Oct 7, 2017 – Be Comfortable In Your Own Skin Because People Are Attracted To The Authentic You
By Segilola Awolesi
Julia Child, the famous American chef, author and TV personality once said, “Nothing is too much trouble if it turns out the way it should.” I believe the joy and fulfillment that accompanies the achievement makes the trouble worth the while. With many awards to her credit, Julia further said, “The measure of achievement is not winning awards, it’s doing something you appreciate, something you believe is worthwhile”. I opine that sometimes winning awards can be a yardstick for measuring success. It can be a veritable feedback, a reward fiesta crowning you as an influencer. Are you desirous of winning awards? Get on the dance floor!
My experience is so dramatic. It was the end of the year party for the regional staff of ‘XYZ’ bank and as the cash officer of my branch, I had to make out time to be there. After the usual party rhetoric came the moment everyone was expecting. The anchor was announcing the winners for each award category, meanwhile I was wiling away time, playing games on my phone anxiously anticipating the end of the party. I was already craving for the Christmas holiday. Suddenly, from the rear I heard “And the winner of the best dressed female staff is Oluwatoyin Segilola Awolesi” My name echoed through the audience. Surprisingly, I was numb for a few seconds, the clapping ovation from the audience helped me recover from the shock and I ran to the podium to receive my award. What an exhilarating experience! While standing on the podium, my mind raced back to the beginning of the year when it started- The job interview.
It was a bright sunny day, and I was dressed in my best shirt and trousers for the job interview. A few weeks back, I got an invitation letter for a job interview from a famous bank. All attempts to get a suitable jacket was frustrated. I had no money to buy one and none of my friends had my size but I summoned courage to dress appropriately. As soon as I stepped into the venue, I shivered …ohhh…everyone was dressed in well tailored suits. My heart began to pant, feeling insecure. I was tempted to run out of the hall and quit the stage. It was a moment of truth for me, then I remembered the cliché; winners don’t quit and quitters don’t win.” A surge of strength came into me to face the music. Opportunity came as I connected with two ladies within the hall, discussing the possible questions. Within a few seconds, the three of us had become a team and consciously I sought a jacket and pair of shoes. In a team’s spirit, I confided in them and they gladly obliged to help out. Fortunately, my number was ahead, so I borrowed a jacket from one and a pair of shoes from the other. The jacket was my perfect size but the shoes a bit bigger, common sense made-up. To cut the long story short, I went to the interview room with regained confidence and impressed the panel, in fact I got a standing ovation from the panel of judges and proudly received my letter of employment! Guess what happened to the two ladies? One got a letter of employment and the other a letter of rejection. I comforted her with the words ‘try again’. She later did and got hers the following year. Imagine this, from a state of borrowing a jacket and pair of shoes to a state of receiving an award as the best dressed female staff of a branch; isn’t that a clear reflection of the cliché; From grass to grace? Wouldn’t you like to grow from grass to grace? If your answer is yes, then get on the dance floor.
Literally, dancing is a sport, an activity, not an easy thing to do. It takes more than a pretty face. The best dancers in the world are not only great dancers because of their skills but because they are very passionate about it. They are so passionate that they decided to work hard, dedicate themselves, and go through much pain so that they could stand out. In other words, It’s one thing to make the move and seek relevance, however it’s another thing to have what it takes to be relevant. And of course, you can’t give what you don’t have, also you can’t have what you don’t respect! Respect is reciprocal. When you have respect for excellence then excellence becomes your lot.
Another tip about great dancers is that they never just dance the steps, they get into the song and put feelings into it. If it’s an upbeat or happy dance, they smile, make big, sharp movements, and smile! If it’s a sad or emotional dance, they make each move slower and use their facial expression to guide their bodies, that makes every performance a lot better. The principle is that success in any life endeavor comes with its own beats. The sequence of success melody is predicated by authenticity. You need to throw yourself into the rhythm, enjoy the melody and flow with the beats. Be real, no make-up; Start to feel comfortable in your own skin. The truth is that people are attracted to the authentic you. Unless our ideas of who we are and our aspirations for who we want to become are coherent, we experience unease and fear, and begin to feel lost in the web of life. Research shows that knowing and using our top strengths makes us feel authentic and provides us with a sense of fulfillment. It also connects us to our passions and gets us into moments of flow. Remember the dance floor can only accommodate those who are ready to dig- it and strive for the best possible version of themselves. So get on the dance floor, and perform on the stage of life.