Pastor Anita Changes Name, Says Chris Oyakhilome Abused Her

August 16, 2015 – Pastor Anita Changes Name To Maiden Name Ebhodaghe, Says Chris Oyakhilome Abused Her, Tells Women To Stop Being Afraid Of Change

Pastor Chris Oyakhilome’s estranged wife, Anita has changed her name. She is now bearing her maiden name, Anita Ebhodaghe.

Over a year after she divorced her husband over domestic abuse allegations, the beautiful mother of two has spoken.

She took to her website, PastorAnita.org  few days ago to share an inspirational piece with fans.

Hear her:

“It is my desire to reach out and inspire you especially if you feel vulnerable and in need of a change. I hope to inspire you to believe in yourself no matter the circumstances. I want to help you recreate your life going forward, so you can live beautifully. I have been through this journey of rediscovery and nothing is as beautiful as realising one’s uniqueness as I have done. Life is a precious however, your life can go through different seasons: winter, spring, summer or autumn. Life can hit you with financial loss, disappointments, death of a loved one, a broken relationship, loss of a job, a divorce, being falsely accused or being a victim of crime. These can shatter you to pieces but you can do something about it.

Life is a gift from God and you deserve to be happy irrespective of your age, race, gender, background or financial situation. I urge you to appreciate the gift you are, you are precious and valuable. Never lose sight of who you are; begin to create new visions and dreams for your life. Let nothing stop you from growing every day. My story is not one of a bed of roses, far from it but I had a choice to either beat myself over the regret of tolerating abuse for so long or put a stop to the abuse and recreate my life for the best. My journey was not in vain. I can now help others realise that their situation does not define them.

In order to move on with life, I have come to realise that nothing is permanent. Your problem is not permanent; you can do something to change it by ensuring you do not allow the situation or the person make your life miserable. Pain is a fact of life, it is inevitable but suffering is optional. You can do something to change the pain by over looking every obstacle, take control as a force of nature to grow and expand. Do what is necessary now to use the gift God has given you to unleash your purpose.

My message to all is simple: you have value therefore discover your potential. Do not allow anybody destroy you or rob you of living a joyful life. Your life is not wasted; you have just started a different phase of life. God will show you how to use your testimony to help others and restore their lives to exuberance. Please join me to encourage and inspire others. You have a story to tell, you can contribute and participate in the dialogues here. Let us all learn from one another’s experience and reach others with the gift of love and kindness. 

33 thoughts on “Pastor Anita Changes Name, Says Chris Oyakhilome Abused Her

  1. I rememba readn here dat diz 2 hav reconciled. I belivd it as far as sharing it 2a man who didnt hide his skepticism: he actually askd me about d certainty of d story & I boasted dat my source could neva hav it wrong. Wat den is dis?

  2. B4 A WOMAN OF GOD LIKE DIS , PASTORING SUCH A LARGE CONGREGATION WORLD-WIDE WILL RISE UP ONE DAY TO SAY SHE,S CHANGING TO HER MAIDEN NAME AND NO MORE INTERESTED IN D MARRIAGE OF SO MANY YRS , JUST KNOW THAT , THAT WOMAN HAS ENDURED TO INFINITY WITHOUT GAIN. MADAM,IF DIS IS D WILL OF GOD , GOD WILL SEE U THRU AND TAKE D GLORY AT D END .MR CHRIS ,YOU KNOW D GOSPEL TRUTH,DON,T TRY 2 CONVINCE PEOPLE WITH 2 MUCH SERMON , JUST DO D RIGHT THINGS B4 GOD AND TELL URSELF D TRUTH. EXPLAIN 2 NO MAN , JUST TELL URSELF D TRUTH .IT,S REALLY UNFORTUNATE THAT A RESPECTED PERSON AND BELIEVER LIKE YOU , CAN ALLOW DAUGHTERS OF JEZEBEL DO DIS TO UR ONCE CHERISHED MATRIMONY . WHERE CAN WISDOM BE FOUND ? MAY GOD ARISE AND HIS ENEMIES BE SCATHERED IJN.

  3. Yes when a marriage is not working out pls women take a walk out of it that does not make you a bad person,and don’t say becos of your children you want to die there what will be will be.i was once a victim but I ended up taking a walk.and am much more happier

  4. An abuse in marriage could be in the form of physical, verbal, or psychological. One of the major problem of Christianity today is excessive focus on outward appearance,in public we present a life devoid of fault and shortcomings. A critical look at our lives what one would see is a life of fraud, deceit, shortcomings and hypocrisy. As Christians we are given the assurance that old things have passed away, according to James 2:17 faith without works,is dead. For a Christian to experience the new life in Christ Jesus, one has to come to Him as he truly is and working by faith one becomes a new person. A new job, a new house, moving to a new city or country, a divorce, a new marriage as good as they may sound will not completely fix a man or a woman. We can only truly fix ourselves when we come to God just as we are and make ourselves willing and ready to work for the change we need by faith.

  5. Go back to ur husband is bad pray and God will touch him one day don’t allowed d devil to put anything in ur Marriage

  6. It is not very easy a situation like this, this is just an expression of courage. God help us. Am in a relationship of four years after i waited for her to be through school, but the parents said no to us proposal. And she abide by her parents. I no how much hut i feel, more less a marriage of my years.

  7. The kids are saying there is no truth in the story. A man of God left her marriage and now advocating for others to leave their marriage. There is more to this story. Where is the word of God in her life. She definately Know that her husband will not fight her in public debate. Its a complete shame.

  8. Whoever is a servant of God knows very well that God hates divorce. Seek and follow the will of the most high God.

  9. The Bible said it all”put not ur trust in man but God Almighty” & in all ur getting”get wisdom & understanding”
    Once u get married,death alone’s d only way to end it all abuse or not. D discoveries she made now should have been done long time ago b4 going in2 d marriage,so no matter what her reasons are presently,,,,she has failed God in that area unless she goes back 2 her matrimonial home.
    PiPple of her type due 2 self interest shud stop leading a great numba of others astray,,coz I knw she knws d gospel truth within hEr. After all,they usually say”I’ll serve God in evry situation’ but back out when it’s practical time.,!
    It’s childish,,either u r a true child of God who obeys Him completely in all aspect of His laws or u remain an unbeliever coz when a salt looses its taste where else can it get its saltiness?…God said we shud tell HIm our problems in prayer & then patiently wait for His answer,,.may b my dear Anita hasn’t seen this portion of the Bible!,,,

  10. Anita you have failed as a wife. No matter what your husband has done you can forgive him, or walk out of the marriage quietly as a good woman instead of misleading other women. It is under unfaithfulness that you can break out as written in the bible. I do not know what lead to this,but if it is unfaithfulness, the question is what prompted your husband to unfaithfulness, is it your lack of love, respect and understanding?. There is a saying that the heart of a man lies with his wife. check yourself properly and stop accusing

  11. Jay is either so drunk or is not thinking well….trying to push heavy load of blame on a wife if the husband is promiscous…. What do u think of urself… setting a name above God in ur heart! Even God as a husband calls out to His wives ( The Isralites) when they go astray. Is that what ur pastor is teaching u..maltreat ur wives, they are bound to stay wit u forever because they are christians! Am not talking about unruly wives but all of u xtian men who have maltreated women who are of good nature..God will arise and judge u with fire

  12. God bless you Pete. People who know Rev Anita testify of this woman’s great humility and loveliness. But She tolerated a great deal of emotional abuse from the man of God for too many years. (lets not even go over the dirty linen in public). If She dies out of frustration, the man of God will gladly marry again. Our Lord Jesus and the Apostle Paul specifically gave conditions for couples to be separated. And this marriage has long died.There is no marriage in heaven. God loves people individually. THE GOD we serve is the same one who will be a husband to Anita Ebhodaghe, since the man of God OBVIOUSLY DOES NOT LOVE HIS WIFE. As God commanded him to. OH! how pride and sycophants can destroy even the greatest of unions. We’re still praying. but for those of you who are judging her decision, GOD will judge you too bcos you have no mercy or love in you!

  13. She HAS NOT failed God. There are conditions the Lord Jesus and the Apostle Paul gave for couples to be seperated. Read ur bible pls! If She dies out of emotional abuse, the man of God will gladly remarry. God instructed the head, man, to love his wife and not abandon her on another continent while living and travelling wit unmarried sisters. After several attempts to come back and be a wife were refused,She demanded for her rights as his wife. instead,He practically humiliated this woman before his church. He never believed that the lovely and humble woman he married would EVER file for divorce. HE TOOK HER FOR GRANTED! WHO TREATS A WIFE THE WAY HE TREATED HER FOR 16 YEARS IN MARRIAGE? IS IT BCOS HER PARENTS ARE NT ALIVE? With the gross humiliation he put her thru, with pains she has walked away. So pls let no fool who has no conscience come here and talk rubbish.

  14. thanks Pete. She HAS NOT failed God. Stop that religious nonsense. Its very clear in scripture. There are conditions the Lord Jesus and the Apostle Paul gave for couples to be separated. Read ur bible pls! If She dies out of emotional abuse, the man of God will gladly remarry. God instructed the head, man, to love his wife and not abandon her on another continent while living and traveling wit unmarried sisters. After several attempts to come back and be a wife were refused,She demanded for her rights as his wife. instead,He practically humiliated this woman before his church. He never believed that the lovely and humble woman he married would EVER file for divorce. He believed She would continue to pretend to save her reputation. HE OBVIOUSLY TOOK HER FOR GRANTED! WHO TREATS A WIFE THE WAY HE TREATED HER FOR 16 YEARS IN MARRIAGE? IS IT BCOS HER PARENTS ARE NT ALIVE? With the gross humiliation he put her thru, with pains she has walked away. So pls let no fool who has no conscience come here and talk rubbish.

  15. Pastor Anita Ebodaghe, the joy of the Lord is your strength. You are a humble and kind woman full of God’s love. I once worked in church office at Oregun. Our heavenly Father loves and prices you highly as the apple of His eyes. Do not bother with those who judge you because they do not know what you have been through all these years. Nothing is hidden before God. Agape-Shalom.

  16. Pastor chris has some corrections to make. He ain’t perfect cos he’s not God. I used to love this man but his unwise explanation to masturbation has taken away the love – A man who claims to know the Bible. Pastor Anita, Culdoes! And continue to seek the face of God.

  17. plsreason, u av said it all. Only foolish people will judge her. Dont forget most Nigerians and church goers are illiterATE. They dont even know their bible. They fear and worship the pastors. Pastor Anita did the righf thing for her sanity. God will not ask her about Pastor Chris on judgement day. She will. account for the good or evil things she did on earth. THERE IS. NO MARRIAGE IN HEAVEN. Shalom. Shikena. Finito. Fini

  18. plsreason u av said it all. only foolish people will judge her. Pastor Anita did the righ thing for her sanity. Most Nigerians and church goers are illiterATE. They dont even know their bible. they fear and worship the pastors. God will not ask her about Pastor Chris on judgement day. She will only account for the good or evil things she did on earth. THERE IS NO MARRIAGE IN HEAVEN. shalom. shikena. finito. fini.

  19. People.Have you forgotten that Pastor Anita was a wife to a founder of a church?She married pastor Chris a long time ago and got to know the responsibilities that Pastor has in church many many years ago.Why did she wait this long for her to start complaining?Pastor Chris handles a lot of programmes in the ministry and that makes him not to be available like that at home(which is not something new to her).She knew she was getting married to a man dedicated to doing things for God and therefore she cannot just start complaini ng about that.My point is,you can’t marry a doctor then later complain he is always not at home at night,when you knew that doctors have times of working night shift.Pastor Chris handles many programmes,and before any programme holds, sometimes he has to pray and fast.From this you wil see that it is not just any woman who can be able to take that,so I blame Pastor Anita for knowingly taking that position then later start complaining.She was supposed to refuse from the onset so pastor can take another wife who is willing to take the responsibility.Another thing we have to know now is that,as much as other people are saying it is good she left,you have to consider the souls who have been affected by her decision.Whether we clothe it or not,it is a fact that she will account for her decision for the souls that have been affected.A lot of God’s work was affected by what she did.As much as there is no marriage in heaven but the bible says we have to put the kingdom of God first.Life is spiritual,therefore we can’t just casualise everything we do.Now,assuming Pastor Anita was right with what she did,does she have to recruit other women to leave their husbands?This is a Pastor we are taljking about!What does the bible that she reads say about what she is doing?She must not allow the devil to deceive her into losing all her hard earned rewards accumulated all these years.

  20. Batabile, do you realise how unreasonable your comment is ?
    It is unbelievable!!!
    THIS EXCUSE OF MINISTRY BUSYNESS CANNOT HOLD IN THIS CASE!
    If you read your bible, you will know that seperation of couples was highly discouraged.
    Is Pastor the only man of God with a busy schedule?
    Her divorce papers clearly states that for the last 16 years of their marriage, She never spent up to 1 week with him.
    This woman endured biko!
    Pple just want to talk rubbish!!!
    Are there no times he rests?
    Does he minister 24/7 ?
    Who does he spend such time with?
    If the female pastors on his staff literally take care of him when he is not ministering, IS THE ROLE OF A WIFE NOT BEING TAMPERED WITH?
    She endured this arrangement & obediently served him for 16 years in the United Kingdom as a regional pastor and the ministry’s director of the intl office. And She was very successful.
    BUT SHE IS A WOMAN & A WIFE.
    After several years of pleading & praying, she tried negotiation, elders etc.
    Nothing worked.
    She insisted on things to change to save the marriage, Oga no gree.
    You think she’s a fool.
    When there is nothing to fight for, biko leave with your joy & sanity intact.
    At a time,even Sarah demanded for hagar to be sent packing. Abraham refused but God told him “Listen to your wife”
    How come pple are so gullible?
    What do you mean by “I blame Pastor Anita”
    WAS THIS MARRIAGE SCRIPTURALLY OK. WAS IT EVEN A MARRIAGE.
    Ignorance is not an excuse to come and blame anybody.
    God will take care of both of them. They are His.

  21. Batabile, do you realise how unreasonable your comment is ?
    It is unbelievable!!!
    THIS EXCUSE OF MINISTRY BUSYNESS CANNOT HOLD IN THIS CASE!
    If you read your bible, you will know that seperation of couples was highly discouraged.
    Is Pastor the only man of God with a busy schedule?
    Her divorce papers clearly states that for the last 16 years of their marriage, She never spent up to 1 week with him.
    This woman endured biko!
    Pple just want to talk rubbish!!!
    Are there no times he rests?
    Does he minister 24/7 ?
    Who does he spend such time with?
    If the female pastors on his staff literally take care of him when he is not ministering, IS THE ROLE OF A WIFE NOT BEING TAMPERED WITH?
    She endured this arrangement & obediently served him for 16 years in the United Kingdom as a regional pastor and the ministry’s director of the intl office. And She was very successful.
    BUT SHE IS A WOMAN & A WIFE.
    After several years of pleading & praying, she tried negotiation, elders etc.
    Nothing worked.
    She insisted on things to change to save the marriage, Oga no gree.
    You think she’s a fool.
    When there is nothing to fight for, biko leave with your joy & sanity intact.
    At a time,even Sarah demanded for hagar to be sent packing. Abraham refused but God told him “Listen to your wife”
    How come pple are so gullible?
    What do you mean by “I blame Pastor Anita”
    WAS THIS MARRIAGE SCRIPTURALLY OK. WAS IT EVEN A MARRIAGE.
    Ignorance is not an excuse to come and blame anybody.
    God will take care of both of them. They are His.

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