True Feminism: The Equality Of Both Genders By Nkiru S Obi

April 18, 2016 – True Feminism: The Equality Of Women & Men By Nkiru S Obi

I was told once that the moment I was born a female, I was born at a disadvantage, I said nothing.

I walked pass a group of people at work and heard a young man saying “a woman is of no importance until she marries a man” (in other words, all a woman must think of is marriage as an ambition), and how the only crown a woman can get is by virtue of being a mother and nothing more (What about the unmarried women, the nuns and reverend sisters?)

I once said to someone after my masters degree that I will be pursuing my PHD, the response I got was “Ah! Before getting married? No man will be interested in marrying you, how about waiting to get married and have a couple of kids, then you can talk about the PHD if you have the time for it?.” At this point I was hurt, why must I diminish my capacity to be eligible for marriage?

I sat down and thought to myself, how is it possible that with the level of education and civilization attained, some people will consider my greatest asset to be my role as a sex toy or a baby factory (just so we are clear, marriage is a beautiful thing which I look forward to and no one can even quantify the joy of motherhood into words, but my ambition must not be restricted to marriage and my baby making abilities)

To some extent, I can blame this ideology on culture and traditional values, but I can also blame this on the so called “modern feminists” we have today flashing their body parts in celebration of feminism. The truth is, these modern feminists are destroying, crippling and ripping apart the very essence of feminism and women’s rights which have been built on the sweat and the back of true feminists who celebrated (in previous generations) the very essence of being a woman.

It’s a free world and it’s okay to do what you want how you want it; to dress the way you want, flash whatever body parts you want or even walk around naked (if that’s what tickles your fancy). However, do not hide under the umbrella of feminism to justify your actions. It is best to come to terms with what you fancy and stop telling women that walking around half/fully naked or growing armpit hair (that’s the feminist trend these days) is a definition of feminism.



How exactly does flashing body part amount to feminism? I am honestly confused. How does walking around naked provide or facilitate the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of equality of the sexes? How does this translate into equal pay for men and women at the work place? How does it give a woman the strength to speak up against a violent husband? How does it soothe the pain of being deprived of an opportunity because of sex?

What this has done is to trash and disintegrate the very element of seriousness in the idea of equality that women have and continue to thrive to achieve.

The women celebrated today as modern feminists by young girls are defaming the concept of feminism. The point of speaking out today is to ensure that my little niece who is almost four years old, will not grow up believing that the content of feminism includes taking off her clothes and walking around naked.

Kudos to these “modern feminists” for raping this movement in a bid to sprinkle the supposed glitter, glamour and sense of importance that feminism gives to their nudity.

I am a huge fan of expressing thoughts in whatever way is convenient but not when there are dire consequences such as 14year olds engaging in wild activities because “feminists” say it’s okay.

Feminism is the celebration of the glorious essence of womanhood and how that essence must not be used as a factor to deprive a woman of the same rights and opportunities as men.

A woman is not the same as a man, she can never be, and neither can a man be the same as a woman. We are different, but we MUST HAVE EQUAL RIGHTS.

Feminism is a struggle, a movement. Let us do all we can to push this movement and not make a mockery of what generations of women have toiled and suffered to develop.

[By Nkiru S Obi]

13 thoughts on “True Feminism: The Equality Of Both Genders By Nkiru S Obi

  1. A beautiful piece there, yes. But **** to convinced Me and rest ****. A woman can never have equal Rights with the Man, NEVER!

    Even in the Holy Bible, which is the greatest of all books in this present World and in the World to come God Himself did not give a woman an equal Rights with the Man.

    Even in Heaven, the Throne of God Himself, there are 24 Elders. There is no woman among them. Writer and readers, what does that tells you all?

    **************Consider writing a piece admonishing women to know their place and subject themselve for the Men for the right reason for the benefit of tranquility.

    Bcos any attempts or talks about women to have thesame Rights with the Men is to wish or desire for the IMPOSSIBLE!

    D Hunter.

  2. I believe that what has overtaken this cause is the very same thing that Marilyn Munroe had suggested about adverts long time ago before she died, namely that adding a sex appeal to any piece of advert could boost patronage. I am just confused because I do not see how a half-nude woman possing beside a bottle of wine, for instance, would make me want to drink that wine. They bear no relation at all! Yet it is working.

    The devil knows that sensual sin is the most difficult to resist, and that is why he has thrown virtually all his resources into seeing that men continue to do that evil. Otherwise tell me why a woman believes that she must he naked before she is heard.

    That’s by the way. For feminism proper, I don’t think they’ll ever achieve the content of that activism, especially here in Africa. Sometimes I even wonder if those people are not brandishing placards just for the fleeting fun. Equality should be equality. Women do no pay tax(or pay reduced tax) in some places. Women pay less for the very same form in a political party when they are interested in any exercutive office. Women have accepted this, yet they keep shouting EQUALITY just because they are tired of cooking for their husbands.

    Abeg scrap that idea! Leave the world the way God created it!

  3. I believe that what has overtaken this cause is the very same thing that Marilyn Munroe had suggested about adverts long time ago before she died, namely that adding a sex appeal to any piece of advert could boost patronage. I am just confused because I do not see how a half-nude woman possing beside a bottle of wine, for instance, would make me want to drink that wine. They bear no relation at all! Yet it is working.

    The devil knows that sensual sin is the most difficult to resist, and that is why he has thrown virtually all his resources into seeing that men continue to do that evil. Otherwise tell me why a woman believes that she must he naked before she is heard.

    That’s by the way. For feminism proper, I don’t think they’ll ever achieve the content of that activism, especially here in Africa. Sometimes I even wonder if those people are not brandishing placards just for the fleeting fun. Equality should be equality. Women do no pay tax(or pay reduced tax) in some places. Women pay less for the very same form in a political party when they are interested in any exercutive office. Women have accepted this, yet they keep shouting EQUALITY just because they are tired of cooking for their husbands.

    Abeg scrap that idea! Leave the world the way God created it!

  4. Sometimes I wonder what this argument about gender equality is all about.I have never received a better treatment because i am a man,I mean I have never walked into a shop and the attendant asked the woman that was there before me to wait for him to attend to me first cos I’m a man,I have never paid lesser than what women àre paying for the same product any way before.
    The truth is that on societal level,men and women are equal.but on the family level the are not and will never be equal one person must be above the other for the family to work.and psychologically men are greater and more matured than women and the women are aware of this but will not admit it.for a example,I was about to take a flight from Barcelona to Berlin and during boarding we discovered that the captain is a woman 26 yrs old and as a result of this 4 women disembarked the plane .and statistics shows that around the world people disembarked their plane if they notice that their captain is a woman and over 90 percent of those disembarking are women and when asked why they admitted that in the case of an emergency they believed that a man will handle it better and this same women will also come to the street making noise about equality of men and women.is that not ironical?

  5. Lesbianism in disguise! The devil knows the shortest way to catch weak souls. Wetin be feminism? Se women fit piss for coke bottle without a spill? Abi this folks dey mental? In my own, l will not carry banana follow monkey oooo!

  6. @Hunter, how do you know they are no women among the elders in heaven? have u been der? do u knw their names? both genders were created in thesame image n likeness of God, none is better than the other. even wen d bible talks about women submitting themselves to their husbands it also talks about husbands loving their wives, it’s two way tin. every law is made for the two none higher or superior to other!

  7. Nice write up, i sincerely agree wit u dat feminism z not all about going naked and exposing all ur assence part just 2 show everyone dat u re a real woman and charming.

    When u talk about right… man and woman suppose to hv equal right but dey can never be equal, d expectation can never be achieved.
    Martin luther said dat a woman mind is cleaner than that of a man; bcos she changes it more often lol.

  8. Women are not under any bondage in the first place. Stop placing yourselves under mindset and control of boys calling themselves men. Work hard for yourself before some mamas boys come around and treat you like a begger slave.

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