I Feel Guilty For Cheating On My Kind Boyfriend, I Love Him So Much But Can’t Stop Seeing Other Guys

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Oct 23, 2016 – I Feel Guilty For Cheating On My Kind Boyfriend, I Love Him So Much But Can’t Stop Seeing Other Guys

I’m a 25 year old lady in a relationship with a 32 year old man, but I have a serious problem. I love the attention of other men. I feel like an ungrateful person because I’m blessed with the most mature, kind, loving, understanding generous man; yet, I keep cheating on him.

We’ve been together for a little over a year now and in the course of our relationship I’ve cheated three times with three different men. I don’t have any emotional attachment with these men, as I keep them only for the attention.

I have countless other men constantly calling me, taking me out and giving me gifts. I just love the attention and I know I need to end it, because my boyfriend is talking serious about marriage. We give each other the freedom to hang out with other friends and he feels when I am out, I’m with my girlfriends.

Recently, he told me that he loves me so much and that’s the reason he doesn’t check my phone or messages because he doesn’t need a reason to distrust me. I feel so bad because he works really hard and even when I was faced with financial problems, he was there for me. I love him too much but I can’t stop seeing other guys. I enjoyed being chased by multiple guys and making them to prove their love but right now I’m stuck with this ‘habit’ and I need a way out.

Please help me out.

Clara S writes from Abuja

14 thoughts on “I Feel Guilty For Cheating On My Kind Boyfriend, I Love Him So Much But Can’t Stop Seeing Other Guys

  1. YOU SAID BOYFRD! NOT YET HUSBAND -BETTER .IF U REALLY LOVE HIM , ND HE REALLY DOES AS U CLAIM -TELL HIM IF HE,LL STILL LOVE U !!!. IF HE STILL DOES –VISIT T.B JOSHUA , JOSHUA IGINLA AND JEREMIAH OF WARRI -DEMONS INSIDE OF U WILL FLY AWAY ND RETURN NO MORE . YOU MUST VISIT D THREE PASTORS BCOS YOU SAID UR BOO IS TOO GUD YET U CAN NOT STAY WITHOUT CHEATING .

  2. Olojukokoro, you have a big problem. Get things right, and stop that dirty habit of yours. Thank God you no your weak point. You have to work on it before you throw away your diamond while picking stones. Forget all side attractions that can destroy your future and concentrate on your man. Pray very well concerning this and stay focused.

  3. you not even ashame to write that you have countless men who take you out call you constantly, it means you go about giving men your numbers to call you.

    in short you are a disgracem, that is why people like D Trump grope your kind of people

  4. I was moved to write this long and lengthy comment to you because of your sincere confession which actually revealed the fact in you that you need advice and ready to make changes in your life.

    But do know that their is simply no (MAGICAL) way for a lady to end her craving for other men once she’s in love with such practice of cheating on his man. Many who faced similar experience like yours found it difficult to breakaway from such sel-defeating and sel-destructive habit. They tried hard to find out why it has proved to be extremely difficult for them to stop this type of immoral habit but they never discover it until such ones take an important step.

    Through God’s help many have come to realize that something very important is still seriously lacking in their lives. And that is your “SPIRITUALITY”. It has been described in the dictionary as “the quality or a state of been concern with religion or religious matter”.

    In order for you to successfully break and set yourself free from such habit of cheating and flirting around with men when you already have a caring,hard working and loving man who has even wholeheartedly proposed to you,then you have to deeply concern yourself with “RELIGIOUS MATTER”- basically your relationship with your heavenly father. Many today have scornfully and disdainfully pushed aside or taking less seriously the effectiveness of valuing their relationship with God to help them break free from sinful and bad practices. Little did such ones know that,the only practical way to desist from what could latter pose a significant threat to their prospective marital life is to highly esteem and value their relationship with God . The fact is,If you don’t stop such practice of cheating on the man you consider your sole lover today,you will most likely end up crashing your future marriage with any man you may latter get marry to as your husband.

    And in order for you to avert this impending danger,you have to start by engaging yourself in heartfelt prayer to God. Talk to him that you want to stop flirtation and promiscuity way of life. Study the bible diligently yourself. There are many bible portions that rightly condemn sex before marriage. (HEBREW 13:4) tells us that“God will judge the fornicators and adulterers”. (REVELATION 22:15) says outside are the Dogs and those who practise fornication,adultery and other sins. I believe you won’t like to see yourself outside when christ jesus finally comes to choose and collect his people. You have to continue to ponder over this bible base instructions and admonitions. You absolutely need faith to enable you work out all of this. Still the bible says that faith without work is dead!

    That also means action is needed on your part. You won’t win the fight if you constantly admire flirting around with men except for the one you love. While you are deeply embedded in the study of God’s word the bible,tell those men whenever they call you again that you’re no longer interested in any affair or in any get togetherness or going on outing with them. And you must stand your ground. And the bitter truth is that,you also have to know that you need to stop sex altogether since you are not yet marry. It is by far possible to restrain oneself from engaging in premarital sex with God’s help and with more determination. And your guiltiness will gradually dissipate if you tell your main lover why it is scripturally necessary that both of you end sex for now and work towards your marriage.

    In order to also help such situation,you need to consider your lover’s proposer for marriage. Since he has been good towards you for more than a year and you’ve known more about him personally,then ask him serious questions about his family background. After proper research and findings has been carried out about him and he turns out to be a desirable man for you,then arrange for an introduction and latter get marry to him. You have to be firm and decisive to know what is good for you. Don’t be indecisive! Being indecisive will only lead to delay in marriage and disappointment at the end of the day that many people suffer from today.

    Many men you see that we have today are mere (play boys) or lover of pleasures who are ready to get you infected,impregnated and ruin your life and completely dump you at the end. Good men who are mature and fit for marriage and ready to shoulder marital responsibilities have become essential commodities that are scarce this days. You have to prayerfully and practically stop your ill-rewarding pleasure you use to enjoy as a result of your incautioned and unwholesome association with other men aside from your main lover.

    I want to assure you that you are not the only one known to have suffered from this type of experience neither are you the only one currently facing this challenge. But you can definitely make changes in your life today by sincerely accepting my candid advice.

    Though I’ve not seen you before but am advising you the way I can advise my younger sister and I wish you good luck.

  5. You need to help yourself by making up your mind to be faithful and reading books on staying committed and of course add prayers to it .if you can’t stay faithful now ,you will be an unfaithful married woman

  6. DO NOT FEEL GUITY, IT IS BECAUSE YOU DID NOT HAVE GOOD SEX WITH YOUR MAN, AND YOU HAVE THE SEX WITH YOUR LOVER ,

    I WOULD ADVICE YOU TO LEAVE HIM ALONE AND MOVE ON , SO THAT YOU DO NOT END UP GIVING HIM A BASTARD KIDS. AH AH AH AH

    JUST CARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRY ON BONKING ALL THOSE MOTHERFUCKERS THAT YOU ENJOY SEX WITH THEM ON THE BONNET OF YOUR CAR AND YOU DO BLOW JOBS FOR THEM.

    AAAA HAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH CHIRIOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

  7. You are a b**ch for real.

    I hope he gets to know. Bunch of ungrateful b!tches everywhere

    I hope you catch pregnancy with one of those men to get really caught.

    Your conscience is hunting you yet you failed to stop seeing those lazy n**gas. What sort of “attention” is that?.

    Listen, eventually, your real man will get to know. And get tested really quick before you infect the innocent dude.

    I hate this nonsense. In their 20s, they want to have silly fun and in most cases they get stuck with wrong dude. I truly hope he finds. The earlier he finds out the better cus your arse will not stop seeing those guys even after you marry your boyfriend.

  8. This lady situation is not about deliverance or religion commitment. It is about her and nobody can change that. In as much she is getting advances from these men, she will continue to be promiscuous and she is not ready to stop soon. I guess she may end up remaining single for the rest of her life. I’m not try to curse her but help her get better advise.

    From her statement, she loves getting that attention from different men and that will hinder her determination to settle down. After tasting all men in her community, she may not feel like being with one man again and that is the problem that pastor Adeboye cannot solve. She is not the only one in this predicament, there are some men having the same problem too after testing some of the girls they eventually settle down for unworthy partners.

    It really takes a mature mind to remain in a relationship. You have to discipline yourself and see your body as temple of God and determined not to be swayed with side attraction. That is the only way you can keep a relationship. Also do not force yourself to commit into a relationship if you are not ready because that is even more dangerous to both for you and your partner. Apart from the possibility of parenting a bastard child, you can infect your hubby with incurable diseases. So therefore beware pretty lady.

  9. My dear….yield to the advice of endure..mummyBT and jilo….all of you people criticising her are even worse…she needed ur advise not insult….

  10. hmmm this is the devil at work,u beter resist him by controlin ur emotoins 2wrd men b4 u regreat it all ur life.It is ur body train it to what u want it permit it to what it wil and not do.

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