Relationships & Romance
Help! My Ex-Girlfriend Won’t Let Me See My Only Child.. What Can I Do?
This is a serious issue that has caused a lot of trouble between two families as I write. My name is Olabode, 36-year-old.
I know I was wrong, I did a terrible thing, I broke her heart, I made her suffer, but she should be able to forgive me now that I am ready to right all my wrongs.
We dated for four years before the baby and during these periods, my girlfriend never got pregnant. We both knew we were not ready for a baby.
I was a Secondary school teacher teaching Intro Tech with my MSc. She had a better job back then with a salary of 40k. Then she got pregnant.
She informed me when she was two months and I begged her to have an abortion, I expected her to see reasons with me and do as I said but she refused blatantly!
At four months, her mother called me and I denied responsibility. I had big dreams, I knew it was only a matter of time for these dreams to materialize and I didn’t want to raise my child in poverty.
To be brief, after I denied, she sent me out of her house and I could hear as her mother told her she was on her own.
Now I’m fine. Very fine in fact and I want to see my son, I could even marry her if she wasn’t married, but she has refused to see me. Every effort has failed.
Her family sent me away without giving me her address. I know she had the boy. I kept tabs on Facebook. He is six now, my replica!
I only reach her via Facebook, but now she has blocked me. Please how do I apologize if I don’t see her.
I am ready to refund her in folds all she spent on my son. I want to see my son and show him love.
[By Gold Myne]
Thomas
March 6, 2018 at 8:45 PM
You don’t deserve to be called a dad, neither to see that child! No matter the circumstances, how could you deny your own child blatantly, in the name of realising dreams. Do you know what you put the poor lady through? Think about the psychological impacts on her, the shame, the neglect by her family, think about what she’s gonna be telling the kids when you’re never around. I hope she never allows you to see the child ’till Thy Kingdom Come. People like you are the reasons why a lot of fatherless children roam the streets of Africa.
Blessed Joy
March 6, 2018 at 9:21 PM
you are just waking up from your stupid sleep, absentee father. you are now ready to refund your house girl. you think it’s all about money and whenever suits you.
Ola
March 6, 2018 at 10:21 PM
She has the right to do what she is doing. You were selfish and self centered when you told her to have an abortion. What does her making N40k per month have to do with anything. You are still being selfish. She knows your character and she is dealing with you accordingly. I can tell you that you are not rich enough or else she would have let you see the boy but money cannot buy you love from the boy once the mum tells him you abandoned her because she would not have an abortion.
Mon
March 7, 2018 at 12:29 AM
This your story is mainly a lesson for younger youths, to remind them there is always consequences of whatever decision we take in life. As for you and the lady, she is still angry because she was not convinced why you took that decision after giving you reasons not to worry as i guessed, since you have realized your mistakes,despite too late,just be patient as your son will finally look for you,then you will make your confession.
Blessed Joy
March 7, 2018 at 5:14 AM
let’s clap for you and also come to your aid,
DB
March 7, 2018 at 8:37 AM
You must be an arrogant fool for even darin to say you will refund in folds whatever she spent on the child. Can you refund all the sleepless nights, time, sicknesses of the child, trauma and pains she went through? You lost the child the day you suggested an abortion because as far as you were concerned the dhild was dead. So, assume she aborted the child. Every of your statement indicates arrogance and self centerdness. Mr Man, you dony have a child with her. Go and get your own woman to give you your own child. Its still your stupidity that is turning you to a stalker.
flavour
March 7, 2018 at 9:49 AM
Nonsense, you think money is everything!
I wish she travels very far, so you will never see that boy.
Go through small emotional torture too, Big fool.
Who knows if she even married under duress, to support her baby.
You even have the nerve to see her family. You are lucky to go back in one piece without harm.
yeye dey smell.
Andrew
March 7, 2018 at 11:46 AM
Y do u all speak as if u knw y d two fall apart! What eva happened, d did has done, is better d lady in question knw dat d man has every right to his son. Ur son will come back to u, just be patient. But is she I insist of not giving u ur son for too long, u can file a suit against her if u have d fact dat u have a son with her. Not every relationship ends in marriage, d lady shud try put d past behind herself nd move on wit life.
God will help u
MADAM ERANKO
March 7, 2018 at 9:39 PM
YOU NEED TO HIRE A LAWYER TO GO TO COURT
Olaizo
March 10, 2018 at 1:32 AM
Nigerians will never change
He asked for an advice
But got curses and abuse in return
Their own sef worst pass that ooo
Awon oponu
Abegy
See, Go carry better lawyer make u Olley your son,
Many children dey their mama hand wey dey go church dey pray make their papa come sef , na so dem dey spoil pikin life coz of their stupid agidinu