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Bolaji Isaac, 85 Year Old Widow Abandoned By All Her Children Cries Out For Help
March 2nd, 2017 – 85 Year Old Widow Abandoned By All Her Children Cries Out For Help
85-year-old grandmother, Mrs. Bolaji Isaac, says anytime she dies, she will be going to the grave with sorrow and bitterness.
Bolaji told PUNCH Metro that she had nothing to live for and preferred death because all her five children rejected her and efforts to see them had been abortive.
The Ikare, Ondo State indigene, said an apartment rented for her by a Pentecostal church in Lagos, Mountain of Fire and Miracles Ministries, had been forcefully taken by her second son, identified as Sola, who chased her out.
The octogenarian told our correspondents that she was in dire need of another accommodation, appealing to Nigerians to prevail on her children to meet with her before her death.
She said, “I had 10 children. While five of them died, five survived. My husband died about 20 years ago and I started selling paper bags to hospitals and clinics. When I didn’t have money to continue the work, I stopped.
“I was formerly living in the Alagbado area of Lagos State, but my son, Sola, chased me out. He came from Ondo State to live with me.
“His wife called me that I should send him back, but I ignored her. Later, I agreed when the pressure became too much. When I asked him to return, he refused and started fighting me.”
She added that anytime she called her fourth child, Samuel, a lawyer, he always gave excuses of being in court, promising to call back, without doing so.
Bolaji, who explained that Samuel prevented her from knowing his address, said other children also gave excuses instead of catering to her.
When our correspondent asked about her siblings, she lamented that they had equally forsaken her.
“When I had money, my mother advised me to take care of them that they would help my children in the future. I sponsored their education, but now, they don’t care about me. I don’t know what I did to deserve the treatment. I want to die. This suffering is unbearable,” she added, as she burst into tears.
Bolaji told PUNCH Metro that she later moved to the Ladipo area of Oshodi where an old friend, Mrs. Sadatu Ahmed, had been sheltering her for the past eight months.
Our correspondent learnt that Bolaji survived on a weekly N2,000 stipend she received from the MFM every Monday.
Her friend, Ahmed, who claimed to have known her for 25 years, said Bolaji used to visit her during their youthful days.
The 52-year-old added that she could not send her away when she came to her house.
“She was sleeping in the verandah of our compound, exposing herself to cold and mosquito bites. When I couldn’t bear it, I begged my son to allow us to accommodate her and he agreed.
“She cannot go to toilet on her own and she does not sleep well. I bathe her and keep vigils over her. She cries every day. She complains of pains in her legs, stomachs and other body parts. She is really suffering.
“Anytime I call any of her children, they do not pick the call. When they do, they are quick in cutting off the call. One said he was a family man and if he had to choose between his mother and wife, he would choose his wife.
“I am being forced to send her out of my house. My neighbours said if she died, I would be in trouble. I don’t want to go to jail for helping someone in need,” she added.
However, Samuel, on the telephone, said his mother was troublesome, adding that he kept her away from his family to avoid having issues with his marriage.
He said, “She was formerly living with my elder brother, Tope. She was always quarrelling with his wife to the extent that they would engage in fisticuffs. And it was regular. I witnessed the fights while I was in the university and that was why I decided never to allow any family member live with me.
“She cannot live with any of her sons without having issues with their wives, so we are trying to make enquiries about old people’s home for her because that is the next step. Just last week, we all contributed N25,000 to give her; so I wonder where the issue of neglect is coming from.
“My wife and I are too busy and if she stays with us, she will still complain of neglect. It is not important that she knows where I stay; the most important thing is that she is taken care of.”
Samuel, who confirmed that Sola stayed with the mother at a time, said he could not say if he sent her out.
He said although he didn’t know who she stayed with in Lagos, he sometime sent her money through his partner.
[Credit: Punch NG]
rity
March 2, 2017 at 7:49 AM
Stupid children how can pple be so heartless tufiakwaaa
your mother and u dont know where she stays are u for real?
wot about renting an apartment for her and hiring a help that wil be taking care of her, is she the first troublesome person or mother? wot nonsence are my even reading here that she must not know where u stay lol, the last time i checked old age isnt a crime and if u guys cant take care of ur aged mother then urs will be worse because your children will do same to you.over and out
ebuka
March 2, 2017 at 8:58 AM
Too bad. No matter what she did she is still your biological mother and this is the time she needed your help. the reason of having children is at the old age she will be taken care of but you children abondoned her claiming she is troublesome. had been she abandone you children when your father died l know you would nt have been what you are today. You children should remember you will someday grow old and when the nemesis of what you did to her start woking on you you will not complain because the bible said, what ever a man sow so shall he reap. she denied herself so much to make you children what and where you are today but what she got from you is abandonment.
kuku
March 2, 2017 at 9:12 AM
Yes u are right no matter how troublesome ur mother is or even if she is a bad woman no body can be like a mother to u not even ur wife. U were once troublesome when u were a child and she took care of u and carried u in are womb for 9month,so dis is ur turn to take care of her no matter what because u will definitely get to dat stage and ur children to can do worse to u.
tina
March 2, 2017 at 9:20 AM
These children are heartless. the will reap whatever they sow. borders to say the old woman is right. If they can afford not to let their mother know where they stay, then they are wicked! the call 85year old troublesome? i pray they get to their age
fifelomo
March 2, 2017 at 10:06 AM
Mama is troublesome fine. Just wondering if she actually gave birth to them. A very big shame on all of them. I can’t imagine if she had a female child that could have just bn fine. This woman will die and these bastard will throw a loud party! Hmm, honour your father and mother for your days to be long. The thunder that will strike them is doing press up in hell. Yeye children. Omo radarada ikeji aja.
A jay
March 2, 2017 at 11:25 AM
Nice conment rty,there is already course on these childreen.
Faith
March 2, 2017 at 11:54 AM
God will deal with the children bad children
Big Aunty Koks
March 2, 2017 at 1:31 PM
Shameless children! How do you expect money to be sufficient for her needs when with advanced age she needs somebody to cater for her physical needs? There is no excuse for this cruelty. All I wish is that you grow old and need somebody who isn’t there. Mchweeeew!
Ada
March 2, 2017 at 2:23 PM
i don’t believe she has a child. what a rubbish story. Those children are already cursed. The bible says dat whatever u sows, u will reap. Evil days. God please help us.
Precious
March 2, 2017 at 2:56 PM
Can this be real ? Hello you are talking about your mum like this . God have mercy . Those that don’t have are crying and you are here fooling yourself .
pamela
March 2, 2017 at 8:22 PM
chai! my God will punish this children. can people see a so called lawyer reason? aha mother that carried u for nine months. God
Grace
March 2, 2017 at 9:21 PM
And there is a lawyer amongst these children. God forbid. You all contributed N25000. At 85 years old how can she plan to use that money who will buy her food wash her clothes. You better come out from those wicket wives and your houses and go look after your mum.
Do all your wives carry bible to churches on Sundays. Do you mean to tell me your wives cannot look after this your old mother. Let me say 3 months she stay with one child 3 months to another child or rent her a room close by you then look for a nanny for her. Please change now go carry your mum. Dont make cry. I wish mine was alive.
Ok stay in your houses with your beautiful qives and wait for Gods turn in your lkives if you do not go pick up your old mum. Wicket children.
S-crown
March 2, 2017 at 9:27 PM
The children are heartless and wicked.how can u do dat to ur mother kai.if at all she is a witch,she is ur mother.the woman dat took care of ur guys sent u to skool,all of u are graduate.but remember you hv children and they will do the same to u IJN.go and look for ur mother b4 is too late.if the woman die u will all suffer o.pls amend ur way.
otunba olusola
March 2, 2017 at 9:35 PM
They are already cursed.bible compulsary it to help widow,old age people even if they are not our parent takless ,this old woman is their mother.may God open their spiritual eyes to see beyong their imagination.
otunba olusola
Ms ERANKO
March 2, 2017 at 10:44 PM
WOMEN NEED TO PLAN THEIR LIVES WHEN THEY ARE BRINGING UP THE THEIRCHILDREN
YOU SHOULD NOT IGNORE YOUR OWN LIFE AND SAY THAT THE CHILDREN WOULD TAKE CARE OF YOU WHEN YOU ARE OLD.
BECAUSE YOU ARE DOOMED IF YOU ARE PART OF THOSE WHO WAKE UP IN THE MORNING,
AND YOUR ONLY PRAYER IS [ OUNJE OOMO ] FOOD FROM CHILDREN.
PRAYING FOR FOOD FROM CHILDREN. SOMETIMES, THIS PRAYER WILL LEAD YOU TO STARVATION AND ALSO BE A SLAVE TO YOUR SONS WIFE.
BECAUSE RELYING ON YOUR CHILDREN MEANS THAT YOU ARE BURDEN TO THEM.
SOME OF THESE SO CALLED YOUR CHILDREN WOULD END UP USING YOU AS THEIR HOUSEKEEPER AND ALSO USE YOU AS THEIR NANNY BEFORE THEY CAN GIVE YOU PENNY.
I JUST THINK THAT WOMEN SHOULD CHANGE THEIR MENTALITY BECAUSE OF THE WAY THEY MEDITATE THAT, LET ME EAT FOOD FROM CHILDREN
I THINK YOU SHOULD PRAY THAT WHEN YOU ARE GETTING OLD, PLEASE GOD DO NOT LET ME BE A BEGGAR TO MY CHILDREN WHERE YOUR SONS WIFE WOULD TURN YOU INTO HOUSEKEEPER JUST BECAUSE THEY WANT TO FEED YOU.
SOMETIMES THIS IS THE RESULT OF WOMEN WHO MAKE THEMSELVES BE A SLAVE TO THEIR MARRIAGE
AS SOON AS THEY GET MARRIED, THEY WOULD SAY MY HUSBAND DO NOT WANT ME TO GO TO WORK. THEY WAIT FOR HUSBAND TO DO EVERYTHING FOR THEM. THEY HAVE NO MONEY OF THEIR OWN.
THEY BECOME HOUSEWIVES, OKAY, IF YOU ARE HOUSE WIFE AND YOUR HUSBAND DIED ,
WHERE WOULD YOU START?
IF YOU ARE HOUSEWIFE AND YOUR HUSBAND DIED, IT MEANS YOU WILL END UP HOMELESS AND PENNILESS
AND THE WHO YOU BECAUSE OF THEM LEAVE YOUR JOB FOR WILL NOT LOOK AT YOU TWICE.
THE CHILDREN WHOM YOU THINK WILL FEED YOU.
WHAT YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND IS THAT, CHILDREN ARE SOMEONE ELSE. YOU SHOULD NOT RELY ON THEM FOR ANYTHING.
EVEN IF THEY ARE GOING TO FEED YOU, PLEASE DO NOT RELY ON THEM BECAUSE THEY HAVE BECOME SOMEONE ELSE AS SOON AS THEY ARE MARRIED.
ONCE THEY GET MARRIED, THEY ALWAYS BEHAVE LIKE AS IF YOU SHOULD GO AND DIE.
WOMEN SHOULD STOP RELY ON THEIR CHILDREN FOR ANYTHING.
LEARN TO LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE. HAVE YOUR MONEY, HAVE YOUR OWN LITTLE SPACE.
AS YOU ARE GETTING OLD, YOU NEED TO LEARN A LOT OF HAND-WORK THAT YOU CAN DO WHEN YOU ARE OLD.
SO THAT YOU CAN HAVE A DAILY BREAD OF YOURS.