June 27, 2016 – I’m Under Pressure To Marry A 2nd Wife Because My Wife Can’t Conceive, I’m So Confused
Myself and my wife are unable to have children and it’s affecting our relationship.
Realizing you’re not able to have children can feel like a cruel, unexpected blow.
Facing this problem can be devastating and is often extremely isolating. Events like christenings and weddings can feel like cruel reminders of your situation. You may find yourself becoming jealous towards friends and family members who are able to have children.
And the notion of disappointing parents and parents-in-law who were looking forward to becoming grandparents can leave you feeling stigmatised, as if you’ve failed as a couple.
For me as the man of the house, it’s a worse feeling because, I’m under pressure to take another wife as my mother says she wants to see her grandchildren from me before she dies.
I love my wife but this situation is putting strains in our marriage relationship and I honestly don’t know the best way to handle it.
I’m so confused!
Emeka writes from Maitama.