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Dear Readers: This Woman Needs Your Advice

Published on October 27, 2011

Sept 30, 2011 – In response to a Post titled ” Do Religious Differences Really Matter in A Relationship ?

A Naijan.com visitor posted a comment in regards to a challenging situation she is facing in her relationship.

Read her message below and kindly give your opinion. Thank you

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we met here in europe am axtian while hs a muslim at fist i didnt think religion can ,tbe a barrier but now religion is the problem am facing in my house right now he stop me frm going 2 church 4d past 13yrs am always at home every sundaybut during ramadan i fast with him woke up middle of dnight cook 4 him we d hope that he will chng his mind but nohe want me 2 be amuslim by force althoug he didn.t marry me in anywhere talkless of given me a ring he control me and each time we hv misunderstand he raining abusive word on me even as at this moment we are not in good timme4 d past 4weeks he did not marry me either in d church or any mosque pls ur reply is urgently needed

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17 Comments

Adodo Clexy

October 27, 2011 at 11:06 AM

Why do u pretend that u don’t know what to do? How can u Compromise Love with ur FAITH? if u don’t like to be a Christian, u can go ahead cus no matter the Promises,nothing will make him allow u in going to CHURCH. either u’re for ur self or against ur self. But if u’re comfortable going to mosque,Carry go. But if u want to build a family and a life towards heaven,it should be layed on Christ. Stay clear of him for “Happiness and Peace”

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LAWRENCE BOATENG

October 27, 2011 at 11:21 AM

My sister i think you have to stop this relationship because one; the man has not marry you two; insulting you three stop you from going to church,
look let me tell you we marry our lover not our enemy so if somebody has not even yet marry you and he is doing you like this then when he marry you,he will even kill you, and sister think about HEAVEN also what about when god come right now so pls my little advice is to leave him and lead your life GOD will give you the one who will love you not the one who will sit on your happiness

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Ritty

October 27, 2011 at 11:38 AM

My dear sister.pls i dnt undstand,u said he hasn’t married u neither in d church or mosque then what re u doin with him 4 13yrs let alone boundn u 4rm going 2 serve ur maker,ur only true God.pls break this reltnshp nd turn 2 God nd he wil surely gv u ur right partner

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Elo

October 29, 2011 at 11:25 AM

I am in support of those previous comment. The little advice i have for u is, remember that boko haram is everywhere i believe u are staying with one. Serving God is one of the greatest offer u can give to God. pls quit the relationship it will yield u no good for more advice call me on 08065472202

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Emma

October 30, 2011 at 1:54 PM

You want to kill urself dis is not love but lost.

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Onagun Harsheart

October 30, 2011 at 7:39 PM

My dear sister, U have bin fasting and leavind in d same roof with him for d past 13yrs. He’s ur husband to be and u have to be patience and obey his order. I think wat u need most is ‘PRAYER’. Pray earnesty and i believe my GOD (Subuhanahu Watahallah) would answer ur prayer. A patience dog eats d fatest bone and a word is enough for the wise. Good Day.

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Moh

October 31, 2011 at 8:54 AM

Whats all about going to heaven? So u guys are trying to say Muslims are not going to heaven or what? Mind u this is not a religion site, we’re talking here about relationship… To me being a religion is by choice,believe and understanding… 1. Ur bf himself is not practicing his own religion well to keep u for so long without marrying u. 2.I dnt think he loves u cos islamically is allowed to marry and leave with a christian wife, if u don’t intend to change he has no right to force to. and 3.If he do care about u he would treat u as such instead he should treat u like a woman… Now the decision is left to u perhaps u should sit down n talk… Goodluck!

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patrick

November 8, 2011 at 6:15 PM

after 13 years what is left for a new man to be attracted to u please just hang there. the man actually does not need u.

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John

November 8, 2011 at 7:57 PM

My advice 2 u is 2 free ur self from what is not convinet 4 u if u ar a gud crishstian u suld fast and pray 2 God 4 gud relationship so put ur trust in God and u will meet the man of ur life thanks

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linda nwankwo

November 10, 2011 at 11:52 AM

my sister what are u waiten for before u will run for ur dear life,u are achristain and he is nt,so u want to take because of love and forsake ur God,the worst part of it is dat the man has nt even married u,so dnt u kw dat dis is the oppunity for u to run

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ambrose

November 12, 2011 at 5:22 PM

my dear sister, let me tell u d truth. Everything is wrong with ur relationship infact u ar in bondage. If u wants to live, pls quit dis relationship. Even if u started it at d age of 18 yrs +13yrs is too much. Hav u thought of menopause? U dont hav time. He ll neva allow u 2 serve God. D truth is dat u ar livin with d wrong person. 08060511451 or 08095648554 u can call me. God help u.

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yakx

November 16, 2011 at 6:29 AM

ma sis,islam dnt teach us 2 stay with a woman or man whom u hv nt mrrd 2,is haram,@les u gat 2 ask him some qtn’s abt dat,and secondly by trietin u bad nah is too wel i got nt much 2 say nw

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Magayaki

November 17, 2011 at 11:41 PM

My sister this is unislamic bcos islam teaches morality and no true muslim can keep a woman up 2 13yrs without marriage nd claim 2 be her husband nd whoever does dat in d name of marriage he’s doing haram. Pls i want u 2 understand ur differences nd find a solution 2 it, coz ur problem is a test of IMAN(faith) 2 d right path.MAY GOD BLESS U.

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PEACE CRUSADER

November 22, 2011 at 7:03 PM

STAY WIT HIM ALL WE B WELL.BEAR ONE TIN IN MIND,JUST AS GOLD IS PERFECTED IN FIRE,LOVE WILL B PERFECTED IN PAIN.BUT IF U DOUBT ME THEN FOLLOW YOUR HEART.U CAN CALL ME ON 08189179360 4 MORE ADVICE.CHA CHA

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ayo emmanuel

November 24, 2011 at 11:54 AM

ONE, WHEN U MET , DID HE ASK IF U ARE A MUSLIM OR XTIAN, THE TRUTH IS D GUY IS FED UP . LV THOSE NT ASK QUESTION, LV IS A ZOBIE. IF AFTER ALL THIS YEARS , AFTER ALL D SUFFERING ,HE SINSISTING ON D RELIGION, LET HIM GO. EVEN IF U ARE OFFICIALLY MARRY TO HIM TODAY, I DONT SEE ANY SWEET MARRIAGE. HE IS FED UP BT CANT TELL U. I WISH U LUCK.

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ayo emmanuel

November 24, 2011 at 2:39 PM

The most important thing now for you to do is to ask God for Mercy, forsake all that you have gotten in the marriage renouce what you have said and ask God for repentance. You must pray hard and what ask God what next to do it is not easy my dear once in it you are in it there is no room for divorce.
God bless you and speak to you what next to do put your faith and hope in God HE alone know what to do after all HE say the king’s heart is in HIS hands

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Ebuka anyanwu

November 26, 2011 at 9:03 PM

Mamam if it is ur wishes 2 join him as a mosqulam fyn, but if u want 2 b a christan leave his house bcos it seem abnormal 4 u 2 be dere hence he does not even pay ur bride price or even wed u

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