships in Nigeria. I will never be monkey de work, bambu de chop for anybody again. I simply dumped him without any argument and I have my peace now.

  14. Lucky Imharedon

    April 1, 2013 at 3:40 AM

    I was one of those guys that always maligned actress most especially naija actress. But with the report of this lady (Lamide) & some others i’ve heard i think, from this day upward we should’ve regard for actress. Nigeria actress are hard working people & most of them are very focus but unfortunately, they easyly come accross the wrong guys becouse vast majorities of them have myopic views. one of those things i’ve come to understand that constraint or galvanise majorities of women, they believe in sweet talks. They don’t care about who you are or the real in you but their concern is what you said or have to say & that led them astray. “Some people are just like Tiger waiting for who to devours”. If not Lamide none would’ve known what monalisa saw in her marriage.

  15. ibukungeorge

    May 13, 2013 at 4:45 AM

    Guys leave Mimi alone.we all make mistakes.Remember she was not based in Nigeria how would she know that he was bad news.Mimi is such a lovely gal with a big heart .Its jus unfortunate that she met that silly Dejo

  16. Grace

    August 23, 2013 at 7:01 PM

    It is unfortunate to say the least. I sympathise with Lamide on her experience, and with Monalisa as well. But meeting someone on facebook or any other social network for that matter, to me, is not the best foundation/avenue for a truth-based marriage. It is still difficult for some people who have physically courted for a while, not to talk of internet or telecom- based courtship. The crux of the whole failed marriage wahala is the so much love to be like the ‘Jones’. Men and women do anything now (including faking love) to belong in the group of ‘affluence and wealth’, not caring about integrity and character. You need to see what some African men in the West subject their women to; nothing short of slavery. The men in Africa want to be connected with the rich ladies. The women themselves are not left out, so much so that the institution of marriage to some is nothing more than a ‘game’, two or more people can play. This generation really needs a change of mindset and God to direct their affairs…

  17. Irene oluchi

    June 25, 2015 at 6:10 AM

    Na waoo dis guy sef so its true when they say never you give a man money BUT I tink a woman is meant to assist a man

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