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Rev Anita Speaks: “I Divorced Pastor Chris Oyakhilome Bcos He Abandoned Me & Our Children”
Sept 7, 2014 – Rev Anita Speaks: “I Divorced Pastor Chris Oyakhilome Because He Abandoned Me & Our Children”
At last, the estranged wife of Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, the founder of Chris Embassy has spoken on why she ended her marriage.
Rev Anita Oyakhilome in a new statement said that she had been denied her right as a wife and her hubby has distanced himself from her and that she has no option than to call it quit.
There had been media reports that Anita decided to divorce Pastor Chris based on allegations of ‘adultery’ and ‘unreasonable behaviours’ but a copy of the court papers for the divorce process filed at the Principal Registry of the Family Division (PRFD) of the High Court of Justice in possession of THISDAY, revealed that she applied for “divorce on the ground that the marriage has broken down irretrievably.”
In her statement of case in support of petition at PRFD with number FD14001650, Pastor Anita however, accused her husband of having inappropriate relationship with some of his female staff members which many can liken to adultery.
According to the statement, “the wife has discussed with the husband his iappropriate relationship with some of his female staff members. She has explained that this has given her cause for concern. The husband has minimised her worries and taken no step to alleviate her grievances.”
The statement reads in part: “The wife submits that her marriage to the husband has irretrievably broken down and there is no hope of reconciliation. The wife will submit that it is the husband’s unreasonable behaviours which have led to this.
“The husband and the wife are both Pastors. The husband undertakes his work, in the main, in South Africa and Nigeria. The wife lives in the United Kingdom. The wife will say that they have lived separately for 16 years and over this time have drifted apart. The wife has come to realise that the husband will only visit the UK for annual church programmes that he holds rather than to be with this wife. The wife feels that he has been unavailable as a father to their children during their developing years.
“The wife feels that their marriage suffered under the pressure of their work. They would rarely spend time together due to the husband inavailability. Special occasions such as Christmas, Birthdays and family occasions and anniversaries past them by and their rarely spent any time together as a family as the husband was more devoted to his work than he was to them.
“The wife feels that she has been used to portray and enhance the husband’s image as a family man when the reality is that there is no existing relationship between them. She feels that she has been present for official functions simply for his convenience. On occasions she has been copied into his travel itinerary which has been given to him by his staff on a need to know basis.
“The wife has tried to discuss her concerns with the husband. He claims that she is carnal and he is insensitive to her feelings and her needs.”
“As a result of the husband’s attitude to their marriage, the wife will say that he is virtually not recognised as a married man in the ministry. His teachings and beliefs on marriage is that the husband is a master and a controller and the wife will say that his concept of biblical; submission is so extreme that it is impossible for her to meet his expectations. She feels humiliated by the way he treats her in the presence of his close female staff members and she feels that she has been taken for granted which has become unbearably stressful for her.
“The wife will say that the relationship with the husband is non-existent to the point that his itinerary which was announced publicly at the beginning of the year had no provision for time with his family. His staff members who travel with him organise both his personal and professional life without any input from her. The wife will say that she is treated with disregard almost like akin to an intruder.
“The wife feels that she has been mentally, physically and emotionally deprived of the experience of a marital relationship. She feels that the husband has persistently judged her and his communication with her has been unduly harsh. The wife knows that he was hard to please and has been extremely critical.
Hmmmm, Rev Anita must have passed through a lot… 16 years of separation is a bit too long. No wonder she suddenly snapped.
Please remember Pastor Chris & Anita in your prayers.
Chi Ada
September 7, 2014 at 4:49 AM
As a member of Christ Embassy myself I have refrained from commenting all this while but this one troubles me.
Please Pastor Chris is you are reading this make amend, why are you depriving rev anita her right.
Natasha williams
September 7, 2014 at 5:07 AM
It is time for all you CEC members to start serious prayer
what is happening to pastor chris is deeply spiritual, those female staffs are seducing him now they have broken his marriage. God please take control take heart Anita
alapomeji
September 7, 2014 at 7:25 AM
God should take control of their lifes….
Julius
September 7, 2014 at 5:38 AM
Let’s nt rush into conclusn.we hv all heard frm Anita.Let’s wait 4 Chris.He wil definitely clear d air.GOD help them.
Linda
September 7, 2014 at 6:19 AM
This is very bad although the judgement of any man of God is not in the hand of man but excuse this thing is getting out of hand I pray for quick reconciliaton in Jesus name.Secondly,a lot of pastors wife are suffering same plight dis days I don’t knopw why d so call pastors forget their home as the first ministry with no or less regard for their wives guess its one of devils strategy in destroying homes cos personally av been suffering same plight which atimes after praying I just feel something is missing in my life despite my commitment to Gods work but my spouse see no reason in home affairs but everything about him is church church and it has affected me tremendously.we are all humans plz men(CLERGY) should plz remember their home is the first than causing their wife to die in silence cos if the wife talks they sees the wife as enemy of progress or wether he does not want the best for the ministry.GoD help us ooo its nnot easy at all cos I could feel Rev Anita pains.God is ur strength ma take heart love u we won’t miss it on the last day in Jesus name.AMEN
bezo
September 7, 2014 at 6:33 AM
Look at this liars, rev Anita: he is an Adulteral. Pastor chris: she has bad friends. Rev Anita: he abandon me and the children. Pastor chris: she has too much anger. Which one are we now going to believe, pastors lieing to the public not know they deceiving themselves. If it was to be synagogue you hear people posting nuisance comment. The FG should suspend that church for ten years.
burkina faso
September 7, 2014 at 7:07 AM
The devil came to steal, kill and destroy; but Jesus come that you have life and have it in abundance, says Jn10:10. God is still saying something in this ugly situation. I hope that He will restore the years the locust have destroyed in your family. God’s mercy is my prayer upon your family, amen.
Okoro JC
September 7, 2014 at 7:55 AM
Am i a bizybdy? Nah they sabi
*passing
Wani25
September 7, 2014 at 8:03 AM
The Woman Is Just Exposing Her Family Just Bcs Of Dem Say,No Matter Wat He Has Done,She Would Ve Forgive Him & Warn Him Not To Try Such Again & Threat Him Wit A Divorce,But Wat I See In Dis Matter Is Dat Rev Anita Is Jealous About D Ladies Staffs Dat Is Traveling Wit Her Husband Dats All,Well Let God Save D Marrige Shaa.
Joe
September 8, 2014 at 9:50 AM
Sir/Madam, we are talking about 16yrs; not 16days of deprivation, reasonable suspect without clarification. Maybe you need to read the passage over and over again, after that read 1cor7:1-5. Most times we do not follow thw bible we preach from. May God help them out.
adangnga
September 7, 2014 at 8:57 AM
So called pastor Chris, people worship you as God, you claimed to be man of God when you can not hold your family. What are you teaching others, to scatter their family? have you forgotten, the bible said your wife own your body and you must treat her with honor. Stop deceiving people with your false teaching. Go and amend your family first before amending other families. Remove rafter in your eye before you remove straw in others. Repent, repent, for God’s Kingdom is at hand.
wale
September 8, 2014 at 4:58 PM
you talk with your leg not with your brain at all.how can you say he left her 16yr. 2 yrs ago.pastor anita was around. New years eve the children were around. they even travel to india on a mission trip with their father. so stop saying what you dont kn.
tano
September 8, 2014 at 9:52 PM
You should not rush to condemn others who express disgust at what is happening. Pastor Chris should be able to bend over backwards to resolve these issues. For Starters, Christ embassy repeatedly separating families in the name of ministry is preaching perverted doctrines. All the scandals and adulterous allegations arise from these and it should stop. This issue will destroy this ministry if not addressed. All good people that love Christ embassy should pray that these doctrines of demons be reversed.
Dan
September 7, 2014 at 10:53 AM
Two people from different background come together for marriage. None should expect to get all their wishes, but a balance ought to be maintained. That is why it’s called a sacrifice. You cannot claim to Love someone you are far away from.
The Bible says ” Love your wife as Christ loves the Church” .
All Pastor Chris has to do is to rearrange himself and be a role model for homes that are about to break. Maybe God is using them to teach people how to bounce back from a failing marriage. Either move to UK or get your people to move to SA and spend quality time with them. Change out your staff if you have to,but do it gradually and smoothly.
I pray common sense and wisdom which only comes from God prevails in this matter. Amen.
ify
September 7, 2014 at 10:54 AM
I am praying for Rev Anita and her beautiful children at this difficult times that God will see them through. Women go through a lot before they finally snap.
JENGE
September 7, 2014 at 11:04 AM
why did Pastor Anita went as far as heading a church in London instead of being by her husband as a pastor’s wife. She is the cause of her problem. All in the bid to head a church…
Uzoma
September 7, 2014 at 11:12 AM
I do not blame the wife. Some of these pastors go to bed at will with some of their female church members. Pastor Chris is not an exception. Have somebody asked why he tranfer married church members away from attending the same church and sends them to far away churches? Is it not to create room for adultry and furnication?.
O'Nels
September 7, 2014 at 12:50 PM
Some people don’t even reason B4 passing judgment. they accused pst. Chris of adultery without proper investigation, from her statement now, she never said something like that. Meanwhile not all the information u read on the social media are true!
Ayeni
September 7, 2014 at 3:42 PM
Now av come to realise what this woman has been through.I thought she was just being overreactive before, especially on d adultery issue but it seems its more of neglect on d part of pastor Chris.
My mind tells me there can be a way out of d divorce case nd I take back my initial comment bout her cos I never knew d whole extent of her neglect.She has indeed been through a lot.
Pastor Chris can make ammends nd get back his wife.God can solve this problem too.
ugochi
September 7, 2014 at 3:44 PM
p.c pl take your wife to any journey or countries you are heading to. so that she will saw what you are doing without it this trouble will continue this is what you supposed to do anywhere i think your wife is right. there is a reason on her suspect.
Oshoga1
September 7, 2014 at 4:16 PM
This issue on ground needs prayer !And I pray also God ‘ll interve in dis issue .But as a matter of facts Ptr. Anita is on her right .
Suleiman
September 7, 2014 at 4:18 PM
What will happen to your followers ? For divorcing your wife because of your female workers and young girls seducing you in your church it is a big mess,it is a shame.The day of judgement Almighty God will have plenty of work to be done
Joe
September 8, 2014 at 10:01 AM
He created the universe in 7days;He examines, sees and listens distinctively to over 7billion people all at once. why will He find a lot of work doing-judging how many people? Have you been to a big occassion? Dignitories know their seats, drivers know where they should sit; security men know. Electroic doors will only ask you for password: “WHEN I SEE THE BLOO, I WILL PASS OVER YOU”, “ANYONE WHOSE NAME IS NOT IN THE BOOK OF LIFE WILL BE THROWN INTO THE LAKE OF FIRE-JUST A ROLL CALL AND JUDGEMENT IS OVER”. May God help them out.
sharton
September 7, 2014 at 6:54 PM
God pls reunite this couple ijn amen.
6woh
September 7, 2014 at 9:53 PM
Men learn frm dis.Pastor you too learn frm dis bc woman will surely behave like one.
Audrie
September 8, 2014 at 2:51 AM
So who has been helping her sexually in the last 5 years? her secret boyfriend I guess
Metu Nyetu
September 8, 2014 at 9:51 AM
Pastor Chris & Rev Anita both made their mistakes. Ur family shd com b4 ur church. If u fail in ur family, wat boldnes would u hav in ur church again? Separation is a devil’s weapon against huz&wyf, yet Pastor Chris & Rev Anita, afta preachn “Do nt b ignorant of d devices of d enemy”, stil fell 4dis.
Nife
September 8, 2014 at 10:59 AM
y r some pple always sayn nonsense…prolly dey dnt tink b4 dey tlk,it z wriiten in d bible n i quote “judge not dah u may nt b judged” lets b careful f wat we utte….smh
kelly
September 8, 2014 at 11:51 AM
What happen to 4beta 4worz! Y is 4givnez & endurance nt an option 2 Anita. 4 me der is mor 2 it & is like she wants her shear of d empire she help built
edith
September 8, 2014 at 12:07 PM
God, please help this family don’t let the devil to destroying there marriage IJN Amen
Konny
September 8, 2014 at 12:49 PM
Pastor Anita, the Bible commands you to summit to your husband.
Pastor Chris, the Bible commands you to love your wife just as Christ loves the church, that He gave His life to the church.
May His word find meaning in your lives in Jesus name
Networkbusy
September 8, 2014 at 1:06 PM
Nawa o,marriage is something carnal if l may say,after your spirituality. But why pastor chris should be over spiritual in his marriage,and be carnal in dealing with his female workers? I sense some fowl play in the life of pastor chris over anita. It might be as pastor anita hasn’t giving him male child that’ll inherit all his belongings,he’s now looking for another sharp corner to get a male child. I thought this might be a problem of pastor chris. But pastor anita have tried,16yrs is not a 16days of distance. This woman have seen hell in her marriage, it shall not be well with that person that satanic woman that’s deceiving pastor chris,theyby disorgnising anita’s home.
C williams
September 8, 2014 at 6:00 PM
To all of you who went as far as judging …..may the mercy of God speak on you behave. The very day you have problem you will hear from people things that are not true and other onfear comments from humans who are not broken …..plssss don’t judge ,the bible says if you judge and mork he will turn away his wraths from them to even your generation on born plssss beware
F.O.I.OLABODE
September 11, 2014 at 1:17 PM
The passage of scripture very clearly lays out how God feels about those who neglect their home. If you notice, there are no exceptions. It doesn’t say you are exempt from being an infidel if you are in the ministry. Or you are exempt from being an infidel if you have an important job. Or you are exempt from being an infidel if many people at work depend on you. God was clear and concise in that taking care of our home is a major priority in our lives, without exemption.
The American
September 9, 2014 at 10:56 AM
I think the pastor must be gay, What man spend so little time with his wife.
The American
September 9, 2014 at 10:57 AM
Yes the Pastor is gayboy!
F.O.I.OLABODE
September 11, 2014 at 1:21 PM
I am totally convinced in my own heart, that the reason our society is in such a bad state today, is because we are now reaping what we sowed, as far as the family is concerned, since the mid-’70’s. From the free-love, anti-authority days of the ’70’s and ’80’s, to the “me-first” ’90’s, to the self-indulgence of the ‘2000’s, we now have a generation who grew up without the love and nurturing of two parents.
Whether it be from divorce or parents driven to succeed at any cost, our society is now dealing with the problems of the breakdown of God’s family plan. God tries to tell us in His Word, that after our personal relationship with Him, the next priority in our life MUST be our home. There is nothing more important that we do each day than to operate as the spiritual head of our house.
IT IS OUR FIRST JOB, AND TAKES PRIORITY OVER ALL OTHER EARTHLY JOBS AND PURSUITS.
rock
October 6, 2014 at 1:52 PM
I would like to know, why Anita left her matrimonial home to head a church in the UK leaving pastor Chris ,that was the genesis of the problem
Anointed
April 26, 2016 at 7:54 AM
Every pastors wife should take care of her children and be ready to move along with the husband nature of Job. Go and study the books on anointing.