Relationships & Romance
Nigerian Guy Who Impregnated Orphan Says Girlfriend Very Rude, Seeks Advice
April 2nd, 2016 – Nigerian Guy Who Impregnated Orphan Says Girlfriend Very Rude, Seeks Advice
I need your candid advice. My guy impregnated his girl friend who is an orphan. He accepted to live with her but the girl doesn’t have good manners.
She’s very insulting and always disrespects him. We his friends and even their land-lady have always cautioned the lady but she is not taking advice. According to him, “Its been one day peace and two days quarrel and I’ve always advice her to always maintain peace with me. Tell me whenever I offend her so that I could apologize.
I believe nobody is perfect but I hate somebody who doesn’t take advice or correction. Am tired and I want to send her out of my life…” He had always complained. So what can you tell him. This is happening now. I don’t know what else to tell him. My annoyance is that the girl in question is not even willing to apologize to him.
She keeps proving stubborn. Everyone knows her as a disrespectful and harsh speaking girl even the land-lady could testify that and she seems not to even change. My guy sworn never to raise a hand on her, instead he decides to send her aways since she doesn’t like peaceful living.”I have heartfully told her everything I know in order to maintain peaceful co-existence, the kind of family I need for my future wife.
I have also contacted some few women who have marriage experience with up to ten years, explained my fate and they in turn invited her, advice her and yet she couldn’t change.
So what else can I do? Am too young to face this kind of condition. Its still very early for both of us.
She have a chance of getting better man she can respect. I think am too small for her” he said.
[By NG fan, Henry Light]
Metu Nyetu
April 2, 2016 at 8:55 PM
I am assuming that you are an ideal gentleman yourself; that you do not unreasonably provoke your friend to outbursts of anger and fits of rage. If so, then thank your God that your gf showed the signs early enough. Since there is nothing legally binding the both of you, methinks it’s best you moved separate ways now that you are not yet married. I will NEVER advice you to divorce your wife if you were married. That is why it is highly recommended to take a close look at whoever you intend to espouse.
A woman who openly flouts and despises you is only saying that you are not good enough to be her man. The first litmus test for a wife material is submissiveness, and I could not find that in your story. Since you have tried and she has refused to be helpful, move on with your life. If you go on to marry her, you would be putting yourself in a difficult bondage.
Bitrus
April 2, 2016 at 9:12 PM
is difficult to change such people , but with God all things are possible. take it to God in prayer
fifelomo
April 2, 2016 at 9:40 PM
Hmmm, if only all the above write up is the truth, then the Lady didn’t value you. At this get age where some ladies will do anything plus everything to be Mrs somebody. Hmmm, could it have bn the pregnancy, that’s making her to misbehave? Anyway, once an opportunity lost it can never be regain. Once she gives birth and her character is same, I advice you to satify yourself and do the needful.
mae
April 2, 2016 at 10:11 PM
This story sound so familiar to me… The best solution is, for the guy to accept & forget about marrying the mother…
dumba
April 2, 2016 at 10:52 PM
My Oga find your square root
jamoon (gbs forever)
April 3, 2016 at 3:45 AM
In addition to metuyetus/fifelemo’s comment i think a stitch In time saves nine.
Maryf
April 3, 2016 at 5:35 AM
Mr. man, I was not there when both of you started and I’m not even present to witness how both of you are living. From your write up, I can assume that both of you have stayed more than 5yaers in that relationship and my questions to you are: why are you just complaining now that you have impregnated her? Was she rude when you met her first? Are you a womanizer? What have you been doing to her that she hates so much? Have you tried to find out why she’s rude to you? Nobody is born to be harsh/rude all the time. You know before a woman or anybody will turn to demon who nobody can live with, someone/something is causing that and you presented your write up like you’re a saint. Remember nobody is perfect or an angel apart from God Almighty. Answer those questions above and try to amend where you are faulty and see how things work.
Ibrahim salaudeen
April 3, 2016 at 6:50 AM
Since she is pregnant for you, be patient untill she gives birth. And if she dosent change her attitude, take care of your child and let her find her square root.
sola olaniyi
April 3, 2016 at 6:54 AM
Please move on with your life
Muyi
April 3, 2016 at 7:38 AM
SO YOU DIDN’T SEE HER BAD SIDE WHILE YOU WERE HAVING SEX THAT LED TO A CHILD. NOW U WANT THE CHILD TO SUFFER FROM SEPARATION AS A RESULT OF YOUR CARELESSNESS.
Olanrewaju
April 3, 2016 at 8:17 AM
My piece of advice for you is to send her packing,but make sure when she put to bed you make provisions for her and when the time is right go after your child
bOKEEM
April 3, 2016 at 8:33 AM
take to a good Church for deliverance, she is going through a lot having lost her parents
bOKEEM
April 3, 2016 at 8:34 AM
take her to a good Church for deliverance, she is going through a lot having lost her parents at tender age, no be wayo Church ooooo
my lady
April 3, 2016 at 1:13 PM
I HAVE A CO-WIFE (MY HUBBY’S BROTHER’S WIFE) WHO HAS SIMILAR ATITUDE BEFORE SHE WAS MARRIED AND HAS GROWN WORST BY THE DAY. IT WAS EVEN ALLEGED SHE KILLED OUR MOTHER INLAW THROUGH HER ATITUDE. SUCH PEOPLE HARDLY CHANGE AND THEIR STAGTEGY FOR GETTING MARRIED IS USUALLY THROUGH PREMARITAL PREGNANCY.SHE IS LIKELY GOING TO CAUSE U UNTIMELY DEATH. THANK GOD YOU ARE NOT MARRIED
Amazon
April 3, 2016 at 3:04 PM
Pls send her away or else u will suffer it in future
Esezobor Kelly
April 3, 2016 at 7:16 PM
Mr Akeem, I duly appreciate your assistance to this thread. Please, I need the EPT and my email address is esezoborkelly@yahoo.com
red
April 3, 2016 at 11:28 PM
I guess she was that way before you got her pregnant. sorry. The truth is that most woman act crazy and silly when with child.Give her time to deliver.unless she was like that before you got her pregnant.If she still act same way after giving birth,take her to a powerful church for prayers or rent another house for her,pay child support and move on. BUT,make sure your story is the truth and that you’re doing what is expected of you.
sharon stone
April 4, 2016 at 12:09 AM
maybe it is d pregnancy that is making her to behalf that way pls pardon her till after she deliver the child
Maryf
April 4, 2016 at 4:38 PM
From the whole write up, she did not start her rude behaviour immediately she got pregnant. Is either the man met her like that or he changed her by his slow poison attitude and now he wants to abandon the girl because he has impregnated her and he’s not ready to marry yet. These type of men are many in our country. When they’re tired of woman and are having woman outside, they start looking for faults and complaining and making their woman/girl a bad egg.
So?
April 5, 2016 at 8:26 PM
So u no sabi comfort woman during pregnancy? U be boy that’s why she dey feel u no satisfy her standard. u gatta show da right emotions, expression and massage her lovingly well well. Most Naija men don’t know how to handle their women with deep true love, so they face the tough ones who require a very sympathetic and understanding man. #Fact
STEVE
April 6, 2016 at 11:49 AM
OGA IF U ARE NOT CAREFUL DAT WOMAN WILL KILL U ;SO FLEE 4RM D DEVIL.