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How To Know A Nigerian Man Is Serious About You (Guide To Dealing With Nigerian Men)

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How To Know A Nigerian Man Is Serious About You (Guide To Dealing With Nigerian Men)

How To Know If A Nigerian Man Is Serious About You

There sure is something intriguing about Nigerian men. Local and foreign women are quite curious about them. Some avoid them totally and some would like to satisfy their curiosity about them. Since Nigerians are a speck of people you find everywhere in the world coming across them isn’t difficult at all. Ladies, who are not familiar with the character of Nigerian men, may have nagging questions and some of these questions will be addressed as we go on.

When A Nigerian Man Calls You Dear

Okay so you’re really into this Nigerian guy and would want to know if he feels what you feel. If you want to find out about this, then you should watch his actions as well as his endearments.

As far as endearments go, ‘dear’ is one of the most commonly used ones by Nigerians generally. Usually if ‘dear’ is used on you by a Nigerian man, then chances are he just sees you as a friend and nothing more.

But it could also be that he trying to take things slow. If this is the case, then his endearment should not only revolve around dear, but change as time goes on. He will possibly find you a pet name or some endearment he uses just for you. But as far as the ‘’dear’’ endearment goes, it is the most carelessly used one and most often doesn’t mean he is interested in you.

How To Know If A Nigerian Man Is Married

The idea of using a wedding band to identify a married person or that slight tan on the fourth finger of your left hand hardly works with most Nigerian man, because they hardly ever wear their ring long enough to leave any evidence. So how exactly do you get to know if he is married? If you hang around a Nigerian man long enough you can often tell he if he is married or not

He Wears His Ring On A Different Finger

A Nigerian man who is married may choose to wear his ring but not on his wedding finger. His ring may not even look like your idea of a wedding band. But look out for any form of ring. You could also look out for a slight tan on his ring finger. This doesn’t mean much because he may not wear his ring long enough to have one but it’s still worth a try.

He Never Lets You Visit

A married man will most likely not let you visit him whenever you want. You may not even know his place for starters. He would rather meet you at your place or some other location. But should he eventually let you visit, look out for personal effects pictures, property and stuff he might be trying to hide. If the house appears too bare or impersonal this should raise your suspicions.

He Ignores Calls

It may not be that his married, it may mean he is juggling quite a number of you. If he constantly ignores your calls and ignores calls in your presence or answers them without giving away much concern or detail. Then suspect him.

You Have A Visiting Time Table

You are not free to pay him a visit at will; that is if he allows it at all. He gives you specific times when he wants you to visit because he is conveniently hardly ever at home.

You Can’t Reach Him

A married man will most likely not pick your calls in the company of his family. So you find that he will prefer to send you a text or you may be unable to reach him at all, at specific times. If you observe either of these two things, it is right to be suspicious of him.

How To Deal With A Nigerian Man

Dealing with a Nigerian man requires you be really smart and know how to choose your battles. If you are new to dating Nigerian men then these two things are really what you should learn.

How To Keep A Nigerian Man

Respect Him

If you want to keep a Nigerian man then the top on your list of things to do is to be warm, welcoming and respectful towards him. Nigerian men are crazy about respect a number of them view it as an entitlement and not something to be earned.

But either way, to keep a Nigerian man, you have to respect him in the presence of his friends and in private. When you respect a Nigerian man you win him over and win his admiration.

Don’t Stalk Him

Avoid stalking him like a crazy person, being reasonably jealous is allowed, but know where to draw the line. Out rightly stalking him and demanding he explains his every action with other females all the time, gets old real quick. This will easily tire out a Nigerian man and he would begin to disconnect from you.

Be Homely

To keep a Nigerian man in your life for a long time, you need to know how to organize and keep a home clean and welcoming. Also you should know how to cook edible and delicious meals. He may say he really doesn’t care but if he truly wants you for keeps he would require that you know how to Cook.

He may not expressly say it but your lack of a homely nature can very well hold him back from proposing. Should another lady who meets this requirement come along, be very sure that your man is gone.

Don’t Act Desperate

Desperation can be picked even from a distance. Nigerian men will either prey on a desperate female or runaway altogether. Unnecessarily pressuring a Nigerian man will eventually become too exhausting for him and he will leave. Let things flow naturally and don’t be too in a hurry. If things are taking too long then move on to find what it is you really seek.

What To Expect When Dating A Nigerian Man

The first thing to prepare for is his general lack of romance and chivalry. He may not open doors for you. He may walk through the door before you. You will most definitely open the car door by yourself. He won’t send you spontaneous romantic notes or get bring you breakfast in bed neither will he surprise you with flowers or dinner after work.

But make no mistake, if he truly loves you, he will make the effort to show you in his own way. A Nigerian man may not show you he loves you in the manner in which you expect, but the sincere ones do treat their women quite well.

If he is serious about you, expect to meet his friends and family. Expect to appear at family functions and to be smoldered by his many family members and if you are accepted by them, you will most likely have to visit, make calls to his family and receive same from them. If you are with a Nigerian man, you belong to his friends and his family too.

When you have a Nigerian man around, you should realize their quite proud species or men who find it difficult to accept fault or apologize for an offence. Now note, most times, a Nigerian boyfriend who has offended you, most likely isn’t going to say I’m sorry.

Nigerian men don’t apologize with words but with their actions. This is how you get to know he is saying sorry for an offence.

Questions To Ask When Dating A Nigerian Man

Is he mature-minded? Does he take the relationship serious enough? These are questions you should first ask yourself. Is he the type to be open to commitment or is he still too busy playing around. Do you notice a growth in your relationship? Are future plans being discussed and taking shape?

Questions to ask about him should be things like; Is he divorce or has a baby mama and can you live with such arrangement on a permanent basis. Ask and find out seriously about these things so you don’t spend your time fighting unnecessary battles and living in regret.

What are his mapped out plans for the future? Does his attitude and behavior pattern fall in line with yours? These are important questions that should be answered in all sincerity.

Are Nigerian Men Sneaky?

Generally men can be quite sneaky in their dealings and Nigerian men are no different. But if a Nigerian man is being too sneaky that’s a huge challenge. It means he has something big to hide. When he is sneaky about his whereabouts; where he is, where he went, his personal devices and such, you should watch out something is definitely not right.

When you don’t know where he lives, his friends and family his job and things like that. You have been around him a while and find you know nothing concrete about him. Suspect the guy. These are sure ways to identify a sneaky Nigerian guy.

Nigerian Men In The US: Are They Faithful

This is one of the most asked questions about diaspora Nigerian men. And the truth is that while there are a few exceptions, Nigerian men in the US are hardly ever faithful. Nigerian men are known to be desperate enough to date and marry American women to gain a permanent stay. So being faithful is not really a priority for them.

A Nigerian man may even have a wife and kids back home. And he may just be using you. Be smart enough to identify this kind of Nigerian men. To be safe be suspicious of all Nigerian men until you proof beyond every doubt that he isn’t just using you.

There are also those few Nigerian men who genuinely like you and are willing to faithfully commit. But remember, this kind is extremely rare.

Most Nigerian men are in America for greener pastures, to become permanent residents and to generally make as much money as they can. Fidelity is not on the list.

56 Comments

56 Comments

  1. George Inuah

    March 11, 2020 at 12:37 PM

    You know nigerian men than an average Nigerian

    • Jesi

      June 6, 2021 at 8:14 PM

      Hi I met this guy ion line we been talking since February 2020 and his a nice and carin guy..I talk to his brother and his mom ..We do video call..And we talking about him coming here in us….Can anybody tell me how that work

      • Titi

        June 7, 2021 at 5:16 AM

        Becareful with online dating.Date with caution as most scammers are online today

  2. Maria Ward

    June 10, 2020 at 2:14 AM

    Hi I am Maria I met this Nigeria man on line we have been talking sense Sept of last year.He start face timing me in December of last year we talk every morning an afternoon I have met his friends and family threw face time I talk I often talk with his brother .they live in different parts of Nigeria. He is into church like I am we have talk about the furture .An we have shared a lot about our pass .He has never ask me for money or disrespect me in any way .He said he was looking for a wife and he wanted it to be me I have accept because I love him .He is everything s prayed for in a husband loving caring and supportive and concern of my well being . He want to come visit but we don’t no where to start I live in the United States We are planning a furture together. I even asked him do he believes in having more than one wife.He told me he was a Christian he don’t believe in that. We have the same beliefs in the Lord and in family.we met because I gave a comment about person ask about being husband an the true roll of a husband can you give me your opinion about this

    • Barbara Ramsey

      January 10, 2021 at 5:05 AM

      Sounds like my Guy

      • Donna

        June 4, 2021 at 12:27 AM

        Is his name derrick onarejuvwie because I was talking to him .when we first met he gave my 3 names but then he said his real name was derrick and he told me that he was 21 years old but at first he said he was 51 years old .please write back if you want to.

        • Elizabeth Mason

          April 8, 2022 at 10:48 PM

          This man came into my life as a scammer.I blocked him and then one day I wanted to go over our conversation, and as I was doing it he texted me. We started talking again and this time he came out. He has given me his true name, address, Nin ID, international phone number, and email.I know he only wants to use me to get to America, and I don’t have a problem with that,I would marry him so he can come to America. He says he loves me, never been married, nor have any children. I repeatedly told him that I don’t trust him and for him to go find someone else, but I do like the attention. He did ask me to send him $500 to get his passport and visa, also for me to come to Nigeria so we can be married (I would have to pay for the traditional wedding matter of fact everything) and that he would repay me all the money I spent when he comes here and get a job. As when he tried to scam me before I said no, I do the same now and say no, and that if he loves me as he says, he will find a way to get his passport and visa and come here and marry me. I’m no f**king fool. My money’s staying in my pocket and I’m staying in my country. This kind of love don’t make no sense. Be careful out there, just because they give you their true identity doesn’t mean sh*t he’s just coming at you in a different way, he’s still trying to get your money. I do love him and if he was able to get over here I would marry him so he could get his green card. I would love to get some feedback.

          • Jaye

            April 11, 2022 at 11:35 PM

            he even have the effrontery to tell you the fake truth and you agreed with him. You have to be careful woman. Don’t marry him. Run away from internet dating or scammers of this nature. Cut off all relationship with him to save yourself from headache and spiritual manipulation

            • Elizabeth Mason

              May 17, 2022 at 9:59 AM

              Jaye, thanks for your comments and I’ll take them at heart. I would just like to help someone who’s going through this and let them know that they are not alone. The battle is hard when you have given your heart to someone you have tired to trust and find out that the only thing they want is your money or a way to get a green card. I pray that each and everyone of you who comes across a person of this caliber keep an open mind and be on guard of your money,heart,and soul. But also remember that people can change through Christ Jesus, and all are not the same you just have to know the difference through their fruits.

          • Gracieuse

            April 18, 2022 at 12:30 AM

            Is his name Eiiroghene Yugbovwre

          • Theresa

            April 25, 2022 at 7:42 PM

            Hey. You have exactly described what I am experiencing with my man in nigeria. He doesn’t want to come to the US………he wants me to come there, get married, and adopt a child to raise together. We have no plans to stay in nigeria but I’m so unsure

            • Elizabeth Mason

              May 17, 2022 at 9:16 AM

              It would be nice if we could exchange notes, but I feel that if I do it on here and he’s telling the truth, I would be only exposing an incident man who’s only looking for someone to love and start a life with. I will tell you he’s from the Isoko tribe and lives in the ENHWE Community. I know his information is true because I have a copy of it and we video chat mostly everyday. They won’t let your email go out over here but if you would like to see a picture of him you can text me at 346-808-6054. And they may not let my phone number go out either.

    • Eunice Davis

      September 30, 2021 at 3:23 PM

      Hey my name is Eunice!!! I meet a Alfican man online.. He looked at my profile he like it.. He also wants to marry me..Say he in love with me.. Only talk about a week never meet his family.. I think he moving to fast.. Would like to talk sometime..Thanks

      • NG

        September 30, 2021 at 6:54 PM

        Be careful! his approach is too fast especially if you are in the western countries. Don’t fall victim of online fraudsters and scammers.

      • kimberly stephens

        January 6, 2022 at 4:03 AM

        What’s his name?

    • kimberly stephens

      January 6, 2022 at 4:02 AM

      What’s his name?

  3. Debra

    October 19, 2020 at 9:52 PM

    This sounds familiar. What is his name?

  4. Novella Copeland

    December 31, 2020 at 12:41 AM

    Sound like The Guy I am talking to also wow is He from Delta State Nigeria

  5. LAMAR LEMORA

    February 22, 2021 at 7:13 AM

    And what if they ask you for money and you haven’t meet yet also when you ask him to visit your family for introduction he gives you some excuses what are you going to do?

  6. Michelle Franklin

    March 25, 2021 at 2:10 PM

    Sounds like the guy I’m talking to. We met on Instagram. Nice guy. Met family talk to friends. We’re three months in. I plan to visit in a few months. He didn’t ask for money. But I sent him money to start his transportation business. I don’t mind helping if I have it. Blessed to be blessing. I know what it’s like to not have help. I’m always helping someone. If we never talk I’m cool with it. Not all are scammers. He’s very intelligent. We’ll see if I’ll stick around 😂

  7. Sandra Rechelle Yarbrough

    April 4, 2021 at 7:39 PM

    How can you get them to the United States he lives in niagra

  8. terrilla

    April 19, 2021 at 4:55 PM

    I really like this site because I’m an American woman and I am really interested in the Nigerian man so I need to learn a lot and I really like this page

  9. Kristina Allman

    May 14, 2021 at 12:21 AM

    I met my man on Facebook. He was in the states at the time (US phone number), but soon flew back to Nigeria (now he uses Nigerian phone number). We video chat often, are Facebook official, I have talked to his brother via video chat. He has never asked me for money or anything. I am just a skeptical person and am wondering if this is real or not. We have been talking for 2 and a half months. He speaks of the future in terms of “we” and mentions his desire to marry and have me come to Nigeria. It doesn’t fit any of the traditional scam models. Thoughts?

    • Naija Gists

      May 14, 2021 at 12:34 AM

      Just be careful about people you meet online. Do your due diligence to investigate him before you fall in love. A lot is going on these days.

  10. Denise

    May 14, 2021 at 7:14 PM

    Hi I met someone from Nigeria and we’ve been talking for two days he says he’s Christian he’s 45 and he has three kids he says he’s divorced I was talking to him today and he introduced me to his friends I thought that was too fast??

    • Naija Gists

      May 18, 2021 at 11:24 PM

      I feel he is moving too fast. Follow your heart, don’t rush so as not to fall victim. Online dating is a serious risk

      • Grace

        April 18, 2022 at 12:37 AM

        Is his name ejiroghene yugbovwer

  11. Nivia B. Bella

    May 22, 2021 at 4:13 AM

    I am Nivia B. Bella
    I have been dating a fine 27 year old in Dubai. I didn’t want to be with him for the first 5-6 months, i wanted a 50, 55, 60 year old professional Man. This Man is a dream come true.

  12. Mary

    May 26, 2021 at 3:07 AM

    I have been dating a younger guy (25) for the past 5 1/2 years. I am soon to be 64. We have talked on phone and have done video calls. I have talked to his brothers and sisters and tried to talk to his mom but our languages did not let us. Anyway, I have asked him to marry me and he said yes. Just curious, are all Nigerian young guys into older women and if so, why? Can they be faithful? Idk what to do. I want him to come to USA but because he is young, the embassy may not let him. Any info on an easy way to bring him over? Please help !

    • KY

      May 26, 2021 at 3:14 AM

      No. Younger Nigerian men are never into older women except for financial advantage. Do yourself a favour, look for a older man. The culture in Nigeria does not permit a 25 year old man to marry a 64 year old woman. Save yourself from future headache and block him.

  13. Norma santillan

    May 27, 2021 at 3:51 AM

    I was talking to a 25 year Nigeria man and he wants to marry me which I am 43he asked for lots of money and he sent me a marriage certificate and wondering if it is real or fske

    • NG

      May 28, 2021 at 5:19 PM

      Please don’t go into any relationship with him. He is a scammer. Be careful

  14. Phy Hughes

    July 2, 2021 at 6:38 PM

    I been chatting to a young Nigerian man for just over a year lm 60 we talk all the time says he loves me but keeps 3hidden from every one will it work l keep saying about the age thing. I been to family weddings and funeral via WhatsApp am I fooling myself he invited me to Nigeria and to his sister wedding. Sends me flowers help !!!

    • Tobima

      July 2, 2021 at 6:41 PM

      Please don’t fool yourself. Relationship of this type can be fraudulent. Please stop sending him money and cut off relationships with him.

  15. Sam Watson

    July 13, 2021 at 9:45 AM

    Hi I been talking on WhatsApp for just over a year and he is years younger than me he says he loves me we talk daily he has plans to come live with me. Is it all a scam he gets so angry with me when I say that it’s a scam it did start as a scam and after a few weeks he contacted me again telling me all about him his friends and families he sends me beautiful red roses with lovely notes .He lives in Benin city and wants me to visit. Am I being taken for a fool

    • NG

      July 13, 2021 at 10:02 PM

      From the way you described him, he may be a scammer. I don’t you to fall prey. Don’t go and meet him. Be careful.

    • Mitzie

      October 25, 2021 at 1:49 AM

      What’s his name? I have a friend in Benin City. We talk daily. Have been talking for almost a year. I’ve met his friends on video and also one of his sisters. I made it to Benin a couple weeks ago. I was so happy to meet him in person. I have so much fun with him . I’m 61 and he’s 25. I spent my 61st birthday with him. Nothing sexual, but I really care about him and wish I could find a way to get him to the States.

      • Naija Gists

        October 26, 2021 at 7:22 PM

        You are moving too fast. This is not a match made in heaven. Nigerian men don’t marry women twice their age. It is not culturally accepted.
        You are going too fast and he will use you to get a stay in the USA. Remember you have been warned.
        Go for a man who is in your age bracket. Don’t fall victim.

      • Phy Hughes

        October 30, 2021 at 5:36 PM

        His name is Bobby Osarodion he was twenty five on the 17th October

      • Sam Watson

        October 30, 2021 at 5:47 PM

        Bobby Osarodion he lives in the Edo state

      • Sam Watson

        October 31, 2021 at 1:10 PM

        Bobby Osarodion

      • Sam Watson

        November 1, 2021 at 1:28 PM

        Can you tell me if he is the same person you have meet ??

  16. Ti

    October 17, 2021 at 4:33 AM

    I recently met a Nigerian man Several months ago whom I’m starting to be very fond of. HE IS 24 & I 57 he keeps telling me age does not matter to him and he has told his parents about me. He doesn’t ask me for money or gift cards or anything. He seems to be a honest and sweet Christian man that I would like to let my guard down on. Wanted to know If anyone else is video talking/ facetime also with him online…His last name is Oputa and is from Imo State, Nigeria…..He is a dream come true to me but want to be sure! Pls email me If his name is familiar. I plan to visit Nigeria soon.

    • Kevin I

      October 21, 2021 at 9:42 AM

      From his name, he hails from the eastern part of Nigeria. The age difference between you and her will not make the marriage work.
      To be honest with you, he is only planning to use you to secure paper. Be careful woman, this is not true love.
      The age difference is not culturally permitted in Nigeria. Please save yourself from heartbreak

    • Matie

      November 3, 2021 at 7:24 PM

      I’ve been speaking with a Nigerian man for a year now, he lives in Canada, and he said he wants to get married and have a family with me, but I’m not sure if he loves me really.

  17. Jeje

    November 24, 2021 at 7:54 PM

    I meet this Nigerian guy who is bigger than me we have been chatting And video calling for 3 weeks now, i have never met a guy who is openly like him he works at prep as a store manager he video call me every time or even when he’s in office he introduced me to his two friends he give me one of his closest friends number in case his not reachable he always looks happy when we are having our video chat,he shares me with everything where is going what is doing he was married the wife died when she was giving birth 3 years ago and now he draws me closer to him each and every day he watches movies with me he said he wants to marry me and he loves me hundred percent he’s planning to come nd visit me with his own money he has never ask me anything he encouraged me everyday can he be a scammers too… Us for me have been not openly to him and not trusting him completely can I have your suggestion please if this is true love or there’s something which is looking for.

    • NaijaGists.com

      November 29, 2021 at 9:28 PM

      He is a fraudster stay off this relationship. Save yourself from future heartbreak

  18. Gloria Harrell

    November 28, 2021 at 3:05 PM

    Greetings,
    I am a 58 year old woman, I recently begin a conversation (3) months ago now with a Nigerian that lives in Lagos, Nigeria. He told me that he is 48 years old with 1 daughter. He said she is “20 years old and live 3 hours away from him with his mother.”
    He stated,” the baby mama ,” is married to someone else, the reason for the 6 year relationship resolved due to her drug addiction. But she ended up marrying that guy.” He too like all of your experience want me to marry him.
    He claims to have a 3D flooring company LLC. He expressed to me,” he was born through a polygamy relationship. And how he hate it.” He too stated that he is a Christian.”
    I have me suspicions, however he claims to have told his mother and daughter about me; and his friends. On one occasion I’ve talked to one of his friends over the phone.
    He texts me every day due to we’re on different time. Nonetheless there was an incident not too long ago. I had posted a status on my Facebook page, and he read it. By me being a minister like he said that he is, he snapped at me.
    He said,” how disappointed he was in me for advising the women about the components that I had posted within the status.” He continue to say to me, what friends of mine would do things like that.”
    I didn’t know what he was referring to, he finally screenshot my post to me. I explained to him that wasn’t about his actions, but it was geared towards those women who are in abusive relationship.
    It come to my thinking that I put one thing that he kept dropping the ball on,” spending quality time with me.on the phone.” Afterwards he was very apologetic, and he stated,” love is making him go mad.” That whoe scenario was odd to me. His name is Allen George ( not birth name) His last name ( birth) is Chuks. Please give me your insight.
    Thank you in advance

    • NaijaGists.com

      November 29, 2021 at 9:28 PM

      He is a fraudster stay off this relationship. Save yourself from future heartbreak

  19. Wanda mallow

    January 18, 2022 at 3:04 AM

    Hi I fell in love with the man who scammed me for a year from Nigeria..I caught on that he was lying but I loved talking to him so I played along ND finally he admitted after 15 months that he was a 26 year old boy in University..I just couldn’t let him go.. now he wants me to still send him money and wants to do all of this stuff to get him to the States.. I fell in love with him.im 37. I feel bad for him and I feel he’s using me and I just can’t let go…. What should I do

  20. Sam Watson

    January 21, 2022 at 1:00 PM

    Run away before it’s to late

  21. Morgan

    January 24, 2022 at 1:46 AM

    Wanda let him G O!

  22. Paula clarke

    February 14, 2022 at 1:22 AM

    I met this Nigerian guy I am 20 years older than him,never ask me for a cent,always using the word love every single day since we met on facebook for the past two months.am falling for him he touches my heart without touches me that how I felt.whenever I get upset with him he would sent me a love song before I wake in the morning as his apology,he keeps on telling me about the good and bad about the country and the peoples.He sounds kinda real to me truthful.should I stay away from this guy.

    • NG

      February 14, 2022 at 1:25 PM

      The age difference is not a culturally accepted thing in Nigeria. Please be careful before you fall into wrongs hands.

  23. RC

    March 11, 2022 at 5:03 PM

    : chatting with a naija guy. He’s 38. I’m 51. Christian like me. Met his family online. I chat with his sister too. He doesn’t ask for anything. Never has. We talk at different hours of the day and night through video, even when he’s at market or helping his father. He gives me tours of his neighborhood and other places. Always answers my questions. I’ve seen his church too. We plan to meet soon. It’s been 2 years of this close relationship. I’m in US. Sometimes time difference is a problem to talk but we always check in by text. We plan to meet. How does this sound?

    • Naija Gists

      March 13, 2022 at 12:09 AM

      Be careful. Nigerian men don’t really fancy big age difference. I will personally tell you to tread with caution. A 38 year old Naija man is probably married and looking for ways to japa to America. Be wise woman

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