“The Pro & Cons Of Marrying An Handsome Nigerian Man” – 80-Year-Old Grandma Speaks

Oct 5, 2014 – “The Pro & Cons Of Marrying An Handsome Nigerian Man” – 80-Year-Old Grandma Speaks From Experience

Pictured above is 80-year-old Naija Grandmother, Mrs Sarah Adeyinka who was born in Ifo LGA of Abeokuta back in 1934.

In a recent chat with Motunrayo Joel, the grandma narrated the joy and struggles in her marital journey.

Read the interview excerpt below:

When did you get married?

I got married at a young age. I was 20 years old when I got married. That should be around 1954 but I can’t really remember the exact date. Back then, once one had found a potential partner or spouse, there was no need wasting time. I didn’t see myself as being too young to marry. I loved my husband and he loved me too. There was no need pretending otherwise to ourselves.

How did you meet?

I met him through my brother; he was my brother’s friend. The day he saw me he just liked me and he told my brother that he wanted to marry me. He was based in Lagos while I was based in Ogun State, but we used to visit ourselves regularly. If he wasn’t coming over to see me, I was the one travelling to see him. We courted for two years before getting married.

What qualities attracted him to you?

He was charming and good looking. I liked his physique. So many men had approached me, seeking my hand in marriage but I wasn’t attracted to them. My husband caught my attention the first day I saw him. Till today, I love him; my love for him hasn’t changed. I still remember our wedding day, it was a beautiful day; we danced until we had no more strength left in us. We were so happy and I can never forget that day.

What challenges have you faced in your marriage?

I have a sweet marriage and I still love my husband till today. The only issue I have is his weakness for women. He ended up marrying three more wives after me. When I realised that I couldn’t handle his having other women in the house, I moved out to be on my own. I’m someone that doesn’t like stress; I prefer staying on my own so I can enjoy peace.

How many children do you have?

I have seven children. Some are based in Lagos and others in Ogun State. They are all doing well for themselves.

Are you still married to your husband?

Yes, we are still husband and wife but we live separately. I live in my house here in Lagos while he lives in his house in Sagamu, Ogun State with his younger wife. He came for my 80th birthday. We rekindled our love for each other that day.

How do you mean when you said rekindled your love for each other?

I mean we re-read our marriage vows.

How was it like?

I was happy. We danced together just like the day we got married

How did you support your husband in raising your children?

I supported him with the money I made from my business. It wasn’t easy but it was worth it. I’m happy that all my children have a means of income and are doing well for themselves.

What is your view on men marrying more than one wife?

It is not something every woman wishes for; I accepted it as my fate. My father also had more than one wife, so I see it as a weakness that is common among men.

What is your advice to young couples?

Life is about patience, there is no reason to rush into marriage. Young women should make sure they go into marriage with their two eyes open. They should also pray very well and listen to their parents’ advice.

[Posted By NaijaGists.com]

8 thoughts on ““The Pro & Cons Of Marrying An Handsome Nigerian Man” – 80-Year-Old Grandma Speaks

  1. I WOULD LIKE TO MAKE WOMEN UNDERSTAND THAT , SOMETIMES YOU COME ACROSS MEN WHOSE NAMES ARE MR LIBIDINOUS.

    IF YOU COME ACROSS THESE TYPES OF PEOPLE , IT MEANS YOU CAN NOT HANDLE THEM ALONE IN THE BEDROOM , YOU WOULD NEED A BEDROOM ASSISTANT , TO ASSIST YOU.

    SOME MEN GET MARRIED TO MANY WIVES , IT IS NOT BECAUSE THEY DID NOT LOVE THEIR FIRST WIVES .

    IT IS , BECAUSE , THIS MEN SEES THAT ,THE FIRST, WIFE CAN NOT HANDLE THEM ALONE , IT MEANS, YOU DO NOT HAVE ENOUGH ENERGY TO SATISFY THEM ON BED .

    THEY WANT MORE, HE WANT TO DO MORE, AND YOU SEEMS TO BE TIRED OF IT, YOU HAVE HAD ENOUGH.

    YOU SAY TO HIM , PLEASE I HAVE HAD ENOUGH , PLEASE, I AM TIRED, PLEASE CAN WE DO IT TOMORROW .

    THEN, MR LIBIDINOUS TOLD YOU , NO,OOOOO, I WANT TO DO MORE , YOU ARE MY WIFE , YOU MUST SATISFY ME .

    THESE ARE THE REASONS MEN AND WOMEN GO OUT THERE TO LOOK FOR SOMEONE WHO WILL GIVE THEM MORE.

    THERE ARE WOMEN TOO ,WHO WERE DOGGY, THEY HAVE SEXUAL ENERGY , THEY ARE NOT TIRED OF EIGHT ROUND , THEY ARE ALWAYS READY FOR ACTION .

    SO , IF YOUR HUSBAND COME ACROSS THIS KIND OF WOMEN , THEN ,YOU WILL FACE TROUBLE . I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT , WHEN IT COME TO BEDROOM , IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW MUCH YOU LOVE EACH OTHER.

    BUT, HOW MUCH YOU KNOW THE MEANING OF MAKING LOVE . SOME MEN AND WOMEN DO NOT KNOW THE MEANING, THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND IT .

    SOME MEN AND WOMEN SCREWING UP , AND THEY THINK THEY ARE MAKING LOVE, BECAUSE MAKING LOVE IS NOT WHAT WE CALLED , LET US DO IT QUICKY,

    TO MAKE LOVE IS TO KNOW HOW TO TOUCH YOUR PARTNER , SOME AFRICAN MEN DO NOT KNOW HOW TO HOLD THEIR WOMEN CLOSE TO THEM. THEY ARE MR LIBIDINOUS SCREWED UP,

    I THINK THERE SHOULD BE A COLLEGE IN AFRICA, WHERE PEOPLE SHOULD GO AND LEARN THE MEANING OF MAKING LOVE ,

    SO , GETTING MARRIED TO MANY WIVES MEANS, THAT THE MAN WAS JUST USING THE WOMEN AS A BEDROOM WHORE.

    I LOOK AT MY HUSBAND OTHER WIVES AS A COOK AND BEDROOM ASSISTANT. AND IT IS A CHANCE OF HAVING MY OWN FREEDOM,

    BECAUSE , I DO NOT COOK FOR HIM ANYMORE , THE NEW WIVES COOK FOR ALL OF US , SO I THINK , THIS NEW WIVES ARE MY COOK , AND MY BEDROOM ASSISTANT. HA HA HA HA , HA HA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA THEY ARE MY HOUSE KEEPERS.

    • So should women who get bfs and husbands way no fit satisfy them marry more husbands or get more bfs? That will be fair won’t it? Some weak men no even sabi do the thing yet they wan carry the whole village and blame their weakness on their women. People who wan cheat go find excuses to cheat and people who wan remain loyal go find reasons to be loyal; there’s no ifs or buts there.

      PS: It’s obvious you are a man making excuses for polygamy and infidelity; try harder next time ;)

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