My Boyfriend Has Sickle Cell Anemia Disease, I’m AA…What Should I Do?


my boyfriend has sickle cell anemia disease

Oct 17, 2016 – True Confession Of UK Based Naija Lady: I’m Madly In Love With A Sickle Cell Carrier

My best friend introduced me to her now ex-boyfriend’s brother during one of my trips home from schooling in the north. We got talking, exchanged numbers and I went back to school.

Communication was good and after a while, he finally told me how much he loved me, which I also affirmed that I felt the same way – until he stated that he could not be with me because he is a Sickle Cell carrier, which I had always known and that secondly he would love to marry a Muslim girl.

I should state here that I am AA and I am not necessarily a Christian but I believe in God and I believe in being kind to one another. I’m more of a free thinker. So according to him, he would not want to end up selfish by tagging me along.

It was a very hard conversation to have but we did and just decided to still remain mutual platonic friends. I really feel bad about it though because I’m still hopelessly in love with him. I never stopped loving him even after we broke up. I’ve dated a few men after but none to compare to him and I want us to get back together but I he’s being reluctant.

Please what do you think I should do?

Tolulope, Kent UK

10 thoughts on “My Boyfriend Has Sickle Cell Anemia Disease, I’m AA…What Should I Do?

  1. My dear tbh ur suituation isnt all too bad as long as u are positive u r Aa
    Were u not tayght yhe sickle cell diagram in school
    The worst case scenario is that your kids would all be AS meaning they would be carriers of the suckle cell gene.. mind you it doesn’t mean they would have sickle cell .. they would just carry it n need to be careful in the fute when meeting their soouses
    Try and talk to him and explain it to him
    Know your genotype before you say yes to that handsome guy or to that beautiful lady whom you wish to spend the rest of your life with…
    Genotype & It’s Appropriate Suitor:
    AA + AA = Excellent
    AA + AS = Good
    AA + SS = Fair
    AS + AS = Bad
    AS + SS = Very Bad
    SS + SS = Extremely Bad (In fact, don’t try it)


    What’s Your Type and how common is it?

    O+ 1 in 3 37.4%
    (Most common)

    A+ 1 in 3 35.7%

    B+ 1 in 12 8.5%

    AB+ 1 in 29 3.4%

    O- 1 in 15 6.6%

    A- 1 in 16 6.3%

    B- 1 in 67 1.5%

    AB- 1 in 167 .6%

    Compatible Blood Types

    O- can receive O-

    O+ can receive O+, O-

    A- can receive A-, O-

    A+ can receive A+, A-, O+, O-

    B- can receive B-, O-

    B+ can receive B+, B-, O+, O-

    AB- can receive AB-, B-, A-, O-

    AB+ can receive AB+, AB-, B+, B-, A+, A-, O+, O-

  2. @Tob thank you for the analysis. Furthermore, whatever decision you might have to take, put your unborn kids into consideration.

  3. take him to Church, I’ve seen couple of people that was heal of such sickness. I know most of you don’t believe genuine men of God’s, but here are some, TB Joshua Ikotun Lagos, Liberation City Beger Ikeja (Doctor Chris Okafor) Mercy Land Jeremiah Omotofufeyin in Warri. with God all things are possible.

  4. The guy does not love you soooooooo WALK !!!
    As you can see from the information @Tob, getting information would have told him your chances of having healthy children are good. Since it is your boyfriend’s blood group that presents the concern, if he had wanted your relationship to lead to marriage he would have been thankful that you are of AA blood group rather than give excuses. Also, his expression of intention to marry a girl of particular religious faith is a serious decision and likely to cause more problem for you in future if you won’t convert to that faith. It is even significant that he is not encouraging you to convert but only informs you he will marry a Muslim girl. Those excuses are his way of telling you he is not ready to marry you, but he does not want to bluntly tell you NO .
    Accept the decision and move on. Someone who will love you as you are will come along if YOU give it a chance.”…. And you won’t have to climb mountain to keep that relationship.!!! Move on and best of luck to you!

  5. @big aunty koks dont say that he probably really loves her .. and he cares too much for her to let her go through marrying someone with sickle cell, trust me its not easy at all, in foreign countries for example the uk they get treated well and you would not know there are people with sickle cell, but whereas in nigeria, the person would defined ne known with the lack of treatments in that country, so he probably doesn’t want to put her through all the stress, but in other ways he should think about his future amd his kids , as she is AA its a good chance amd all their kids would be AS so its not too bad , knowing sickle is a death sentence ticking slowly..
    May God help Us
    Thanks everyone for the comments

  6. Love is not just enough in a rlshp to move forward, there are far more important things we need to look at.
    Not all rlshps should lead to marriage like this case for an e.g, if ur genotype doesn’t match at all, my sister pls pity ur unborn children and use ur head. Pls stand in love @this point cos if u fall in love, anything that falls get broken.

  7. He has made your life easier by telling you bluntly he wants to marry a Muslim girl. He is already a liability, carrying the sickle cell blood type. You don’t have to feel guilty, just move on with your life. Your blood type can marry any type, technically. Your children will not carry the full-blown sickle cell disease if you marry this guy, but do you want to become a widow and your children fatherless at an early age? They normally don’t live beyond their 40s and are very vulnerable to diseases, particularly malaria. Good luck as you move on and find a less of a liability life partner. Reality trumps love these days. Why spend valuable time, money and energy on preventable illness?

  8. There is nothing wrong in marrying an SS. It is even better you are AA.
    SS carriers are doing great now, the only problem is Nige with mosquitoes. My daughter is SS, 10 years now, if you see her, you will never know she has the disease, she is doing great, no more pain crises.The truth is, we are in US, she’s on Hydroxyurea, the medication helps to produce round red cells in the bone marrow, so the cells does not sickle anymore. Sickle cell disease in America is well managed. I have seen people on the medications for over thirty years, and still waxing strong, no known side effects yet.
    Since your boyfriend lives in UK, there’s a lot of prospects to good life.
    If your heart tells you to marry him, there’s no problem. God will help.

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