World’s Oldest Married Couple Gives Relationship Advice

worlds longest marriage Zelmyra & Herbert Fisher

July 19, 2012 – World’s Oldest Married Couple Gives Relationship Advice

World’s oldest living married couple, Zelmyra and Herbert Fisher of North Carolina who currently hold the Guinness World record for the longest living marriage have teamed up to give secrets to lasting relationship.

101-year old Zelmyra and her husband Herbert, 104 recently took to twitter to reveal powerful relationship secrets.

worlds oldest living married couple

Read their take on finding love, pressing through tough times and many more.

1. What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all?

H & Z: With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure.Divorce was NEVER an option – or even a thought.

2. How did you know your spouse was the right one for you?

We grew up together & were best friends before we married. A friend is for life – our marriage has lasted a lifetime

3. Is there anything you would do differently after more than 80 years of marriage?

We wouldn’t change a thing. There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other & our family.

4. What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?

Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith – when you meet him, you’ll know.

5. What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?

Respect, support & communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest & true.Love each other with ALL of your heart

6. What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?

Zelmyra: A hard worker & good provider.The 1920s were hard,but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us.I married a good man!

7. What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?

Zelmyra: I cook dinner EVERY day.Herbert left work early & surprised me – he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook!

Herbert: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her & she could relax – the look on her face & clean plate made my day!

8. You got married very young – how did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?

“Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together” We are individuals, but accomplish more together.

9. What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage?

Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1 great-great grandchild.

10. Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?

The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs – together.

11. How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long periods of time?

Herbert: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life. Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind.

12. At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?

Remember marriage is not a contest – never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win

13. Is fighting important?

NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, & fight for what really matters. Learn to bend – not break!

14. What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else? We are both Christians & believe in God.Marriage is a commitment to the Lord.We pray with & for each other every day.

This year marks their 85 years of marriage.

Powerful tips!

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24 thoughts on “World’s Oldest Married Couple Gives Relationship Advice

  1. What can someone who loves another person, and the other person doesn’t show affection to him or her do. Note both her not really close, even in their location.

  2. God i pray dat my marriage will be more dan dis ooo. Loving nd living together 4 years to come.
    Congrats Grand Pa and Ma

  3. I love dis couple’s love and I wish more dan dis for myself.I’m happy for dem.Many more years in gud health H and Z.

  4. Hopefuly and faithfuly, i pray that God’s strenght and the qualities that u both employed will be my portion, i admire you guys-hope to be like you, i wish you both adition of blesings.

  5. Congrat grand pa and ma. I wish d same for myself too, but the problem is that am 27years old, i am ready to marry, but three men are asking my hand in marriage at d same time, i am confuse, pls i need prayer and advice. What will i do now?

  6. The name of the Lord is a strong tower. He is able. This inspiration shall be used tonight as I give my speech. It is possible to stay together & have a lasting marriage .

  7. Whao! I Love this, I pray God should give me my own life patner so that we can last long like this people. This’s just too great.

  8. wowwww diz is lovely.i pray that god should give me a wife dat wil love me,understand me equaly 2 me like grand ma nd grand pa

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