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The Decay Of Brother Kelly: The Character That Stinks Will Eventually Sink

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The Decay Of Brother Kelly: The Character That Stinks Will Eventually Sink

“If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self”- Napoleon Hill

Destiny decays when character declines! The Athenian statesman, Critias, once said, “If you discipline yourself within, you will be less vulnerable to injury from outside”.

In life, you need more than a willing spirit to fulfill destiny; you need a conquered flesh! Self-discipline is the ability to do what is right even if you don’t feel like it. Living a principled centered life is the hall mark of winners. Great people are greatly principled.

The core secret of winners is held up in the belief that to go up in life, there are things to give up. There are two ways of learning in life: it is either you learn by ‘instruction’ or by ‘destruction’! Winners don’t just show up suddenly; they are all products of a rigorous and disciplined system.

Alan Armstrong said, “Champions do not become champions when they win the event, but in hours, weeks, months, and years they spend preparing for it. The victorious performance itself is merely the demonstration of their championship character”.

Lao-Tzu said, “He who gains victory over other men is strong, but he who gains victory over himself is all powerful.” One of my most fascinating books ever on ‘Discipline’, Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win, is Co- authored by a retired Navy SEAL commander in the U.S Navy, Jocko Willink. Willink talked extensively on how we must always take ownership of our lives and that nobody must ever be the reason why we fail in life. He succinctly captured his idea about discipline in one quote, when he said, “Discipline equals freedom.”

As a youth pastor and leadership coach, I have observed with unfailing accuracy that what ultimately destroy a man at the top are actually the indiscipline nature, habit and sin that followed him there!

Finally, r-kelly goes to 20yrs in jail for pornography, statutory rape, and other sexual offenses. R Kelly was unarguably the BEST R&B recording artiste of all times! I have never known such brilliant lyrics and melodic sounds as R-Kellys’. I still remember his greatest hit of all times that shook the world. “I BELIEVE I CAN FLY”.

I also remember another smashing hit. “IF I COULD TURN”. He was a solid master in his craft. A Virtuoso of the Mic. He does no wrong when he hits the stage. He was lord of that stage. With a charismatic nature that no one couldn’t contend. I remember all. Up till this moment, they still resonate in my head. Till now, they still serenade my senses but the turn of event has reduced a star to a piece of bread!

So here we are. From 3 time Grammy Award winner to wearing prison overall. As much as I feel justice should take its course, my heart still bleeds for this legend. My heart bleeds to see what this guy has been reduced to. He has been reduced to a defeated and despondent figure. Helpless and hopeless! Now he’s paying for his choice of life. Now as he’s finally convicted to spend 20 years. This means he should be over 70 after serving his prison term. Really sad! Plato said, “For a man to conquer himself is the first and noblest of all victories.”

When R-Kelly was acquitted and his case dismissed over a decade ago for child pornography, his brother, Kerry Kelly, called him on the phone and told him:”Hey man…GOD has given you another chance”. The singer’s reponse according to his Brother during an interview was:   “No….GOD didn’t give me another chance. I gave myself another chance. My money gave me another chance”.  Since over a decade after his acquittal, R-kelly never learnt.

He never changed. He took the fact that the judgement was in his favour for granted. He continued his salacious act of sleeping with under-aged girls. He forgot it was only a matter of time before his actions would catch up with him big time.

Fyodor Dostoevsky once said: “It seems, in fact, as though the second half of a man’s life is made up of nothing but the habits he has accumulated during the first half.” What would eventually bring a man down from a great height is actually the habit that followed him there. You can’t be a winner with losers’ habits. Successful people are simply those with successful habits. Depending on what they are, our habits would either break us or make us.

Any habit that you refuse to deal with in the present would deal with you in the future. Stop that habit of  pornography, masturbation, lying, anger or whatever it is that is holding you back from living a fulfilling life. You have to ‘face’ your bad habits, so that you can ‘phase’ them out.

The former President of the United Stated, Harry S Truman once said, “In reading the lives of great men, I found that the first victory they won was over themselves. Self-discipline with all of them came first.” At the height of his fame and career, Kelly was one of the most recognized entertainment personalities in the world. Apart from his many accomplishments, his outrageous, undisciplined and controversial behaviour with under aged girls and deep involvement with child pornography has kept him in the public eye and in the court room. A man noted for his undisciplined sex escapade and erratic behavior.

Jim Rohn said, “Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.” Character matters in everything. Beauty without manner can’t sustain you in marriage. Intelligence without character can’t make you outstanding. Power without discipline will end you in futilities. What are you blessed with? Never take advantage of others, it may not end well.

Jim Rohn said,  “We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret” It is either we suffer the pain of change or suffer remaining the way we are. I am reaching out to all the youths out there in the words of Max DePree , “We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are.” We need to constantly adjust ourselves in order to get the best out of life. Destiny decays when discipline declines!

If life doesn’t teach you anything, let it teach you to acknowledge the grace and mercy of GOD. Let it teach you never to take things for granted. Let it teach you to learn from your mistakes when you’re given a second chance. Let it teach you to introspect and observe your conscience. Above all, let it teach you to cut off the habits that has the potential to cut you down in the future.

QUOTE OF THE WEEK: “No man is free who is not master of himself”- Epictetus



  1. Dorothy california

    December 1, 2019 at 11:10 PM

    R Kelly belongs to a sex cult. they get powers from sleeping with young girls but nothing last forever.

  2. Jaiyeoba

    December 2, 2019 at 2:57 AM

    This pedophile can’t go without sufferings. He has damaged the lives of many girls

  3. K

    December 2, 2019 at 12:52 PM

    This composition is great! Weldone naijagists. Such article can only come from a great brain, a life coach one who has studied wide & far. Its very rich in contents! the quotes are very straight and deep to the hearth. This is not just about R.Kelly. Everyone needs this for a guide on successful living that last. The talk about character, discipline, is awesome. ……………………. ‘learning is inevitable, its either by instruction or by destruction,’ Wao!. ……. .’Prayer cannot give you What you must get by character neither will it give you what you must get by obedience’

    • Mic

      December 2, 2019 at 8:58 PM

      Another brilliant quote at the last paragraph of your comments. Well appreciated

  4. Themba Sibiya

    December 2, 2019 at 6:17 PM

    I remember the words of one of my greatest teacher, Patrick PLO Lumumba said “no one can be called successful up until the day he or she dies and carry his success to the grave in peace”.This legend never dedicated quality time to think about his ending. his plight heartened many but his habit damaged the lives of many.

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