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Sibling Rivalry: What To Do When Your Siblings Don’t Like You

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Sibling Rivalry: What To Do When Your Siblings Don’t Like You

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Feb 6, 2017 – Siblings Rivalry In Adulthood: What To Do When Your Siblings Envy, Don’t Like You

This article came after a worried fan mailed us to find out why his sisters and brothers always pick on him and why they always do family meetings and make decision behind him.

Please keep in mind that sibling rivalry is an issue common among children but when it gets to adulthood,  it is an indication of unresolved hostility or hatred.

As adults, facing a sibling who hates you can be difficult, and what’s more difficult is dealing with the conflict that stems from the hatred. Several research studies indicate that up to 45 percent of adults have a rivalrous or distant relationship with a sibling.

Steps Your Can Take To Resolve Issues With Hostile Siblings

  • Try To Avoid Conflict

Sibling hatred is more pronounced during family get-togethers, especially when Mom or Dad are present. The hatred your sibling feels could be rooted in childhood competitiveness or vying for parental attention. Avoid the triggers you know often lead to arguments. If faced with your sibling, focus on the issue at hand in a calm manner. Another alternative is to remain neutral in conversations that lead to drama, or simply leave the room.

  • Find Out What Caused The Hatred

Getting to the core of the sibling hatred may be the only way to resolve it. Schedule a meeting with your problem sibling in a neutral setting, such as a restaurant or a park, to discuss why the hatred exists. Talk to the sibling in a nonthreatening manner, using words of love and kindness, and not feed into familiar arguing patterns that have the tendency to escalate. Truly listen as he vents feelings or hurts from the past that have festered, and try to understand your role in the situation. Apologize for your role even if you were not wrong, for the sake of re-establishing the relationship.

  • Try & Rebuild The Relationship

Get together with your problem sibling to plan family events or outings. Attend activities you enjoy together; for example, schedule monthly luncheons, attend movies, go to a concert, do anything that is of a positive nature in rebuilding the relationship. Commit to calling one another weekly and talk about childhood experiences that made you laugh. Invite your sister and her family for dinner and cook favorite childhood desserts. Be mindful that the relationship is in the healing process, and don’t reinvent issues that contributed to the hatred.

Do Not Allow Sibling Hatred To Diminish Your Sense Of Worth

In conclusion, if after you have tried to mend fences and the hatred and conflict continue, you may have to avoid contact with your sibling. You are bound to have some type of contact sooner or later, but keep conversations simple. You might try redirecting any conversation that may lead to drama. But do not allow your sibling’s hateful words to diminish your sense of worth.

Keep in mind that you have a life to live especially if you have a family of your own, try and redirect your energy on your family and kids. Concentrate on those who matters to you and not those who look down on you.

Please avoid contact with those who make you feel worthless because your life matters.

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  1. Bench

    February 6, 2017 at 5:02 AM

    This is good. It just be like when pipuls was hating me here, I was not loos hope. I was get hope bicos we be brothers and sister. I was pray for all the pipuls wey was hate me bicos I be rastaman and rastaman no de carry vex for mind. Rastaman is lie down like footmat make pipul match and enter heaven. Many pipuls are tolding me to went back to school, but I am not vex bicos if I vex, fire fit start. So na bad thing if I vex.

  2. fifelomo

    February 6, 2017 at 6:58 AM

    Very educative write-up. This is absolutely good.

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