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Nigerian Men Treat Foreign Women, Wives Better In Marriage Than They Would Treat Fellow Nigerian Women

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Nigerian Men Are More Romantic When They Marry Foreigners, They Treat Them Better Than They Would Treat Fellow Nigerian Women

Here is an interesting input by a commentator on how Nigerian treat foreign wives better than their fellow Nigerian women.

“When Nigerian men marry a foreigner (African American, Caucasian etc), they tend to treat them better than they would treat a fellow Nigerian woman. With a foreigner, Nigerian men are more loving, romantic and attentive. They call them baby, honey, darling, sweetie etc. The Nigerian woman is called nwanyia, mama Nkechi, nwokem, enyi, mama olu etc. Not sure why but I hope someday, they would realize that …”

By @ Star  via  Why Nigerian Men Date But Don’t Marry African American Women.

Photos of some Nigerian men married to foreigners

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Do you agree with the above comment.



  1. Fatimah

    November 28, 2018 at 9:14 PM

    I agree with the comment. They don’t just treat foreign wives special, they worship them
    It is unfair and shows how hypocritical some Nigerian men are.
    it is very common in Baltimore Maryland

    • Lara

      November 29, 2018 at 12:56 AM

      This is very true. Nigerian men in Baltimore are the worst. They treat the most raggedy, useless Akatas like queens and have the nerve to say they can’t date their fellow Nigerians. The ones who date I yin o are even more annoying. They will date any oyinbo. Even one that resembles their ancestor and parade her like a goddess. Very hilarious!

  2. Kehinde Akilapa

    November 28, 2018 at 9:20 PM

    mama nkechi and mama olu name cracked d hell out of me.
    When you think of it, it is very true. It is just the way African men are wired. It is low self image issue

  3. Joyful Amaka

    November 28, 2018 at 10:43 PM

    It is true they are mostly afraid of the foreign women. That is al I know about them

  4. Jacob Flow

    November 28, 2018 at 11:59 PM

    Well, what do expect them to call the foreign wives? Mama Jennifer, Iya Cassandra or Nwa Roshanda.. There is a saying that goes, when you are in Rome you act like a Roman and not like an Egyptian. The pet names you call your spouse/girlfriend don’t depict love. Its how you treat, respect, adore her.
    You cant in no way compare the outstanding Nigerian female characteristics with the foreign ladies (no disrespect please). But remember that every cloud has its own silver lining. We all have our short comings. But the issue is that we fail to understand the real difference between a man and woman. Take for example.
    Men….Logical Beings , while a woman are emotional beings. A woman never tells you what she his thinking, she only tells you what she is feeling (emotion). While a man never tell you what he his feeling, but tells you what he his thinking (Logical Beings) reason why we have a huge clash with both sex because they think they listening to each other. You cannot compare life and death. The word Marriage doesn’t exit in most western world. Reason why most we have Beta males in America today as a result of single parent hood. In most western world a woman will make you or break you. We are the product of our society. Its will interest you to know that Have Alpha Males in Nigeria, I will digress a little bit but I need to let you know how it what is on here in the western world of today, most male are Beta males, Because of single parent hood. I tell who ever cares to listen that a woman CANNOT be a mother and a father to a boy. Nor can she raise a boy to become a man. Only a man can teach a man how to be a Real Man.” Here is a summary of his analyses and observations. (Some points assume the father can, would, and should be in his son’s life, which isn’t always the case. Read the full article here.)
    1. Speaking negatively about their father. The boy grows up doubting himself. They think that there’s something wrong with them.
    2. Saying negative things about men. This makes little boys afraid of embracing their masculinity and their male identity.
    3. Teaching their sons to disrespect their fathers’ authority. Boys growing up to disrespect of their fathers have no respect for all other men in society.
    4. Teaching their sons to disrespect male authority and male authority figures. This is why many boys who come from single parent homes have a hard time adjusting to the real world.
    5. Projecting anger at the father onto the son. These emotionally abusive blows knock boys down for the count emotionally before they even get up to become men.
    6. Not allowing their father to see them. Boys need that relationship with their father to gain a sense of themselves and to understand their masculinity and male identity.
    7. Bringing in substitutes for a father. Oftentimes he winds up just as overwhelmed and frustrated as the single mother is because he has no understanding of the family’s history or the previous history of the child.
    8. Coddling their sons. Their sons never grow up learning they have to take responsibility for their actions.
    9. Inconsistent discipline. Boys never learn that for every action there will be the same reaction every time.
    10. Teaching boys to be emotional. This loss of self-control can cause him to be seen as weak by other men and make him a target for the abuses of both predatory men and women.
    11. Not teaching their sons what boundaries are. They don’t know when they’ve gone TOO FAR. They violate people’s personal space. And they can’t take NO for an answer.
    12. Not teaching their sons coping skills. When things like rejection, failure and loss come into their lives they don’t grieve, hurt for a while and move on like Real Men do.
    13. Establishing a co-dependent relationship. They use their sons to get their emotional and other needs met it literally sucks the life out of these boys, preventing them from growing up to become healthy, functional men who can have a relationship with women his own age.
    14. Smothering. All it leads to is him growing up dependent on women for his existence.
    15. Bullying. Single mothers often use threats, intimidation and verbal abuse to control their sons because they become frustrated when they act in masculine ways they don’t understand.
    16. Trying to run his life. Boys have grow up and learn how to do things for themselves if they’re going to survive out there.
    17. Thinking she can raise a man be a man on her terms. There are only some lessons a man can teach a boy about life, and women need to understand this.
    18. Trying to turn their sons into “Perfect” people. Boys who grow up to become men who are afraid of taking risks. Men who are always playing it safe. Men who are nothing more than cowards.
    19. Not encouraging them or supporting them in their quest to become independent men. without that boy to maintain that co-dependent relationship with them, they’ll wither away and die pathetic lonely women. Or worse, they fear that their sons will find out the TRUTH regarding the relationship between her and his father.
    20. Not encouraging boys to embrace their masculinity. By emasculating him and destroying his masculinity and male identity, she hopes to get back at that man who she thinks did her wrong.
    21. Not encouraging boys to embrace their sexuality. there was nothing wrong with sex. There was just something wrong with the way she had relationships with men that led to her having bad experiences.
    22. Misleading boys about Male/female relationships. The Single mother may want a man who is their friend after her failed relationships with men. But younger women who are functional and want a good relationship DO NOT want their man to be their best friend.
    23. Telling boys that all women are whores. The goal of this shaming language is to make the boy back away from a possibly healthy relationship with a woman outside of her and continue maintaining a co-dependent relationship they have with each other.
    24. Sabotaging his relationships with women. Single mothers hate their sons having girlfriends because they fear that as he gets closer to this woman, he’ll start establishing healthy boundaries that will sever the emotional hose they have hooked up to them.
    With that being said, Its not a verified fact that Nigerian Men treat foreign women better than their Nigerian counterpart.

    • Sulemanu Ibrahimq

      November 30, 2018 at 4:33 AM

      That,s throat constructive response from all angles kudos to you my brother ,you are gem and gifted. However will leave my email address of you wouldn’t mind to copy your text t9 me I will truly appreciate. Thanks.

    • Gene

      December 29, 2018 at 2:23 PM

      Go air your greviences somewhere else…you lost me after the first two lines..really

  5. iron bar

    November 29, 2018 at 12:18 AM

    With little exceptions,most atimes is all about resident papers(green card,citizenship) loyalty..they will do anything to please them.otherwise water go pass garri..But in otherwords ,most of our men degrade their wives with no atom of love or respect.

  6. DB

    November 29, 2018 at 10:24 AM

    Not just in marriage. Nigerians generally treat foreigners, especially whites and Asians like lords

  7. Rwale

    November 29, 2018 at 12:14 PM

    Absolutely True.They shake for oyibo Too much.But what do you expect overfamilarity breeds no respect.
    As Mothers and aunties we need to teach our sons on how to respect women because that is actually where this inseurity begins.

  8. uzoma

    November 29, 2018 at 3:10 PM

    There will be no ending to this debate but the truth is that there are some elements of truth to both sides of the debate. While I prefer our Nigerian women to Oyibo or Akata or Asian etc, the foreign women have more respect and more loving for our men but the major flaw with them is that they are short fused especially the Whites. They are not in the relationship for life (most of them) while our Nigerian women are in it for life (majority of them). Our Nigerian women have razor sharp tongue that can cut through your heart when you have a misunderstanding. These foreign women are not like that. When you quarrel with your Nigerian wife or girlfriend she starts to starve you affection and intimacy (sex) whereas when you have a quarrel with your foreign wife or girlfriend especially “Akata”, it is intimacy and affection that brings you together and she in most cases initiates the move. Foreign women don’t keep grudges for long but the reverse is the case with our Nigerian women, they bear grudges for life. But to summarize it, all depends on luck.

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