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My Husband Is Not Romantic, My Marriage Is Crashing – Worried Wife Cries Out
August 14, 2016 – My Husband Is Not Romantic, My Marriage Is Crashing – Worried Wife Cries Out
My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.
Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of my loving him before has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.
I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy.
My husband is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love.
I’ve tried to tell him about my feelings and misgivings a thousand times but he brushes me aside like I’m asking for too much. Right now, I’m having serious problems in my marriage.
I don’t like my husband touching me again like before and he seems to have noticed the way I rebuff him at times. Now, he’s even accusing me of loving someone else and that makes me very angry.
Why can’t he understand that all I want is for him to show me a little affection, be romantic, engage in foreplay before sex and fulfil all the romantic dreams I’ve always had?
Dear sir or madam, am I asking for too much?
[Abimbola writes from Lekki Lagos]
Metu Nyetu
August 14, 2016 at 3:01 AM
GOOD YOU wish to save your marriage. I may have to ask whether or not you are romantic yourself? That which you see no more in your husband, do you possess it yourself? Or do you only wait at the receiving end, never once switching sides to be the giver? Sometimes it is your own unrelenting creativity that will spark up and awaken those dying faculties in your husband. Again, sometimes when we focus on happiness, it eludes us. But when we are busily and wholly engaged in some other focus of interest, we find happiness slinking up to us from behind and embracing us.
THEREFORE, I urge you to focus rather on being(or continuing to be)romantic yourself, and always go a notch further in giving him pleasant surprises. In those occasions, you may tell him, even with a voice laced with affectionate regards, that you would appreciate it if he would reciprocate. But STOP rebuffing his advances, or that may give him a reason to play away match.
Bokemb
August 14, 2016 at 4:15 AM
this rather nonsense, why now?
fifelomo
August 14, 2016 at 9:30 AM
No, rather surprise him every now and then. Never get tired of your man. Make him see reasons why memorable moments will strengthen your marriage. I wish u all the best.
Danti
August 14, 2016 at 9:28 PM
The problem in this marriage is you, woman! Women with their genetic disorder or brain disorder sha! You should be happy to have him, a rugged Christian will not succumb to this bodily and worldly desire of yours. Perhaps pay a counseling visit to a good man of God, meen! Na there you go smell your dirty mind. Sorry ladies, I shoot my gun the way I hold it , folks within its perimeter are not spared!
sola olaniyi
August 15, 2016 at 10:10 AM
nice comment@fifelolmo
henry thanks
August 15, 2016 at 11:32 AM
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venerable
August 15, 2016 at 2:58 PM
Haven’t you observe this during your courtship, now you suppose to tame hime by trying to seduce him all areas possible,get him some erect herb or backache/pile medicine. Lobatan,if all this cannot give you best result then, go to your pastor/alfa babalawo to know what is wrong, Maybe it’s something spiritual.
P A
August 15, 2016 at 3:39 PM
Discuss it with your husband again and also walk on your self
Maryf
August 18, 2016 at 5:10 PM
People have problem ooo. Love and romance is now a problem too. I tire for this woman ooo