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The Day My Angry Husband Hit Me With A Dining Chair – Domestic Abuse Victim
July 7, 2016 – The Day My Abusive Husband Hit Me With A Dining Chair – Domestic Abuse Victim
I lived in a very abuse marriage for 10 years. I was very naive at first and really didn’t know people like him existed. He would kick me, slap me, push me, throw things at me, yell abuse, call me names like ‘social cripple’, ‘fat dirty idiot’ the list goes on and on.
I married him at a very young age and he always intimidates me. The verbal and physical abuse went on for a very long time until one day, our landlord threatened to evict us because of my constant screaming at night when he is using me as a punching bag.
Life was a continuous hell, fear and horror and he always blamed the children or me for his violence.
Until one day when he hit me with a dining chair and I fainted. He got scared and called the landlord to come and help him take me to the hospital. When my brothers came to visit me at the clinic, they insisted that I get separated from my husband.
Today, I’m a much better person and my selfconfidence is back. No woman should be allowed to go through what I did and if you find yourself in such a situation, please leave before the take you out in a casket.
Uju writes from Onitsha Anambra State
ALEX&RIA
July 7, 2016 at 6:11 AM
GOD ll continue to c we #Girls #Ladies #Women 2ru 4m d hands of some #evil #jealous #egocentric #heartless #useless men. #beast
fifelomo
July 7, 2016 at 7:25 AM
This institution called marriage varies. It has so many faces the good, the bad, the ugly and etc. For any woman that value life, if you find out your marriage is nt worths it why stay to suffer and smile pretending all is well? Hmmm my dear run run for you dear life. Late Lowo and Yewande a case study.
Keeping it real
July 7, 2016 at 7:26 AM
Pretty disturbing experience just wondering if this picture was before or after your horrible experience because you kinda look sexy and adorable in the marriage..
Just saying!
sola olaniyi
July 7, 2016 at 7:46 AM
its good you’re separated from such a wicked man uju
betty
July 7, 2016 at 10:11 AM
thank God u left some men are just heartless
Woman of justice
July 7, 2016 at 10:46 AM
Good on you for living that monster.. And thanks for sharing your story.. I believe it will help one or two people out..
The Lord is strength
Woman of justice
July 7, 2016 at 10:46 AM
Sorry Leaving
Maryf
July 7, 2016 at 11:08 AM
Nice one, but how about your children?
mercy
July 7, 2016 at 2:27 PM
Oh my God, each time I read tins like dis my hat bleeds. May God almighty connect us to d ryt husbands
Saamu
July 7, 2016 at 5:18 PM
One sided Story at it’s best.May be I should remind you that you never made mention of what u normally do that warrants such beatings ,Well am not in support of Domestic Violence,But there are so many things that leads to Domestic Violence,If you’re married you’ll know what am talking about,My father once told me,He said he was looking for a job and they said they wanted a married man,,He asked them why they wanted a married man,They told him if you’re married for at least 5 years that means you can leave with a mad woman conveniently,Don’t get me wrong am not saying women are lunatics,But women sometimes can be very Violent ,Violence is not only by beating,How about if your wife calls your mother a witch? I have seen a wife pushed her mother in law before,Will you stand and watch while your wife disrespects your mother?Am sure 90% men won’t,I have also seen a marriage where a man will wanna work out of the house each time the wife is making life a living hell for him,but the wife will tear the man’s clothes.slap him countlessly and lock the door .caging the man in the house and calling him names.Men are not Jesus Christ.They’re humans.So Ladies also make una behave,Some men are temperamental but sometimes it’s a reaction for your actions too.So if you’re a man,and you got into an argument with your wife and the next thing she did was hold on to your balls and you’re groaning in pain but she won’t let go of your balls.Will you keep smiling till she squize life out of u? Am sure you’re hit her so she can free your balls.,All this I have seen before, I got married,I got married at 21 as a man.I have stayed married for 4 years now.There are challenges,there are times that sometimes I will feel like hitting my wife, Yes they can be very annoying.But I just go into my room and my lock myself up till she calms down.So when you’re not married.Domestic Violence is not yours to comment on.May God help us.
kourtney
July 7, 2016 at 6:40 PM
Please don’t leave your children behind. If your husband take a new wife, your children will turn into slave in their father house.
Jilo
July 7, 2016 at 7:10 PM
Baby you did the right thing. You should have done this the first day he laid his filthy hand on you. As a father, I will never allow any man to turn my daughter to a handicap just in the name of marriage. I will even help her to park her belongings out of that miscreant called husband. Some parents will tell their daughter that if you leave my house just make sure you don’t come back here. You are married try to deal with your problem. When that tout known as husband beat their daughter to death, they will then be singing another song that had I know. I told my daughter that if any man lay his hand you for the first time that is it. There is no going back he will never have any opportunity to do that the 2nd time. If you let that coward slide the first time, he is going to do it again, then again and will become a routine. You have to stop the bully to end this nightmare. I have a friend in the 80’s, an HND holder, if you see this guy any girl will say I do before he say something. He can also take care of girls with the little token he had but there is one bad habit about him. He always beat his girlfriend to pulp. This was a girl who had her fiancée based in the United States hoping to finish her education and joined him but my friend has his way and wooed her. Instead of taking care of her, he will beat a hell out her even with slight provocation. We ended our friendship because he nearly killed that girl one day. He told him to cook certain fish and the lady said if I couldn’t find that one can I made another choice? that was it, he picked up a chair and wanted to snark her on the head. If not for the intervention of me and another friend, that girl would have been a dead person by now. He tried to shift the battle to us as man to man we promised to teach him a lesson. We broke our friendship because of his attitude towards women. I personally told the girl that she was dumb. Why are you still dating this guy when your fiancée provided all you need. Sometimes women are unpredictable.
Dan
July 7, 2016 at 10:59 PM
Be careful of a ONE SIDED STORY. Nobody man or woman should be abused in their marriage. Women seem to think because their mouth is sharper than their Husband and he cannot match up to their razor mouth, then they can humiliate him without repercussion….but when they meet a weak man, they get beaten up since that is where he feels his strength lies. Some weak men out there are abusive without cause, so like my Pastor says, please research who you marry before jumping. Even if he is a born again Christian, find out about his family. Was his mother abused by his father? etc. May God help us all.
Metu Nyetu
July 8, 2016 at 10:46 AM
@Jilo, you are good. @Saamu and @Dan, your comments are deep. At any rate, I want to overlook whatever a woman does that warrants beating. My focus is on safety. A woman who is continuously battered should think of her life first, and if separation is the only way to save it, so be it. Separation saves lives, and sometimes may fire up new feelings of fondness between the couples. They could then come together once again to address whatever imperfection they had as individuals in order to have a better relationship.
But when the differences are “irreconcilable”, how should they now live there separate lives as individuals? This is where the problem lies.
Ms ERANKO
July 8, 2016 at 8:10 PM
MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR LIFE, NOTHING LAST FOREVER,
MARRIAGE IS BUSINESS, BECAUSE WOMEN ENJOY ASKING MEN FOR MONEY.
FREE GIFT IS YOUR SPECIALITY, SO MEN THINK THAT YOU ARE THEIR SLAVE.
YOU MUST PAY ME BACK FOR ALL WHAT YOU ARE RECEIVING FROM ME .
WOMEN NEED TO LEARN HOW TO RESPECT THEMSELVES, AND STOP ASKING FOR SOMETHING FOR NOTHING. DO NOT SELL YOUR FREEDOM.
IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY IN YOUR MARRIAGE , PLEASE JUST FUCK OUT THE HELL HOLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.
Big Aunty Koks
July 8, 2016 at 10:08 PM
Wife beating? I just say ” God Forbid”.
Akin
July 15, 2016 at 6:05 PM
@Saamu you are a ******* deserve the same story. ******** Her beauty dey pain you. Yeye dey smell.
god's time
July 29, 2016 at 10:03 PM
my dear u made the right decision coz some men have take it as a habit to be humiliating and beating their wife for nonsense reason some men even beat their wife with pregnancy, so I guess some men are mosters who come in human form