How To Overcome The Twin Addictions Of Pornography And Masturbation

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How To Overcome The Twin Addictions Of Pornography And Masturbation…8 Untold Dangers

EIGHT REASONS WHY YOU MUST NOT GO INTO 2020 WITH PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTURBATION!

“Habit, if not resisted, soon becomes necessity”- Saint Augustine

One of the greatest deceit of the 21st century is in portraying pornography as a form of entertainment. My purpose of writing this piece is to expose some sugar-coated lies around pornography.

Don’t fall into the trap of believing that porn is harmless entertainment that has no impact on individuals or society. Get educated through this write-up and let us all fight against an industry that is tangibly harming individuals, relationships, families and society. I will be raising awareness and shining a light on the proven, measurable harms of porn. We deserve better than what porn has to offer.

We deserve real love, untainted by the toxicity of pornography. Pornography destroys our ability to socialize and build stronger communities.

Pornography is an attack on the family, society and marriage. Addictions— whether to alcohol, food, drugs, pornography or gambling — are destructive to families because addicts become so focused on getting the next “fix” that they neglect spouse, children and friends.

8 REASONS WHY YOU MUST STOP PORNOGRAPHY & MASTURBATION BEFORE IT BECOMES TOO LATE

There are eight reasons why you must stop the twin effect of pornography and masturbation before it becomes too late:

#1 IT RUINS YOUR SEX-LIFE:

Porn can damage your sex life and sexual health. Hear this: pornography doesn’t support sex, it ruins it! Pornography is designed and edited with an unrealistic idea of what sex is all about. Going into a relationship to meet that unrealistic expectation about sex will ultimately ruin it. There is nothing that ruin sex-life like unmet expectation and this is exactly what pornography does to your sex life. The fact is, porn reshapes expectations about sex and attraction by presenting an unrealistic picture. In porn, performers always look their best. They are forever young, surgically enhanced, airbrushed, and Photoshopped to perfection. Many women that have become victims of their spouses’ voracious appetite for porn believe strongly that porn has changed men’s expectations of how women should look. Porn leads to less sex and to less sexual satisfaction within a relationship. Researchers have shown a strong connection between porn use and low sex drive, erectile dysfunction, and trouble reaching orgasm.

#2 IT WASTES YOUR PRODUCTIVE ENERGY:

Pornography and masturbation will make you seek ways of releasing your energy instead of putting it to productive use. Energy is the ability to do work, and the more frequent you release it away through the habits of masturbation and pornography, the less productive work you will accomplish. Your sexual energy is the greatest and most potent form of energy available to you. You can either squander it or utilize it to its fullest potential, and let it supercharge your life. There is nothing in this life that drains energy more than the habit of pornography! People that indulge in pornography will ultimately masturbate and too much masturbation drains your productive energy, makes you more tired and sleepy all the times.

#3 PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTURBATION CAN FUEL DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY:

Contrary to the belief that pornography and masturbation ease out tension and anxiety, it actually brings more pressure than pleasure! “The more one uses pornography, the more lonely one becomes,” says Dr. Gary Brooks, a psychologist who has worked with porn addicts for the last 30 years. Pornography fuels depression by cutting us from life supporting relationships and giving us a false feeling of comfort.

#4 PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTURBATION DESTROY YOUR SOCIAL LIVE:

People that are addicted to pornography and masturbation keep a lot to themselves. It is not a bad thing to keep to oneself sometimes, but pornography will make you cross a dangerous boundary. It makes your prefer seclusion and isolation instead of associating with others.  People that involve more in pornography always love to keep to themselves and seldom ask for help.

#5 IT DESTROYS RELATIONSHIP AND INTIMACY:

One of the critical things that sustain relationship is connection. One way through which pornography destroys relationship is in the area of connection. Pornography short-circuits our innate ability to connect deeply with the people we love. It destroys emotional bonds between couples. The sexual relationship gets cheapened when connection ceases to be the goal. Couples drift apart, particularly as most of the viewing is done in secret. It has been ascertained that porn users struggle so much in real life relationships and intimacy. Just like every other form of addiction, pornography and masturbation encroach on intimacy in relationship.The first thing that suffers from addiction is intimacy with the people that we love. Addictions destroy relationships! Research shows that pornography use is linked to less stability in relationships, increased risk of infidelity, and greater likelihood of divorce. Men who are exposed to porn find their partners less sexually attractive and rate themselves as less in love with their partners.

#6 IT DESTROYS CREATIVITY:

Pornography and masturbation are wrong ways of using our creativity. I have observed in my many years of helping youths overcome pornography and masturbation that most of the victims of these destructive habits are creative people. I want to say emphatically that masturbation and pornography are twin attack on your creativity! They both deplete your reservoir of creativity.

#7 PORN IS INSEPARABLY CONNECTED TO SEXUAL ABUSE AND VIOLENCE:

Most of the scenes in porn videos projects a form of abuse and violent displays. People that are addicted to porn are most times unconsciously influenced to behave in the same manner in real life. These violent deposits in porn addicts can push them to be abusive in their relationships. For women, it is even worse because being abused by their spouses sexually now becomes a norm as a result of their exposure to porn contents. Exposure to pornography has been shown to make viewers less compassionate toward victims of sexual violence and exploitation. The vast majority of porn portrays men as powerful and in charge while women are submissive and obedient. Watching scene after scene of dehumanizing submission makes it start to seem normal. It sets the stage for lopsided power dynamics in couple relationships and the gradual acceptance of verbal and physical aggression against women. Research has confirmed that those who watch porn are more likely to support statements that promote abuse and sexual aggression toward women and girls.

#8 IT AFFECTS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD:

One of the habits hat cut you off from God is pornography. Pornography breeds spiritual instability and dryness. You can’t indulge in pornography and still be vibrant spiritually. If you want to go fast and far with God in 2020, then stop the habits of pornography and masturbation.

HOW TO OVERCOME THE TWIN ADDICTIONS OF PORNOGRAPHY & MASTURBATION

I have seven steps of helping youths overcome these twin addictions of masturbation and pornography and will briefly share it here:

#1 REMOVE THE TRIGGERS:

Every addiction has a trigger! Something that inspires or awakens the urge. Downloaded Porn videos are triggers. Porn sites are triggers. Porn magazines are triggers. If you want to deal with any addiction, then you must first remove every sign of what triggers it in your environment.

#2 AVOID TOO MUCH ISOLATION:

In Psychology, it is believed that addiction is a disease of isolation. Isolation most times can empower pornography and masturbation. The urge to indulge in pornography and masturbation always come in moments of isolation. Avoid too much isolation. A developing addiction leads to the addict becoming withdrawn, remote, and emotionally distant.

#3 AVOID ASSOCIATION AND COMPANIES THAT EMPOWER YOUR ADDICTION:

The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 15:33, “Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.” Relationships can either empower or help us overcome our addictions. Avoid moving with people that are struggling with the addiction that you are planning to come out of.

#4 FILL YOUR MIND AND TIME WITH PRODUCTIVE ACTIVITIES:

Proverbs 16:27 Living Bible (TLB) says,  “Idle hands are the devil’s workshop; idle lips are his mouthpiece.” The mind of a man cannot remain vacant for a long time unless it is occupied with fruitful ideas – it will turn to bad thoughts. Our minds abhor vacuum; they must always be occupied by something, or they will find something to occupy itself.

#5 FIND SOCIAL SUPPORT AND SEEK HELP:

Social support is vital to our health as human beings. Social support empowers us to feel welcomed, important, loved, and part of something greater. Addicts often use substances to artificially replicate feelings of importance, love, and happiness.  However, the great irony is that addicts only wind up lonelier than they felt before. Attaining real social support is critical to overcoming addictions.

#6 HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE TO SOMEONE:

Accountability alone can make a drastic difference in overcoming any addiction. I have two young friends with me presently that I am helping to overcome addiction to drugs, and accountability has really made a difference in trying to help them.

#7 SEEK SPIRITUAL INTERVENTION:

I have come to understand the place of spiritual intervention in overcoming addictions. Overcoming addiction is not just only psychological, it is a spiritual battle. Seek the help of a spiritual mentor whom you trust and can be opened to. It will make a big difference.

In my interactions with youths and teens, I have observed that finding a teenager who has not been exposed to porn is a nearly impossible task. They are being taught about sex and sexuality from what they see on the Internet and graphic video games.

They play at being sexual by sending and posting naked pictures to one another and performing sex acts as early as age twelve! They do all of this without the brain development to understand the long-term consequences of exposure to pornography. Pornography is gradually destroying the next generation with its core attack on connection and intimacy.

I want to specially reach out to parents to take charge of enlightening their children about the danger of pornography. While porn is often called “adult material,” many of its consumers are well under the legal age.  In fact, the majority of teens are getting at least some of their sex education from porn, whether they mean to or not.

Parents must never leave sex education talks out of their discussion with their children.

Pornography is now everywhere in this digital age, and it even pops up when one is not searching for it. Researchers are finding that porn’s influence can and does find its way into teenager’s sexual behaviors. Dear parents, beware!

QUOTE OF THE WEEK: “You can suffer the pain of change or suffer remaining the way you are”- Joyce Meyer

11 thoughts on “How To Overcome The Twin Addictions Of Pornography And Masturbation

  1. I know at this stage nothing can help me but deliverance. In my own little strength, I can’t seem to overcome the two. The worst for me is masturbation. I may die soon if I don’t get help. I’m so afraid of stigma that is why am not seeking outside help. I masturbate 8 times everyday.

    • Chaii bro mastubate 8 times daily wow. Bro sorry I understand ur situation. At this stage I will advice to draw closer to God before I do so pray first confess n ask God for forgiveness then spend most of ur time reading the bible take a challenge that u will read the whole of new testament from Mathew to revelation two times make sure u read it every day every second each time u feel like mastubating go take ur bible n read do so often u will see it will kill it OK. Try it its a good remedy. God bless you

    • Hello anonymous!
      You can reach me on +2348053139316.
      There is no man that is beyond help! Our chat will be extremely confidential and you don’t need to be afraid of any stigmatization.
      I will be much willing to help as I have done over the years with many youths going through this addictions.
      Gbenga Adebambo.

    • Only if you were from a country with white women you would be having p**sy on a daily cuz their women are baddies unlike these mo*key assess who thinks pu**y is worth shit like bitches get over it is just a hole, well man it’s better off to ******** most times than to *** on these ********.

    • When I was in Nigeria I could go months if not a year without having s*x but since I moved here (Australia) I can’t go least a week without having sex, God bless white women that’s all I can say.

  2. This is not a man only thing. Most women even masturbate more than women especially the lesbos

  3. When I was in Nigeria I could go months if not a year without having s*x but since I moved here (Australia) I can’t go least a week without having sex, God bless white women that’s all I can say.

    • I know exactly what you mean but please take it easy. White women and Black women outside of Africa take sex as nothing but in Nigeria our women brag with it. At a slight disagreement your wife or girlfriend starts to starve you of sex but outside of Africa like where you are staying and the Western and Eastern countries, they use it to make up and if they are at fault they tell you they are sorry. Nigerian woman hardly tells you she is sorry.

  4. You will never know how terrible these addictions are if you’ve never experienced them. One of the main fears of addicts is trust and this broken cord comes mostly from parents. I have friends who spoke to their parents about their addictions and regretted their decisions because the parents turned it into something else. Asides from citing the steps which the addict can take to break free from these, parents especially need to be enlightened about to handle such issues with their wards so that such child will be willing to open up to them. On a normal circumstance, parents (particularly mothers) should be the closest agent in which any child going through these addictions can confide in.

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