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“Pastor Chris Oyakhilome Disrespected Wife, Rev Anita During Sermon” – Church Member Raises Concern

Sept 13, 2014 – “Stop Disrespecting Rev Anita During Sermon” – Christ Embassy Church Member Writes Pastor Chris Oyakhilome

“Pastor Chris Oyakhilome Disrespecting Wife, Rev Anita During Sermon” – Church Member Raises Concern

An official Facebook page that initially informed the public about Pastor Chris Oyakhilome’s marriage crash recently received an open letter from an anonymous member of the Christ Embassy’s Executive Council.

The anonymous CEC member raised concerns about Pastor Chris’s open response to his divorce saga during the last communion service where he talked at length about his wife and used some ‘filthy’ words least expected from him.

The open letter reads:

“First, I apologize to anyone who may be offended by this letter which I have addressed to my close CEC brethren. I am the last person to write against Pst Chris in the public because I have been blessed by God through his teachings. However, after several weeks of silence on the divorce saga, I am glad Pst Chris finally spoke about it during the monthly global communion yesterday.

I am very concerned about the way this issue is being handled since inception more than what actually happened. If anyone presents concrete evidence to back the adultery allegations against Pst Chris, I will be one of the first few people who would find a place in my heart to forgive him for two mains reasons:

(1) He is not God, but human being like everyone; (2) for his unprecedented contributions to the body Christ, especially through his teachings.

Outlined below are 7 major concerns from Pst Chris’ response:
1) “Pray for Rev. Anita.” Is Pst. Chris insinuating that Pst. Anita is the problem, hence, she needs prayers? Even if she is the problem, it is very wrong to make ridicule of your spouse in public. I think the whole family (father, mother, children and relatives) are directly affected by this saga. I expect him to ask CEC members to pray for his entire family and not his wife only. From all indication, I think Pst Chris needs prayers more than anyone else. This is a display of arrogance and pride, which ultimately leads to destruction.

2) “If you study the scriptures, you will not find one man of God go against God, sinning against God.” I respect Pst Chris as a good teacher. However, I think there are several men of God who sinned against God as recorded in the Bible. Even David (a man after God’s heart) confessed to Nathan in 2 Sam 12:13 “I have sinned against the LORD.” Nathan replied, “Yes, but the LORD has forgiven you, and you won’t die for this sin.” Other examples are Adam (Roman 5:12-21), Saul (1Sam 15:24), Jeremiah (Jeremiah 3:25), Daniel (Dan 9:8), Micah (Micah 7:9), Peter (Matt 26:74-75), etc.

3)”crazy and stupid allegations….silly” I have known and followed Pst Chris for several years. I have known him to be very cultured, gentle, and someone who knows his audience. I was surprised he used such filthy words while addressing his members on the issue yesterday. I think these are distinguished characteristics of is angered, frustrated and nonchalant.

4) “If you are married to a man of God, it doesn’t make you automatically mature……But some people expect the wife of a minister to definitely be at the level of that minister and so they may be looked upon and the expectation may be like that, but it’s a positional thing. If a man of God is married, it doesn’t automatically mean that the wife of a man of God is therefore a woman of God. That’s not the way it is in the Bible. That’s why you don’t really find the wives of men of God mentioned in the Bible. How many of them? Who was Peter’s wife, did you ever know her name? You never find that out. Who was John’s wife? Did you ever read the name? What about all the other Apostles? How many of their names are written in the Bible?”

I believe this was in line with the speech he gave during a meeting with Pastors and Deacons in the UK few months ago.
I believe there is no human relationship (including marriages) that doesn’t have its own challenges. I am surprised Pst. Chris could openly treat or regard his wife with contempt and disrespect. I wonder if this is the same Pst. Anita I know? Is this the woman that was highly regarded as “the grace of CEC?” Is this the woman that was the Vice President of BLW until lately?

Is this the woman who raised two young girls on her own in the UK? Is this the same woman that adores her husband like no other? Is this the woman that moved from gym to library, library to school, school to pub, etc. to ensure CEC becomes what it is today in the UK and rest of EU? Is this the woman that planted several branches of CEC in Europe, USA and beyond? Is this the woman who established LoveWorld TV station in the UK and beyond? It seems to me like a dream. If Pst Anita can be brought so low like this by the power that be, who am I! I haven’t seen anyone among pastors in CEC that are as humble as Pst Anita. Likewise, I haven’t found anyone that truly loves Pst. Chris in words and action like Pst. Anita.

5) After Pst Chris finished his speech, I heard loud cheers both within the congregation I was seated and those who were with him on set. Notably was Pst Joy Amekhiena, raising her hands up in jubilation, praise and support. I was utterly shocked! She is supposed to be a wife, mother, pastor and close associate of Pst Anita. Now Pst. Anita suddenly became a bad person! I am really disappointed.

6) What was the reason CEC regional pastors were assembled and showcased to the whole world yesterday. We have witnessed several global communion services, but this last one was different in quality and display. I believe the aim was to create perception in the minds of the general members that all is well. Hearing the testimonies from various pastors about their achievements in the month of August, almost made me cry. Some of the information presented by the pastors were misleading. Most notably was Pst Uche Onubogu (Bermondsey, London), where he stated that his zone won 10,000 souls through ROR distribution. I immediately sent a text message to my friend in his zone to confirm, he replied by saying “let that pastor dey lie to the whole world……how many members do we have in this zone?” From all indication, it is obvious Pst Chris, over the years, has surrounded himself with lots of sycophants, who act obsequiously for personal gain. This is dangerous for anyone who is a leader of an organization such as CEC.

7) I have seen lots of posts on social media reaffirming their love and support for Pst. Chris since yesterday. There is absolutely nothing wrong in doing that. However, do these people really think they love Pst Chris more than Pst Anita? Never! Remember this is his wife, mother of his two daughters, and Vice President of Central Executive Committees of BLW. It is obvious most people don’t really know this woman is. Her simplicity and gentility is exceptional and unparalleled.
I beseech you brethren to please continue to pray for Pst. Anita as instructed by Pst Chris. I know she is going through a lot as a wife, mother and leader. I can provide detailed factual record of the personal sacrifices she made for the CEC and her family. But each time I tried to put them down in writing, tears ran down my chin. Most importantly, let us continue to pray for the family, especially Pst Chris, as the anchor, foundation and leader. It is his calling to reflect the creative and cultivating nature of God. The inherent purpose and God’s original blueprint of all men is fatherhood. It is obvious the devil is up to something bigger – the body of Christ.
I believe CEC boat is being rocked to steer us in the right direction. If you are sincere, you will agree with me that we are drifting from the core values of Christ as a ministry. I am pained and saddened about this recent development! It is never too late……..
Finally, the Bible says, “To whom much is given much will be required.” I am only doing what Paul did to Peter (who was given great responsibility by Jesus Christ Himself) in Gal 2:14-21. When Paul saw that Peter’s actions were leading others astray he called out Peter in FRONT OF THEM ALL. My philosophy is private sin = private discipline; public sin = public discipline. See also 1 Timothy 5:19-21. I am not saying the allegations are true, however, the way the issue is being handled by our leaders is wrong.

God bless you.




  1. Dunni Akala

    September 13, 2014 at 9:43 PM

    It is wrong to disrespect the mother of your children
    He should have respect her just for the sake of the kids
    If he can say such openly, only God knows the kind of verbal abuse that woman will be going thru at home

  2. Patbest

    September 13, 2014 at 9:48 PM

    Thanks, your letter speaks of your sense of responsibility and maturity

  3. joy

    September 13, 2014 at 11:16 PM


  4. joy

    September 13, 2014 at 11:31 PM


  5. Ikegod

    September 14, 2014 at 7:42 AM

    4rm wat i read here let me make my 1st coment. The bible said dat he dat tinket he stand shud take heed les he fall. Self rightousnes kils mor dan eva. I hope Christ embasy nd its founda re readin d bibl propaly

  6. Foluke

    September 14, 2014 at 3:51 PM

    I hold Pastor Chris at high esteem as a man of God but with the ongoing saga about his family, I’m highly disappointed and sad. For God sake, think about your daughters! LOVE COVERS A MULTITUDE OF SIN…….FOR GOD SO LOVED…….THAT HE GAVE. This is the best time both of you should be stronger together to be able to help the children pull through teenage challenges and the feeling of insecurity. Please let go of your pride and let God ……for your immediate family and those of us across the globe who look up to you.

  7. sharton

    September 14, 2014 at 5:25 PM

    Good talk I think the whole family needs prayer not just Rev Anita alone I pray may God heal their marriage ijn amen.

  8. Yemi Adefolaju

    September 15, 2014 at 9:16 AM

    You are such a rare orator and i commend your write up, you have really thrown much light onto this issue, I am personally inspired and have even learnt one or more lessons from this ugly development.
    You have done your part to rebuild the fallen wall, you have done your part to bridge gap, you have done your part to settle the scores, you have done your part as a member with dignity in loyalty, and above all you have done your part to tell the truth. I only wish the man could take to your advice and make necessary amendments before it is too late. Let us not be novice to the fact that we are actually at the ENDTIME and RAPTURE is around the corner, what shall be our accountability before our Lord and Saviour, and what shall be His comment to us on that day. SHALOM.

  9. racheal

    September 16, 2014 at 6:24 AM

    i pray for pst anita as a member of the body of christ i hope the good lordwill give you courage to stand this test of time may the lord touch the heart of your husband so that he will not loses his family because of pride,he should look to up to people who have hecan see as a good example may the lord touch theheart of pst chris

  10. victor

    September 16, 2014 at 2:17 PM

    This dude just placed a baseless stories without knowing the meaning of what Pastor Chris actually meant..

    When he(pastor chris) said stupid allegations, he was referring to the press that was why he said he will sue them for carrying false news.

    God was with issac in the bible but was He(God) with the wife(issac’s wife)? No. That was why she did what she did.

    When pastor chris said pray for anita, its a very simple statement that one shouldn’t read meaning to.. Like he(pastor chris) didn’t say pastor anita has or had problem. Remember in the bible when Jesus Chris told peter you will deny me 3times but what did He(Jesus) said at the end? Jesus said I have prayed for you. Very simple. Did Jesus Chris said peter was the problem? No.
    What did apostle paul say to timothy? He said stir up the gift that is inside of you which is done through the laying on of hands by the elders. He said this to timothy because of the days ahead. And it was the elders in the church that did the prayers on timothy.

    The reason why he held the meeting with his men was just too very simple. In every gathering there are this group of people that the bible called the mighty men. This mighty men was been used to recognize the strong men of david that come rain or shine they will still stand by david and defend him anyday. Jesus Chris mighty men are His disciples, anytime Jesus Christ faces any problem or challenges He(Jesus Chris) will gather is disciples or mighty men, teach them and give them instructions.. This was what pastor Chris did.
    Pastor Chris didn’t want to hold any private meeting with his meeting men only. He(pastor Chris) wanted to carry everybody along on what’s going on. That was why He had to do what He did. Pastor Chris did what he did with open heart so everybody would hear what he knew.

    So, to the guy that made the above news… If you are a chris embassy member, then it means you are the group of egyptians that followed the children of isreal out of egypt I.e the group that the bible call the mismultitude, always waiting for little hole among the children of God to spit out your venom. You are that type that said to Moses “why have you brought us out of egypt to die”.

    My advise to you is to serve God and not man… And don’t speak bad against a man of God because you know nothing.. See what elijah did to those children, see what happened to the wife of david when he laughed at him, see what happened to that man that was crucified together with Christ how bird came to feast on his eyes for mocking Christ…

    Be careful oooooooo!!! Because any story involving a man of God requires prayer ooooo and not to debate or give your own opinions… Make out time to pray for every one.

    Thanks!!! Love ya all

    • s.o

      December 18, 2015 at 10:35 AM

      U ve said it all n i appreciate ur clearity on ds shows that u re rlly trained in the word of God, dt fellow shud ask for God’s frgvness i love my MOG.Thanks

  11. s.o

    December 18, 2015 at 11:01 AM

    firstly he said he ws writing against the man of God, pst Chris, secondly he said his ministry hs blessed him greatly well, Mariam and Ahron were closed to God, wen dy dear to judge Moses for wat dy think he did wrong, wat ws the end result, pls, sir, be careful.u said dt his ministry hs blessed u n ur family so, ds d best way to treat him by coming to social media for a debate for ur assumed man of God n pst.So, pst Joy and other snr psts re nw wrong for cheering the Man of God.May God for give u, bcos ds matter is too high for me n for u, everything in ds matter is in God’s hands.jst pray n watch, instead of embarrassin urself.

  12. P.Obi

    June 8, 2016 at 10:34 PM

    Rubbish. Who offered u coins o judas.You are not a C.E.C member.U re trying to paint a picture that the C.E.C is divided. Anybody who knows the structure of Christ Embassy would know that this dude is lying.If u are a C.E.C member u would call Pastor obi directly after the Communion service not a pastor under him.
    U said u have listened to Pastor but u haven’t bcos even in scriptures prophets have their style of communication.
    When Pastor Chris said pray for Rev Anita.The statement that preluded that clause is very important in the absence of which the meaning may be fragmented. What we all heard as we know Pastor was pray specially for her.
    Outlined here are 7 major points against Pastor Chris response. So u are mow a teacher
    Even a bible study teacher in Christ embassy can’t write this bundle of cooked up rubbish.

    I want to know which members of the central executive council u adressed this message to.
    It’s pathetic the ppl appealing to ur sincerity don’t know u are a paid agent.
    If u want to air u views on the matter as obvious from the concluding past of ur post, it’s okay if done with caution .
    You don’t have to claim u are a C.E.C member to get ppl buy in ur views.
    Why am a wasting my time attending to ur rubbish.
    Don’t let me place a course on u for blaspheming the C.E.C let alone Pastor Chris.

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