Joke Silva List Keys To Marriage Success, Says She Has Bad Temper

Published on April 6, 2017

April 6, 2017 – Joke Silva List Keys To Marriage Success, Says She Has Bad Temper

Joke Silva recently talked to The Entertainer about her 32 years of marriage and how grace has kept her and her hubby, Olu Jacobs going all this while.

Here is what she said:

People say marriages are breaking here and there, fine. But the reason marriages are breaking up in Nollywood is because we are out there in the public domain.
There are so many marriages breaking up among lawyers, bankers and doctors, and when you compare that to the number of marriages breaking up in Nollywood, you find that it is a very small percentage. The fact is that social media is now our reality and it is having a lot of effect on the industry.
So, when people say to me, ‘what advise are you giving younger people?’ The issue is that if someone is experiencing violence, male or female, leave the marriage.
Leave it because when you die the other person continues living. For me, whether the abuse is emotional or physical, please leave; and let each party get counseling, then you can come back together if counseling works, but if not, don’t come back.
So, when people talk about ‘advice’ I don’t know what advice to give because I am not walking with their shoes, honestly.

You tell somebody ‘have patience.’ What if that person has been having patience, patience and patience? Did I have patience in mine? Yes.

Did I lose my temper? Actually, I think my son will say that I have a very short fuse.

So, I think what is key to any marriage is grace.

Pray for the Lord to be the third person in your marriage.

Pray for his grace to have wisdom, staying power, grace to have listening anointing. It is not just listening to what is being said but to everything, the body language, the way things are said. The grace to have respect for each other is key.
The grace to want to have what is best for your partner is important. If you want your partner to succeed, if that is your focus, then you too will succeed.
And it is a two-way traffic. It is not the woman continuously wanting the husband to succeed or the husband wanting the wife to succeed alone; it has to be simultaneous. If the two of you are working together, the sky is the limit.

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5 Comments

Bench
April 6, 2017 at 6:22 AM
This woman is dey fine o. She fine pass away Kate Henshon. Kate Henshon have old pass away Mama G. High tenshon have enter Kate Henshon for face. It come de shock her face and make am old. But look at Joke Silva. She is be like lollipop wey I fit lick if they give me o.
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fifelomo
April 6, 2017 at 6:39 AM
Mum J, his Grace willnt depart from you. All the very best ma’am.
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froshie
April 6, 2017 at 9:06 AM
Tnx for that piece ma’am
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BAMIDELE
April 6, 2017 at 1:03 PM
Joke Silva, you have lived with your bad temper all your life without qualm, your husband Olu Jacobs tolerated your anger problems cos he sees in you not befitting his old age hense his intolerable tolerance on you, dare try that anger on a younger age of a husband and you’ll realise you could only be a woman but not a wife let alone a mother. No wonder at your age your children are still in their teens. And you don’t realise all the follys. Pls. you had better kept quite before you destroy the young ones hoping to make resposible wives to others. You even once said you don’t have time cooking for Olu Jacob, Uh! even Alakija with her billions still cook for her husband. You are just a bad example to womenfolks out there PERIOD.
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CHIKA
April 6, 2017 at 7:29 PM
ONLY THE GRACE OF GOD KEEPS ANY MARRIAGE, NOT THE DOINGS OF ANYBODY.
MARRIAGE IS AN INSTITUTION ORDAINED BY GOD.
DEVIL IS AT WORK AGAINST ANY INSTITUTION OF GOD, JUST LIKE THE CHURCH OF GOD.
SO IT IS NOT THE DOING OF ANY HUMAN BEING BUT THE PERFECTION, THE GRACE AND THE LOVING KINDNESS OF ALMIGHTY GOD IN THE HIGHEST.
J SILVA IS A BIT CONFUSED, SHE AT THE BEGINNING MENTIONED GRACE. BUT LATER ON TALKNG THAT SHE MADE IT POSSIBLE.
MAY GOD ALMIGHTY GIVE US THE GRACE, THE WISDOM AND FULL SUPPORT TO HAVE A PERFECT MARRIAGE IN JESUS NAME.
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