October 5, 2017 – Dayo Amusa: I’m Tired Of Dating Men With Emotional Problem, Drug Addicts, Alcoholics & Sociopaths
Dayo Amusa: I Have Problem Finding A Suitable Man, I Keep Attracting Cheaters, Drug Addicts & Sociopaths
Nollywood actress Dayo Amusa believes many ladies in her position are not always lucky when it come to finding the type of men they really desire to have.
Dayo Amusa said she has been in that position for along time and each time she tried to help the men that came into her life, she failed at it.
Check out what she wrote on Instagram few hours ago:
‘I used to be a fixer. I stayed in bad relationships, attracting the same type of men—men who needed to be fixed.
I know so many women in the same position. We attract cheating men, commitment-phobic men, emotionally unavailable men, emotionally damaged men, alcoholics, drug abusers, narcissists and sociopaths.
It’s like we are a magnet for men whose pieces are shattered all over the place. And for some reason, we feel compelled to put these pieces back together.
But I must admit, I have failed every single time.
I never gave myself a chance to sit back and question my motives. Instead of asking why I constantly felt obligated to pick up someone else’s broken pieces, I ran to pick them up without a second thought.
Being selfless made me think that coming second didn’t matter because I was putting someone else’s worthiness first. And in the end, rank doesn’t matter, right?
I realized that the reason I was attracting these types of men was because I believed I could save them.
As selfless, thoughtful, giving women, we think we will be “that woman”—the one who will change them. We think we can turn a cheater into a loyal boyfriend. We think we can help him walk away from the drugs and alcohol.
We believe we can help him get over his commitment issues and aim for a stable future with us. We trust that we can get rid of the emotional baggage that he has been carrying for years.
We attract these men because we believe they need us. And to leave them would be selfish, insensitive and ruthless.
The sad news is, we constantly blame ourselves when they don’t change. Every time they fail us, we think it’s because we failed them. Their hold on us becomes stronger; they keep us around knowing they have nothing to offer.
It’s just my view. What’s your view??? Let’s interact.’
Ladies should stop getting desperate when it comes to choosing a life partner.
Marriage is a serious business and not a game of lucky.
If a man is a drug addict when you met him, you must keep in mind that you can’t change him.
Finally, if a man is not in love with a woman, he may stage the above character flaws Dayo Amusa mentioned to gain freedom.
If a man really loves a woman, he will do anything to please her until he takes her home to mama.
Dayo Amusa needs to change her association if she really wants to find a better man to date.