September 25, 2016 – My Boyfriend Of 9 Months Is Afraid Of Commitment, Should I Dump Him Or Stay?
I’ve been seeing a guy for nine months now but we are not exactly boyfriend and girlfriend.
Throughout these months, I’ve really battled with doubt, confusion and worried over this situation. He said he’s scared of commitment and not sure if I’ll be the same person once we make it official. He feels like he’s only barely scratched the surface when it comes to knowing me.
He wants to see more sides to me than just the ‘nice Christian girl’ but I don’t feel comfortable sharing pieces of my heart with him without commitment. That could mean being too emotionally attached to him. His other excuse is that he’s not financially stable yet for a serious commitment.
He’s asked me to give him more time but I’m not sure if that’s what I want to do. Actually, I’m not sure if I should break it off or keep seeing him. I’ve really tried to understand where he is coming from and part of me thinks maybe I should be more patient and understanding?
He’s a good guy but if I wait for him, that’s a risk as well and a woman’s biological clock does not wait for anybody. Things have progressed very slowly for us in the past nine months and I feel like he’s pursuing me with minimal effort. Should I continue?
[Abosede writes from Magodo]