Unveiling the Real Iyabo Ojo: Nollywood Star Reflects on Love, Life, and Lessons Learned
In a riveting revelation that has sent ripples through the Nigerian entertainment industry, Nollywood’s queen bee, Iyabo Ojo, dished out some real talk about her past, love, and relationships. Known for her candid nature and the power to hold audiences captive with her acting skills, the actress took a moment to act out her own life script but this time, off-camera.
“If you really knew me then, you would know that today’s Iyabo is a product of hard-earned wisdom,” she began, with an aura that could only come from years of navigating the intricate pathways of stardom and personal challenges. This conversation was not a scene from one of her award-winning movies; it was real life, something she admits she understands much better now.
“See, I was young and restless, not to mention naive. You could almost say I was swimming in the shallow waters of life, not knowing that the ocean was way deeper,” she reflected. The screen goddess laid it bare that if she had the depth of understanding she’s acquired over the years, she might have navigated her marriage differently.
“You see, with the wisdom that comes with age, I would’ve chosen differently. I would’ve been a different wife, a different woman. But we all start somewhere, don’t we? We evolve. We learn. We grow. And that’s the beauty of life,” she added.
Diving into her upbringing, she shared details that could rival any Nollywood script for its sheer complexity and emotional weight. “I didn’t come from what you’d call a ‘structured home.’ Wealth was abundant, but emotional availability was scarce. I was practically raised by the village it took to raise me. My dad, my grandmother, my uncles – they all played roles. But let’s be honest, they were extras in the story of my life; none could play the lead role that a mother does in a child’s life.”
Elaborating on her father’s role, she said, “My dad, God rest his soul, was not a father in the traditional sense. He was more of an adventurous brother, a fun-loving uncle. The man loved life with the kind of passion that didn’t leave room for traditional parenting roles. You know how they say some people are too busy living life to worry about life? That was my dad. He was present but not really present.”
This ‘absent presence’ characterized her early life and defined her understanding of family roles. “I mean, who really needs a traditional family when you can have an adventurous dad, a loving grandma, and a set of uncles who could fill up a family reunion by themselves?” she mused. But then, she added, “But as they say, you never miss what you never had, until you realize you needed it all along.”
The stunner then dropped the bombshell that many didn’t see coming. “You know, the concept of ‘Mummy’ was alien to me. The woman who gave birth to me was like a mythical character who existed in stories told by other people. I didn’t meet her until I was seven years old. Can you imagine that? Seven! And to add more spice to this Nollywood-worthy story, my parents were never even married. They had what you might call a ‘situationship’ that resulted in my brother and me.”
Her voice, usually filled with the confidence that comes from years of owning every room she walks into, trembled slightly. “You see, when you don’t have something as foundational as a mother’s love, you search for it in other places. Sometimes you think you’ve found it, but what you’ve really found is a mirage, an illusion that disappears just when you think you’re about to grasp it.”
The diva wrapped up her candid heart-to-heart with a message of empowerment. “So here I am today, a woman who’s been through the rollercoaster of life. A woman who made choices based on limited understanding but has since evolved. Life is a journey, you know? Sometimes it’s bitter, sometimes it’s sweet. The trick is to take it all in and learn from it. I am still learning, still growing, and I am happier for it.”
Through her story, Iyabo Ojo peeled back layers revealing not just the actress, but the woman behind the headlines, the glamour, and the fame. She gave us a tale that’s as complex as it is simple, as heartbreaking as it is inspiring. A story that serves as a reminder that behind the screen, away from the flashing lights and the red carpets, is a person who’s had her fair share of life’s complexities. And like the true queen of Nollywood that she is, she’s turned each episode, each scene, each act, into a stepping stone to a path of greater wisdom and understanding. And in doing so, she’s proven that the most compelling stories are not just the ones that are scripted but those that are lived.