How To Know A Nigerian Man Is Serious About You (Guide To Dealing With Nigerian Men)
How To Know A Nigerian Man Is Serious About You (Guide To Dealing With Nigerian Men)
How To Know If A Nigerian Man Is Serious About You
There sure is something intriguing about Nigerian men. Local and foreign women are quite curious about them. Some avoid them totally and some would like to satisfy their curiosity about them. Since Nigerians are a speck of people you find everywhere in the world coming across them isn’t difficult at all. Ladies, who are not familiar with the character of Nigerian men, may have nagging questions and some of these questions will be addressed as we go on.
When A Nigerian Man Calls You Dear
Okay so you’re really into this Nigerian guy and would want to know if he feels what you feel. If you want to find out about this, then you should watch his actions as well as his endearments.
As far as endearments go, ‘dear’ is one of the most commonly used ones by Nigerians generally. Usually if ‘dear’ is used on you by a Nigerian man, then chances are he just sees you as a friend and nothing more.
But it could also be that he trying to take things slow. If this is the case, then his endearment should not only revolve around dear, but change as time goes on. He will possibly find you a pet name or some endearment he uses just for you. But as far as the ’dear’ endearment goes, it is the most carelessly used one and most often doesn’t mean he is interested in you.
How To Know If A Nigerian Man Is Married
The idea of using a wedding band to identify a married person or that slight tan on the fourth finger of your left hand hardly works with most Nigerian man, because they hardly ever wear their ring long enough to leave any evidence. So how exactly do you get to know if he is married? If you hang around a Nigerian man long enough you can often tell he if he is married or not
He Wears His Ring On A Different Finger
A Nigerian man who is married may choose to wear his ring but not on his wedding finger. His ring may not even look like your idea of a wedding band. But look out for any form of ring. You could also look out for a slight tan on his ring finger. This doesn’t mean much because he may not wear his ring long enough to have one but it’s still worth a try.
He Never Lets You Visit
A married man will most likely not let you visit him whenever you want. You may not even know his place for starters. He would rather meet you at your place or some other location. But should he eventually let you visit, look out for personal effects pictures, property and stuff he might be trying to hide. If the house appears too bare or impersonal this should raise your suspicions.
He Ignores Calls
It may not be that his married, it may mean he is juggling quite a number of you. If he constantly ignores your calls and ignores calls in your presence or answers them without giving away much concern or detail. Then suspect him.
You Have A Visiting Time Table
You are not free to pay him a visit at will; that is if he allows it at all. He gives you specific times when he wants you to visit because he is conveniently hardly ever at home.
You Can’t Reach Him
A married man will most likely not pick your calls in the company of his family. So you find that he will prefer to send you a text or you may be unable to reach him at all, at specific times. If you observe either of these two things, it is right to be suspicious of him.
How To Deal With A Nigerian Man
Dealing with a Nigerian man requires you be really smart and know how to choose your battles. If you are new to dating Nigerian men then these two things are really what you should learn.
How To Keep A Nigerian Man
If you want to keep a Nigerian man then the top on your list of things to do is to be warm, welcoming and respectful towards him. Nigerian men are crazy about respect a number of them view it as an entitlement and not something to be earned.
But either way, to keep a Nigerian man, you have to respect him in the presence of his friends and in private. When you respect a Nigerian man you win him over and win his admiration.
Don’t Stalk Him
Avoid stalking him like a crazy person, being reasonably jealous is allowed, but know where to draw the line. Out rightly stalking him and demanding he explains his every action with other females all the time, gets old real quick. This will easily tire out a Nigerian man and he would begin to disconnect from you.
To keep a Nigerian man in your life for a long time, you need to know how to organize and keep a home clean and welcoming. Also you should know how to cook edible and delicious meals. He may say he really doesn’t care but if he truly wants you for keeps he would require that you know how to Cook.
He may not expressly say it but your lack of a homely nature can very well hold him back from proposing. Should another lady who meets this requirement come along, be very sure that your man is gone.
Don’t Act Desperate
Desperation can be picked even from a distance. Nigerian men will either prey on a desperate female or runaway altogether. Unnecessarily pressuring a Nigerian man will eventually become too exhausting for him and he will leave. Let things flow naturally and don’t be too in a hurry. If things are taking too long then move on to find what it is you really seek.
What To Expect When Dating A Nigerian Man
The first thing to prepare for is his general lack of romance and chivalry. He may not open doors for you. He may walk through the door before you. You will most definitely open the car door by yourself. He won’t send you spontaneous romantic notes or get bring you breakfast in bed neither will he surprise you with flowers or dinner after work.
But make no mistake, if he truly loves you, he will make the effort to show you in his own way. A Nigerian man may not show you he loves you in the manner in which you expect, but the sincere ones do treat their women quite well.
If he is serious about you, expect to meet his friends and family. Expect to appear at family functions and to be smoldered by his many family members and if you are accepted by them, you will most likely have to visit, make calls to his family and receive same from them. If you are with a Nigerian man, you belong to his friends and his family too.
When you have a Nigerian man around, you should realize their quite proud species or men who find it difficult to accept fault or apologize for an offence. Now note, most times, a Nigerian boyfriend who has offended you, most likely isn’t going to say I’m sorry.
Nigerian men don’t apologize with words but with their actions. This is how you get to know he is saying sorry for an offence.
Questions To Ask When Dating A Nigerian Man
Is he mature-minded? Does he take the relationship serious enough? These are questions you should first ask yourself. Is he the type to be open to commitment or is he still too busy playing around. Do you notice a growth in your relationship? Are future plans being discussed and taking shape?
Questions to ask about him should be things like; Is he divorce or has a baby mama and can you live with such arrangement on a permanent basis. Ask and find out seriously about these things so you don’t spend your time fighting unnecessary battles and living in regret.
What are his mapped out plans for the future? Does his attitude and behavior pattern fall in line with yours? These are important questions that should be answered in all sincerity.
Are Nigerian Men Sneaky?
Generally men can be quite sneaky in their dealings and Nigerian men are no different. But if a Nigerian man is being too sneaky that’s a huge challenge. It means he has something big to hide. When he is sneaky about his whereabouts; where he is, where he went, his personal devices and such, you should watch out something is definitely not right.
When you don’t know where he lives, his friends and family his job and things like that. You have been around him a while and find you know nothing concrete about him. Suspect the guy. These are sure ways to identify a sneaky Nigerian guy.
Nigerian Men In The US: Are They Faithful
This is one of the most asked questions about diaspora Nigerian men. And the truth is that while there are a few exceptions, Nigerian men in the US are hardly ever faithful. Nigerian men are known to be desperate enough to date and marry American women to gain a permanent stay. So being faithful is not really a priority for them.
A Nigerian man may even have a wife and kids back home. And he may just be using you. Be smart enough to identify this kind of Nigerian men. To be safe be suspicious of all Nigerian men until you proof beyond every doubt that he isn’t just using you.
There are also those few Nigerian men who genuinely like you and are willing to faithfully commit. But remember, this kind is extremely rare.
Most Nigerian men are in America for greener pastures, to become permanent residents and to generally make as much money as they can. Fidelity is not on the list.
March 11, 2020 at 12:37 PM
You know nigerian men than an average Nigerian
June 6, 2021 at 8:14 PM
Hi I met this guy ion line we been talking since February 2020 and his a nice and carin guy..I talk to his brother and his mom ..We do video call..And we talking about him coming here in us….Can anybody tell me how that work
June 7, 2021 at 5:16 AM
Becareful with online dating.Date with caution as most scammers are online today
August 16, 2022 at 1:18 AM
I just recently met a Nigerian man who says he’s an actor with Nollywood.. his name is Frederick has anyone on here heard of him.. is he a scammer?.. I have watched his soap Operas and he looks the same when we video chat on WhatsApp do ypu think I’m being scammed.. what do I need to look for?.. plz help me
Mary f theus
June 26, 2022 at 1:29 AM
Yes I am reading the other comments and they scare me. Only 5 weeks ago a gentleman pops on all my pages and post commenting and finally I texted back and because I’m a missionary and doing church work, my Facebook is fu of biblical messages. I wonder do these pic us women out by what! Bc this young man is 20 yrs younger than me and has turn my attention to him, talking of any things af conversations, sharing families and laughter. I’m not totally sold out but have some doubts. But he lifts all my questions with seems to be great answers, I wonder how can you tell they are sincere or real in their heart. Can they be so caring and slick advise God to get what they want, can they be that evil and heartless to use God. I’m asking. So now I’m concern, he too is trying to come here! Get a vista and than I read a red flag that 98 % of them are never faithful tats heartless. Please give me ire information. Can I talk to you by phone or inbox
June 27, 2022 at 1:03 AM
Be careful, he is a fraudster
December 3, 2022 at 12:56 AM
I also met a Nigerian man online instagram dont know if hes serious or not he ask me to marry him in march I need some answers myself he seems sweet and good
December 5, 2022 at 4:58 AM
Be careful about men you meet online. This is likely to be a scam.
June 10, 2020 at 2:14 AM
Hi I am Maria I met this Nigeria man on line we have been talking sense Sept of last year.He start face timing me in December of last year we talk every morning an afternoon I have met his friends and family threw face time I talk I often talk with his brother .they live in different parts of Nigeria. He is into church like I am we have talk about the furture .An we have shared a lot about our pass .He has never ask me for money or disrespect me in any way .He said he was looking for a wife and he wanted it to be me I have accept because I love him .He is everything s prayed for in a husband loving caring and supportive and concern of my well being . He want to come visit but we don’t no where to start I live in the United States We are planning a furture together. I even asked him do he believes in having more than one wife.He told me he was a Christian he don’t believe in that. We have the same beliefs in the Lord and in family.we met because I gave a comment about person ask about being husband an the true roll of a husband can you give me your opinion about this
January 10, 2021 at 5:05 AM
Sounds like my Guy
June 4, 2021 at 12:27 AM
Is his name derrick onarejuvwie because I was talking to him .when we first met he gave my 3 names but then he said his real name was derrick and he told me that he was 21 years old but at first he said he was 51 years old .please write back if you want to.
April 8, 2022 at 10:48 PM
This man came into my life as a scammer.I blocked him and then one day I wanted to go over our conversation, and as I was doing it he texted me. We started talking again and this time he came out. He has given me his true name, address, Nin ID, international phone number, and email.I know he only wants to use me to get to America, and I don’t have a problem with that,I would marry him so he can come to America. He says he loves me, never been married, nor have any children. I repeatedly told him that I don’t trust him and for him to go find someone else, but I do like the attention. He did ask me to send him $500 to get his passport and visa, also for me to come to Nigeria so we can be married (I would have to pay for the traditional wedding matter of fact everything) and that he would repay me all the money I spent when he comes here and get a job. As when he tried to scam me before I said no, I do the same now and say no, and that if he loves me as he says, he will find a way to get his passport and visa and come here and marry me. I’m no f**king fool. My money’s staying in my pocket and I’m staying in my country. This kind of love don’t make no sense. Be careful out there, just because they give you their true identity doesn’t mean sh*t he’s just coming at you in a different way, he’s still trying to get your money. I do love him and if he was able to get over here I would marry him so he could get his green card. I would love to get some feedback.
April 11, 2022 at 11:35 PM
he even have the effrontery to tell you the fake truth and you agreed with him. You have to be careful woman. Don’t marry him. Run away from internet dating or scammers of this nature. Cut off all relationship with him to save yourself from headache and spiritual manipulation
May 17, 2022 at 9:59 AM
Jaye, thanks for your comments and I’ll take them at heart. I would just like to help someone who’s going through this and let them know that they are not alone. The battle is hard when you have given your heart to someone you have tired to trust and find out that the only thing they want is your money or a way to get a green card. I pray that each and everyone of you who comes across a person of this caliber keep an open mind and be on guard of your money,heart,and soul. But also remember that people can change through Christ Jesus, and all are not the same you just have to know the difference through their fruits.
August 21, 2022 at 4:43 PM
April 18, 2022 at 12:30 AM
Is his name Eiiroghene Yugbovwre
April 25, 2022 at 7:42 PM
Hey. You have exactly described what I am experiencing with my man in nigeria. He doesn’t want to come to the US………he wants me to come there, get married, and adopt a child to raise together. We have no plans to stay in nigeria but I’m so unsure
May 17, 2022 at 9:16 AM
It would be nice if we could exchange notes, but I feel that if I do it on here and he’s telling the truth, I would be only exposing an incident man who’s only looking for someone to love and start a life with. I will tell you he’s from the Isoko tribe and lives in the ENHWE Community. I know his information is true because I have a copy of it and we video chat mostly everyday. They won’t let your email go out over here but if you would like to see a picture of him you can text me at 346-808-6054. And they may not let my phone number go out either.
June 5, 2022 at 10:39 PM
Is his name Patrick or Christopher? Does he live in Lacos Nigeria?
June 8, 2022 at 11:23 AM
Read May 17th 2022 message.
June 23, 2022 at 7:16 PM
I am talking to a guy in Nigeria but now he said he do not have no food. Ok now he need some money from me but I said I do not like no scammer to use me, ok he said he is not a scammer. Ok now he said he love me but I know he is telling a lie, so now he ask me to download play store to get him a card and he said if you love me you will do anything for him”. He will keep telling me he love me. But I know that is a lie, why do people’s like that tells lies just too get what they want. You know they want America. I will tell him God do not like how they uses people’s, I just don’t know what to do. I know it is a website about them in Nigeria. They will tell you what you want to here just more lies.. they really need to get a life and stop hurting people’s. You all need to be Alert with these guys in Nigeria..sad😐😐😐
August 21, 2022 at 4:42 PM
I agree with you… been there.
September 30, 2021 at 3:23 PM
Hey my name is Eunice!!! I meet a Alfican man online.. He looked at my profile he like it.. He also wants to marry me..Say he in love with me.. Only talk about a week never meet his family.. I think he moving to fast.. Would like to talk sometime..Thanks
September 30, 2021 at 6:54 PM
Be careful! his approach is too fast especially if you are in the western countries. Don’t fall victim of online fraudsters and scammers.
January 6, 2022 at 4:03 AM
What’s his name?
February 7, 2023 at 4:40 AM
Be careful! I experienced the same as you ! He was kinda express about settling down in life ! He shared his family’s pics and impersonated as some random guy online and scammed me with other handsome men pics and videos to enter my heart since he felt he is black nigga and not confident of himself if he were to show his real pics Ini his profile . He felt that this is the only way to enter online pretty girls heart and win their love feelings . I rejected him after I caught him red handed but he created many accounts to re -enter my life for love relationship . He used to go church and very sweet talking guy . He is non alcoholic or smoker ! Almost everyday he talks with me on WhatsApp. He told me that he is partly Nigerian and Ghanaian . He is from delta state Nigeria ! I want Nigerian man or woman o reply the truth . Is he for real into love relationship or scammer ?
January 6, 2022 at 4:02 AM
What’s his name?
March 14, 2023 at 11:54 AM
I met my ex husband online from Nigeria, we dated online for 2 years, he presented his family throughoutvideo calls everybody very involved in the relationship. He told ne he was Christian, he was very respectful and always acted like a gentleman.
I apply for fiance visa married him and 4 years later a woman called me and asked me who I was to him, she was his girlfriend, ended up divorcing him after she told me that he married me for his papers.
October 19, 2020 at 9:52 PM
This sounds familiar. What is his name?
Debra A Smith strong
July 18, 2022 at 2:40 AM
Josh byran I would like to know any information on him
December 31, 2020 at 12:41 AM
Sound like The Guy I am talking to also wow is He from Delta State Nigeria
February 22, 2021 at 7:13 AM
And what if they ask you for money and you haven’t meet yet also when you ask him to visit your family for introduction he gives you some excuses what are you going to do?
March 25, 2021 at 2:10 PM
Sounds like the guy I’m talking to. We met on Instagram. Nice guy. Met family talk to friends. We’re three months in. I plan to visit in a few months. He didn’t ask for money. But I sent him money to start his transportation business. I don’t mind helping if I have it. Blessed to be blessing. I know what it’s like to not have help. I’m always helping someone. If we never talk I’m cool with it. Not all are scammers. He’s very intelligent. We’ll see if I’ll stick around 😂
Sandra Rechelle Yarbrough
April 4, 2021 at 7:39 PM
How can you get them to the United States he lives in niagra
April 19, 2021 at 4:55 PM
I really like this site because I’m an American woman and I am really interested in the Nigerian man so I need to learn a lot and I really like this page
May 14, 2021 at 12:21 AM
I met my man on Facebook. He was in the states at the time (US phone number), but soon flew back to Nigeria (now he uses Nigerian phone number). We video chat often, are Facebook official, I have talked to his brother via video chat. He has never asked me for money or anything. I am just a skeptical person and am wondering if this is real or not. We have been talking for 2 and a half months. He speaks of the future in terms of “we” and mentions his desire to marry and have me come to Nigeria. It doesn’t fit any of the traditional scam models. Thoughts?
May 14, 2021 at 12:34 AM
Just be careful about people you meet online. Do your due diligence to investigate him before you fall in love. A lot is going on these days.
May 14, 2021 at 7:14 PM
Hi I met someone from Nigeria and we’ve been talking for two days he says he’s Christian he’s 45 and he has three kids he says he’s divorced I was talking to him today and he introduced me to his friends I thought that was too fast??
May 18, 2021 at 11:24 PM
I feel he is moving too fast. Follow your heart, don’t rush so as not to fall victim. Online dating is a serious risk
April 18, 2022 at 12:37 AM
Is his name ejiroghene yugbovwer
Nivia B. Bella
May 22, 2021 at 4:13 AM
I am Nivia B. Bella
I have been dating a fine 27 year old in Dubai. I didn’t want to be with him for the first 5-6 months, i wanted a 50, 55, 60 year old professional Man. This Man is a dream come true.
May 30, 2022 at 11:15 PM
Well does anyone John Harrison from Lagos Nigeria. We have been communicating for about 5 months since January this year. I met him on IG.
May 26, 2021 at 3:07 AM
I have been dating a younger guy (25) for the past 5 1/2 years. I am soon to be 64. We have talked on phone and have done video calls. I have talked to his brothers and sisters and tried to talk to his mom but our languages did not let us. Anyway, I have asked him to marry me and he said yes. Just curious, are all Nigerian young guys into older women and if so, why? Can they be faithful? Idk what to do. I want him to come to USA but because he is young, the embassy may not let him. Any info on an easy way to bring him over? Please help !
May 26, 2021 at 3:14 AM
No. Younger Nigerian men are never into older women except for financial advantage. Do yourself a favour, look for a older man. The culture in Nigeria does not permit a 25 year old man to marry a 64 year old woman. Save yourself from future headache and block him.
May 27, 2021 at 3:51 AM
I was talking to a 25 year Nigeria man and he wants to marry me which I am 43he asked for lots of money and he sent me a marriage certificate and wondering if it is real or fske
May 28, 2021 at 5:19 PM
Please don’t go into any relationship with him. He is a scammer. Be careful
July 2, 2021 at 6:38 PM
I been chatting to a young Nigerian man for just over a year lm 60 we talk all the time says he loves me but keeps 3hidden from every one will it work l keep saying about the age thing. I been to family weddings and funeral via WhatsApp am I fooling myself he invited me to Nigeria and to his sister wedding. Sends me flowers help !!!
July 2, 2021 at 6:41 PM
Please don’t fool yourself. Relationship of this type can be fraudulent. Please stop sending him money and cut off relationships with him.
July 13, 2021 at 9:45 AM
Hi I been talking on WhatsApp for just over a year and he is years younger than me he says he loves me we talk daily he has plans to come live with me. Is it all a scam he gets so angry with me when I say that it’s a scam it did start as a scam and after a few weeks he contacted me again telling me all about him his friends and families he sends me beautiful red roses with lovely notes .He lives in Benin city and wants me to visit. Am I being taken for a fool
July 13, 2021 at 10:02 PM
From the way you described him, he may be a scammer. I don’t you to fall prey. Don’t go and meet him. Be careful.
October 25, 2021 at 1:49 AM
What’s his name? I have a friend in Benin City. We talk daily. Have been talking for almost a year. I’ve met his friends on video and also one of his sisters. I made it to Benin a couple weeks ago. I was so happy to meet him in person. I have so much fun with him . I’m 61 and he’s 25. I spent my 61st birthday with him. Nothing sexual, but I really care about him and wish I could find a way to get him to the States.
October 26, 2021 at 7:22 PM
You are moving too fast. This is not a match made in heaven. Nigerian men don’t marry women twice their age. It is not culturally accepted.
You are going too fast and he will use you to get a stay in the USA. Remember you have been warned.
Go for a man who is in your age bracket. Don’t fall victim.
October 30, 2021 at 5:36 PM
His name is Bobby Osarodion he was twenty five on the 17th October
October 30, 2021 at 5:47 PM
Bobby Osarodion he lives in the Edo state
October 31, 2021 at 1:10 PM
November 1, 2021 at 1:28 PM
Can you tell me if he is the same person you have meet ??
October 17, 2021 at 4:33 AM
I recently met a Nigerian man Several months ago whom I’m starting to be very fond of. HE IS 24 & I 57 he keeps telling me age does not matter to him and he has told his parents about me. He doesn’t ask me for money or gift cards or anything. He seems to be a honest and sweet Christian man that I would like to let my guard down on. Wanted to know If anyone else is video talking/ facetime also with him online…His last name is Oputa and is from Imo State, Nigeria…..He is a dream come true to me but want to be sure! Pls email me If his name is familiar. I plan to visit Nigeria soon.
October 21, 2021 at 9:42 AM
From his name, he hails from the eastern part of Nigeria. The age difference between you and her will not make the marriage work.
To be honest with you, he is only planning to use you to secure paper. Be careful woman, this is not true love.
The age difference is not culturally permitted in Nigeria. Please save yourself from heartbreak
November 3, 2021 at 7:24 PM
I’ve been speaking with a Nigerian man for a year now, he lives in Canada, and he said he wants to get married and have a family with me, but I’m not sure if he loves me really.
November 24, 2021 at 7:54 PM
I meet this Nigerian guy who is bigger than me we have been chatting And video calling for 3 weeks now, i have never met a guy who is openly like him he works at prep as a store manager he video call me every time or even when he’s in office he introduced me to his two friends he give me one of his closest friends number in case his not reachable he always looks happy when we are having our video chat,he shares me with everything where is going what is doing he was married the wife died when she was giving birth 3 years ago and now he draws me closer to him each and every day he watches movies with me he said he wants to marry me and he loves me hundred percent he’s planning to come nd visit me with his own money he has never ask me anything he encouraged me everyday can he be a scammers too… Us for me have been not openly to him and not trusting him completely can I have your suggestion please if this is true love or there’s something which is looking for.
November 29, 2021 at 9:28 PM
He is a fraudster stay off this relationship. Save yourself from future heartbreak
November 28, 2021 at 3:05 PM
I am a 58 year old woman, I recently begin a conversation (3) months ago now with a Nigerian that lives in Lagos, Nigeria. He told me that he is 48 years old with 1 daughter. He said she is “20 years old and live 3 hours away from him with his mother.”
He stated,” the baby mama ,” is married to someone else, the reason for the 6 year relationship resolved due to her drug addiction. But she ended up marrying that guy.” He too like all of your experience want me to marry him.
He claims to have a 3D flooring company LLC. He expressed to me,” he was born through a polygamy relationship. And how he hate it.” He too stated that he is a Christian.”
I have me suspicions, however he claims to have told his mother and daughter about me; and his friends. On one occasion I’ve talked to one of his friends over the phone.
He texts me every day due to we’re on different time. Nonetheless there was an incident not too long ago. I had posted a status on my Facebook page, and he read it. By me being a minister like he said that he is, he snapped at me.
He said,” how disappointed he was in me for advising the women about the components that I had posted within the status.” He continue to say to me, what friends of mine would do things like that.”
I didn’t know what he was referring to, he finally screenshot my post to me. I explained to him that wasn’t about his actions, but it was geared towards those women who are in abusive relationship.
It come to my thinking that I put one thing that he kept dropping the ball on,” spending quality time with me.on the phone.” Afterwards he was very apologetic, and he stated,” love is making him go mad.” That whoe scenario was odd to me. His name is Allen George ( not birth name) His last name ( birth) is Chuks. Please give me your insight.
Thank you in advance
November 29, 2021 at 9:28 PM
He is a fraudster stay off this relationship. Save yourself from future heartbreak
January 18, 2022 at 3:04 AM
Hi I fell in love with the man who scammed me for a year from Nigeria..I caught on that he was lying but I loved talking to him so I played along ND finally he admitted after 15 months that he was a 26 year old boy in University..I just couldn’t let him go.. now he wants me to still send him money and wants to do all of this stuff to get him to the States.. I fell in love with him.im 37. I feel bad for him and I feel he’s using me and I just can’t let go…. What should I do
January 21, 2022 at 1:00 PM
Run away before it’s to late
January 24, 2022 at 1:46 AM
Wanda let him G O!
February 14, 2022 at 1:22 AM
I met this Nigerian guy I am 20 years older than him,never ask me for a cent,always using the word love every single day since we met on facebook for the past two months.am falling for him he touches my heart without touches me that how I felt.whenever I get upset with him he would sent me a love song before I wake in the morning as his apology,he keeps on telling me about the good and bad about the country and the peoples.He sounds kinda real to me truthful.should I stay away from this guy.
February 14, 2022 at 1:25 PM
The age difference is not a culturally accepted thing in Nigeria. Please be careful before you fall into wrongs hands.
March 11, 2022 at 5:03 PM
: chatting with a naija guy. He’s 38. I’m 51. Christian like me. Met his family online. I chat with his sister too. He doesn’t ask for anything. Never has. We talk at different hours of the day and night through video, even when he’s at market or helping his father. He gives me tours of his neighborhood and other places. Always answers my questions. I’ve seen his church too. We plan to meet soon. It’s been 2 years of this close relationship. I’m in US. Sometimes time difference is a problem to talk but we always check in by text. We plan to meet. How does this sound?
March 13, 2022 at 12:09 AM
Be careful. Nigerian men don’t really fancy big age difference. I will personally tell you to tread with caution. A 38 year old Naija man is probably married and looking for ways to japa to America. Be wise woman
May 30, 2022 at 9:50 PM
Well does anyone John Harrison from Lagos Nigeria. We have been communicating for about 5 months since January this year. I met him on IG.
June 6, 2022 at 4:22 AM
Be careful, that name doesn’t sound Nigerian
June 7, 2022 at 12:33 AM
I met a31 yr old Nigerian I’m 68 ..He says he has one daughter that stays with his sister.He pledges his love everyday & how he can’t find a job ibadan. But he has an apt. He always need money for food,dog, phone,& electricity..I like him but I know he’s a mooch. His name is Adedeji aka Alphamale.I been talking to him for 1yr but I did my homework, I know I wouldn’t be accepted because to old. But he insist he doesn’t want anymore children his daughter is enough. (Bullshit)
June 22, 2022 at 3:52 AM
12 year difference! Pretty much the same as everyone else! Only he has proof he is trying to get a job! He shows email about being denied a job! I have a few friends from Lagos and the one I’m talking to has asked for help but the other one doesn’t at all!! So my question when you weed through the scam and such one that does put in a lot of effort to prove he isn’t like the “stories” be legitimate!
July 4, 2022 at 1:26 AM
Hey I met a guy on Facebook he is a Nigerian guy his name is chiukwunonso Jeremiah he is telling me to go and meet him in Nigeria and am fearing to go there am a Ugandan
July 6, 2022 at 8:26 PM
Be careful who you meet online. I don’t suggest you come to Nigeria to meet a stranger.
July 25, 2022 at 5:10 AM
Nigerian man sent me a message 2 days ago: “hello pretty lady…”
I checked out his IG and FB and YOUTUBE…he appears to be who says but he’s already calling me “baby” and told me “he loves me”
Kinda weird but he “fits the description” he was saying he’s looking for a wife but I think it’s to have a better career here in the US. Sucha sweet talker…but sending me pictures that match other social media platforms. I’m 10 years older. Are Nigerians doing these types of elaborate scams?
July 26, 2022 at 6:57 PM
He is a scammer. Please watch out.
October 26, 2022 at 7:58 AM
I met a guy on IG and I have been talking to him for a year.he say’s he loves me and wants to get married.I blocked him once.and it was like 7 months I unblocked him and he popped up right away he asked me why I blocked him and I told him do not lie to me .yes you are cause the guy your trying to be I know him and everything changed he told me his real name I have talked to some of his family he lives in Ondo Nigria and his name is Gabriel Monday Adepoju he is 30 that’s what he tells me.we text all day every day he FaceTimes me twice a day just.just trying to see if he is a scammer or if he is telling me the truth before my feelings get any deeper.he says he loves me wants to get married and move to my States.if you can help me out and his nickname is Gee Lord. And he even got my name tattooed on him.help me out .Thank you
October 26, 2022 at 7:04 PM
Be careful, most scammers stay online to prey on innocent women. Please be careful who you meet online.
December 5, 2022 at 9:00 PM
I met mine on FB told me he was taken by my profile he is 51 whilst am 59 but he is here in South Africa divorced with his wife in 2019 in France
We are both Christians he is an Apostle.
We have met twice very nice, kind, loving but doesn’t talk much about his past life yet I talk so much, he wants to come meet my children on Christmas day
He has asked for money I don’t have a problem but his secrecy worries me.
His name which he told me is Abiye Lawson Jack.
I have really fallen in love with him.
December 8, 2022 at 5:38 AM
The name is enough to give you goosebumps. Don’t fall for it. Abiye Lawson Jack must be his nickname and not his real Nigerian Yoruba name. Be careful.
February 15, 2023 at 1:26 AM
I have been with a Nigerian man in Canada for 5 years. He came here in 2015 and we met in 2018. We have had a lot of ups and downs due to cultural differences. I was open to learning about him and his cultures, as he is a proud Igbo man. But I had a daughter from a previous relationship and with the differences, he didn’t put much effort into getting to know her and as a parent, the best way a new partner can win over our hearts is through our children. So I had a lot resentment towards that, I felt neglected and I felt she was neglected. He bought me a ring early on.. and unfortunately I was holding onto that resentment and used it against him and he never gave the ring to me again. Basically we’ve never been on the same page; a lot of toxic times, and traumatic events occurred in both our parts.
Fast forward to July of 2022, I find out I am pregnant. once I found out I was pregnant, I took my resentment I held and buried it deep down in me to allow the love to come back time surface. I changed everything.. for myself, my daughter, him, our soon to be child and overall us. This entire pregnancy has been awful, I probably cried and stressed 95% of the time.
He was entertaining multiple women in Nigeria that he met in Facebook groups; sending money for their phone airtime. I told him so many times this is a problem and they need ti go if we will work on this. He told me they are nobody to worry about, his brother said the same and sister
Beginning of January 2023, he surprised me last second that he was travelling back to Nigeria for 3 weeks.. mind you at that point I’m 35 weeks pregnant. I needed him more than ever. But I got his reassurance he wouldn’t see these women; wouldn’t misbehave and I sent him off with a peaceful goodbye. Being heavily pregnant, my emotions were sky high. I was questioning, assuming, just over all sad whenever I couldn’t get a hold of him even tho i knew of the time difference. I always thought the worst, but he also didn’t help. Instead of making me feel better he would say stuff like “I cheated” “once I landed I stayed in a hotel with a female” then he would go back on it. He then ask me for a DNA test of the baby, because he went to the docs and results came back saying he can’t have kids. I was devastated, one thing I’ve never done is cheat. I could never.
It’s been 5 weeks he’s been gone and he still hasn’t come back. He extended his stay for an extra 2 weeks and I thought it was so selfish. I’m still having to work because he did this and I’m in pain.
Our 5th year anniversary was February 9th, our baby due date is February 17th and I found out he did a traditional Igbo wedding on February 10th, one day after our anniversary… WITH ONE OF THE WOMEN HES BEEN ENTERTAINING. When I tell you I broke down, I lost it.
Since then he’s been begging my forgiveness, I found out from him and the brides sister it wasn’t legal as no bride was paid and they aren’t doing a white church wedding. He says he only did it because soon his mum won’t have any of her kids in Nigeria and she doesn’t have a husband, so he needs someone to take care of his mum and his properties so he says it was just an arrangement and because he’s the first born son; it’s preferred he marries within the tribe. To me, he had other options.. knowing he has a family back here in Canada. I’m completely shattered and devastated. The brides sister even tells me he refuses to touch her; and he was miserable at the ceremony and looked as someone who is being forced.
He is returning Friday, our due date.
What do you think of this? Please give me your thoughts.
FYI, the wife also knew about me. And the baby. We spoke in December.
February 16, 2023 at 8:44 PM
Hi Jenna, this man is playing a dangerous game with you. I’m sorry you are going through issues of this nature but Igbo men prefer to marry women of their tribe not even other tribes in Nigeria.
This man is not faithful and will never be. He has no respect for you and will never have respect for any woman. He is a game player. Don’t keep him because of the child you are having together. Please safe yourself from this disastrous and extremely toxic relationship. He is not a faithful man period.
For your information, I’m a psychologist and a marriage counsellor, I have seen countless of couples and this is not the type of man you want to be with.