Oct 17, 2016 – What Did I Do To Get This Treatment From My Husband – Heartbroken Wife Cries Out
My husband has been sending sexual texting with ex-girlfriend. And I am embarrassed to say that this is not the first time.
He had a text relationship with this very same woman over five years ago, a mere 30 days after we got married. It was graphic and sexual in nature. He used to date her before me. He swore it was just texting and they hadn’t slept together since they broke up a year before we got together.
I believed him and forgave him. We moved out of that town and worked on rebuilding trust. Two weeks ago, I woke up at 5:30 this morning in a panic. I had this sinking feeling like I needed to check his phone. When I did, I found very graphic texts messages to the same woman. This time, he’s telling her that he’s now single and ready to mingle and no longer in a relationship with that boring woman, (me). I woke him up and told him to leave.
He acted like he had no idea what was going on. I showed him the texts. He said nothing. Not one word. He’s gone for three weeks now without even apologizing for his actions and I feel heartbroken. What did I do to get this treatment from the man I married?
Ene writes from Apo Abuja
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Switty, a lot you have done wrong. For the mere fact that you have access to his phone, does not mean you should summarize what you have read to him. Moreso, I thought your focous should be how to better your home, and prove him wrong that your not the boring type has he claimed. Madam, go on your kneels and tell it all to God. wrong
research has shown that 95% of married men in the world cheats on their wife/partner
Am sorry to say this but its either this man does not love you or you are not giving him his sexual due as you supposed to. You guys need to work this out like two matured adults. Ask him wad he wants from you dat you not giving him. Maybe this sexting turns him on try doing it with him while his not around even when his at work so dat he will be in a hurry to get back to his wife. Try and explore new stuff in bed. Dont allow him to be doing everything or just lie like a log of wood when making love to him. Show him you enjoy wad his doing to you, Find out his weak points and do crazy stuff you have never done before with him. It ignites your lovelife.Treat him like your partner, lover, bestfriend and your world. With all these I doubt if he will still be interested in his ex. There is something missing in your relationship you need to find out and work on. Wish you all the best.
it is life my dear. men are what they are. you can never trust them. i have many heartbroken stories to tell while i was dating. please viewers do not judge me for that because you can never tell which story will knock on your history in life. the worst heartbroken one is the one i experienced two months after marrying my boyfriend of 4 years wonderful dating experience. unknown to me that he started dating a girl few months before our marriage. after marriage, i fortunately ran into their sms conversation on his phone. we quarreled about it and settled. only for my husband to come back after 2 months again to tell me she is pregnant. as i speak, they are expecting a set of twin. i feel your pain because i have been there. pray to God and follow what pleases your heart sis.that is life for you.the innocent suffers most times
Why checking his phone at the first place? 90 percent men cheat. Your husband is not the first. Just advice him to use condom when cheating.
I guess the husband too should remind his wife to cheat but use condom.
That’s the problem…I do respect your comments @ everyone but the truth is let’s call a spade,a spade and a shovel,a shovel…what d man did is so rong…from the look of things this MAN has no feeling for this lady…they must have had sex before there marriage she wasn’t boring then and suddenly she’s now boring…and to cap it all…how can you call you house wife boring to ur concubine daz rong…and for checking the phone is no big deal…they are one and notin shud be hidden…madam..dat guy na dog..jst going back to his vomit..if u still want him stay back but if u dnt..feel free to move ahead…you will not be boring to other men
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What the man did is totally wrong and unacceptable and so lets call it so. Rather than blaming the woman for no just course.
I rather remain single than being in a relationship of cheating, adultery, lies, unfaithfullness and distrust. That man is a dog as a commentator mentioned above, and as such, he can never settle down with one woman without gallivanting about.
I take a stroll…
From the above story, I think that guy is no longer interested in that relationship. He could have at least apologize. It seems he had been looking for a way to break up with you and he got the chance. Just move on with your life. By the time you meet a new man who will love you for who you are, you won’t even remember his name anymore.
A man is ready to paint d name of his wife black just to get what he wants from his concubine but if that’s not d case then I’d say some people don’t know d definition of marriage anymore like, they take it as a toy.
Of all d toys people could play with, it’s marriage they choose!??
Let’s stop encouraging this man pls, if he had his family in mind, then he would get rid of those msgs at least to show some respect before anyone finds out. As for d woman, if u ain’t ready to see d otherwise, then do not go through ur spouses fone. If u feel something is wrong, u create time and speak ur mind out in a more respectful manner.
There’s a saying that *All men cheat but if he respects u, u wouldn’t find out* but when a man is got d fear of God and respect for himself and family, he becomes excluded from the rest