THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE THAT YOU LOVE BUT ARE LIABILITIES TO YOUR FUTURE
10 Types Of Toxic People Who Are Liabilities To Your Future
There is a biblical story about a man called Lot and his uncle Abraham. Abraham loved Lot, but Lot eventually along the journey became a liability to him. One major thing that I learnt from this biblical story is that there are some ‘Lots’ that we take along in our journey of life that ultimately cost us a lot! .
The biblical story between Abraham and Lot clearly illustrates the fact that anytime you take someone with you that God has not authorized, it tampers with your destiny. God asked Abraham to leave his siblings behind so that he can take him to his place of destiny fulfillment, but he was still emotionally attached to Lot and this cost him a lot!
You are either a blessing or a burden; an asset or a liability; a problem solver or a problem. Your choice! It is not everybody that you are fond of that are assets to your life. We often times fall deeply in love with people that are liabilities to our future. How can you decipher this?
PEOPLE THAT THEIR STAY IN YOUR LIFE IS OVER:
Not everyone you lose is a loss! Trying to keep people in your life when they have overstay their season of relevance in your life can be seriously inimical to your growth. Everybody has a season and a reason in your life. When people can walk away from you, let them walk.
Don’t try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring for you, coming to see you, or staying attached to you. When people can walk away, let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. To be happy you must let go of what’s gone. Be grateful for what remains. Look forward to what is coming next. Most times it doesn’t even mean that the people that left are bad or toxic; it is just that their part in your story is over.
There are some people that need to leave your life for the best version of you to evolve. Don’t beg anybody…I repeat, don’t beg anybody to stay in your life. Sometimes you have to move on without certain people. If they are meant to be in your life, they’ll will catch up.
PEOPLE THAT ARE NOT GOING IN YOUR DIRECTION:
The wrong people are not necessarily bad people, they may be good people that are not going in your direction. Moving with people that are not going in the same direction as you will greatly set you back in life.
PEOPLE WHO DON’T HAVE FUTURE PLAN:
Never plan a future with people who don’t have future plans. Some people are just okay living permanently in the present. They don’t have the big picture of the future. It is impossible to feature in a future that you can’t picture. Never build your life around a man without future plans.
PEOPLE THAT DRAIN YOU:
The people around you will either fuel you or drain you. How are they draining you? Some will drain you emotionally! Some mentally! Some financially! Some will even drain you socially (they cut you off from empowering relationships!). Cut-off people that drain your energy and embrace those that create positive vibes around you. Stay away from people that abuse you mentally, emotionally and physically.
PEOPLE THAT ARE ALWAYS NEGATIVE:
You cannot hang out with negative people and expect to live a positive life. When the wrong people leave your life, the right things start to happen. You must be willing to let go of people that are short-circuiting your growth and progress.
Tom Ziglar said, “Negative people don’t want solutions. Solutions mean they have to work to find something else to be negative about.” Negative people have problems for every solution! They are always full of negativity even where none exists; they are addicted to negativity.
You can’t have positivity in your life while surrounding yourself with negative people. How far you will go in the journey of life is a function of the positive energy and people around you.
Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people.
Try spending more time around people that infuse positivity into you and affirm your worth. Negative people are liabilities to your future!
PEOPLE THAT DON’T APPRECIATE YOUR CONTRIBUTION IN THEIR LIVES:
When your absence is not felt, then your presence is irrelevant. Stay around people and in places where you are appreciated and celebrated, not where you are tolerated.
PEOPLE THAT FIND ONLY FAULTS IN OTHERS:
Henry Ford once said, “Don’t find fault; find a remedy”. You will definitely need sincere feedbacks from people but not from people with keen eyes for faults and are psychologically blinded to the ‘goods’ in others. Spend more of your time with people that help you find solutions and remedies to problems, not fault.
PEOPLE THAT CAN’T SEE YOUR WORTH:
Your value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth. Try spending more time around people that affirm your worth and help you nurture your potentials. I have often said that when you learn how much you are worth, you will stop giving people discounts! .
Tim Fargo, “If you want to improve your self-worth, stop giving other people the calculator.”
In order to avoid emotional trauma before they happen, we must constantly detoxify ourselves from four categories of people. Eliminate anyone who constantly, lies to you, disrespects you, uses you, and puts you down.
PEOPLE THAT ARE INSECURE:
When a man is insecure, it is either he sees everyone around him as inadequate or sees himself as inadequate.
A healthy self-esteem is the greatest asset of any person; it ensures that we see everybody as a collaborator and not a competitor.
An insecure person will always ruin other people’s happiness just because he can’t find his own!.
Baylor Barbee said, “Relationships fail because people take their own insecurities and try and twist them into their partner’s flaws”.
Insecure people will always put an unhealthy demand on you. Their unhealthy demand for excessive validation and attention can cripple you emotionally.
Insecurity will make your partner compete with you instead of complementing you.
PEOPLE WITH BAD ATTITUDE:
No matter how buoyant you are, staying around someone with bad attitude can significantly bankrupt your life.
The greatest liability in life is a bad attitude. A man with a bad attitude is a liability to himself and every other person around him.
Zig Ziglar said, “A bad attitude is like a flat tire; you can’t go anywhere until you change it”.
You will need people that believe in you; people that invest in your dreams and goals. People that will bring the best and not the stress out of you.
Mark Twain once said, “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions.
Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
When you are seeking to bring big plans to fruition, it is important with whom you regularly associate.
Hang out with friends who are like-minded and who are also designing purpose-filled lives. Similarly, be that kind of a friend for your friends.”
QUOTE OF THE WEEK: “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude”.