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Born Again Wife Confesses Past Adultery To Husband “Our 4th Child Is Not Yours”
Feb 17, 2014 – Born Again Wife Confesses Past Adultery To Husband “Our 4th Child Is Not Yours”
The confession of a mother of five that her former boss was the biological father of her fourth child is now threatening her 25-year-old marriage. Her husband, 57-year-old Isaac Jemibola, a civil servant, has approached an Ikole Customary Court in Ekiti State, seeking the dissolution of his marriage to the woman, 48-year-old Olayemi.
Jemibola based his divorce plea on the ground that the respondent confessed committing adultery in 2002.
He urged the court in the petition filed on January 21, to grant him custody of the five children from the marriage.
The petition told the court that he married Olayemi in 1989 according to the native law and custom.
According to him, “after retiring to bed on January 19, my wife came to me and knelt down.
“She confessed to have had an extramarital affair with her former boss which resulted in the pregnancy of the fourth child.
“My wife said she had given her life to Christ and that her desire to make heaven made her confess based on the advice from her pastor.
“She added that the paternity of the fourth child was in doubt since both the boss and I slept with her the same week,’’ he said.
Jemibola further told the court that he reported the matter to his parents who pleaded with the woman to reverse her confession.
“She however insisted that she was following the dictates of the Bible.
“I purposely don’t want to do the DNA test because I don’t want to hate the child.’’ he said.
Olayemi admitted committing the offence, but kicked against dissolution of the marriage.
“I did it because Jemibola was befriending another woman during the period which made him abandon me for almost six months.
“It was that same period that my former boss, who normally took me to work in his car, made love advances at me. Both men made love with me at almost the same period.
“After some years, I discovered that the child looked quite different from his siblings and out of guilt, I decided to tell him the truth.
“I pleaded for his forgiveness but he refused,’’ Olayemi said.
In her ruling, the court president, Mrs Yemisi Ojo, said: “In the interest of justice and in the spirit of promoting reconciliation between the two parties, the case will be adjourned till April 7 for report of settlement.’’
[Source: Tribune]
John Abdul
February 17, 2014 at 9:31 PM
Tough call for the man, I think divorce is the best option here
Bolaji
February 18, 2014 at 1:25 PM
Wel de woman has done de right tin in de sight of God, its left 4 de man 2 eqeally do de right tin in de sight of God by confesing his own inmoral 2 de woman & let them 4give 1 anoda becos God embrace 4givnes of 1 anoda.
JD
August 25, 2015 at 2:55 PM
@Bolaji what of if the man has been faithful.And what make you thinks that the man is also in adultery or could it be that this is how you live your own life?
Dan
February 17, 2014 at 10:37 PM
@John Abdul ….You need to rearrange the way you think and Give advice. People need to learn not to jump at negativity. YES it is a bad and a sad situation but it is salvageable. I know of a few instances like these where the family is still together.
Also if it is true that the husband neglected and was having extra marital affairs at that time , then he is as much responsible for the calamity. How will he feel if this is done to his daughters?
Bottom line, we need to follow the manual of life (The Bible) and the more we adhere, the less this and any other kind of affliction come near us.
Adora Emmanuel
February 17, 2014 at 10:47 PM
She has to be 4given since she made de confession
Lucious Siza
February 17, 2014 at 10:48 PM
Abeg 4give am oga she understand her 4ckup.
bezo
February 17, 2014 at 10:48 PM
Abomination! What kind of born again is she, did she wants to kill her husband b/4 his time or do yoruba don’t forbid adultery, pls my dear brother that woman is a poison to you and she can neva be clean, I think divorce is nothing but the best option here, no mata how you wash a pig it will surely go back to the dust it came from, DIVORCE HER PLS……… B/4 SHE KILLS YOU
Bose Sanya
February 18, 2014 at 9:21 AM
@Bezo…you are not thinking rationally here, two wrongs can not make a right. This woman realized she has sin and confessed her sin, what do you do when you know you have sin to God? I’m sure you’ll ask God to forgive you. Who are you to judge to now put asunder what God has joined together? Only God is impeccable, keep your erratic and judge-mental opinion to your self!!!!!
Margaret Danso
February 17, 2014 at 10:48 PM
men are fgvn whn dey go outside wedlock,whn it cms to women na bigggg wahala
Raymond Darricom
February 17, 2014 at 10:49 PM
That is good but…what is gonna happen to her marriage now
Victoria Chioma
February 17, 2014 at 10:49 PM
E Nabs Some confessions sha… God hv mercy.
Emmanuel Andrew
February 17, 2014 at 10:50 PM
Hmmmmmmm Costly confession
J Wendbenedo
February 17, 2014 at 10:50 PM
God have mercy…!!
dave
February 18, 2014 at 12:53 AM
The point is does she have to wait 12 years to confess the truth? This is a case of double jeopardy because firstly, the child in question has been denied the care and custody of his biological father. Secondly, the husband unknowingly raising and nurturing another man’s child believing the child is his can be painful, heartbreaking and devastating to his health. Apparently, she might have brought the news of the pregnancy to her boss who may have collaborated with her to pass it on to the husband secretly. Or the reverse may be the case whereby the boss is unaware of
the pregnancy for the fear of being exposed of her shameful ordeal as a married woman. It is true that one can never know the dept into a woman’s heart. The truth be told, women will reveal only what they feel you should know about them, which is one of the major reasons why men sometimes mistreating and dump them like a scum bag. It is up to the husband to freely continue the marriage without being compelled to do so. However,it would have been better if she had announced at earlier stage of the pregnancy. But for some reasons best known to her, she decided to concealed the information, and then standby watching the husband spending so much time and financial resources on other man’s child after they have become so attached with each other is grievous.
dave
February 18, 2014 at 1:05 AM
Thanks to the technology, DNA tests has revealed many stories of this nature. Majority men actually thinking the children they’re raising belongs to them if only they could pass through DNA process to asserts the truth. Who can choose a rightly spouse for one except through the intervention of the Holy Spirit. What a cruel and unkind world.
red
February 18, 2014 at 3:58 AM
This is one of those things that happen when married couple start cheating on each other.Thank God you guys are talking about who the dad might be and not who gave who AIDS.I wonder how the in child in question is doing right now.
Iyke B
February 18, 2014 at 9:15 AM
As 4 me, i no go marry her again shikina!!!. Its very painfull wen another man chop my food.
uchenna O
February 18, 2014 at 9:33 AM
I know that is very hard to forgive such offence espeacially if the husband is not a born again christian, the truth is that it happened when the woman was not born again and now that she has accepted Jesus Christ and want to make heaven she should not hide anything unholy in her life, pls Mr. Isaac forgive and forget and continue with your marriage.
chichi
February 18, 2014 at 10:01 AM
I suggest that they do DNA to ascertain who own the baby in question. Also the man should forgive her since she has confessed. But for the woman, even if your husband is following another woman is not enough reason for you to be sleeping around. Madam,I pray that this your repentance is a genuine one.
AK
February 18, 2014 at 12:10 PM
This is heartbreaking for the man. The whole family will be in a state of confusion right now. Other children’s paternity will be in question. Even the bible permits a man to divorce his wife on adultery. But like Jesus said to the woman accused of adultery that he who has not committed the very act should be the first to cast the stone and the bible says one by one everyone disappeared.
It is a tough decision for the man to make especially if he had changed his ways from chasing other women too. However, a married woman with 3 children is knowledgeable enough to protect and prevent such shameful pregnancy. We cannot judge, condemn or crucify her but to empathise with the family for God to forgive all parties and let peace, love and unity reign once again in their home.
It could be an avenue for others in similar situation now to learn and resist the devil of such shameful and disgraceful act. If our God can continually forgive us, we as human should learn to forgive ourselves too so as to stay healthy and have inner peace with man and with God.
May God rebuild her home and while the case in pending in court let God minister to the husband and accept the consequences and the part he played in the cause of the event. It is well.
Commando
February 18, 2014 at 1:49 PM
Thank God she give her life to God.bt is too bad 1,2,3and 4 is too much.is hard to hear dis.Hw would d man start his life now.may God change d mind of all d women dat doing,cos AIDs
Carolyn
February 18, 2014 at 3:20 PM
Hmmm… Dis is quite a delimma 4 d man n its xo pathetic. Its gud dat d woman cönfesses bt i stil blame her. She shud av confessed earlier or she keeps mute 4eva. Or mayb d confession shud av bin sth lyk ” i comited adultery wit my boss during d tym u wer away” insted of sayin “our 4th child is nt urs”, since she said dat both men made luv 2 her almost at d xame period, meanin dat she’s nt actualy sure of d owner of d child. 2 me d way she’s puting it is jst 2 blunt n she’s makin a double-statement too. Tho its hard 4 d husband bt he stil av 2 take his wife bak n luv her jst d way she is. Wat if she didnt confess?? 2 u again woman. Ur husband datin anoda woman doesnt justify ur infidelity!
Abah Jude
July 4, 2014 at 4:27 PM
Taaaaaa if na muah lie lie to lie lie, i wil poison dat child wit rat poison and again look for juju dat wil make the woman run mad!