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I Married A Man I Didn’t Date, How Prayer, Weight Loss & Attitude Change Saved My Marriage


August 14, 2016 – I Married A Man I Didn’t Date, How Prayer, Weight Loss & Attitude Change Fixed My Marriage Problem – Abuja Babe

I married immediately I finished from the University. I and my Husband did not date because he was living in Abuja and I was with my parents in Owerri.

A few months into the marriage, we started quarreling on daily basis. My husband is very stubborn, assertive and always wants to have his own way in everything and I got tired of always given in to him.

One day, I challenged him and he beat the living day lights out of me! I wanted to leave the marriage then, but my mother cautioned and begged me not to because I was already pregnant. After I gave birth and was nursing my baby, I discovered that my husband was cheating on me with his former girlfriend. That was when it dawned on me that I need to fight for my marriage.

I made up my mind to control my sharp tongue which he always complained about. I stopped answering him back anytime he shouts and screams at me. It was a difficult one to control but I also did not confront him about his adultery. I only cried to God about it when I’m praying instead of accusing him.

Finally, I went on a strict diet and tried to lose weight. In all, three months after, my husband became a different person. He came home one day and knelt down and confessed his extra marital affairs and asked me to forgive him. We both cried together that night as he promised to be a better husband to me.

The next month was my birthday and my husband surprised me with a jeep! I’m so glad and I’ve learnt a big lesson in this ordeal that sometimes you need to loose in order to win.

[Chinwe writes from Abuja]




  1. Metu Nyetu

    August 14, 2016 at 2:21 AM

    THIS IS good for a Sunday sermon. What I want to bring out here is the Godly maturity that this woman exhibited: SHE STOPPED ANSWERING BACK HER HUSBAND. Wives talking back in defiance to their husbands is the no.1 reason why there is physical battery in marriages. This woman tactfully eliminated that risk. That is an inspiration. Even though this woman worked on her self as well, the main reason that saved her marriage was her mastery of her tongue. That is why St. James Gospel warns seriously about the use of the tongue. “Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.”(Chapter 3:5–6).

    MANY WOMEN who are wise in the manner of the world would have matched her husband’s unfaithfulness with an equal measure of insubordination. By then, we hear that phrase again, “irreconcilable differences.”

    THANK God for this woman’s wisdom! May want God has done for her be permanent! Amen!

    • Jessica

      August 14, 2016 at 11:56 AM

      I agree with you Metu Nyetu, am having similar problem. henceforth I will adapt to this new life of taming my tongue nd be prayerful. God bless you all

  2. fifelomo

    August 14, 2016 at 9:20 AM

    I love what have just read, this is a big lesson.THank God your marriage was restored and it shall be permanent.

  3. Ezinne

    August 14, 2016 at 12:44 PM

    I love dis, though nt easy, ive learnt one or two things, i hv a sharp tongue wen angered ( but im working on it) but no power 4 physical combact, lol. God will help us.amen

  4. sola olaniyi

    August 15, 2016 at 10:04 AM

    wow…this is lovely..thank God for your marriage

  5. Benso

    August 15, 2016 at 11:35 AM

    God will continue to bless your marriage my dear sister.

  6. Maryf

    August 18, 2016 at 4:56 PM

    True talk. Madam, thank you for your article will solve many misunderstanding between couples.

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